{"id":65632,"date":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:35:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65632"},"modified":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","modified_gmt":"2022-06-30T20:14:28","slug":"reatar-a-ligacao-com-um-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/reatar-a-ligacao-com-um-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Voltar a ligar a um ex: como saber se \u00e9 uma boa ideia (ou n\u00e3o)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Viu uma fotografia deles nas redes sociais, viu o seu lanche preferido a ser anunciado na televis\u00e3o ou uma mem\u00f3ria h\u00e1 muito esquecida voltou de repente.<\/p>\n

E pensamos para n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios: Maybe reconnecting with an ex isn’t such a bad idea after all.<\/em><\/p>\n

Maybe you can still make it work somehow, or if only you hadn’t done or said certain things, everything would be different now. Or would it?<\/p>\n

Entramos num mundo de demasiados \"e se\", arrependimentos e esperan\u00e7as. Come\u00e7a-se a pensar que ainda h\u00e1 uma hip\u00f3tese de reacender aquela velha chama.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

But, you’re not quite sure whether it is a good idea or not, and that’s why you’re here today.<\/p>\n

And it\u2019s good that you are, because reatar a liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex<\/a> por uma raz\u00e3o errada \u00e9 uma receita certa para o desastre e mais dor!<\/p>\n

There’s only one way to find out if getting back with your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend is the right thing to do and that is by checking if any or all of the reasons below apply to you:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. You’re nostalgic and scared of turning a new page<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Terminar um rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/a> \u00e9 uma coisa dolorosa e merdosa, independentemente da raz\u00e3o ou das circunst\u00e2ncias.<\/p>\n

E o que torna tudo ainda mais confuso \u00e9 a maldita nostalgia que nos bate \u00e0 porta quando menos esperamos.<\/p>\n

It’s when you start thinking about all the happy moments that you shared together, recollecting the feeling of excitement when you were about to meet up with them for the first time, and so on.<\/p>\n

Lembra-se de se sentir como se estivesse num romance de liceu e estava convencida de que iria durar para sempre.<\/p>\n

\"romance<\/p>\n

Mas, infelizmente, passado algum tempo, apercebemo-nos de que nada acontece e que a nostalgia faz parte do processo de luto.<\/p>\n

Another aspect is fear. You’re scared of turning a new page, you’re scared of entering a new relationship because you don’t want to risk experiencing the pain of a broken heart ever again.<\/p>\n

E \u00e9 nessa altura que se come\u00e7a a pensar: Apenas um telefonema significaria o mundo para mim. Apenas uma mensagem de texto pode aumentar a minha esperan\u00e7a.<\/em> Mas ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 a coisa mais inteligente a fazer?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re nostalgic about past times and scared of turning a new page?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

If you want your ex back because you’re nostalgic about your time together and you fear the unknown, I’m sorry to tell you, but you shouldn’t do it.<\/p>\n

Getting back with your ex for these reasons is the last thing you’d want to do. Why?<\/p>\n

Porque a nostalgia e o medo s\u00e3o uma parte inevit\u00e1vel do processo de luto, que n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com sentir genuinamente a falta deles e quer\u00ea-los de volta pelas raz\u00f5es certas.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa em que se deve concentrar aqui \u00e9 no tempo. O tempo vai cur\u00e1-lo e apagar todos os vest\u00edgios de momentos nost\u00e1lgicos e de medo do futuro.<\/p>\n

2. A sua perce\u00e7\u00e3o da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada mudou<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When we’re about to break up with someone, we see things clearly as they are.<\/p>\n

We know exactly why we are going our separate ways and how painful it is to do so, but necessary for both partners\u2019 well-being.<\/p>\n

Ao fim de algum tempo, esta perce\u00e7\u00e3o de ver as coisas como elas s\u00e3o pode alterar-se.<\/p>\n

Pode mudar de tal forma que s\u00f3 v\u00ea os aspectos positivos da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada e negligencia todos os negativos (aqueles que o levaram a romper<\/a> em primeiro lugar).<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7a a sentir-se confuso sobre o motivo pelo qual a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o terminou e convence-se de que reatar com um ex pode ser a coisa certa a fazer. Mas ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 mesmo?<\/p>\n

