{"id":65519,"date":"2020-04-25T23:39:51","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:39:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65519"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:45:09","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:45:09","slug":"o-meu-namorado-e-aborrecido","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-meu-namorado-e-aborrecido\/","title":{"rendered":"O meu namorado \u00e9 aborrecido: 4 raz\u00f5es para isso e o que pode fazer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Voc\u00ea quer sair e divertir-se, mas ele quer jogar videojogos e ver Netflix.<\/p>\n

If this happened only a few times, you wouldn’t mind. But, since it happens on a regular basis, this is the only legit conclusion:<\/p>\n

O meu namorado \u00e9 aborrecido!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Quando se conheceram e come\u00e7aram a namorar, tudo parecia perfeito.<\/p>\n

Estavam a fazer todas as coisas divertidas juntos e a vossa vida amorosa estava simplesmente a florescer.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

And then, after some time, you wake up and realize that you’re in a rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/a> com um tipo aborrecido.<\/p>\n

Pensas para ti pr\u00f3prio: Como \u00e9 que isso aconteceu? <\/em>Como \u00e9 que n\u00e3o vi todos os sinais de aviso ou ser\u00e1 que ele se tornou aborrecido de um dia para o outro?<\/em><\/p>\n

De uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica promissora a uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o de impasse. Sem mais nem menos.<\/p>\n

As always, the first step to solving the problem is realizing all the possible reasons behind it and then finding ways to overcome it, which is exactly what you’ll find below!<\/p>\n

4 raz\u00f5es poss\u00edveis para o seu namorado ser (t\u00e3o) aborrecido<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. He’s sentir-se ansioso<\/a> e\/ou deprimidos<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

O problema da ansiedade e da depress\u00e3o \u00e9 que os sintomas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitas vezes vis\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa pode estar a passar por graves crises de depress\u00e3o e ansiedade e ainda assim parecer perfeitamente normal.<\/p>\n

Os seres humanos t\u00eam esta capacidade de passar por um amplo espetro de emo\u00e7\u00f5es ao mesmo tempo.<\/p>\n

He might look perfectly okay while he’s at work and once he\u2019s home, the first thing he does is lock down into his man cave.<\/p>\n

And that’s when it strikes you: O meu namorado \u00e9 aborrecido.<\/em><\/p>\n

Tudo o que ele quer fazer \u00e9 passar tempo sozinho<\/a> e sempre que lhe pedes para passar tempo contigo e com os teus amigos, ele arranja uma desculpa perfeita para o evitar, certo?<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Alguns outros sintomas que indicam que o seu namorado est\u00e1 a sofrer de ansiedade e\/ou depress\u00e3o s\u00e3o os seguintes<\/p>\n

\u2022 Avoiding his best friends and people he used to hang out with (a lot)<\/p>\n

\u2022 Not doing things he used to enjoy<\/p>\n

\u2022 Constantly feeling tired<\/p>\n

\u2022 Feeling hopeless and pessimistic about things<\/p>\n

\u2022 Difficulty sleeping and concentrating<\/p>\n

(Existem muitos outros sintomas relacionados com a ansiedade e a depress\u00e3o, mas estes s\u00e3o os principais).<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Se o seu namorado sofre de ansiedade ou depress\u00e3o, a melhor coisa a fazer \u00e9 procurar ajuda profissional.<\/p>\n

Sendo eu uma pessoa que sofre de perturba\u00e7\u00f5es de ansiedade, nunca \u00e9 demais sublinhar o qu\u00e3o cansativo \u00e9 todo o processo (se optar por passar por ele sozinho).<\/p>\n

From a severe condition, I’ve succeeded in decreasing anxiety levels to a mild condition with regular exercise and a complete change of my lifestyle.<\/p>\n

Por isso, antes de procurar ajuda profissional, pode tentar falar abertamente com o seu namorado e motiv\u00e1-lo a come\u00e7ar a correr, a passar tempo ao ar livre, etc.<\/p>\n

\"Fotografia<\/p>\n

Outra coisa que me ajudou muito foi exprimir-me. O maior inimigo tanto da ansiedade como da depress\u00e3o \u00e9 a criatividade.<\/p>\n

Quando desenhamos, escrevemos, cantamos, jardinamos ou dan\u00e7amos, o nosso c\u00e9rebro liberta dopamina, que \u00e9 um antidepressivo natural.<\/p>\n

A criatividade reduz significativamente a ansiedade, a depress\u00e3o e o stress.<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend is still not motivated to do any of the abovementioned, then it’s strongly advisable to seek professional help.<\/p>\n

2. He’s stressed out<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Every time I read, hear or write the phrase “stressed out,” the first thing that comes to my mind is these lyrics from Twenty One Pilots\u2019 song of the same name:<\/p>\n

“Wish we could turn back time, to the good old days, when our momma sang us to sleep but now we’re stressed out.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Indeed, today’s modern life has brought us many good things that have come with a price.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your boyfriend has a satisfying job, lots of good friends, all the possible tech gadgets and video game consoles, but still he’s feeling stressed out.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

