{"id":65905,"date":"2020-04-25T23:47:26","date_gmt":"2020-04-25T23:47:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=65905"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:41:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:41:59","slug":"razoes-pelas-quais-nao-me-quero-apaixonar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/razoes-pelas-quais-nao-me-quero-apaixonar\/","title":{"rendered":"6 raz\u00f5es honestas para n\u00e3o me querer apaixonar"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando as pessoas me perguntam porqu\u00ea I’ve been single<\/a> for so long and when I tell them that I don’t want to fall in love, they are usually shocked. In fact, many think that I’m lying to cover up the fact that I can’t find a partner.<\/p>\n

Well, guess what? I’m being completely honest. The truth is that I don’t want to fall in love and here is why.<\/p>\n

1. I\u2019ve been hurt in the past<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you; I\u2019ve been feridas no passado<\/a> and that’s why I don’t want to fall in love again.<\/p>\n

As minhas m\u00e1goas deixaram consequ\u00eancias inarred\u00e1veis na minha sa\u00fade emocional e mental. O meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o foi partido mais vezes do que posso contar.<\/p>\n

So, you might as well say that I\u2019m scared of falling in love again.<\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa que eu quero neste momento \u00e9 dar a outro homem a oportunidade de brincar comigo e de me dar outra dor de cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not ready to put myself out there. I\u2019m not willing to take a chance or to risk getting crushed all over again.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not saying that everyone will be the same as my exes.<\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m too much of a coward to give anyone an opportunity to come into my life just so he can end up destroying it.<\/p>\n

Maybe along the way I\u2019ve become incapable of loving. Maybe all those toxic men destroyed my faith in love.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Alguns poder\u00e3o dizer que o verdadeiro amor vale todos os riscos.<\/p>\n

However, if we\u2019re being honest, there is a much bigger chance of running into someone who will break your heart than into someone who will fix it.<\/p>\n

The truth is that I don\u2019t want to fall in love again when my wounds are still wide open and pretty fresh.<\/p>\n

2. Carrego muita bagagem emocional<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Another reason why I don\u2019t want to fall in love is the bagagem emocional<\/a> Ando sempre comigo.<\/p>\n

Quer eu queira quer n\u00e3o, esta bagagem emocional arruinaria todos os meus novos romances.<\/p>\n

In fact, they wouldn\u2019t even have a chance to end up healthy. They’d be based on lies and deceptions.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that I still have romantic feelings for someone from my past, I\u2019m just haunted by the demons of my previous relationships. My emotional baggage is weighing me down.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a burden that is always present on my chest.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o \u00e9 assim que quero entrar na minha pr\u00f3xima rela\u00e7\u00e3o. \u00c9 que quero estar completamente curada antes de deixar entrar algu\u00e9m novo.<\/p>\n

Afinal, seria completamente injusto arrastar outro homem para os meus pr\u00f3prios problemas e traumas.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t know whether I could give myself to him fully while I\u2019m still broken.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to lead him on or use him as my rebound, as that way, I would be the same as those men who hurt me in the past.<\/p>\n

Besides, I don\u2019t need a man to heal me and to help me fix my broken heart. Instead, I want to do it by myself.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 que isso aconte\u00e7a, vou impedir-me de me apaixonar.<\/p>\n

3. Quero concentrar-me em mim pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Call me selfish but I don\u2019t want to fall in love because I want to focus on myself. I think that this is the period in my life which should be reserved for self-improvement.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want to waste my precious time and energy on chasing some guy, having relationship dramas or suffering after a break-up.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, quero investir todas as minhas capacidades para me tornar um melhor pessoa<\/a> e a melhor vers\u00e3o poss\u00edvel de mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o per\u00edodo em que me quero concentrar completamente na minha educa\u00e7\u00e3o e nos meus cuidados pessoais. Quero trabalhar em mim pr\u00f3pria, encontrar novos passatempos, ler e descobrir coisas novas sobre a minha personalidade.<\/p>\n

O per\u00edodo em que quero viajar, explorar novos s\u00edtios e culturas e em que quero aprender.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o per\u00edodo em que quero p\u00f4r a minha vida em ordem.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o per\u00edodo em que me quero transformar numa mulher autossuficiente e independente que tem tudo o que precisa.<\/p>\n

Into an emotionally and financially stable woman who doesn\u2019t wait for a man to provide for her.<\/p>\n

Basically, I want to be content with the person I\u2019m becoming and I want to give it my maximum.<\/p>\n