Deve reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex porque a sua perce\u00e7\u00e3o da rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada mudou?<\/strong><\/p>\n

As you may assume, again the answer is no. When you no longer see things as they are or refuse to acknowledge why you broke up in the first place, you enter the zone called “Ignorance.”<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7a, deliberada ou involuntariamente, a ignorar todos os sinais de alerta que levaram \u00e0 rutura.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s true that there will always be some positive things in every relationship, but you should never solely focus on only them.<\/p>\n

You should always look at the bigger picture and remember both the good and bad sides of your relationship. That’s the only way to see things clearly instead of live in an illusion.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como ter o seu ex-namorado de volta: 6 maneiras de ter sucesso<\/a><\/p>\n

3. You want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Since you broke up, you’ve been feeling completely devastated and the pain is real.<\/p>\n

Passa a maior parte do seu tempo a ver O caderno de notas<\/em>, esperando secretamente experimentar esse tipo de amor vintage um dia no futuro.<\/p>\n

Tons of ice cream, funny memes, tissues in case you get too sentimental, socializing hours cut to the minimum\u2026<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s evident to both you and all the people around you that you’re in pain (which is also a part of the grieving process).<\/p>\n

\"tr\u00eas<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s when it strikes you: What if my ex is not hurting like I am? What if they’re sipping cocktails, living life to the fullest, and not giving a damn about our past relationship?<\/em><\/p>\n

Perguntar aos seus amigos comuns ou aos familiares deles n\u00e3o \u00e9 solu\u00e7\u00e3o, e entrar em contacto com eles est\u00e1 fora de quest\u00e3o. Ou ser\u00e1 que n\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you want to know if they’re in pain and\/or if they miss you?<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Reconnecting with an ex for the sole purpose of knowing whether they’re afflicted by the same amount of pain as you or miss you is a shitty thing to do (if you don’t miss them yourself)!<\/p>\n

You will gain absolutely nothing from the fact that they are still in pain and miss you if you’re not on the same page.<\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas precisam de mais tempo para passar por um processo de separa\u00e7\u00e3o e outras fazem-no um pouco mais depressa. Mais uma vez, o tempo \u00e9 o seu melhor amigo nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

4. You’re afraid of being “\u2018forever alone”<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

All of your friends and close people are in a relationship or married (okay, not all of them, but most of them) and you’re freshly broken.<\/p>\n

The dating pool situation isn\u2019t getting any better and there are more and more narcissistic individuals, no-fuck-givers, and f\u00f3bicos de compromissos.<\/a><\/p>\n

If you’re a woman, you become convinced that the chances of meeting someone with a personality of Ed Sheeran<\/em> e Ryan Gosling<\/em> \u00e9 um num milh\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you’re a man, you\u2019re convinced that meeting a cute girl next door stands the same chances.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

E depois come\u00e7amos a pensar para n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios: I’ll be forever alone. I’ll never meet anyone again who I’ll have the slightest interest in, because the world is a shitty place.<\/em><\/p>\n

Numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o destas, reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex parece ser a \u00fanica solu\u00e7\u00e3o l\u00f3gica. Ou talvez n\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Should you reconnect with an ex because you’re afraid of being forever alone?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nope! You probably realize that they’re nothing more than just an old friend to you, but still, you want them back because you’re scared of being forever alone.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Esta n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma raz\u00e3o v\u00e1lida para reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com algu\u00e9m e nunca o ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa l\u00f3gica a fazer nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 ultrapassar o medo, saindo com os seus amigos, conhecendo novas pessoas e desfrutando de cada momento.<\/p>\n

And, trust me, when you least expect it, you’ll meet the right one for you!<\/p>\n

5. Sente falta de os ter perto de si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you wake up in the morning, the first thing that comes to your mind is sending them a message, telling them how lazy you’re feeling today and how much you hate the world you live in.<\/p>\n

Or that you’re feeling inspired and grateful for new adventures (if you’re feeling optimistic).<\/p>\n

When you need help with something, they’re the first person that comes to mind. When something bad happens to you, they’re the first person you want to cry with and seek advice from.<\/p>\n

