{"id":68201,"date":"2020-05-06T16:57:55","date_gmt":"2020-05-06T16:57:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=68201"},"modified":"2022-06-10T12:20:55","modified_gmt":"2022-06-10T12:20:55","slug":"ele-esta-a-trair-me-ou-estou-paranoica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-esta-a-trair-me-ou-estou-paranoica\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele est\u00e1 a trair-me ou estou paranoica? 10 perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3pria"},"content":{"rendered":"

When you start seeing signs that you’re dealing with an unfaithful partner, the first question you ask yourself is “Is he cheating on me am I paranoid?”<\/p>\n

You don’t know whether you’re overreacting, or if this guy really is making a fool of you and sneaking around behind your back.<\/p>\n

Naturally, you feel helpless. You don’t want to accuse your loved one of doing something he hasn\u2019t done and make yourself look crazy but you don’t want to keep on living a lie either.<\/p>\n

The following questions can be thought of as an “Is he cheating on me or am I paranoid” quiz.<\/p>\n

Answer them as honestly as possible and if most of the clues point toward him having an affair, it\u2019ll help you decide what to do.<\/p>\n

1. J\u00e1 teve estas d\u00favidas no passado?<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Quer gostem de o admitir ou n\u00e3o, h\u00e1 pessoas que acusam constantemente os seus parceiros de infidelidade, mesmo quando n\u00e3o t\u00eam raz\u00f5es para duvidar deles. <\/p>\n

They\u2019re simply possessivo e ciumento<\/a> and can\u2019t help but be suspicious of their loved ones.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re one of those people, you\u2019ve probably asked yourself \u201cIs he cheating me, or am I paranoid?\u201d before. You’ve probably experienced this type of ansiedade na rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> before. However, previously it\u2019s turned out to be a false alarm every single time.<\/p>\n

Felizmente, depois de ter todas as provas, percebeu que tudo fazia parte da sua imagina\u00e7\u00e3o. O seu namorado nunca a traiu e tudo n\u00e3o passava da sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

In this case, maybe it\u2019s time to rethink your doubts. There is a huge possibility of history repeating itself.<\/p>\n

I know you can\u2019t control this but if these questions are something you have struggled with before for no particular reason, there is a chance that you have nothing to worry about this time either.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, it\u2019s a completely different situation if this is the first time you\u2019ve ever faced these doubts.<\/p>\n

Neste caso, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que o seu instinto esteja a tentar enviar-lhe uma mensagem e que estas suspeitas sejam algo que deva ser investigado mais profundamente.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve never accused him of cheating in the past.<\/p>\n

Therefore, something different must be going on in your lives for you to even have these thoughts in the first place and you’re probably not just paranoid about your partner cheating.<\/p>\n

2. O que \u00e9 que os teus amigos pensam?<\/h2>\n

\"amigo<\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro s\u00e3o as duas \u00fanicas pessoas na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the ones whose opinions matter, the ones who should be making all the decisions, and the only ones who will suffer the consequences of those decisions.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re going through these kinds of struggles in your mind, sometimes it\u2019s not a bad idea to talk to a third person. You need a wider perspective on things.<\/p>\n

Precisas de algu\u00e9m que te diga a verdade, por mais dura que possa ser. Algu\u00e9m que seja suficientemente objetivo para ver as coisas de forma realista.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o, pode utilizar a opini\u00e3o de algu\u00e9m que n\u00e3o seja parcial e que n\u00e3o tenha qualquer envolvimento emocional na hist\u00f3ria ou na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

As melhores pessoas para o trabalho s\u00e3o os vossos amigos mais pr\u00f3ximos<\/a>, colegas de trabalho ou membros da fam\u00edlia.<\/p>\n

Mas tenha cuidado com quem confia, porque h\u00e1 pessoas m\u00e1s que usam os seus segredos e vulnerabilidades contra si quando menos espera.<\/p>\n

Sit down with your best friend or a close family member and tell them what you see. Ask them directly: “Is he cheating on me or am I paranoid?”<\/p>\n

Certifique-se de que \u00e9 o mais honesto poss\u00edvel. Em vez de falar das coisas da forma como as v\u00ea, diga-lhes tudo exatamente como \u00e9.<\/p>\n

Of course, none of these people can be the judge. They can never tell you for sure what\u2019s going on in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, they can open your eyes and tell you if it\u2019s more likely that you\u2019re just paranoid about your partner cheating or that he really is having an affair.<\/p>\n

3. Ele esconde o telem\u00f3vel?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Um dos primeiros sinais de trai\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 o facto de o batoteiro<\/a> come\u00e7a a esconder o telem\u00f3vel sem mais nem menos.<\/p>\n

