{"id":63555,"date":"2020-04-22T13:06:56","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T13:06:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63555"},"modified":"2022-03-15T00:53:52","modified_gmt":"2022-03-15T00:53:52","slug":"como-ultrapassar-uma-paixoneta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-ultrapassar-uma-paixoneta\/","title":{"rendered":"Como superar uma paix\u00e3o: 10 dicas para finalmente deix\u00e1-la ir"},"content":{"rendered":"

You fantasize about them day and night, you can’t stop looking at their picture (especially that one you find the cutest), while at the same time asking yourself how you can get out of this infatuation phase. How does one get over a crush?<\/p>\n

Apaixonar-se por algu\u00e9m que, por alguma raz\u00e3o, est\u00e1 fora dos limites pode ser uma experi\u00eancia stressante e, muitas vezes, resultar em m\u00e1goas.<\/p>\n

Por isso, esquecer o objeto do seu afeto \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa sensata a fazer (se quiser preservar a sua sanidade mental e mostrar alguma considera\u00e7\u00e3o pelo seu precioso tempo e nervos, certo?)<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Now, I wish I could tell you that there’s some secret, magical formula that will teach you how to get over your crush in a day, but there isn’t.<\/p>\n

From personal experience, I can tell you honestly that this is a process but it’s a WORTHWHILE one!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tudo o que precisa de fazer \u00e9 ler as seguintes dicas\/passos e implement\u00e1-los na sua vida quotidiana. E se for persistente e paciente, antes que d\u00ea por isso, a sua paixoneta n\u00e3o correspondida ser\u00e1 uma coisa do passado.<\/p>\n

Ready? I’m sure as hell you are! So, let’s see:<\/p>\n

Wondering How To Get Over A Crush? Here\u2019s What To Do<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Mime-se<\/a>!<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I put this one in first place and with an exclamation mark for a reason. The reason being I can’t emphasize enough how important it is in these moments to remind yourself that you deserve the best.<\/p>\n

Instead of thinking about why you can’t be together, and constantly daydreaming about your crush and losing your head over too many \u2018what ifs\u2019, you should focus on pampering yourself!<\/p>\n

Deve concentrar-se em fazer com que se sinta melhor, especial e apreciado!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Por isso, desfrutem de uma massagem, comprem um batom novo, tomem um longo banho de espuma (ah!), v\u00e3o ao vosso restaurante favorito e pe\u00e7am o menu completo, se quiserem (e se o vosso or\u00e7amento permitir).<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Enjoy the best movies and TV shows on Netflix, buy that new pair of shoes you’ve been wanting (cuz I know you DO really want them)!<\/p>\n

In one word, spoil yourself so much you forget that you even had a crush. If you’re still not convinced, just think about what your crush might be doing.<\/p>\n

Do you really believe that they’re thinking of you and forgetting to enjoy their own life?<\/p>\n

Nope. They almost certainly aren\u2019t. So, mimar-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> seria a melhor vingan\u00e7a e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 d\u00favida de que deve aproveitar!<\/p>\n

2. Permitir-se viver plenamente as emo\u00e7\u00f5es dolorosas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

We often forget that allowing ourselves to fully experience painful emotions is a part of the grieving process. It’s important to understand that if we block our negative emotions and all the bad things in our life in general, over time they will become much stronger and more powerful.<\/p>\n

So, what you need to do is allow yourself to FULLY experience all the painful emotions you’re going through at the moment. Do you feel rage? Acknowledge it.<\/p>\n

Do you feel hurt? Then don’t pretend that you’re feeling fine.<\/p>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Don’t run away from what you’re feeling right now because it might haunt you in the long run. The more you pretend that everything is okay, the more hurt you’ll feel.<\/p>\n

Be honest with yourself and accept the fact that you’re only human – a human who is allowed to feel all the emotions they want: from blissful joy to utterly devastating sadness.<\/p>\n