But you know you can’t do it because you broke up with them. They’re your ex and there’s no point in keeping them updated on your every thought and event. But, still\u2026<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Deve reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex porque sente falta de o ter perto de si?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s important to understand that this is not a matter of real love, but a habit of having someone around you. They were your best friend, lover, a partner in crime, and you miss all that.<\/p>\n

You texted them frequently (thousands of times a day) and now when they\u2019ve gone from your favorite person to radio silence.<\/p>\n

So, of course, you’ll miss having them around you! Every normal person would. But, still, this is not a valid reason for reconnecting with an ex.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como ter a sua ex-namorada de volta: 17 maneiras comprovadas de o fazer<\/a><\/p>\n

Quando \u00e9 que reatar com um ex \u00e9 uma atitude razo\u00e1vel?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex s\u00f3 \u00e9 uma atitude razo\u00e1vel num \u00fanico caso: Quando ainda os amamos e sentimos a sua falta!<\/strong><\/p>\n

So, it’s time to ask yourself: How do you feel about the idea of reconnecting with them?<\/p>\n

O sentimento de falta deles \u00e9 t\u00e3o intenso que o impede de funcionar corretamente nas suas tarefas di\u00e1rias?<\/p>\n

Sente no seu \u00edntimo que retomar a liga\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu ex \u00e9 a coisa certa a fazer?<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

E o mais importante: Como se sentiria se o rejeitassem?<\/strong><\/p>\n

It’s normal that you’d feel disappointed, but would you feel mad at them, like really mad? If yes, then you’re not truly and genuinely in love with them.<\/p>\n

When we really love someone, their happiness becomes a reflection of our own. When we know that they’re happy, we’re happy for them.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sabemos que amamos verdadeiramente uma pessoa quando a felicidade e o bem-estar dela s\u00e3o mais importantes do que os nossos.<\/p>\n

When you’re willingly and wholeheartedly ready to let them go because they’ve found their happiness in another place without you.<\/p>\n

If that’s not the case, then seguir em frente<\/a> \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa razo\u00e1vel a fazer.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 15 sinais claros de que o teu ex te est\u00e1 a testar (+como lidar com isso)<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Como reatar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you concluded that you genuinely still love and miss them and you’re totally ready to reconnect with your ex, you’re probably wondering how to do it (so that you don’t come off as desperate or pushy).<\/p>\n

Enviar-lhes uma mensagem de texto pela primeira vez ap\u00f3s o Regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a> \u00e9 como saltar para \u00e1guas desconhecidas. N\u00e3o se faz ideia de qual ser\u00e1 o resultado final.<\/p>\n

Telefonar-lhes \u00e9 talvez ainda pior, porque n\u00e3o se tem a possibilidade de pensar na resposta com anteced\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Meeting them in person is also a risky endeavor \u2013 then you\u2019d have to pay attention to your body language as well (like the act of speaking isn\u2019t enough).<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Qualquer que seja a op\u00e7\u00e3o escolhida, \u00e9 uma op\u00e7\u00e3o arriscada, mas se a fizer corretamente, tem grandes hip\u00f3teses de receber uma resposta positiva e de estabelecer uma conversa significativa, virtual ou pessoalmente.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se faz reatar a liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um ex<\/em>?<\/strong><\/p>\n

You do it by following your heart. You don’t think too much about what you will say, as long as the words come from the depths of your heart.<\/p>\n

Still, pay attention not to overdo it. You don’t want to shower them with too much affection all of a sudden or with too much explaining and as a result, scare them away.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 7 perigos de reatar com um ex enquanto casado<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"m\u00e3o<\/p>\n

Lembra-te: Os passos de beb\u00e9 s\u00e3o os seus melhores amigos!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Simply ask them how they’re doing and let the conversation unravel at its natural pace. Don’t think too much, don’t say too much.<\/p>\n

Just say exactly what’s in your heart and if you’re meant to be, they’ll surely understand the language of your love for them and act accordingly.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como fazer o seu ex querer voc\u00ea de volta: 10 m\u00e9todos que realmente funcionam<\/a><\/p>\n

\"Voltar<\/p>\n

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