{"id":64631,"date":"2020-04-25T23:40:53","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:40:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=64631"},"modified":"2022-05-09T00:11:34","modified_gmt":"2022-05-09T00:11:34","slug":"aprender-a-amar-de-novo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aprender-a-amar-de-novo\/","title":{"rendered":"Aprender a amar de novo: 12 maneiras comprovadas de reabrir o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you’ve been heartbroken and hurt in the past, learning to love again is the most difficult thing you can imagine yourself doing.<\/p>\n

You’ve given up on the idea of ever finding your soulmate and you think that the only way to save yourself from another heartbreak is to shut your heart off completely and never put yourself out there.<\/p>\n

Aprender a amar de novo<\/a> is basically all about leaving your past and everything you’ve been through behind and trusting someone new not to make you go through the same pain all over again.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Parece corajoso, n\u00e3o \u00e9? Bem, de facto \u00e9.<\/p>\n

No entanto, quando finalmente se encontra a pessoa certa, todo o esfor\u00e7o vale a pena.<\/p>\n

You’re happy when you manage to tear down your walls and that you have the bravery to reopen your heart.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 mais f\u00e1cil falar do que fazer, eu sei. No entanto, aqui est\u00e1 um guia passo a passo sobre como o fazer.<\/p>\n

12 maneiras de aprender a amar novamente<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Lembra-te de todos os benef\u00edcios do amor verdadeiro<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single. However, you don\u2019t have to sentence yourself to a life of solitude just because you\u2019ve been hurt in the past.<\/p>\n

Yes, love can hurt you\u2014there is no doubt about that. However, instead of constantly focusing on its bad sides, remember all the benefits of amor verdadeiro<\/a>.<\/p>\n

O amor faz-nos sentir seguros, melhora a nossa sa\u00fade mental e f\u00edsica e preenche o nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Having a romantic partner doesn\u2019t only mean having a lover\u2014it is also about finding your best friend and forever person who will always stick by you, no matter what.<\/p>\n

Yes, putting yourself out there is scary and anything but easy, especially if you\u2019ve been through a lot.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 sempre a possibilidade de voltar a ficar de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido, mas tamb\u00e9m h\u00e1 a possibilidade de encontrar finalmente algu\u00e9m com quem partilhar a vida e algu\u00e9m que o ajudar\u00e1 a apagar todas as suas cicatrizes.<\/p>\n

Por isso, quando se olha para as coisas deste ponto de vista, acho que aprender a amar de novo vale mesmo a pena.<\/p>\n

2. Corte os la\u00e7os com o seu passado<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O processo de reabrir o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido \u00e0 possibilidade de um novo romance inclui curar e seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, uma coisa destas n\u00e3o pode ser feita se ainda estivermos a remoer o nosso passado doloroso.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 exatamente por isso que o pr\u00f3ximo passo \u00e9 cortar todos os la\u00e7os poss\u00edveis com o seu passado.<\/p>\n

You see, there is no point whatsoever to pretend that you want to turn a new page of your life if deep down, you\u2019re still hoping for your ex to return.<\/p>\n

\"Grande<\/p>\n

After all, you don\u2019t have to necessarily love this person; it is more than enough for them to still exist in your mind in any possible way for you to be held back from moving on.<\/p>\n

Forget about hating them, don\u2019t waste your energy on resentment or grudges and don\u2019t plot revenge against the one who\u2019s done you harm. Instead, just do your best to let go.<\/p>\n

Deixar ir<\/a> of all the emotions you had or still have for this person, of all the could-have-beens and should-have-beens, let go of your memories and most importantly\u2014get rid of your emotional baggage.<\/p>\n

3. Concentrar-se na cura<\/h2>\n

\"Costas<\/p>\n

Once you really decide to kick out your ex from your life, mind and heart, it\u2019s time to invest all of your energy into a healthy cura<\/a> processo.<\/p>\n

You built some walls around you and you decided to shut off your broken heart\u2014otherwise you wouldn\u2019t have to learn to love again.<\/p>\n

Portanto, \u00e9 mais do que evidente que essa pessoa lhe causou alguns traumas que ainda carrega consigo.<\/p>\n

E s\u00e3o estas as quest\u00f5es que deve resolver antes de dar um salto para o seu futuro.<\/p>\n

Healing is not just about not loving your ex anymore and getting over your break-up\u2014it is also about fully recovering from everything this person did to you.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014this will probably take time but that is the whole point.<\/p>\n

Of course, you always have the option of doing everything the easy and the quick way\u2014the option of sweeping everything you\u2019re dealing with under the carpet and pretending that your baggage doesn\u2019t exist.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, in this case, don\u2019t hope for any long-term results. Sooner or later, your past demons will come to get you and you\u2019re back to square one.<\/p>\n