Because that’s what makes you who you are – a brave person with a big heart who is not afraid to express their feelings.<\/p>\n

3. Deixar de seguir a sua paix\u00e3o em TODAS as suas contas nas redes sociais<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

“Out of sight, out of mind.”<\/strong> I advise reading this powerful sentence over and over again until it starts to haunt you – even in your sleep (okay, I\u2019m kidding about that one).<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que significa exatamente a frase acima? Significa que todos os objectos ou pessoas da nossa vida est\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m nos nossos pensamentos.<\/p>\n

E quando ele ou eles est\u00e3o fora de vista, tamb\u00e9m est\u00e3o fora da nossa mente.<\/p>\n

This principle can be implemented in any area of our life, so it’s a useful tip for when it comes to learning how to get over a crush.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

All you need to do is unfollow or unfriend your crush on all of your social media accounts (Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat – all of them) because unfriending or unfollowing them will keep them out of your sight and, therefore, out of your mind!<\/p>\n

Yup. It’s as simple as that. But, it’s important to understand that this is a process!<\/p>\n

For example, if you are used to visiting their social media profiles approximately 100 times per day, you cannot expect that once you stop, you won’t have a single urge to start visiting their profile again. You will, but you should not do it.<\/p>\n

O desejo de os perseguir nas redes sociais ser\u00e1 forte durante alguns dias, mas se resistir \u00e0 tenta\u00e7\u00e3o, ser\u00e1 salvo!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como parar de pensar em algu\u00e9m: 15 passos para tirar essa pessoa da sua cabe\u00e7a<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Aumentar o seu amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When we’re crushing on someone, we’re totally, almost irreversibly infatuated with them.<\/p>\n

Pensamos neles a toda a hora, imaginamos todos os resultados poss\u00edveis (se decidirmos fazer alguma coisa) e esperamos que eles reparem em n\u00f3s e sintam o mesmo por n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n

However, in the majority of cases, we realize that there’s no point in doing anything because, for some reason (that is only known to you), you know that you will never be with them and all this is just an impressive illusion.<\/p>\n

Com tudo isto, come\u00e7amos muitas vezes a negligenciar-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. Come\u00e7amos a sentir-nos indesejados ou n\u00e3o suficientemente bons (ou ambos).<\/p>\n

Ao concentrarmo-nos apenas nessa paix\u00e3o n\u00e3o correspondida, esquecemo-nos de nos concentrar em todas as coisas boas da nossa vida e de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios que est\u00e3o mesmo \u00e0 frente do nosso nariz!<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa capaz de quebrar este ciclo vicioso \u00e9 amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Para aumentar o seu amor-pr\u00f3prio, lembre-se da fam\u00edlia e dos amigos que tem, de todas as suas conquistas, da mulher bonita e forte que \u00e9, da inspira\u00e7\u00e3o que \u00e9 para os outros.<\/p>\n

Cuidados pessoais = autoestima!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Se te esfor\u00e7ares por te tornares no teu melhor, e se cuidares do teu bem-estar, vais encontrar um lado positivo em tudo isto. Conseguir\u00e1s ultrapassar a tua paixoneta com o poder da tua mentalidade positiva!<\/p>\n

5. Conversar com um familiar ou amigo(s) pr\u00f3ximo(s)<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Como j\u00e1 foi referido, impedir-se de sentir emo\u00e7\u00f5es dolorosas pode ser um tiro pela culatra, por isso, fale sobre o assunto com um familiar, o teu melhor amigo<\/a> ou um amigo pr\u00f3ximo \u00e9 altamente recomend\u00e1vel!<\/p>\n

Keeping all those unrequited feelings inside you is not good for your mental health because over time those feelings could pile up and cause an “obstruction” that can only be fixed with the help of professionals.<\/p>\n

