{"id":63663,"date":"2020-04-22T09:51:01","date_gmt":"2020-04-22T09:51:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=63663"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:00:37","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:00:37","slug":"tenho-saudades-da-minha-mae-no-ceu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/tenho-saudades-da-minha-mae-no-ceu\/","title":{"rendered":"Tenho saudades da minha m\u00e3e no c\u00e9u (uma hist\u00f3ria pessoal e cita\u00e7\u00f5es)"},"content":{"rendered":"

H\u00e1 coisas que nos mudam para sempre. A morte da tua m\u00e3e \u00e9 uma dessas coisas.<\/p>\n

While everyone knows that the day must come, sooner or later, none of us are actually prepared for our mom’s death.<\/p>\n

Tenho saudades da minha m\u00e3e todos os segundos de todos os dias. Muitos dos meus queridos amigos perderam as suas m\u00e3es com cancro da mama ou cancro do pulm\u00e3o muito subitamente.<\/p>\n

Tentei ajud\u00e1-los a lidar com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o e pensei que, se alguma vez estivesse na situa\u00e7\u00e3o deles, ficaria de rastos.<\/p>\n

I was right. The thing is, the only person who can possibly make the pain go away at those moments is your mom, and she’s not there to help you.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

The moment your mom passes the world seems empty. One minute she’s there, the next she’s gone. Your whole body and soul understand this immediately. You change, forever.<\/p>\n

Nesse preciso momento, a minha alma doeu-me incrivelmente. Mas n\u00e3o tanto como nos dias e meses seguintes. No in\u00edcio, estava muito zangada, comigo pr\u00f3pria, com o mundo, com tudo e todos.<\/p>\n

Eu passava pelo hospital onde ela morreu<\/a> and the simple feeling that I didn’t need to go in there made me insane. I was incredibly sad and also relieved in a very weird way.<\/p>\n

My mother dying is the hardest thing I\u2019ve ever had to cope with. I cried. I cried a lot.<\/p>\n

Many family members wanted to help me and even though I appreciated their help- every meal that they cooked for me, every phone call to check I was okay – nothing made me feel better.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I lost my appetite and I simply couldn’t eat anything. I tried to order some burgers and fries and many other comfort foods but I couldn’t take a bite.<\/p>\n

After many days I forced myself to go to work, thinking it would take my mind off things. It didn’t. It made it even worse. So, I took time off work.<\/p>\n

O que mais me lembro \u00e9 de n\u00e3o conseguir compreender como \u00e9 que as outras pessoas conseguiam simplesmente continuar a viver as suas vidas. Tudo em mim estava ligado \u00e0 minha m\u00e3e.<\/p>\n

Era-me t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil levantar-me da cama, enquanto outras pessoas viviam as suas vidas como se nada tivesse acontecido.<\/p>\n

I kept thinking about how she must have felt knowing she would never see me again. I was so angry I wasn’t there with her for her last breath.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

That’s something I have a hard time forgiving myself for even now, even though she died last year.<\/p>\n

Oh mom, my beautiful mom. I couldn’t stand looking at images and videos of her because it simply hurt too much.<\/p>\n

Ver os seus filmes preferidos ou ouvir as suas can\u00e7\u00f5es preferidas matava-me.<\/p>\n

Sentia-me t\u00e3o ingrata por todos os anos que tive com ela, enquanto tinha amigos que perderam as m\u00e3es ainda antes do liceu.<\/p>\n

Toda a minha vida pensei que, se algo assim me acontecesse, nunca sobreviveria. Mas sobrevivi. Sobrevivi a perder o meu amor, o meu melhor amigo, a pessoa que me deu vida.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Era sempre t\u00e3o paciente e cuidadosa para n\u00e3o ferir os nossos sentimentos. A m\u00e3e e o pai costumavam discutir \u00e0s vezes, como todos os casais, mas ela nunca queria que n\u00f3s, os filhos, ouv\u00edssemos.<\/p>\n

Por muito zangada que estivesse, queria proteger-nos das suas palavras desagrad\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima vez que a vi, ela estava a usar um pijama cor de rosa. Costumavam ficar-lhe bem, mas naquele dia s\u00f3 acentuavam a sua palidez.<\/p>\n

Aquela vis\u00e3o magoou-me at\u00e9 aos ossos. Soube imediatamente que a vida dela estava a chegar ao fim. O pr\u00f3prio pensamento era insuport\u00e1vel para mim.<\/p>\n

She looked worse each time I saw her those last days of her life. Not a single day passes that I don’t get that image of her in her blush pajamas flashing before my eyes.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As pessoas disseram-me muitas vezes que os primeiros meses s\u00e3o os mais dif\u00edceis, mas ainda hoje parece que acabou de acontecer.<\/p>\n