Por outro lado, se quer realmente seguir em frente de uma forma saud\u00e1vel, alimente o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"rapaz<\/p>\n

Liberte quaisquer emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas que tenha e encontre a for\u00e7a para perdoar e deixar ir.<\/p>\n

Firstly, forgive your ex for hurting you. Trust me\u2014only when you do this will you be ready to get rid of the hold your past still has on you.<\/p>\n

Depois disso, perdoe-se a si pr\u00f3prio por n\u00e3o saber mais. Seja gentil consigo mesmo e d\u00ea prioridade \u00e0s suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades.<\/p>\n

Remember that your relationship with yourself is most important so don’t forget about the importance of self-love and self-respect.<\/p>\n

4. Stop thinking that you\u2019re not meant to be loved<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

There is no point in learning to be in love after being hurt if you don\u2019t expect to get some emotions back.<\/p>\n

No entanto, isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 poss\u00edvel se as suas experi\u00eancias passadas ou o seu ex a fizeram pensar que you\u2019re unlovable<\/a>.<\/p>\n

O facto de ter feito algumas escolhas erradas n\u00e3o \u00e9 necessariamente um sinal de que nunca ir\u00e1 encontrar a pessoa certa.<\/p>\n

Just because one or a few of your exes didn\u2019t treat you the way you deserved, it doesn\u2019t mean that everyone in your future will be the same.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O maior erro que se pode cometer \u00e9 deixar que o passado influencie e acabe por destruir o futuro.<\/p>\n

Por isso, por favor, mudem a vossa mentalidade e tenham alguma esperan\u00e7a de que vos esperam coisas e pessoas boas.<\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014start loving yourself more.<\/p>\n

After all, you can’t expect to get any high-quality romantic love until you give yourself the self-love you deserve and you can’t expect others to see you as lovable unless you do so first.<\/p>\n

5. Reconsiderar os seus padr\u00f5es de relacionamento<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Even though you have to get rid of your belief that you\u2019re not meant to be loved, you still have to take responsibility for the biggest mistakes and the poor choices you made regarding your love life.<\/p>\n

After all, all those wrong people weren\u2019t magically sent to you\u2014you were the one who picked them and the one who stayed in your unhealthy relationships.<\/p>\n

Antes de mais, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio identificar o seu padr\u00f5es de relacionamento t\u00f3xicos<\/a> which brought you to this entire mess and then decide that you\u2019ll never repeat them again.<\/p>\n

\"Vista<\/p>\n

Tem tend\u00eancia para estar com o mesmo tipo de parceiros rom\u00e2nticos que claramente n\u00e3o s\u00e3o adequados para si?<\/p>\n

Mant\u00e9m-se em rela\u00e7\u00f5es que est\u00e3o condenadas ao fracasso porque se tornaram a sua zona de conforto ou por medo de estar sozinho?<\/p>\n

Concentre-se numa introspe\u00e7\u00e3o e tente descobrir o que est\u00e1 a fazer de errado.<\/p>\n

Otherwise, you can’t expect to ever find a loving relationship, change your dating habits and improve your chances of having a happy love life the next time you put yourself out there.<\/p>\n

6. Determinar os seus padr\u00f5es de relacionamento<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

After you\u2019re done with resolving your past issues, it\u2019s time to dedicate yourself to the present and the future.<\/p>\n

The fact is that you can\u2019t fall happily in love unless you realize what or who you want.<\/p>\n

Nobody is telling you that you shouldn\u2019t follow your heart when it comes to finding a loving relationship but you have to turn on your brain while doing so as well.<\/p>\n

That is why it\u2019s crucial for you to set up some padr\u00f5es de relacionamento<\/a>. O que \u00e9 que procura?<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as coisas que espera obter do seu parceiro? Qual \u00e9 o tipo de comportamento que nunca toleraria?<\/p>\n

This doesn\u2019t only apply to serious relationships\u2014you need to determine your most important dating deal-breakers as well.<\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o os tra\u00e7os de personalidade e as caracter\u00edsticas que o levam a descartar algu\u00e9m imediatamente, sem lhe dar uma segunda oportunidade?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry\u2014you\u2019re not too picky for thinking like this; you\u2019re just protecting yourself from making mistakes as much as you can.<\/p>\n