After all, this is his main means of communication with his lover, so he has to make sure you don\u2019t get your hands on it and find out about his affair.<\/p>\n

Therefore, this is the first thing you should pay close attention to when you’re asking yourself “Am I paranoid or is he cheating on me?”.<\/p>\n

De repente, ele come\u00e7ou a levar o telem\u00f3vel para a casa de banho? Deixou de o carregar num local vis\u00edvel?<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7ou a dormir com o telem\u00f3vel debaixo da almofada? Alterou a palavra-passe ou activou a identifica\u00e7\u00e3o facial ou por impress\u00e3o digital?<\/p>\n

Uma coisa \u00e9 o seu namorado ou marido fazer tudo isto desde o in\u00edcio da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Talvez ele seja apenas um homem que valoriza a sua privacidade e, nesse caso, provavelmente n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada com que se preocupar.<\/p>\n

However, if he used to be completely open about everything going on on his phone or laptop but has suddenly shifted his behavior, that\u2019s a bit strange.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 qualquer d\u00favida de que ele est\u00e1 a esconder alguma coisa.<\/p>\n

Talvez ele n\u00e3o esteja a enviar mensagens a uma mulher em particular. Talvez ele esteja ativo em sites de encontros, como o Tinder, o que j\u00e1 \u00e9 um problema e tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 um tipo de trai\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

In that case, don\u2019t snoop around and become a stalker, even though this is probably the first impulse you have. After all, you should respect his privacy.<\/p>\n

Instead, ask him directly if you can see his phone. If he makes a huge fight out of it and gets all defensive, I\u2019m sorry to break it to you but your doubts are probably true.<\/p>\n

4. O hor\u00e1rio dele mudou de repente?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve been with this man for ages and up until now, you two have had a rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>. Conhecem a ess\u00eancia do seu ser e, naturalmente, conhecem a sua agenda.<\/p>\n

Sabe a que horas ele acorda, onde bebe o caf\u00e9, quando chega a casa do trabalho e com que frequ\u00eancia sai com os amigos.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a sua rotina mudou subitamente, sem qualquer raz\u00e3o espec\u00edfica, o que \u00e9 um sinal alarmante.<\/p>\n

Quando algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a ter um caso, precisa de tempo para estar com o seu amante. No entanto, isto torna-se um problema quando a pessoa vive de acordo com um hor\u00e1rio r\u00edgido.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que t\u00eam de mudar as suas rotinas para se adaptarem ao seu amante e \u00e9 exatamente isso que o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a tentar fazer.<\/p>\n

Therefore, all of a sudden, he allegedly starts going out with friends more often than before. He is always so busy at work that he has to work overtime (however, his finances don\u2019t seem much better).<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t live together, he\u2019ll probably tell you that he was sleeping late every time you couldn\u2019t reach him.<\/p>\n

He might tell you that he\u2019s going to sleep earlier just to avoid seeing you and so he can have some time to see the other woman in his life.<\/p>\n

Mesmo que ele lhe diga onde est\u00e1, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que tenha mudado os seus restaurantes, caf\u00e9s ou discotecas habituais.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t want to be seen with his lover and he is afraid that he might run into you so he goes someplace else.<\/p>\n

5. Ele tornou-se diferente no quarto?<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Muitas mulheres dizem que descobriram que o seu parceiro as estava a trair porque ele deixou de dormir com elas.<\/p>\n

After all, this guy is having some fun under the sheets with his lover so he doesn\u2019t have enough energy to please his girlfriend or wife.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, a triste verdade \u00e9 que estar com este outra mulher<\/a> \u00e9 mais interessante para ele.<\/p>\n

Ele est\u00e1 a fazer tudo o que pode para lhe provar que \u00e9 um grande garanh\u00e3o e n\u00e3o tem qualquer vontade de se esfor\u00e7ar quando est\u00e1 com a sua parceira rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

Bem, embora isto possa ser uma grande bandeira vermelha, \u00e9 preciso ter em conta que podem existir outras raz\u00f5es por detr\u00e1s deste problema.<\/p>\n

Maybe your boyfriend is experiencing some health problems that he doesn\u2019t want to talk to you about, or maybe he is not happy with his performance in bed and that dissatisfaction has killed the mood.<\/p>\n

Talvez ele esteja \u00e0 beira da depress\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

De qualquer modo, antes de o acusar de ser um traidor com base apenas neste sinal, seria melhor falar com ele honestamente sobre a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, you should be aware that some men\u2019s performance under the sheets actually improves after or during an affair.<\/p>\n

Toda esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o excita-os e eles sentem-se melhores amantes s\u00f3 porque duas mulheres os desejam ao mesmo tempo.<\/p>\n