A satisfying job is not necessarily a stress-free job. As a matter of fact, a job that is devoid of any stress doesn’t exist.<\/p>\n

Also, you can have tons of friends, every tech gadget and console possible, but when you don’t have time for any of it, you become stressed out.<\/p>\n

And that might be the reason why he’s acting so boring all of a sudden.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s probably got lots of things on his mind that\u2019s causing him to feel drained and dissatisfied.<\/p>\n

A sua vontade de fazer coisas divertidas<\/a> with you is blocked by the daily stressors and that’s why he turned into a couch potato.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Se o seu namorado se sente stressado, tem de trabalhar para aliviar os n\u00edveis de stress. Alguns dos mais eficazes aliviadores de stress incluem:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Meditation<\/p>\n

\u2022 Taking a walk<\/p>\n

\u2022 Hugging a loved one<\/p>\n

\u2022 Physical activity<\/p>\n

- Ser criativo<\/a><\/p>\n

\u2022 Getting rid of the things that are adding to stress<\/p>\n

Para o ajudar na \u00e1rea da motiva\u00e7\u00e3o, podem meditar juntos ou dar um passeio juntos.<\/p>\n

\"Fotografia<\/p>\n

E em vez de ficar zangado com ele porque ele se recusa a sair consigo, tente dar-lhe um grande e caloroso abra\u00e7o.<\/p>\n

Isso confort\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 e demonstrar\u00e1 a sua compreens\u00e3o da situa\u00e7\u00e3o dele.<\/p>\n

Whatever you decide to do, just don’t push him \u2013 it might create a counter-effect.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m podem assistir a uma com\u00e9dia de stand-up que vos far\u00e1 rir \u00e0 gargalhada, o que tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 um \u00f3timo al\u00edvio do stress!<\/p>\n

“Laughing is, and will always be, the best form of therapy!” (Dau Voire)<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 6 problemas de relacionamento mais comuns que n\u00e3o t\u00eam solu\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n

3. The relationship\u2019s turned him into a boring man<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Antes de nos debru\u00e7armos mais profundamente sobre as quest\u00f5es da rela\u00e7\u00e3o, quero que pensem no vosso primeiro encontro.<\/p>\n

How did you feel when you were with him on the first date? Excited with butterflies in your stomach? In one word \u2013 happy?<\/p>\n

Estava a sentir-se assim porque estava na primeira fase de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica, que \u00e9 a paix\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

At that stage, your emotions are at its peak and you’re strongly attracted to each other.<\/p>\n

Once the infatuation phase is over, your relationship becomes more “real” and sensitive.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

A sua rotina e as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es influenciar\u00e3o grandemente o seu curso.<\/p>\n

Atualmente, o maior destruidor de rela\u00e7\u00f5es \u00e9 passar muito tempo em mensagens de texto, telefonemas e redes sociais.<\/p>\n

Outro grande destruidor \u00e9 passar demasiado tempo juntos.<\/p>\n

Se ver Netflix se tornou o ponto alto da sua semana, ent\u00e3o tem um problema.<\/p>\n

But, don’t get me wrong. I totally understand this need for being casual, but there’s a thin line between healthy casual and getting too casual.<\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

When you’re in a relationship for some time, it’s so easy to fall into a rut.<\/p>\n

Many people are not even aware of it. It’s when your meaningful conversations are replaced with small talk, and when you no longer surprise each other.<\/p>\n

As suas actividades, outrora excitantes, tornaram-se aborrecidas porque as repetia demasiado.<\/p>\n

Assim, uma das raz\u00f5es pelas quais o seu namorado pode ser aborrecido pode ser o facto de a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o ser t\u00e3o excitante como antes.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h2>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

Para ultrapassar este problema, ambos t\u00eam de se ativar para salvar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso prestar aten\u00e7\u00e3o a todas as pequenas coisas que significam tanto, como surpreender o outro, ter conversas divertidas a altas horas da noite, etc.<\/p>\n

Organize weekly date nights so that you don’t come into temptation to spend all of your free time watching Netflix.<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 a maior medida preventiva para n\u00e3o ficar preso numa rotina.<\/p>\n

Incorporar algumas novas actividades e aventuras divertidas, como saltar de bungee jumping pela primeira vez ou algo semelhante.<\/p>\n

Pensem na raz\u00e3o pela qual se apaixonaram um pelo outro.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Fale sobre o seu primeiro encontro<\/a> or the day when you met, evoke your past memories \u2013 these will evoke your passion.<\/p>\n

And if you’re in a long distance relationship, don’t overdo the texting thing.<\/p>\n

It’s always better to talk via camera because the chance of you misinterpreting something is very low in a face-to-face environment.<\/p>\n

E lembrem-se: N\u00e3o passem todo o vosso tempo livre juntos!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel n\u00e3o significa passar o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel juntos, mas sim dar espa\u00e7o um ao outro e ter uma vida fora da rela\u00e7\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