7. Volte a p\u00f4r-se em a\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Now that you have it all figured out, it\u2019s time for some concrete action, the time to put yourself de volta \u00e0 piscina dos encontros<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re ready to reopen your heart and it\u2019s the perfect moment to try and find someone to help you finish this process.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should go around pulling people by their sleeve and asking them to be your boyfriend or girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, bastar\u00e1 baixar a guarda e abrir-se \u00e0 possibilidade de namorar.<\/p>\n

You can install dating apps or go speed dating, where you\u2019ll meet a bunch of singles who possibly went through the things you\u2019re going through right now.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Se o seu melhor amigo lhe sugerir um encontro \u00e0s cegas com algu\u00e9m de quem ele acha que pode gostar, pelo menos considere essa op\u00e7\u00e3o antes de a recusar de imediato.<\/p>\n

Namoriscar, dar o primeiro passo quando se sente atra\u00eddo por algu\u00e9m ou dar o seu n\u00famero \u00e0quele rapaz ou rapariga que se aproxima de si e come\u00e7a a atirar-se a si.<\/p>\n

After all, what\u2019s the worst thing that can happen?<\/p>\n

A person doesn\u2019t have to knock you off your feet for you to give them a chance; just have fun and see where it goes.<\/p>\n

After all, I\u2019m sure you\u2019re pretty rusty and you could use some practice.<\/p>\n

8. Don\u2019t jump from one relationship to another<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should be jumping from one relationship to another in the search of the right person because that can bring you more bad than good.<\/p>\n

Quando se envereda pelas pr\u00e1ticas modernas de namoro, \u00e9 f\u00e1cil ser arrastado para um c\u00edrculo intermin\u00e1vel de quase rela\u00e7\u00f5es, encontros de uma noite, acordos do tipo \"amigos com benef\u00edcios\" e outros tipos de relacionamentos situacionais<\/a>.<\/p>\n

However, you are already vulnerable enough and you don\u2019t need any more emotional damage.<\/p>\n

Remember\u2014just because you decided to let your guard down, it doesn\u2019t mean you should let just about anyone in your heart.<\/p>\n

It is one thing if you give people a chance to get to know you and to show you why they\u2019re worthy of your attention but it is completely different if you open up to just anyone who crosses your path.<\/p>\n

9. Fazer as coisas com calma<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re learning to apaixonar-se de novo<\/a> after you\u2019ve finished a serious long-term relationship which left you with a serious heartache, it is quite easy to fall into the common trap of wanting to continue where you left off.<\/p>\n

Bem, deixe-me dizer-lhe que este \u00e9 um dos maiores erros que pode cometer quando est\u00e1 a tentar encontrar uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o amorosa.<\/p>\n

At first, you have these high and thick walls around your heart and you don\u2019t let anyone cross them.<\/p>\n

No entanto, quando se baixar a guarda<\/a>, volta rapidamente aos seus velhos h\u00e1bitos.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re used to being in a committed, intense relationship so now you simply don\u2019t know how to function when you\u2019re just starting something new.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Por isso, tenta-se saltar a parte introdut\u00f3ria e passar imediatamente o romance para o n\u00edvel seguinte, sem sequer se ter consci\u00eancia disso.<\/p>\n

Isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 invulgar e acontece \u00e0 maioria das pessoas na sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o. No entanto, n\u00e3o \u00e9 o caminho a seguir.<\/p>\n

What you should do is let go of expectations. Try your best to take things slowly and don\u2019t rush anything.<\/p>\n

Em vez de planear o dia do seu casamento e dar nomes aos seus filhos imagin\u00e1rios logo no primeiro encontro com algu\u00e9m de quem gosta, v\u00e1 passo a passo e aproveite o momento.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t obsess about the potential and instead enjoy the present moment.<\/p>\n

10. Don\u2019t engage in overthinking<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

O teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o foi esmagado em milh\u00f5es de peda\u00e7os por algu\u00e9m a quem pensavas que podias confiar a tua vida e que estavas convencido que nunca te abandonaria, por isso, naturalmente, perdeste a f\u00e9 no amor e nas pessoas em geral.<\/p>\n

Tudo isto provocou-lhe ansiedade e um problema de excesso de pensamento.<\/p>\n

You now can\u2019t help but to always expect the worst case scenario.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t trust people and especially not your potential romantic partners.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Instead of going with the flow and enjoying the moment, you constantly stress out by examining their every move, dissecting their every text message and every word that comes out of their mouth, looking for something that doesn\u2019t add up and something that can serve you as proof of their dishonesty.<\/p>\n

Even when everything is going perfectly smoothly, you can\u2019t rest.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re overwhelmed with doubt and you wonder if this person you have by your side is too good to be true.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e3o prestes a deixar-te pendurado? Andam a falar com outros nas tuas costas?<\/p>\n