If your family lives far away from you and if your friends are not available, another option is talking it out with a co-worker (unless they’re your crush, of course). Without much thought, just tell them how you feel about all this and let your emotions guide you.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to sanitize your words and don’t pretend like this is not a big deal, that you’re totally over it and that all you want is to let them know that. Be honest with them, and most importantly, be honest with yourself.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 o primeiro passo para a cura!<\/p>\n

6. OU escrever os seus pensamentos e sentimentos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Not all of us are comfortable talking about their feelings with other people (especially when it comes to such delicate things like a crush), and if you’re one of them, don’t worry, because there is an alternative!<\/p>\n

If you’re an introvert like me, you\u2019ll probably value the other option, which is writing instead of talking.<\/p>\n

So, take a sheet of paper and write down your thoughts and feelings, starting with why you like your crush, why you can’t be together, and how you feel about all that.<\/p>\n

It’s advisable that you make this a routine (at least, for the time being), so you should seriously think about starting a \u2018crush journal\u2019 where you can write things regarding this one specific matter.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Another important part of writing \/ journaling is letting it go! The reason why you’re writing all those things is because you need to get rid of them.<\/p>\n

Instead of talking, you’re putting your thoughts and feelings on a sheet of paper for the sole purpose of letting them go!<\/p>\n

Se sentir que o simples facto de escrever os seus sentimentos n\u00e3o o est\u00e1 a ajudar, sugiro que esmague o papel ou o queime, pois est\u00e1 provado que este m\u00e9todo proporciona uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de al\u00edvio e de encerramento.<\/p>\n

So, write everything down on paper and then let it go \u2013 let all your feelings go. Let them vanish into a thin air!<\/p>\n

7. Expresse-se atrav\u00e9s de actividades que o fa\u00e7am feliz<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

If you’re wondering how to get over a crush, my answer to you is: Exprimir-se<\/a>! Do things that make you happy! It’s as simple as that.<\/p>\n

But, I understand. It’s simple in theory, but in practice it’s a totally different thing.<\/p>\n

I understand that the only activity that’s on your mind right now is thinking about your crush (if that can even be categorized as an activity), but for your own sake, you need to open your eyes and start doing things instead of thinking about doing things.<\/p>\n

I know that this is easier said than done, but trust me, after some time you’ll be grateful you did it. So, find a new hobby: dance, sing, draw, go for a walk, play games (if you’re a gamer girl), or try writing a short story or a poem.<\/p>\n

Create, create, create…<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You don’t even have to be good at these things. Just because you don’t have Adele’s voice, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t sing for your own amusement. Let me tell you something.<\/p>\n

Para mim, \u00e9 sempre muito reconfortante e \u00fatil desenhar arte abstrata. Desenho linhas, c\u00edrculos, formas interessantes e estranhas e, enquanto o fa\u00e7o, desligo o meu c\u00e9rebro e deixo que as minhas emo\u00e7\u00f5es conduzam a minha m\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

I can’t express how rejuvenating this is, so if you haven’t tried it, now is the right time to do so!<\/p>\n

8. P\u00e1ra de idealizar a tua paix\u00e3o!<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Again, I\u2019ve put an exclamation mark for a reason. You see, there’s one thing about crushes that is extremely poisoning for our brain and that is the idealization part.<\/p>\n

When we have a crush, we basically create a perfect picture of them in our brains and that picture is usually fake. Most of the time, we don’t even know much about our crush, but we assume things and we see things the way we want.<\/p>\n

Idealizamos a nossa paix\u00e3o. Ao fazer isso, impedimo-nos de ver a realidade, o que torna dif\u00edcil para n\u00f3s ultrapass\u00e1-los e finalmente seguir em frente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

To stop idealizing someone means starting to see things as they are – and that’s exactly what you need to do! So, ask yourself about what you saw in your crush in the first place, think about it for some time and ask yourself again whether it is really true.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Have you imagined your crush as the perfect man\/woman for you because they have a set of skills and qualities others don’t have? Do you think that they are the only person in the world you could be happy with?<\/p>\n