Parece-me que nunca conseguirei ultrapassar completamente a situa\u00e7\u00e3o. A morte dela vai assombrar-me para sempre.<\/p>\n

I have better days and I have awful days but it seems to me I’m getting used to the fact that she’s gone.<\/p>\n

Independentemente das coisas novas que aconte\u00e7am e do que eu fa\u00e7a, lembro-me sempre de pelo menos um dos muitos li\u00e7\u00f5es de vida<\/a> ela ensinou-me.<\/p>\n

Whenever something happens, I feel like I know the exact thing she’d say to me and I can almost hear the words she’d say in my mind. I always smile.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Whenever I get new clothes or meet new people I wonder what she would think about them. I recently bought an apartment and not a day goes by that I don’t think about what she’d say about it.<\/p>\n

These days I\u2019ve even had the strength to go to the attic and take down some of our photo albums. I\u2019ve gone through all our family photos, and even though I cried a lot I smiled a lot more.<\/p>\n

A minha alma ficar\u00e1 para sempre ligada \u00e0 dela. Ela era a minha \u00fanica e verdadeira alma g\u00e9mea.<\/p>\n

I think a lot about what I would tell her if I got a chance to see her. We used to talk for hours almost every day and now, I feel like the only thing that I’d say is: I miss you mom, I wish you were here.<\/p>\n

MOTHER’S DAY QUOTES FOR THOSE WHO HAVE LOST THEIR MOM:<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

1. “What we have once enjoyed deeply we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” \u2014 Helen Keller<\/p>\n

2. “Grief and love are conjoined, you don’t get one without the other. All I can do is love her, and love the world, emulate her by living with daring and spirit and joy.” \u2014 Jandy Nelson<\/p>\n

3. “Don\u2019t grieve. Anything you lose comes round in another form.” \u2014 Rumi<\/p>\n

4. “If I had a flower for every time I thought of you…I could walk in my own garden forever.” \u2014 Alfred Tennyson<\/p>\n

5. “Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose.” \u2014 Os Anos Maravilhosos<\/em><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

6. “A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

7. “You don’t go around grieving all the time, but the grief is still there and always will be.” \u2014 Nigella Lawson<\/p>\n

8. “Grief can be a burden, but also an anchor. You get used to the weight, how it holds you in place.” \u2014 Sarah Dessen<\/p>\n

9. “Mom, I am missing you today but I know that you will always be with me in my heart.” \u2014 Karen Kostyla<\/p>\n

10. “Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

11. “Perhaps they are not stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” \u2014 Eskimo legend<\/p>\n

12. “Sometimes, only one person is missing, and the whole world seems depopulated.” \u2014 Alphonse de Lamartine<\/p>\n

13. “Those we love and lose are always connected by heartstrings into infinity.” \u2014 Terri Guillemets<\/p>\n

14. “We understand death only after it has placed its hands on someone we love.” \u2014 Madame de Stael<\/p>\n

15. “Your life was a blessing, your memory a treasure. You are loved beyond words and missed beyond measure.” \u2014 Renee Wood<\/p>\n

\"m\u00e3e<\/p>\n

16. “The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but the love and memory of you, shall never pass away.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

17. “There are no goodbyes for us. Wherever you are, you will always be in my heart.” \u2014 Mahatma Gandhi<\/p>\n

18. “No matter how prepared you think you are for the death of a loved one, it still comes as a shock, and it still hurts very deeply.” \u2014 Billy Graham<\/p>\n

19. “I should know enough about loss to realize that you never really stop missing someone-you just learn to live around the huge gaping hole of their absence.” \u2014 Alyson Noel<\/p>\n

20. “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” \u2014 Jos\u00e9 N. Harris<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

21. “Grief is like the ocean, it comes in waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.” \u2014 Vicki Harrison<\/p>\n

22. “And then I heard the angel say, \u2018She\u2019s with you every day.'” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

23. “Unable are the loved to die, for love is immortality.” \u2014 Emily Dickinson<\/p>\n

24. “But she wasn\u2019t around, and that\u2019s the thing when your parents die, you feel like instead of going into every fight with backup, you are going into every fight alone.” \u2014 Mitch Albom<\/p>\n

25. “If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.” \u2014 James O\u2019Barr<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

26. “Losing people you love affects you. It is buried inside of you and becomes this big, deep hole of ache. It doesn’t magically go away, even when you stop officially mourning.” \u2014 Carrie Jones<\/p>\n

27. “I knew what it was like to lose someone you loved. You didn’t get past something like that, you got through it.” \u2014 Jodi Picoult<\/p>\n

