{"id":6652,"date":"2020-10-11T12:08:44","date_gmt":"2020-10-11T12:08:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=6652"},"modified":"2022-01-17T22:52:42","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T22:52:42","slug":"5-sinais-dolorosos-de-que-a-sua-relacao-e-unilateral","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/5-sinais-dolorosos-de-que-a-sua-relacao-e-unilateral\/","title":{"rendered":"5 sinais dolorosos de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 em um relacionamento unilateral"},"content":{"rendered":"

Um dos conselhos mais repetidos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es que pode encontrar \u00e9 que, numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, os parceiros t\u00eam de ser iguais. Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que o oposto acontece com tanta frequ\u00eancia? Muitos de n\u00f3s j\u00e1 experiment\u00e1mos estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral<\/a>, in which you are the one who has to text first, you are the one who has to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d first and ultimately, you are the one who cares more. More often than not you deny this, as you don\u2019t want to accept it, even though you know that something is not right.<\/p>\n

You keep wondering if you\u2019re being overdramatic, or maybe you\u2019re unreasonable or expecting too much. The sad truth is that the thing you\u2019re afraid of is actually the truth and the sooner you realize this, the sooner you can start working on it or you can leave that relationship. The choice is up to you.<\/p>\n

To help you recognize if you\u2019re in a one-sided relationship, we bring you 5 painful but honest signs:<\/p>\n

1. Tu inicias tudo<\/span><\/strong><\/h1>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Did you ask him to go out last time? And the time before that? Your last trip together was your plan, right? If you\u2019re the one making most of the plans for you two to spend some quality time together and to show him how much he means to you, chances are that you\u2019re in a one-sided relationship.<\/p>\n

If your plans never leave the planning stage unless you do something about it, he simply doesn\u2019t care that much about spending time with you. If you\u2019re still not convinced, try with something simpler. When was the last time he texted you first or called you just to check on you? If you don\u2019t call or text, days can pass without exchanging a single word. This is a huge red flag and if you always have to be the first one to make contact, you should get out now.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not supposed to initiate communication in a relationship, and you\u2019re not supposed to feel left out in your own relationship. Partners are supposed to share everything, to let the other one in their life. If he isn\u2019t interested in making you a part of his, why should you do the same?<\/p>\n

2. \u00c9s o \u00fanico que faz sacrif\u00edcios<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Just one call from him is enough for you to drop everything and be there for him when he needs you. On the other hand, you\u2019re scared to call him because you\u2019re not even sure that he\u2019s going to be there for you. Est\u00e1 a mudar muito para ele<\/a>, giving so much of yourself and when something is bothering you and you ask for change, his response is, \u201cI\u2019m not changing myself for anyone.\u201d<\/p>\n

If he\u2019s not ready to change for you, if he’s not ready to choose you over his friends or work, he won\u2019t be ready to commit to you. If he\u2019s showing this in the early stages of the relationship, it won\u2019t get better with time. He\u2019s determined that he shouldn\u2019t change for you and this is a telltale sign that you\u2019re in a one-sided love affair. You can\u2019t spend your life wasting your time and energy doing everything you can for him, but when it\u2019s time for him to, he\u2019s not there.<\/p>\n

3. You\u2019re always the one apologizing and trying to fix things<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

Whenever you\u2019re having fights and arguments, he never seems to see your side of the story and never really tries to solve the problem or he wasn\u2019t even aware that there was a problem until you mentioned it. The only way to fix the misunderstandings and miscommunications is for you to apologize, even if you\u2019re not the guilty one. And even if you mention that you\u2019re not feeling loved, that you\u2019re feeling left out, he won\u2019t admit that it\u2019s his fault.<\/p>\n

He will try to assure you that you\u2019re imagining things, that everything was fine before you came and started throwing accusations. And once again, you\u2019ll be the one apologizing. If you feel the need to apologize for the things you shouldn\u2019t apologize for<\/a> and your partner is a master of guilt-tripping and making you feel bad, then you\u2019re definitely in a one-sided relationship. Do yourself a favor\u2014leave him.<\/p>\n

4. Sente a necessidade de explicar o comportamento dele aos seus amigos e familiares<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

Inventa desculpas para os seus amigos e familiares porque \u00e9 que ele a trata dessa maneira. Se ele for a pessoa certa para si, as pessoas no exterior conseguir\u00e3o ver isso na forma como se comportam \u00e0 volta um do outro e como se tratam.<\/p>\n

You reassure everyone that even though he didn\u2019t show up for the family dinner, or he didn\u2019t prepare anything for your surprise birthday party, that deep down he still loves you. If you have to reassure everyone around you that his love is real (and maybe even yourself), is that the real deal then?<\/p>\n

If you have to make excuses for his behavior, if he doesn\u2019t even have the decency to stand up for himself, why should you do that for him? His love might be true but if you’re the only one putting in the effort<\/a> para que esta rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcione, e tem de justificar o seu comportamento e o dele aos outros, ent\u00e3o tem um problema.<\/p>\n

5. He doesn\u2019t really care for you<\/strong><\/span><\/h1>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

You know that deep, deep down he doesn’t genuinely care for you. If he did, you wouldn\u2019t even have to wonder whether you are in a one-sided relationship or not. Um homem que se preocupa genuinamente com a sua mulher e a ama<\/a> will be interested in her day-to-day life. He will check on you all the time to see if you\u2019re well. He will make an effort to spend more time with you and will do everything in his power to keep you happy.<\/p>\n

If he genuinely cared about you, he would let you into his life, he would tell you about his problems and emotions, and he would fight for you, instead of neglecting you. He would make sure that he had time for you, instead of calling you only when he had nothing else to do or if he needed something from you. He would make sure that you didn\u2019t have to question whether you were loved or not.<\/p>\n

Mas se ele perdeu o interesse em si, ou nunca teve nenhum, independentemente do que fa\u00e7a ou diga, ele n\u00e3o vai mudar. Quanto mais cedo aceitar isto, mais cedo poder\u00e1 seguir em frente e deixar a toxicidade dele para tr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 dif\u00edcil aperceber-se disso, e ainda mais dif\u00edcil acabar com isso, mas uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o unilateral nunca resultar\u00e1.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Some of the most repeated advice about relationships that you may come across is that in a relationship, partners need to be equal. Then why does the opposite happen so frequently? So many of us have experienced being in a one-sided relationship, in which you are the one who has to text first, you are…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":6654,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6652","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/scott-webb-252718.jpg",800,531,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6652","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6652"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6652\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6654"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6652"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6652"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6652"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}