{"id":63206,"date":"2020-04-22T09:47:35","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T09:47:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63206"},"modified":"2022-02-28T11:34:40","modified_gmt":"2022-02-28T11:34:40","slug":"coisas-frustrantes-que-os-traidores-dizem-quando-sao-confrontados","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/coisas-frustrantes-que-os-traidores-dizem-quando-sao-confrontados\/","title":{"rendered":"14 coisas frustrantes que os traidores dizem quando s\u00e3o confrontados"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ser tra\u00eddo \u00e9 uma experi\u00eancia muito dolorosa. As coisas que os traidores dizem quando s\u00e3o confrontados podem tornar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o ainda mais dolorosa.<\/p>\n

There’s nothing worse than feeling betrayed and having your trust broken.<\/p>\n

Especially by the ones you love the most. Once that trust is broken it’s hard – and sometimes almost impossible – to fix it.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, many women or men blame themself. They think they’re not good enough or they did something wrong.<\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

A sua confian\u00e7a \u00e9 esmagada. Tudo por causa dos seus parceiros traidores e da sua moral question\u00e1vel. Ningu\u00e9m devia passar por isto.<\/p>\n

Quando se confronta um traidor, ele normalmente recusa-se a assumir a culpa. At\u00e9 se torna agressivo no seu tom de voz.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, tentam, de alguma forma, colocar a culpa em si.<\/p>\n

Se foi v\u00edtima de um traidor ou se suspeita que o seu parceiro o est\u00e1 a trair, eis algumas das reac\u00e7\u00f5es comuns dos traidores quando s\u00e3o chamados \u00e0 aten\u00e7\u00e3o para o seu comportamento vergonhoso.<\/p>\n

As respostas dividem-se em diferentes categorias com base na rea\u00e7\u00e3o inicial.<\/p>\n

Things they say to make you feel like you’re the one in the wrong:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. \u201cNothing is going on, you\u2019re being paranoid\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Esta pode ser a resposta mais frustrante de um batoteiro.<\/p>\n

They try to make you feel crazy and think you’re doing something wrong by confronting them with clear evidence.<\/p>\n

They will deny everything. What’s worse, he or she will try to make you feel bad by saying you’re making things up just because you’re not confident in yourself.<\/p>\n

So, as well as lying to you, they’re also insulting you.<\/p>\n

Conhecem todos os seus pontos fracos e querem fazer com que se sinta vulner\u00e1vel para poderem desviar o foco para si.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Confronting a cheater can lead to what’s called gaslighting.<\/p>\n

Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation where someone – in this case a cheater – makes you doubt your own judgment, memory, and perception, often targeting a victim’s low self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Recorrendo \u00e0 nega\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e0 desinforma\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e0 contradi\u00e7\u00e3o e a outros m\u00e9todos de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o da verdade, fazem com que a v\u00edtima pense que o que sabe ser verdade est\u00e1 errado.<\/p>\n

Gaslighting is a serious issue that has been recognized by clinical psychologists. It’s commonly used by people who are narcissists.<\/p>\n

2. \u201cYou don’t trust me!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma forma de gaslighting. O seu ex-companheiro ir\u00e1 ironicamente usar a confian\u00e7a para o fazer sentir-se mal com uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o, enquanto quebra claramente a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

By making you an accuser, they trick you into thinking you’re the one who’s making things up. Don’t fall for it. It’s a major red flag.<\/p>\n

Their goal is to make you feel like you’re being cruel to them and that you are wrong for bringing the topic up.<\/p>\n

Someone who doesn’t have anything to hide will talk about things without a problem.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s not that uncommon for people to feel like they are being cheated on, especially if they\u2019ve dealt with similar things before.<\/p>\n

If your partner is willing to talk about it, it means they are confident about the truth. Trust is something that’s built throughout the relationship.<\/p>\n

If it’s lacking in some other areas of life, it’s no surprise a person will feel like something is going on when confronted with evidence or reasonable doubt.<\/p>\n

Se n\u00e3o tiverem nada a esconder, manter-se-\u00e3o calmos e assegurar-lhe-\u00e3o que est\u00e1 tudo bem e n\u00e3o far\u00e3o uma cena.<\/p>\n

3. \u201cWhere were tu<\/em> last night?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