\"Grande<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que vais acabar sozinho e com uma dor no cora\u00e7\u00e3o mais uma vez?<\/p>\n

Well, the truth is that you\u2019re obsessing with all of this out of irrational fear.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re actually subconsciously preparing yourself for the worst scenario, convinced that the failure of your relationship will hurt less if you expect it to happen.<\/p>\n

Sounds logical in your head, I know. However, it\u2019s time to put a stop to this practice because pensar demais<\/a> n\u00e3o lhe trar\u00e1 nada para al\u00e9m de mais stress e muitas dores de cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should turn off your thoughts completely but there is no need to do this either.<\/p>\n

Remember that you can never protect yourself 100% from what\u2019s meant to happen, so there is no point in all of this overthinking either.<\/p>\n

11. Confie no seu instinto<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

A melhor maneira de encontrar um equil\u00edbrio entre ser demasiado cuidadoso e demasiado imprudente \u00e9 confiar nos seus instintos.<\/p>\n

Sempre que ficar paranoico, pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio se \u00e9 o seu medo a falar ou se \u00e9 o seu instinto a tentar enviar-lhe uma mensagem.<\/p>\n

A verdade \u00e9 que, se sentirmos que algo n\u00e3o est\u00e1 bem, na maioria dos casos, \u00e9 porque est\u00e1 mesmo.<\/p>\n

Aplique isto tamb\u00e9m ao permitir que novas pessoas entrem na sua vida e no seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll often find yourself in a situation where you meet someone who is perfect on paper but you simply don\u2019t like them and you get a bad vibe from them.<\/p>\n

If this happens, you\u2019re allowed to walk away and continue searching.<\/p>\n

12. Abre o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Finalmente, abre o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ao amor<\/a> quando a v\u00eas chegar at\u00e9 ti.<\/p>\n

I know you don\u2019t believe me now but one of these days, your match made in heaven will cross your path.<\/p>\n

No, they probably won\u2019t be perfect, but neither are you. However, you\u2019ll know that they\u2019re the one.<\/p>\n

And when that happens, please don\u2019t slam the door right in their face.<\/p>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your fears and your past demons take over and chase the opportunity of a lifetime away from you.<\/p>\n

Instead, just go for it and believe me when I tell you that soon enough, you\u2019ll see that learning to love again was worthy.<\/p>\n

Para terminar, eis alguns dos a letra de uma can\u00e7\u00e3o adequada<\/a> to put on your playlist, which can help you see that you’re not alone in fighting this battle:<\/p>\n

Mat Kearney- Aprendendo a amar novamente letras<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Your poker face ain’t fooling nobody, nobody here<\/p>\n

We’ve all felt the flame and shed those same tears<\/p>\n

Conduzir para casa para um inferno de um homem s\u00f3, ainda a contar anos, ainda a contar anos<\/p>\n

Hey brother we’re all learning to love again<\/p>\n

‘Cause that was the real you running through the fields of gold wide open<\/p>\n

\"Grande<\/p>\n

Estar em s\u00edtios que nenhuma fotografia cont\u00e9m<\/p>\n

Esse era o verdadeiro tu, janelas abertas, pod\u00edamos sentir o cheiro dos campos de hortel\u00e3 a chorar<\/p>\n

Singing with the radio to a song we can’t name<\/p>\n

That was the real you saying, \u201cMaybe I’m not too young to be a cowboy.\u201d<\/p>\n

Hey brother, we’re all learning to love again<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Fazer a cama nesse dia num ch\u00e3o estrangeiro entre paredes estrangeiras<\/p>\n

Thinking ’bout the words you’d say to a phone that never calls<\/p>\n

Feel the weight of your father’s ring and all those dreams, and all those dreams singing<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

E eu conhe\u00e7o-te como conhe\u00e7o o meu reflexo<\/p>\n

Walking on the water ‘cross an ocean of desire<\/p>\n

Toda a gente que conhe\u00e7o est\u00e1 \u00e0 procura de prote\u00e7\u00e3o<\/p>\n

Trying to pull down your hometown ‘cross a telephone wire<\/p>\n

‘Cross a telephone wire<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

‘Cause that was the real you standing there in the shape of your body<\/p>\n

Fear don\u2019t know no love when we’re all the same<\/p>\n

Era o verdadeiro tu a olhar para tr\u00e1s, para o outro lado da \u00e1gua<\/p>\n

L\u00e1grimas caindo como chuva, gotas ondulando contra a vergonha<\/p>\n

Era o verdadeiro tu a cantar Aleluia, olhando para um barril<\/p>\n

Hey brother, we’re all learning to love again<\/p>\n

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