{"id":6701,"date":"2020-02-12T10:33:49","date_gmt":"2020-02-12T10:33:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=6701"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:12:45","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:12:45","slug":"8-razoes-para-o-fim-de-uma-relacao-de-longa-duracao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/8-razoes-para-o-fim-de-uma-relacao-de-longa-duracao\/","title":{"rendered":"8 raz\u00f5es que levam ao fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Porque \u00e9 que tantas rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras acabam em rutura? \u00c9 por causa do tempo, porque duraram tanto tempo?<\/p>\n<p>These questions puzzled me as I saw so many long-term relationships ending and so few of them succeeding. I couldn&#8217;t help but investigate why. I had long and thorough conversations. These are the reasons I got:<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">O amor transformou-se em h\u00e1bito.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108224\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Girl-whispers-something-in-the-ear-of-young-man-e1603883845373.jpg\" alt=\"A rapariga sussurra algo ao ouvido do jovem\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Girl-whispers-something-in-the-ear-of-young-man-e1603883845373.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Girl-whispers-something-in-the-ear-of-young-man-e1603883845373-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You just get used to that person and can&#8217;t imagine not having them around. Love just faded away like it did to some of the old married couples.<\/p>\n<p>De repente, apercebemo-nos que estamos a ficar porque j\u00e1 gast\u00e1mos demasiado tempo e esfor\u00e7o com essa pessoa.<\/p>\n<p>Partilhou tanto. Tem medo da mudan\u00e7a e, por isso, mant\u00e9m-se por perto. Mas h\u00e1 uma altura em que tem de decidir se quer passar o resto da sua vida com algu\u00e9m a que est\u00e1 habituado.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Love vs. &#8216;In love&#8217;<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-108226\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Loving-couple-is-sitting-on-the-roof-of-the-house-e1603883933178.jpg\" alt=\"O casal de namorados est\u00e1 sentado no telhado da casa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Loving-couple-is-sitting-on-the-roof-of-the-house-e1603883933178.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Loving-couple-is-sitting-on-the-roof-of-the-house-e1603883933178-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quando duas pessoas <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/dating\/10-difference-love-someone-loving-someone\/795160\" rel=\"noopener\">amam-se mas esquecem-se de como estar apaixonados.<\/a> You know they are good\u2014they are worth it, part of you doesn&#8217;t want it to end, but it&#8217;s just not working.<\/p>\n<p>You love them as you love your family but nothing more. The passion is gone and you don&#8217;t want to continue without it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Come\u00e7ar demasiado cedo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108227\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/beautiful-girl-near-the-lake-e1603884037483.jpg\" alt=\"rapariga bonita perto do lago\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/beautiful-girl-near-the-lake-e1603884037483.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/beautiful-girl-near-the-lake-e1603884037483-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You don&#8217;t know who you are when you are alone because you spent most of your adult life with that person and you are starting to miss you. You feel lost and trapped.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Mudar.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108228\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-girl-and-a-man-sitting-facing-away-from-each-other-e1603884122464.jpg\" alt=\"uma rapariga e um homem sentados de frente um para o outro\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-girl-and-a-man-sitting-facing-away-from-each-other-e1603884122464.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-girl-and-a-man-sitting-facing-away-from-each-other-e1603884122464-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You outgrow one another in every sense of the word. You simply become incompatible because you are not the same person you were when you started the relationship. You want different things now and it just doesn&#8217;t seem like you are on the same page anymore.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Falta de compromisso.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108229\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-couple-being-in-a-conflict-in-the-park-e1603884165338.jpg\" alt=\"jovem casal em conflito no parque\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-couple-being-in-a-conflict-in-the-park-e1603884165338.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/young-couple-being-in-a-conflict-in-the-park-e1603884165338-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Over the course of the years, people change and they fight a lot because of it. When the relationship feels more like the war zone and you are never at ease, it&#8217;s time to leave.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Press\u00e3o familiar.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108238\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-couple-visited-elderly-mother-e1603884499544.jpg\" alt=\"Jovem casal visita m\u00e3e idosa\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-couple-visited-elderly-mother-e1603884499544.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-couple-visited-elderly-mother-e1603884499544-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The person you are with becomes an integral part of your family\u2014they attend family reunions, weddings, they go out on a casual coffee get together.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s generally a good thing. But if the only reason you are staying in a relationship is not to disappoint your family members, you are not doing anyone a favor. That&#8217;s not the right reason to be in a relationship.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Batota.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108233\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-sad-because-of-her-lover-is-ignoring-her-e1603884366668.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste porque o seu amante a est\u00e1 a ignorar\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-sad-because-of-her-lover-is-ignoring-her-e1603884366668.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/woman-sad-because-of-her-lover-is-ignoring-her-e1603884366668-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Simplesmente apaixonaram-se por outra pessoa e foram suficientemente ego\u00edstas para o ler antes de terminarem uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que j\u00e1 estavam. Ou quiseram continuar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e ter algu\u00e9m ao lado.<\/p>\n<p>So disrespectful. But it&#8217;s better to end a long-term relationship than to get married, have kids, and than realize what is happening.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">M\u00e1scaras para baixo.<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108231\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-lonely-woman-on-bench-in-park-e1603884307950.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher jovem e solit\u00e1ria num banco de jardim\" width=\"799\" height=\"532\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-lonely-woman-on-bench-in-park-e1603884307950.jpg 799w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-lonely-woman-on-bench-in-park-e1603884307950-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-lonely-woman-on-bench-in-park-e1603884307950-768x511.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Young-lonely-woman-on-bench-in-park-e1603884307950-150x100.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 799px) 100vw, 799px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As pessoas cansam-se de fingir e, a dada altura, o pior de si vem ao de cima. H\u00e1 todo o tipo de casos, desde o abuso f\u00edsico ao abuso mental de qualquer tipo.<\/p>\n<p>Devias estar grato por eles terem revelado as suas verdadeiras cores, independentemente do tempo que demoraram a faz\u00ea-lo, e agradecer a Deus por te teres livrado deles.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-108435\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"8 raz\u00f5es que levam ao fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o de longa dura\u00e7\u00e3o\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u2018Why do so many long-term relationships end in breakup?\u2019 \u2018Is it because of time, because they lasted for so long?\u2019 \u2018How can you unlove somebody you love?\u2019 These questions puzzled me as I saw so many long-term relationships ending and so few of them succeeding. I couldn&#8217;t help but investigate why. I had long and&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":108239,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-6701","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/8-Reasons-That-Cause-A-Long-Term-Relationship-To-End.jpg",1000,645,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. 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