A tentativa de o culpar com contra-ataques \u00e9 outra forma manipuladora de controlo.<\/p>\n

Um marido, uma mulher ou qualquer tipo de parceiro<\/a> fingir\u00e1 sentir-se duvidoso e inseguro em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu comportamento.<\/p>\n

They want to trick you into defending yourself. While you’re defending yourself they can manipulate you more easily and change the focus from them onto you.<\/p>\n

Isso d\u00e1-lhes tempo para inventar qualquer coisa e evitar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Confronting a cheater can involve many messy feelings and a lot of intensity, so don’t let them make you feel crazy and fall for their lies.<\/p>\n

Things they say to diminish the importance of what they’ve done:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

4. \u201cIt’s not like we had sex or anything.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Se apanhou o seu parceiro a tra\u00ed-lo ao ver as suas mensagens de texto ou as actualiza\u00e7\u00f5es das redes sociais, \u00e9 quase certo que ele vai negar.<\/p>\n

Eles acusam-no de mexer nas suas coisas<\/em> mesmo que tenham uma aplica\u00e7\u00e3o de encontros instalada!<\/p>\n

When they’re out of excuses they will try to defend themselves by denying a physical relationship. Even if they didn’t have a physical relationship that doesn’t mean they didn’t cheat.<\/p>\n

Emotional cheating can be even worse than just having sex. It means they don’t value you and don’t think you’re enough.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Be aware of the warning signs. If they suddenly pick up their cell phone way more often and have private conversations, there’s a possibility they’re not telling you something.<\/p>\n

Your relationship after that won’t be as it was before. Some scenarios are worse than others – for example when they cheat with their co-worker and keep going back to the same job.<\/p>\n

It’s almost impossible to repair and regain trust.<\/p>\n

5. \u201cIt was just a one-time thing.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Apparently monogamy isn’t for everyone. The problem is when they act like it is.<\/p>\n

Dizer que a trai\u00e7\u00e3o foi um caso isolado \u00e9 o mesmo que dizer que trair a tua confian\u00e7a e fazer-te sentir in\u00fatil \u00e9 um caso isolado. O dano est\u00e1 feito e recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de casos<\/a> \u00e9 inevit\u00e1vel. <\/p>\n

You can’t expect to cheat and move on as if nothing happened. If there has been a first time, there will be a second time too.<\/p>\n

6. \u201cIt didn\u2019t mean anything.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Of course it means something. It means they’re not capable of having a normal relationship and respecting their partner.<\/p>\n

By decreasing the importance of a one-night stand in a committed relationship they’re decreasing the importance of the relationship itself.<\/p>\n

Dizendo it didn’t mean anything<\/em> they can’t minimize the pain. A person cheats knowing how it’s going to affect their partner, they just don’t count on being busted.<\/p>\n

7. \u201cIt\u2019s not what it looks like.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

The attempt to rationalize and explain their behavior is one of the ways they try to mask their cheating as something that’s not um grande neg\u00f3cio<\/em>.<\/p>\n

It’s cheating. There’s no justifying that.<\/p>\n

8. \u201cIt was just sex.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

What does that even mean? If sex isn’t that important, why did they have it with someone else in the first place?<\/p>\n

Afirmar que o sexo \u00e9 apenas sexo<\/em> significa que uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional \u00e9 mais importante.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t make sense because cheating is, in fact, an emotional betrayal.<\/p>\n

It’s one of the worst things you can do to a person you’re supposedly emotionally connected to.<\/p>\n

This response is a way of minimizing the partner’s pain by diminishing the importance of sex.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Clearly, sex is important because otherwise, they wouldn’t have cheated.<\/p>\n

It’s known that most people cheat after making an emotional connection with the third person.<\/p>\n

It wasn’t just sex. It was betrayal and disrespect.<\/p>\n

Coisas que dizem para nos culparem a n\u00f3s ou a algo ou algu\u00e9m:<\/p>\n

9. \u201cI’m not happy anymore.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Sometimes when confronting a cheater, they actually admit how they feel about the relationship and that probably means they’re unhappy in it.<\/p>\n

Isso inclui admitir os seus verdadeiros sentimentos em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a si.<\/p>\n