E se tudo o resto falhar, pode sempre pedir conselhos a um especialista em rela\u00e7\u00f5es!<\/p>\n

4. Ele \u00e9 simplesmente aborrecido (por natureza)<\/h2>\n

\"Fotografia<\/p>\n

If your boyfriend has never been a person of action and he never showed any interest in doing something fun, then I’m sorry to tell you, but he belongs to the category of being boring by nature.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you didn’t pay much attention to it earlier, didn\u2019t notice his boring personality, or you secretly hoped that you could change him.<\/p>\n

And when you didn’t succeed in it, the only thing left was to conclude: O meu namorado \u00e9 aborrecido<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Conhe\u00e7o muitas pessoas aborrecidas \u00e0 minha volta e o que todas elas t\u00eam em comum \u00e9 este sentimento de seguran\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

They aren\u2019t satisfied with doing different, fun things because they’re more into routine stuff.<\/p>\n

O procedimento \u00e9 mais ou menos assim: V\u00e3o para o trabalho, chegam a casa, comem, ligam a televis\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"Homem<\/p>\n

If there’s nothing on the TV, they turn on their laptop and find a movie. After watching a movie, they go to sleep.<\/p>\n

And to them, their day was fulfilling because they’re used to living such a life (not to say boring life) and they probably see nothing wrong in it.<\/p>\n

O que mais me incomoda nas pessoas aborrecidas \u00e9 a sua falta de curiosidade.<\/p>\n

Muitos deles n\u00e3o est\u00e3o interessados em mais nada para al\u00e9m do seu trabalho e das coisas que j\u00e1 sabem.<\/p>\n

And they’re not even trying to give something new a chance. Instead, they discard it immediately by making some lame excuses.<\/p>\n

Ser aborrecido est\u00e1 diretamente ligado a baixos n\u00edveis de entusiasmo e paix\u00e3o pela vida, o que, na minha opini\u00e3o, n\u00e3o \u00e9 nada sexy.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h2>\n

\"Grande<\/p>\n

Being boring by nature is a tricky thing because it’s not something you can improve overnight.<\/p>\n

It’s almost a personality thing and you can’t force them to change their routine and behavior just because you want them to be different.<\/p>\n

Mas o que pode fazer \u00e9 TENTAR. Pode tentar propor algumas actividades divertidas, mas lembre-se de n\u00e3o ser demasiado insistente.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a tudo em pequenos passos para que a mudan\u00e7a pare\u00e7a natural para eles.<\/p>\n

Se sabe que ele gosta de ouvir uma determinada banda e que esta vai dar um concerto em breve, sugira que v\u00e1 ao concerto, mas de uma forma simp\u00e1tica como esta:<\/p>\n

Hey, I just saw that (name of the band) will be performing soon. Don’t you think it would be fun to check them out?<\/em><\/p>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

If he still says no and doesn\u2019t even consider going (even though you know he’s a huge fan), then you know you’ve tried, but his boring attitude is not giving up that easily.<\/p>\n

If you see that nothing’s changing no matter what you do or try, then you should accept the fact that he will be boring forever and you can either take it or leave it.<\/p>\n

A pior coisa que lhe pode acontecer \u00e9 aperceber-se de que desperdi\u00e7ou metade da sua vida numa batata de sof\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, it’s better to romper<\/a> a tempo do que ver as coisas a partirem-se.<\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

I hope you’ve been able to categorize your boyfriend’s boredom and that all these tips will be helpful to both of you.<\/p>\n

Lembre-se que h\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es para uma pessoa se tornar subitamente aborrecida, pelo que \u00e9 essencial saber mais sobre ela.<\/p>\n

Also, some people are just boring by nature and there’s not much you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You can try to activate them and help them see things differently and if they don’t reciprocate, you’ve done your part.<\/p>\n

\"Casal<\/p>\n

Nesse caso, em vez de pensar apenas que O meu namorado \u00e9 aborrecido<\/em>Se n\u00e3o for o caso, deve pensar na sua pr\u00f3pria felicidade e na forma como a atitude aborrecida dele a afecta.<\/p>\n

If his attitude is not something that can be influenced and you’re not okay with it, then it’s probably time to reconsider your decision to be with him in the first place.<\/p>\n

Seja qual for a vossa escolha, desejo-vos muita paci\u00eancia e boa sorte!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como consertar um relacionamento quebrado: 10 maneiras de consertar as coisas<\/a><\/p>\n

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You want to go out and have fun, but he wants to play video games and watch Netflix instead. If this happened only a few times, you wouldn’t mind. But, since it happens on a regular basis, this is the only legit conclusion: My boyfriend is boring! When you just met and started dating, everything…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":65914,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-65519","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/04\/my-boyfriend-is-boring-4-reasons-why-and-what-you-can-do.jpg",800,501,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65519","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=65519"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/65519\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/65914"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=65519"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=65519"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=65519"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}