{"id":6423,"date":"2020-08-06T09:44:53","date_gmt":"2020-08-06T09:44:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=6423"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:52:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:52:49","slug":"o-homem-fez-se-de-parvo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-homem-fez-se-de-parvo\/","title":{"rendered":"Para o homem que me fez de parvo"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Come\u00e7ou muito bem. Parecia o in\u00edcio perfeito de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Conhecemo-nos, cruz\u00e1mos olhares e apaixon\u00e1mo-nos. Pass\u00e1mos muito tempo juntos. T\u00ednhamos aquelas longas conversas nocturnas sobre isto e aquilo. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Eras t\u00e3o atencioso, t\u00e3o sedutor, que a minha cabe\u00e7a dava voltas quando te via. As borboletas no meu est\u00f4mago pareciam mais elefantes a saltar para cima e para baixo.<\/p>\n<p>I couldn\u2019t sleep, I couldn\u2019t eat, I would spend my days just thinking about you.<\/p>\n<p>Alguns meses depois, apercebi-me <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/nao-quer-colocar-relacao-de-etiqueta\/\">nunca t\u00ednhamos definido a nossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/a> Por isso, perguntei-lhe diretamente. <i> \u201cWhat am I to you? <\/i><\/p>\n<p><i>Am I your girlfriend?\u201d <\/i> Your face went blank, your hands were shaking, and you mumbled something but didn\u2019t give me the right answer.<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t remember the actual words but it was something like, <i> \u201cYou know I just got out of a complicated relationship and I am not ready to commit yet.\u201d \u201cGive me time.\u201d \u201cCan we not put labels on what we have?\u201d \u201cYou mean the world to me.\u201d <\/i><\/p>\n<p>And I bought that shit. Like his words were the equivalent of truth itself. I still can\u2019t believe I was so naive, so clueless of what was really going on.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-104742\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks.jpg\" alt=\"no parque, um casal amoroso senta-se num banco e conversa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/in-the-park-a-loving-couple-sits-on-a-bench-and-talks-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quanto mais tempo passava com ele, mais me apaixonava por ele. Era algu\u00e9m que nos podia ouvir durante horas.<\/p>\n<p>Dava-me sempre bons conselhos sobre como lidar com certas situa\u00e7\u00f5es. Tamb\u00e9m confiava em mim. Contava-me todo o tipo de hist\u00f3rias sobre a sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>When the topic of exes came up, he told me about her \u2013 about his narcissistic ex. How she manipulated him.<\/p>\n<p>She was just using him, his kindness, his money. He would pay for everything she wanted, from clothes to tuition fees for university. And a lot more things. He loved her but he couldn\u2019t see clearly.<\/p>\n<p>I felt so bad for him. I actually felt sorry for him. I tried to be understanding. I didn\u2019t mention labeling our thing with anything. I just figured he needed time. He was here, he was with me and that\u2019s all I needed.<\/p>\n<p>Until the night I got a message request from her. I knew her name as he\u2019d told me. I was alone at the time sitting in my apartment and I remember staring at the screen for half an hour before I dared to look at the message. &nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>A mensagem dizia, <i> \u201cI know who you are, I know you are sleeping with my boyfriend. Please get away from him, stop pulling him into your toxic web. He loves me. Let us be happy.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-104744\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking.jpg\" alt=\"um casal amoroso sentado numa margem de bet\u00e3o a conversar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-loving-couple-sitting-on-a-concrete-shore-and-talking-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i> \u2018What a psycho.\u2019 \u2018Why am I toxic?\u2019 \u2018How does she know about me?\u2019 <\/i> My mind was a ball of mush and I couldn\u2019t think straight. I ignored the message.<\/p>\n<p>Falei-lhe disso quando ele me veio visitar mais tarde. Ele negou t\u00ea-la visto de todo. Chamou-lhe louca. Depois contou-me mais hist\u00f3rias de terror sobre ela.<\/p>\n<p>How she influenced his family, how she spent a lot of time there, how everybody was pressuring him to get back together with her. But that he loved me, I was too good for him\u2026<\/p>\n<p>E eu acreditei em tudo, como uma colegial ing\u00e9nua que nunca tinha tido uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o antes. Todas as suas hist\u00f3rias pareciam vagas, faltava qualquer coisa. Apesar disso, optei por ignorar a minha intui\u00e7\u00e3o e segui o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p><b>I still can\u2019t forgive myself for that. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>I realized what a fool I was when she sent me pictures of you two, up in the hills on the bike ride. You wore a hat that I bought you a few weeks ago. And you were kissing her. I couldn\u2019t believe my eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, quando vieste com as tuas desculpas pat\u00e9ticas, pela primeira vez, eu vi atrav\u00e9s de ti. Tudo o que me disseste que ela te fazia era exatamente o mesmo que me fazias a mim.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-104745\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman.jpg\" alt=\"um retrato de uma mulher triste e deprimida\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman-768x512.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/a-portrait-of-a-depressed-sad-woman-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><i> \u00c9 apenas um bom contador de hist\u00f3rias, um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/3-jogos-mentais-que-todas-as-pessoas-toxicas-fazem\/\">manipulador de merda que apenas usou os meus sentimentos e me fez de parvo. <\/a> <\/i><\/p>\n<p>Ligaste, mandaste mensagens, as tuas desculpas eram t\u00e3o boas que quase me enganaste. Tive saudades tuas. Queria-te de volta.<\/p>\n<p>Felizmente, tenho bons amigos que me lembraram que tu \u00e9s apenas um bom contador de hist\u00f3rias. Lembraram-me de como brincavas com os meus sentimentos como se fossem irrelevantes.<\/p>\n<p>O mais dif\u00edcil agora \u00e9 perdoar-me por ter acreditado em ti e perceber que todos aqueles momentos passados contigo, todos aqueles momentos especiais, eu era a \u00fanica a senti-los. Uma vez que, claramente, \u00e9s incapaz de ter emo\u00e7\u00f5es reais.<\/p>\n<p><i> In the end, I just want to say I don\u2019t wish anything bad for you but watch out for the karma. <\/i><b><i>O karma \u00e9 uma cabra.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-104747 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Para o homem que me fez de parvo\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-Pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It started off great. It seemed like the perfect start of a relationship. We met, we crossed eyes and we fell in love. We spent a lot of time together. We had those long night chats about this and that. &nbsp; You were so attentive, so seductive, that my head was spinning when I would&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":104740,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6423","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/To-The-Man-Who-Played-Me-For-A-Fool-e1602942582800.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6423","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6423"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6423\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/104740"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6423"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6423"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6423"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}