Ouvir uma coisa destas \u00e9 muito doloroso. No entanto, talvez fosse menos doloroso se a pessoa tivesse sido honesta antes de fazer batota.<\/p>\n

If they wanted to break up, they should’ve!<\/p>\n

Leading the person on is a sign of cowardice. They can’t be honest with themselves so they’re not honest with you either.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

The basis for any relationship should be trust and honesty. With many people it seems, that’s not the case.<\/p>\n

Numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura, pode ser especialmente dif\u00edcil admitir quando as coisas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o a funcionar.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need a relationship expert to tell you that things are off when they’re so obviously off.<\/p>\n

That still doesn’t excuse the act of cheating, not at all. Everyone deserves to be respected at all times.<\/p>\n

Dizer you’re not happy<\/em> isn’t going to solve anything.<\/p>\n

10. \u201cI did it because we didn’t have enough sex.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais comuns que os traidores referem (sobretudo os homens) \u00e9 a falta de sexo.<\/p>\n

Mas em vez de tentarem comunicar o problema numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, decidem que a melhor forma de lidar com o problema \u00e9 encontrar satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o noutro lado.<\/p>\n

That’s not a valid excuse for cheating. Yes, people have needs, there’s no arguing about that. However, there are things to be done before doing the worst thing you can do.<\/p>\n

Porque n\u00e3o falar com o seu parceiro? Que tal abordar o problema e tentar fazer alguma coisa para o resolver? Admitir o problema?<\/p>\n

Ir diretamente para a coisa mais dolorosa que pode ser feita n\u00e3o \u00e9, definitivamente, a maneira de lidar com isso.<\/p>\n

11. \u201cShe\/he came to me!\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

As coisas que o traidor diz quando \u00e9 confrontado s\u00e3o por vezes muito est\u00fapidas. O que \u00e9 que interessa quem deu o primeiro passo? Como \u00e9 que isso justifica as coisas?<\/p>\n

They might admit cheating but still insist on saying they’re innocent because another person was the one who started it.<\/p>\n

Que desculpa t\u00e3o pobre! Tentar culpar os outros pela nossa pr\u00f3pria culpa \u00e9 uma verdadeira maldade.<\/p>\n

Everybody knows that it takes two people to cheat. One of them doesn’t even have to know about it.<\/p>\n

Coisas que dizem quando querem-no de volta depois de o terem tra\u00eddo<\/a>:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

12. \u201cThat was a long time ago, things are different now.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

The fact it happened a long time ago and you\u2019ve just found out about it now, doesn’t change this. In fact, it might make it even worse.<\/p>\n

Pensar em todas as recorda\u00e7\u00f5es que aconteceram durante o per\u00edodo em que estava a fazer batota pode deixar uma pessoa doente.<\/p>\n

A sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de n\u00e3o saber nada \u00e9 quase insuport\u00e1vel. Especialmente porque significa que o seu parceiro o deixou viver uma mentira.<\/p>\n

13. \u201cI didn’t want to hurt you.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

If they didn’t want to hurt you, they shouldn’t have done it. As simple as that.<\/p>\n

Every cheater knows they’re doing something wrong. That’s why saying this doesn’t make sense. It’s just a weak attempt to ask for forgiveness.<\/p>\n

Cometer adult\u00e9rio \u00e9 uma escolha. Uma escolha que tem consequ\u00eancias. Afecta os sentimentos de outra pessoa e a vida que vivem juntos.<\/p>\n

By choosing to do it, despite knowing the consequences, it means they’re choosing to intentionally hurt another person. There’s no third option.<\/p>\n

14. \u201cIt won’t happen again.\u201d<\/b><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Even if you choose not to leave your partner, it’s hard to believe cheating won’t happen again. It’s hard to regain trust once after it’s been broken.<\/p>\n

A trai\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que deva ser varrido para debaixo do tapete. Obriga a pessoa a reexaminar tudo o que sabe sobre o seu parceiro e sobre si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n

Their self-esteem drops and it’s hard to make things go back to the way they were.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve seen your future with the person who’s cheating on you, it’s hard to confront them about cheating.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, a rea\u00e7\u00e3o inicial \u00e9 esquecer tudo e voltar a normal<\/em>. For some people it\u2019s to unleash their anger and get some kind of revenge on their partner.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

