{"id":67446,"date":"2020-05-04T00:02:05","date_gmt":"2020-05-04T00:02:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=67446"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:18:35","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:18:35","slug":"nunca-ninguem-me-vai-amar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/nunca-ninguem-me-vai-amar\/","title":{"rendered":"No One Will Ever Love Me: Leia isto quando se sentir preso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Passei a maior parte dos meus anos de liceu a pensar secretamente para mim pr\u00f3prio: Nunca ningu\u00e9m me vai amar<\/em>. Por alguma raz\u00e3o, costumava sentir-me t\u00e3o pouco am\u00e1vel e invis\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

I struggled with low self-esteem, and that’s what kept me from discovering self-love. It was a tremendously hard experience but one that has instilled a lot of wisdom that I’d love to share with you.<\/p>\n

The thing I need to say right off the bat is that you deserve to be loved. You deserve to experience real love and find good friends who’ll never make you doubt your self-confidence.<\/p>\n

Every human being goes through hardships that make them question their worth. Even your best friend has secret struggles, so don’t for a second think you’re alone.<\/p>\n

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Just because people don’t share their dispositions with the world, doesn’t mean they don’t struggle.<\/strong><\/p>\n

To think no one will ever love you is wrong on many levels. I’m going to help you understand where this feeling is coming from and how to fight it.<\/p>\n

Os conselhos que dou prov\u00eam da minha pr\u00f3pria experi\u00eancia de vida e espero sinceramente que vos d\u00eaem a seguran\u00e7a e a orienta\u00e7\u00e3o que procuram.<\/em><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Cita\u00e7\u00f5es inspiradoras sobre relacionamentos \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia para derreter o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que acreditas que nunca ningu\u00e9m te vai amar?<\/span><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

1. A sua baixa autoestima est\u00e1 a atras\u00e1-lo<\/h2>\n

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Usually, people who have low self-confidence convince themselves they’re not worthy of love, which propels them to stop looking for it at all.<\/p>\n

You’re driven by the thought that you don’t deserve happiness, which reinforces the idea that being kind to yourself is somehow selfish.<\/p>\n

You never stop to simply check in with yourself and you’ve conditioned yourself to limit your own expectations. You’ve neglected to practice self-kindness and mindfulness, which, in turn, has taken a toll on your mental health.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o decorre de uma rutura com a pessoa amada ou do fim de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o importante com outra pessoa querida (melhor amigo, irm\u00e3o ou pai).<\/p>\n

Em breve, esquece-se de cuidar de si, deixa de procurar rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas e diz a si pr\u00f3prio, todos os dias, que nunca ningu\u00e9m o amar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

As suas restri\u00e7\u00f5es auto-impostas aumentam a sua necessidade de renunciar \u00e0s suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades vitais.<\/p>\n

2. You’re fixated on your fear of rejection<\/h2>\n

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My boyfriend of almost three years broke up with me on Valentine’s Day. The day I was supposed to be showered with love and attention, I got dumped by someone I thought was my forever.<\/p>\n

Consegues imaginar a dor de cabe\u00e7a? Por isso, sim, compreendo perfeitamente que te sintas assim.<\/p>\n

But do you know what my dreadful experience ultimately showed me? That there is no reason to lose faith in romantic love just because someone doesn’t know how to treat you right!<\/p>\n

Yes, you’ll have a bad break-up, maybe even a few! But that should never make you want to be alone for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n

O seu medo da rejei\u00e7\u00e3o NUNCA deve sobrepor-se ao seu desejo de ser feliz!<\/p>\n

Instead of fixating on everything that’s wrong with you, focus on all of your amazing qualities!<\/p>\n

Yes, you lost a toxic individual, but now there’s finally room for someone amazing to enter your life!<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Cita\u00e7\u00f5es de mulheres fortes: Top 90 linhas de empoderamento com imagens<\/a><\/p>\n

3. Luta contra a depress\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Depression and sadness are two vastly different things. But when it comes to your well-being, it’s best to be certain in order to look for professional help without feeling judged.<\/p>\n

Here are key signs that point out to feelings of legitimate depression. If you recognize yourself here, don’t shut down. Instead, have a conversation with a loved one and start taking steps to ensure healing.<\/p>\n

\u25cb Have you been experiencing bouts of fatigue lately?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Has your appetite significantly increased or decreased?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Have you lost the ability to focus on one particular thing?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Are feelings of worthlessness constantly crowding your mind?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Have you been alienating everyone around you?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Have you been struggling to keep hope?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Do you no longer have any interest in things that you used to love?<\/p>\n

