{"id":62845,"date":"2020-04-15T08:31:53","date_gmt":"2020-04-15T08:31:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=62845"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:09:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:09:16","slug":"aturar-homens-que-nao-me-merecem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aturar-homens-que-nao-me-merecem\/","title":{"rendered":"Devo a mim mesma um pedido de desculpas por ter suportado homens que n\u00e3o me mereciam"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nunca falar\u00e1s a ningu\u00e9m mais do que falas a ti pr\u00f3prio na tua cabe\u00e7a. Seja gentil consigo mesmo.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dealing with men who didn\u2019t deserve me has led me to one thing: I learned that putting yourself first doesn\u2019t mean selfishness, it sometimes means survival.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the reason I want to apologize to myself first. Dear me, you let so many people walk over you and I\u2019m sorry for letting that happen. <\/strong><\/p>\n

You let men in your life make you feel unsafe, unwanted and scared, make you feel ashamed, like you\u2019re not enough.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry that thought even crossed your mind. <\/strong>Love shouldn\u2019t be hard. Love shouldn\u2019t hurt. Love shouldn\u2019t wait for approval.<\/p>\n

Love shouldn\u2019t make you feel unlovable. True love doesn\u2019t question your worth or take you for granted.<\/p>\n

You shouldn\u2019t go out of your way just to receive a normal reaction from the person you love. Love isn\u2019t silent or indifferent, it\u2019s not aggressive or inconsiderate.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry you had to learn your lesson so harshly. I\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t protect you. I\u2019m sorry I didn\u2019t let you express your sadness and anger freely.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry men who loved you didn\u2019t truly love you. They never showed you real trust or what it\u2019s like to feel comfortable just being who you are.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry for letting yourself accept indifference and tolerance as enough. I\u2019m sorry your kindness was mistaken for weakness and taken for granted.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sorry I judged you when you were making choices that were not the best for you. I know you didn\u2019t know that at the time.<\/p>\n

I put all the blame on you. The same thing I have been doing ever since I can remember. But it\u2019s not your fault.<\/p>\n

Sometimes people don\u2019t choose what\u2019s best for them, sometimes they need to grow from pain. That\u2019s all right.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Por vezes, a vida ensina-nos a ser mais fortes das formas mais invulgares. \u00c9 agora que deixo de perguntar porqu\u00ea.<\/p>\n

From now on, I refuse to look at myself as a victim. I refuse to look at myself as a casualty and someone\u2019s second choice.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not giving up on myself despite everything that has happened to me. Querida, a partir de agora vejo-te como uma guerreira e sobrevivente.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You went through everything life prepared for you and you didn\u2019t break. That\u2019s called strength. Strength accompanied by courage.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not anyone\u2019s puppet and you never will be. You\u2019re not here for men who try to control you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not here for men who manipulate you and lie to you, who make you feel bad about yourself and don\u2019t make you a priority.<\/p>\n

You are not here for men who don\u2019t deserve you. <\/em>Devo-lhe um pedido de desculpas por ter confiado mais nos outros do que em si pr\u00f3prio; por ter duvidado de si e ignorado a sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I own you an apology for letting you make yourself smaller in front of a man who didn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n

Devo-te um pedido de desculpas por n\u00e3o ter acreditado em ti e ter feito coisas apesar de saber quem tu \u00e9s no fundo da tua alma.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I own you an apology for thinking someone is better and smarter than you. That\u2019s BS! You are perfectly smart, lovable and good on your own.<\/p>\n

I owe you an apology for always thinking you\u2019re somehow less than others when you clearly did everything on your own.<\/p>\n

I owe you an apology for feeling bad about other people\u2019s wrong choices. You couldn\u2019t have done anything.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever forget all the wonderful things about yourself. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone\u2019s imperfect and everyone\u2019s paths are different.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lose hope for love because of men who mistreated you. Let the past go and accept my apology.<\/p>\n

Um dia, encontrar\u00e1s um homem que te tratar\u00e1 com o respeito que mereces.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o haver\u00e1 sil\u00eancios dolorosos, nem brincadeiras com os teus sentimentos ou noites solit\u00e1rias cheias de d\u00favidas e dor.<\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 a pessoa como ela \u00e9 e a pessoa que a ama por causa disso.<\/p>\n

\"Devo<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You will never speak to anyone more than you speak to yourself in your head. Be kind to yourself. Dealing with men who didn\u2019t deserve me has led me to one thing: I learned that putting yourself first doesn\u2019t mean selfishness, it sometimes means survival. That\u2019s the reason I want to apologize to myself first….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":62861,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-62845","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/I-Owe-Myself-An-Apology-For-Putting-Up-With-Men-Who-Didnt-Deserve-Me-1.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62845","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=62845"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/62845\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/62861"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=62845"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=62845"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=62845"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}