As coisas tamb\u00e9m dependem do parceiro que traiu. Por vezes, a pessoa quer voltar \u00e0 sua antiga rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Sometimes they want to move on and stay with the person they’re cheating with.<\/p>\n

In case your partner is asking for forgiveness, it’s up to you.<\/p>\n

A lot of people would agree that once a partner has been unfaithful it’s impossible to move on and pretend that nothing happened.<\/p>\n

Afecta tremendamente a rela\u00e7\u00e3o. O ressentimento pode impossibilitar a resolu\u00e7\u00e3o do problema.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Nem todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o iguais. As coisas que os traidores dizem quando confrontados s\u00e3o diferentes em casos diferentes.<\/p>\n

Alguns traidores est\u00e3o genuinamente arrependidos do que fizeram. \u00c9 prov\u00e1vel que admitam a infidelidade de imediato e pe\u00e7am perd\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

There’s a difference between admitting adultery and being caught out. However, what they’ve done is completely self-inflicted.<\/p>\n

People make mistakes for various reasons. That doesn’t mean we can justify them. As adults, they’re always responsible for their actions.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If a partner acts selfishly when confronted, it\u2019s obvious they’re not feeling any kind of remorse.<\/p>\n

That’s when they start committing other types of emotional abuse in addition to cheating.<\/p>\n

Despite everything that’s been said, some relationships survive after cheating.<\/p>\n

After all, it’s your decision whether you decide to forgive them and no one else is entitled to give their opinion. Do as you wish but keep in mind all that has been said and done.<\/p>\n

If you’re interested in saving your relationship or marriage here are some things you can do:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, tem de decidir se \u00e9 capaz de lhe dar outra oportunidade. Dar-lhes uma oportunidade significa restabelecer a confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

When a person cheats it shows they’re maybe not capable of having a healthy relationship at all.<\/p>\n

You need to decide if you think it’s possible for them to really change.<\/p>\n

Everybody can make a mistake, but it’s the nature of the mistake and their behavior that shows how fatal that mistake is.<\/p>\n

If you have the strength to forgive your partner and make amends, maybe it’s worth trying.<\/p>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Outra coisa que pode fazer \u00e9 tentar compreender verdadeiramente as raz\u00f5es que levaram o seu parceiro a tra\u00ed-la.<\/p>\n

At first, it may seem like they cheated because you weren’t enough for them, but the truth can be very different.<\/p>\n

It is possible they cheated to prove to themself that they’re worthy.<\/p>\n

No matter how contradictory it may sound, cheating doesn’t have to be about sex only. Sometimes it’s a reaction to dealing with their own lack of worth.<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas que pode fazer \u00e9 pedir ao seu parceiro que prometa que nunca mais o vai trair.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Pe\u00e7a-lhe que deixe de contactar a terceira pessoa e que se comprometa a melhorar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If the third person is someone who they see daily due to their job \u2013 ask them to change their job.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, exija que eles frequentem sess\u00f5es de aconselhamento relacional consigo.<\/p>\n

Be clear about how you feel and set boundaries. Communicate your conditions and if they agree with them, that’s when you can move onto the next step.<\/p>\n

\"cabe\u00e7a<\/p>\n

Keep talking about the issue even if it’s painful but respect your limits. It’s important to let go of resentment as much as possible.<\/p>\n

Fale sobre as consequ\u00eancias se algo semelhante voltar a acontecer.<\/p>\n

Declare corajosamente a sua posi\u00e7\u00e3o. Se acontecer algo semelhante, diga-lhes que vai deix\u00e1-los, separar-se ou pedir o div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

Lastly and most importantly, know when to end things once and for all. If your partner doesn’t change despite promises, leave him or her.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can do but move on. There’s no point in making your life miserable over somebody else’s problem.<\/p>\n

No matter how much you love them, they don’t love you enough. For the relationship to work out two people are needed.<\/p>\n

Breakups are painful experiences, but sometimes they’re a chance for something new.<\/p>\n

There’s only so much we can do if someone doesn’t want to change.<\/p>\n

Em vez de esperar pelo seu parceiro, mostre respeito por si pr\u00f3prio, d\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio uma mudan\u00e7a muito necess\u00e1ria e afaste-se.<\/p>\n

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