\u25cb Have you been crying and contemplating self-harm?<\/p>\n

If you’ve answered yes to most of these, you could be borderline depressed. This is not a thing to take lightly.<\/p>\n

Don’t go through this alone. Choose to seek help and you’ll realize that things can get better.<\/p>\n

4. You’re surrounded by the wrong people<\/h2>\n

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We all want to believe that everyone in our life means well and that they’ll stay there forever.<\/p>\n

But the honest truth is, half of them will eventually let you down. Now, I’m not saying this to make you feel bad.<\/p>\n

The reason I want you to know this is to see that it’s okay to move on from people.<\/p>\n

It’s okay to let go of your first love. People don’t have to stay in your life forever to serve their purpose.<\/p>\n

Some are here to teach you a lesson and some are here to make you stronger. But keeping them around (knowing they don’t belong there anymore) harms you in the long run.<\/p>\n

Choose to let go of your high school best friend who’s no longer the person you used to know. It doesn’t make you a bad person. It only means you\u2019re putting your well-being first.<\/p>\n

Keep only those who don’t make you feel alone when you’re with them. Those are the only people who’ll never make you believe that no one will ever love you.<\/p>\n

5. N\u00e3o consegues aceitar as tuas falhas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Guess what? Nobody is perfect! Not me, not you, not your best friend, and most certainly not your siblings. And that’s totally fine!<\/p>\n

Que gra\u00e7a teria a vida se f\u00f4ssemos todos perfeitos? Como \u00e9 que aprender\u00edamos alguma coisa se nunca comet\u00eassemos erros?<\/p>\n

We wouldn’t. So I encourage you to accept your faults and quirks and love yourself despite them. If you don’t, who will?<\/p>\n

It’s difficult to find an individual who’ll love you if you can’t love yourself.<\/p>\n

If you’re forcing yourself to wear make-up because you don’t like your little blemishes, go one whole day completely natural. Why? Because it will teach you self-love.<\/p>\n

Olhe-se ao espelho e repita: Eu sou bonita, sou digna e mere\u00e7o ser amada tal como Deus me fez!<\/em><\/p>\n

D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio um incentivo e ponha algum bom senso na sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Se consegues amar a tua irm\u00e3, apesar dos milh\u00f5es de pequenos defeitos que te incomodam diariamente, podes amar-te a ti pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Como lidar com o desgosto de amor: 15 maneiras comprovadas de curar a dor no cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Foste queimado demasiadas vezes<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I get it. You keep giving them chances, and they keep showing you why you shouldn’t. Isn’t that the way life goes?<\/p>\n

I’ve struggled with this for a while too. I keep choosing to see the good in people and it keeps biting me in the ass.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it’s just easier to be alone than to give someone a chance to hurt you.<\/p>\n

But that’s where you’re wrong. See, by immediately jumping to conclusions and thinking you’ll be hurt, you show just how little you think of yourself.<\/p>\n

Why would anyone want to purposely hurt you? Don’t let your toxic ex make you lose faith in yourself.<\/p>\n

If you don’t put yourself out there, you deny yourself your right to be cherished.<\/p>\n

I understand how challenging it is. I feel your deeply-rooted fear of being overlooked. I’ve experienced it myself.<\/p>\n

Mas o que \u00e9 bonito na vida \u00e9 que nunca se sabe quando \u00e9 que essa pessoa especial vai bater \u00e0 porta! E se nos fecharmos para o mundo, nunca saberemos.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 o que eu quero que te lembres<\/h2>\n

Next time you’re feeling lost and invisible, there are a few crucial things you should keep in mind. Take care to repeat this whenever the dark cloud overshadows you.<\/p>\n

\u25cb You matter<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Tu \u00e9s importante. O que sentes \u00e9 importante. A forma como a tua vida se desenrola \u00e9 importante. N\u00e3o deixes que ningu\u00e9m te conven\u00e7a do contr\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

Whoever has the decency to make you feel that you’re not worthy, deserves to be gone. Whoever feels their needs trump your own, deserves to feel the way you’re feeling now.<\/p>\n

Todos os seres humanos s\u00e3o importantes. No grande \u00e2mbito das coisas, n\u00e3o passamos de um pequeno gr\u00e3o de poeira no espa\u00e7o, deixado \u00e0 nossa sorte. Mas na tua pr\u00f3pria vida, mereces ser a pessoa mais importante que conheces.<\/p>\n