28. “There is something about losing a mother that is permanent and inexpressible\u2014a wound that will never quite heal.” \u2014 Susan Wiggs<\/p>\n

29. “My mom is a never-ending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune.” \u2014 Graycie Harmon<\/p>\n

30. “When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

TENHO SAUDADES DA MINHA M\u00c3E CITA\u00c7\u00d5ES:<\/h2>\n

“The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but the love and memory of you, shall never pass away.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“I cried endlessly when you died but I promise, I won’t let the tears mar the smiles that you’ve given me when you were alive.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“I know you are listening from above. There’s nothing that I value more than your love. No matter where I am or what I’m doing, your memories will always keep me smiling.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Whenever I am missing you, I also remember how fortunate I was that you were in my life. I wouldn’t trade those moments for the world.” \u2014 Cindy Adkins<\/p>\n

“In the blink of an eye, everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never not have that chance again.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

“Those we love don’t go away, they walk beside us every day. Unseen, unheard but always near, still loved, still missed, and held so dear.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Mothers hold their children’s hands for a while, but their hearts forever.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“I’ll always remember the things you have taught me and how much you love me.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“A mom’s hug lasts long after she lets go.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

“No matter what age, I’ll always need you, mom. ” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“No daughter and mother should ever live apart, no matter what the distance between them.” \u2014 Christie Watson<\/p>\n

“Mother, you left us beautiful memories, your love is still our guide, although we cannot see you, you’re always at our side.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Hold dear to your parents for it is a scary and confusing world without them.” \u2014 Emily Dickinson<\/p>\n

“In life, we loved you dearly, in death we love you still. In our hearts you hold a place, no one else will ever fill.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

“Mothers never really die, they just keep the house up in the sky, they polish the sun by day and light the stars that shine at night, keep the moonbeams silvery bright and in the heavenly home above they wait to welcome those they love.” \u2014 Helen Steiner Rice<\/p>\n

“Mom, I am missing you today but I know that you will always be with me in my heart … I am who I am because of your loving hands. I have my sweet and compassionate soul from watching you and your generosity and kindness to others. I see the world full of wonder because of your imagination. I’ve learned to never give up seeing your drive and perseverance … I love you always and forever …” \u2014 Karen Kostyla<\/p>\n

“A mother’s love is always with her children. Losing a mother is one of the deepest sorrows a heart can know. But her goodness, her caring, and her wisdom live on-like a legacy of love that will always be with you. May that love surround you now and bring you peace.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

CITA\u00c7\u00d5ES SOBRE O LUTO:<\/h2>\n

“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” \u2014 Elisabeth Kubler-Ross<\/p>\n

“In the garden of memory, in the palace of dreams…that is where you and I shall meet.”\u2014 Alice Through the Looking Glass<\/p>\n

“When someone you love becomes a memory…that memory becomes a treasure.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“An eternal memory…until we meet again: Those special memories will always bring a smile if only I could have you back for just a little while. Then we could sit and talk again just like we used to do, you always meant so very much and always will do too. The fact that you’re no longer here will always cause me pain, but you’re forever in my heart until we meet again.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Perhaps they are not the stars in the sky, but rather openings where our loved ones shine down to let us know they are happy.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

“Blessed are those who mourn for they shall be comforted.” \u2014 Matthew 5:4<\/p>\n

“God gave us memory so that we might have roses in December.” \u2014 J.M. Barrie<\/p>\n

“If there ever comes a day when we can’t be together, keep me in your heart, I’ll stay there forever.” \u2014 Winnie the Pooh<\/p>\n

“It is perfectly okay to admit you’re not okay.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“There are some who bring a light so great to the world that even after they have gone the light remains.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

“Be the things you loved most about the people who are gone.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Keep your head up. God gives his hardest battles to his strongest soldiers.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“And sometimes, against all odds, against all logic, we still hope.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

“Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time. It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other.” \u2014 Leo Buscaglia<\/p>\n

\"duas<\/p>\n

“When it is darkest, we can see the stars.” \u2014 Ralph Waldo Emerson<\/p>\n

“You will survive and you will find purpose in the chaos. Moving on doesn’t mean letting go.” \u2014 Mary VanHaute<\/p>\n

“Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever.” \u2014 Harold Kushner<\/p>\n

“This is not goodbye, my darling, this is a thank you. Thank you for coming into my life and giving me joy.” \u2014 Nicholas Sparks<\/p>\n

“How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.” \u2014 Winnie the Pooh<\/p>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

“Grief is the price we pay for love.” \u2014 Queen Elizabeth II<\/p>\n

“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” \u2014 Thomas Campbell<\/p>\n

“You have within you, right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you.” \u2014 Unknown<\/p>\n

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