{"id":62627,"date":"2020-04-22T12:24:46","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T12:24:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=62627"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:39:52","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:39:52","slug":"5-perguntas-decisivas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-perguntas-decisivas\/","title":{"rendered":"5 perguntas para fazer a si pr\u00f3pria antes de lhe dar uma segunda oportunidade"},"content":{"rendered":"

Desde que acabaram, sonhavas com isto.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been hoping that your ex will come crawling back, begging you to give him another chance.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly what\u2019s going on right now. The day has come: here he is, on your doorstep, asking you to take him back.<\/p>\n

However, instead of being thrilled, you feel clueless, confused and worried. You don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Despite the feelings you still have for this guy, you can\u2019t make up your mind.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not sure what the right thing is for you to do now.<\/p>\n

Assim, eis um conjunto de perguntas decisivas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio antes de tomar uma decis\u00e3o final.<\/p>\n

1. Is it the first time he\u2019s made this mistake?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Antes de tomar qualquer decis\u00e3o, h\u00e1 que esclarecer uma coisa: \u00e9 a primeira vez que algo deste g\u00e9nero acontece?<\/p>\n

Ou tornou-se uma ocorr\u00eancia regular?<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 uma grande diferen\u00e7a entre estes dois cen\u00e1rios.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here: nobody is perfect. Whether we like to admit it or not, we all make choices we\u2019re not proud of.<\/p>\n

So, your boyfriend has the right to do the same. He\u2019s done something wrong and he\u2019s sincerely sorry for that.<\/p>\n

You might even forgive him for his wrongdoings if you believe that he won\u2019t repeat his errors.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, se isto se tornou uma rotina para ele, uma segunda oportunidade est\u00e1 fora de quest\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If this man keeps on making the same mistakes over and over again and then ends up begging for forgiveness, it is clear that he\u2019ll continue with his behavior.<\/p>\n

Nesse caso, n\u00e3o vale a pena voltar para ele.<\/p>\n

Porque se continuar a perdoar-lhe<\/a>, you\u2019re just giving him the green light to keep on breaking your heart.<\/p>\n

2. Porque \u00e9 que o quero de volta?<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

The next make or break question doesn\u2019t have a lot to do with your boyfriend-it is connected with you and your feelings.<\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que queres este homem de volta?<\/p>\n

Do you truly believe that he deserves a second chance? Do you sincerely think that he\u2019ll improve his ways?<\/p>\n

Ou tens medo de estar sozinho?<\/p>\n

Preferes ficar com ele, aquele que se tornou a tua zona de conforto, do que dar um passo em dire\u00e7\u00e3o ao desconhecido?<\/p>\n

Queres que ele volte s\u00f3 para provar um ponto de vista a ti pr\u00f3pria? Para provar que o podes ter sempre que te apetecer?<\/p>\n

That he\u2019ll always try to come back to you, no matter what he does?<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Are you willing to take him back because you\u2019re scared of losing him?<\/p>\n

Are you doing it to keep him by your side, aware that you didn\u2019t think things through?<\/p>\n

V\u00ea isto como uma oportunidade para vingar-se<\/a>?<\/p>\n

Queres atra\u00ed-lo para estar contigo e fingir que tudo \u00e9 perfeito s\u00f3 para te vingares?<\/p>\n

Answer each one of these questions as sincerely as possible. You don\u2019t have to give him the answers-just be honest with yourself.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m begging you: don\u2019t give your relationship another shot for all the wrong reasons.<\/p>\n

3. Perdoei-lhe?<\/h2>\n

\"Jovem<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter what your ex did; whether he cheated on you, abused you, or hurt you in some other way.<\/p>\n

A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que ele partiu o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>.<\/p>\n

He did you harm and it is natural that you can\u2019t pretend like nothing happened.<\/p>\n

Por isso, por favor, perguntem-se: perdoei mesmo a este homem?<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: nobody is forcing you to do so, especially if you\u2019re not ready.<\/p>\n

However, what\u2019s the point in rekindling your old romance if this issue will remain a problem between the two of you?<\/p>\n

Sim, o perd\u00e3o \u00e9 um processo e leva tempo.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if you don\u2019t see yourself getting there and if you don\u2019t have any desire to eventually forgive him, you two getting back together will be in vain.<\/p>\n

4. Podemos ser bem sucedidos?<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

\u00c9 aqui que se deve ser completamente realista.<\/p>\n

Nada de idealizar, nada de romantizar as coisas - despreze o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e tenha uma conversa honesta com a sua raz\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I know you love this guy. You wouldn\u2019t be having these dilemmas if you didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

However, what you should be aware of is that sometimes love isn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n

After all, you loved each other before this happened and that didn\u2019t work out so well.<\/p>\n

Por isso, tem de ser honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio. Achas mesmo que a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o vai resultar se tentares outra vez?<\/p>\n

\"Uma<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que ningu\u00e9m pode prever o futuro. Nunca se pode saber com certeza o que vai acontecer.<\/p>\n

No entanto, \u00e9 poss\u00edvel saber se os dois t\u00eam alguma hip\u00f3tese.<\/p>\n

Como v\u00eaem, nada desta luta \u00e9 que vale a pena<\/a> se se separarem mais depressa do que se voltarem a juntar.<\/p>\n

Por isso, tente poupar-se a mais sofrimento e tire os \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa a tempo.<\/p>\n

5. Cheg\u00e1mos a um acordo?<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

I guess you\u2019ve already had some talks regarding this matter with your partner. What was the final conclusion of all those conversations?<\/p>\n

Conseguiram chegar a um compromisso? Encontraram um meio-termo?<\/p>\n

Ask yourself whether you\u2019ve reached an agreement on how your relationship will function in the future.<\/p>\n

Have you set some ground rules that you\u2019ll both have to stick to?<\/p>\n

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