Nobody knows what their true purpose is. Nobody can possibly know how their life will unfold and how much of an impact they’ll leave on the world.<\/p>\n

But as an individual, it’s up to you to put some effort into loving yourself and make your existence on this earth one worth sharing.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 250+ Legendas do Instagram incr\u00edveis, engra\u00e7adas e fofas sobre o amor<\/a><\/p>\n

\u25cb There’s no such thing as wrong timing when it comes to love<\/h2>\n

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It doesn’t matter how old you are. It doesn’t matter where you are in your life. If you want love, you deserve to find it.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que os seus cabelos brancos se tenham instalado. Mesmo que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o lhe apete\u00e7a sair e fazer coisas de que gostava.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que a sua ideia de uma noite bem passada signifique relaxar em frente \u00e0 televis\u00e3o com vinho.<\/p>\n

Any timing is right when you want it to be. It’s time to stop diminishing your own worth and give yourself a real chance at finding your joy.<\/p>\n

E por mais clich\u00e9 que pare\u00e7a, o amor normalmente encontra-nos quando deixamos de o procurar. Basta derrubar as paredes e deixar que ele o encontre.<\/p>\n

Mereces passar o resto da tua vida ao lado de algu\u00e9m que te fa\u00e7a sentir bem contigo mesmo.<\/p>\n

\u25cb You are beautiful, smart, and fun<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Nunca deixes que ningu\u00e9m te diga que tens de mudar por causa deles. Se queres fazer mudan\u00e7as, elas devem partir de ti e de mais ningu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

The thing is, people often delude themselves into believing they’re ugly when it couldn’t be further from the truth. Celebrate your flaws and love your body just the way it is.<\/p>\n

If you don’t look like everyone else around you, even better. Who wants to be the exact same copy of everyone else? It’s always better to stand out from the crowd because it allows you to be seen!<\/p>\n

It’s okay to love yourself, you know? It’s healthy and it gives you a good perspective that helps you believe in yourself and your ability to love. You are perfect just the way you are.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 150+ I Love You More Than Anything Quotes From The Heart (Eu te amo mais do que tudo)<\/a><\/p>\n

\u25cb You are never alone<\/h2>\n

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Don’t let your anxiety fool you into believing that you’re alone. I’m sure that’s not the case. Think about all the people who’d be crushed if they knew how little you think of yourself.<\/p>\n

Como achas que os teus pais se sentiriam se soubessem que \u00e9s t\u00e3o duro contigo mesmo? Como achas que a tua melhor amiga reagiria se soubesse que continuas a subestimar o teu valor?<\/p>\n

Put yourself in their shoes. These are the people who are rooting for you. Even if all you have is three genuinely caring loved ones, that’s more than most people have!<\/p>\n

So never allow yourself to let your anxiety overpower you. Your people will never let you feel alone. And my gut tells me you know exactly who I’m talking about.<\/p>\n

Por isso, recorra a eles nos seus momentos de desespero e deixe-os ajud\u00e1-lo a melhorar. Um sistema de apoio s\u00f3lido \u00e9 tudo<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Choosing yourself isn’t selfish<\/h2>\n

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It’s courageous and character-building. It means never having to cultivate negative thoughts like: Nunca ningu\u00e9m me vai amar.<\/em><\/p>\n

Choosing yourself means not letting your mind run wild due to unsubstantiated fears. It’s holding a high regard for your being and silencing your harsh inner critic.<\/p>\n

It’s about learning that if you don’t stick up for yourself, nobody else will. Choosing yourself means living an authentic life and embracing your very core.<\/p>\n

Don’t let people condition you to be everything that’s external to who you are. Strip yourself of the inclination to please others and stop hiding behind a facade.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Stop side-lining your needs. You\u2019re nobody’s possession; therefore, you should only put your mind to things that are conducive to your mental health.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Comece a ver-se de forma positiva para que os outros tamb\u00e9m o vejam em toda a sua gl\u00f3ria. Aprenda a encontrar uma perspetiva otimista mesmo numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o negativa.<\/p>\n

Weed out negative influences from your life and practice self-compassion. For once in your life \u2013 simply choose yourself.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

”Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure\u2026 We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world\u2026 As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”<\/em> \u2013 Marianne Willliamson<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 110 Frases Rom\u00e2nticas Fofas Para Faz\u00ea-la Sorrir<\/a><\/p>\n

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