If yes, think again. First of all, no one is perfect in this world, so neither is your crush. Perfection doesn’t exist.<\/p>\n

A tua paix\u00e3o \u00e9 apenas um ser humano que idealizaste e, por isso, esqueceste-te de prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o aos seus defeitos.<\/p>\n

They are not the source of your happiness and you shouldn’t see them or treat them as such. It’s time to be realistic and admit to yourself that you’re probably not meant to be and that the sooner you move on, the better.<\/p>\n

9. Conhecer novas pessoas<\/h2>\n

\"tr\u00eas<\/p>\n

Quando estava a ultrapassar a minha paixoneta, detestava mesmo esta. Conhecer pessoas novas. Seriously? What does that even mean? Is meeting new people really supposed to help me forget that one person I’m trying to forget? Hmm…<\/em><\/p>\n

The main reason why I was confused about this one was because I didn’t really understand it at first.<\/p>\n

Pensava que conhecer pessoas novas significava que tinha de voltar a namorar<\/a> e \u00e0 procura de uma nova paixoneta (sim) e depois a paixoneta seguinte, e assim por diante, at\u00e9 que todas as pessoas erradas se amontoaram na minha vida.<\/p>\n

Luckily, this is not what it\u2019s about (unless you’re ready and then it could be). Meeting new people doesn’t mean looking for a new crush, but simply hanging out with other, different, new people!<\/p>\n

\"pessoas<\/p>\n

Talking to new people, doing fun things with new people (that doesn’t necessarily involve sex), talking about your life history and funny childhood moments while drinking your favorite alcoholic beverages…<\/p>\n

O objetivo de conhecer novas pessoas n\u00e3o \u00e9 substituir a sua paix\u00e3o por outra, mas simplesmente socializar, trocar sorrisos e desfrutar dos momentos, porque quanto mais desfrutar, mais perto estar\u00e1 de ultrapassar o objeto do seu desejo!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 5 coisas a ter em conta antes de recome\u00e7ar a namorar<\/a><\/p>\n

10. Consultar um terapeuta ou conselheiro<\/h2>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

Sugiro que experimente primeiro todos os m\u00e9todos acima referidos e, depois de algum tempo, se achar que as coisas n\u00e3o est\u00e3o a melhorar, deve tentar consultar um terapeuta ou conselheiro, porque este m\u00e9todo alternativo pode ajudar!<\/p>\n

If you’ve never visited a therapist or counselor, this might be the right thing to do! After all, there’s a first time for everything and this is not an exception.<\/p>\n

Existem muitos psic\u00f3logos cl\u00ednicos especializados em rela\u00e7\u00f5es e tudo o que precisa de fazer \u00e9 encontrar o mais adequado para si.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Depois de o ouvirem atentamente, dar-lhe-\u00e3o todos os passos necess\u00e1rios e ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e3o a compreender melhor toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

They will give you valuable advice on how to get over a crush because they’re trained to, so there’s no need to be skeptical and to think that they won’t be able to help you.<\/p>\n

They help lots of people like you and me, so I’m sure they’ll be able to do the same for you! All you need is to believe (which is sometimes the hardest part of all).<\/p>\n

After you’ve done all this, there’s only one thing left to do:<\/p>\n

Repete para ti pr\u00f3prio: Eu consigo fazer isto!<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Para sermos bem sucedidos em alguma coisa, temos de acreditar que somos capazes de o fazer e que o faremos! Se pensar positivo, obter\u00e1 resultados positivos.<\/p>\n

“What you think, you create. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you become.”<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

A sua mente \u00e9 a ferramenta mais poderosa \u00e0 sua disposi\u00e7\u00e3o, por isso use-a com sabedoria. Se pensar positivo, conseguir\u00e1 ultrapassar a sua paixoneta!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Quanto tempo dura uma paix\u00e3o? E 10 maneiras de superar isso com sucesso<\/a><\/p>\n

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