4. Gosto da minha vida de solteiro<\/h2>\n

\"pessoa<\/p>\n

To be honest, I don\u2019t feel the need for an emotional partner because I have an awesome time by myself. I\u2019m not lonely<\/a> and I don\u2019t feel alone in this world.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t care less about social norms. I don\u2019t care whether people are talking behind my back, commenting that it\u2019s time for me to finally settle down.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Going to events without a plus-one doesn\u2019t bother me. Spending Valentine’s Day by myself doesn\u2019t concern me.<\/p>\n

After all, just because I am not in love, it doesn\u2019t mean that I don\u2019t have anyone to talk to or to share my life with.<\/p>\n

Tenho os meus amigos, a minha fam\u00edlia e, acima de tudo, tenho-me a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m happy with my peace. Even though I\u2019m not claiming that romantic relationships are all about fights, the truth is that I\u2019m better off without unnecessary arguments.<\/p>\n

\"pessoas<\/p>\n

Also, I love that I don\u2019t have to compromise with anyone.<\/p>\n

I love the fact that I can do whatever I feel like, without having a partner I should consult or agree with. With the fact that I don\u2019t answer to anyone but myself.<\/p>\n

Yes, in this case, I\u2019m the only one who carries all the responsibility for my life.<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s easier that way; I\u2019m the only one making the decisions and the only suffering for my wrong choices.<\/p>\n

5. I\u2019m not into modern dating<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Maybe I wouldn\u2019t be running from love this much if I had been lucky enough to be born in a different era. In an era when people were honest and trustworthy.<\/p>\n

Se eu tivesse nascido nos tempos antigos, quando se sabia qual era a nossa posi\u00e7\u00e3o desde o primeiro dia, onde se podia confiar num homem quando ele dizia que nos amava. Numa \u00e9poca em que existiam cavalheiros que faziam todas as raparigas sentirem-se especiais.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

The truth is that another crucial reason why I don\u2019t want a relationship is the encontros modernos<\/a> practices that I don\u2019t fancy.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 que quase rela\u00e7\u00f5es, engates casuais e encontros de uma noite n\u00e3o s\u00e3o a minha praia.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t separate my body from my heart and mind so I know it is impossible for me to stay emotionally detached from a man I spend time with.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, this doesn\u2019t mean that I judge those who like these things but it\u2019s just not something I feel comfortable doing.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

I\u2019m an old-fashioned type of gal. I need a man who will court me and who will wait for me to be ready for the next step of our relationship.<\/p>\n

Besides, I\u2019m not someone who gets along well with mixed signals or hot and cold games and I can\u2019t cope with ghosting or unlabelled relationships.<\/p>\n

6. I don\u2019t want to lower my standards<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

People tend to tell me that I\u2019m demasiado exigente quando se trata de homens<\/a>. Bem, a verdade \u00e9 que eu sei exatamente o que e quem eu quero.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong, I\u2019m not looking for a perfect man. After all, I know that I have my share of flaws and I\u2019m perfectly aware of them.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se me apaixonar, quero que seja por algu\u00e9m que cumpra os meus padr\u00f5es, que me recuso a baixar.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve worked hard to build myself into the person that I am today and I\u2019m not ready to settle for less than I deserve.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Besides, I want a real, mature man, I don\u2019t want a project.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t want a boy I\u2019ll have to raise or guide through life, a toxic guy who won\u2019t see my worth or will be intimidated by it or someone who is not ambitious enough to become a better person and to make something out of his life.<\/p>\n

Therefore, I don\u2019t want to fall in love with you if you’re not a grown man who knows how to treat a lady right.<\/p>\n

De facto, eu preferia permanecer solteiro<\/a> forever than to be with a guy who is not what I\u2019m looking for.<\/p>\n

\"quatro<\/p>\n

Guess what? I\u2019m not the only one who refuses to fall in love.<\/p>\n

De facto, h\u00e1 tantas pessoas por a\u00ed que se sentem exatamente como eu, que at\u00e9 h\u00e1 can\u00e7\u00f5es que falam da minha luta.<\/p>\n

Actually, while I was writing this article, I couldn’t help but listen to the Don’t Wanna Fall In Love lyrics from a single by the great singer Jane Child from Canada, released in the late 1980s, together with a music video accompanying it.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Recentemente, outro grande cantor, KYLE, dos Estados Unidos, fez uma remistura desta fant\u00e1stica can\u00e7\u00e3o, que foi produzida por M-Phazes.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 mais ou menos assim:
\nIt’s just I don’t want to fall in love. (Nope.) Love cuts just like a knife. (That’s right.) You make the knife feel good. (So good, so good.) I\u2019ll fight you till the end.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"6<\/p>\n

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