Outra coisa que lhe pode dar uma pista de que ele a est\u00e1 a trair s\u00e3o alguns dos novos movimentos no quarto.<\/p>\n

Maybe he\u2019s been educating himself and wants to experiment but there is also a possibility that this new woman has shown him some tricks which he is using on you as well.<\/p>\n

6. Ele tornou-se mais atento?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

When your partner becomes more attentive but at the same time your gut feeling is telling you that something is wrong, the question \u201cIs he cheating on me or am I paranoid?\u201d is inevitable.<\/p>\n

After all, this man has finally become the boyfriend you\u2019ve always wanted him to be and you have a chance of having a healthy relationship but even that doesn\u2019t satisfy you.<\/p>\n

You feel guilty for your thoughts but you can\u2019t chase them away, no matter how hard you try.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you one thing. It has been proven that any sudden shift in behavior that starts without any apparent reason can be a sign that something \u2013 including infidelity \u2013 might be going on.<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019re not crazy for having your doubts. In fact, many women who have been cheated on say that their partners became extra kind and loving the moment they started their affairs.<\/p>\n

The problem here is not this man\u2019s behavior. What is off is his change in behavior, which has come out of nowhere.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: there is a chance he\u2019s been cheating on you<\/a>. No entanto, sente-se culpado pelo seu comportamento e, por isso, passou a ser mais cuidadoso consigo.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 tamb\u00e9m a possibilidade de ele estar subconsciente ou deliberadamente a tentar mascarar as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es vergonhosas.<\/p>\n

He assumes that you\u2019ll never get to the bottom of his actions if he takes care of you and treats you like you\u2019re the only woman he has eyes for.<\/p>\n

7. Ele mudou de aspeto?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Being attractive and taking care of your looks isn\u2019t reserved for women only.<\/p>\n

De facto, \u00e9 \u00f3timo quando se v\u00ea um homem que continua interessado em estar no seu melhor para a sua parceira, mesmo depois de anos de rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou casamento.<\/p>\n

No entanto, est\u00e1 provado que os homens que fazem batota mudam subitamente a sua apar\u00eancia para melhor.<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, ele sabe que ama-o<\/a> por isso, ele acha que n\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de se aperaltar para si. No entanto, as coisas s\u00e3o diferentes no que respeita a esta outra mulher.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s just met her and wants to make the best possible first impression. Besides, this girl still hasn\u2019t gotten to know him so all he has are his looks.<\/p>\n

Do nada, um batoteiro muda o corte de cabelo. Se tiver cabelos brancos, pode at\u00e9 voltar a pint\u00e1-los com a cor original.<\/p>\n

He stops wearing old sweatpants and T-shirts when he goes out. Instead, he changes to fancy shirts \u2013 or even suits.<\/p>\n

Muda o desodorizante e o perfume. Toma banho com mais frequ\u00eancia e presta especial aten\u00e7\u00e3o aos cuidados com a pele.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se o seu parceiro encontrou algu\u00e9m mais jovem. Ele finge ser mais compat\u00edvel com essa rapariga e faz tudo o que pode para voltar a parecer um solteiro.<\/p>\n

Relacionadas: Porque \u00e9 que os maridos traidores continuam casados? 12 raz\u00f5es mais comuns<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

8. A atividade dele nas redes sociais mudou?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Quando a sua cara-metade a est\u00e1 a trair, a sua atividade nas redes sociais vai mudar.<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 especialmente verdade se ele se apresentar como solteiro e n\u00e3o como um marido ou namorado traidor, o que na realidade \u00e9.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 poss\u00edvel perceber que algo n\u00e3o est\u00e1 bem se ele tiver apagado todas as fotografias de voc\u00eas juntos dos seus perfis nas redes sociais.<\/p>\n

Of course, it’s different if he has never posted any clues of your relationship from day one because he is simply the kind of person who wants to keep his rela\u00e7\u00f5es fora das plataformas sociais<\/a>.<\/p>\n

No entanto, se os perfis dele estavam cheios da sua presen\u00e7a, mas isso mudou e ele n\u00e3o tem uma desculpa v\u00e1lida para essa mudan\u00e7a, pode ver isso como uma grande bandeira vermelha.<\/p>\n

9. Ele responde \u00e0s suas chamadas e mensagens de texto?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Aqui est\u00e1 outro indicador sinal de que ele a est\u00e1 a trair<\/a> connected to his cell phone. In today\u2019s era, we\u2019re all stuck to our phones most of the time, right?<\/p>\n

Bem, o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a comportar-se de forma diferente. De facto, raramente responde \u00e0s suas mensagens de texto e tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o atende as suas chamadas.<\/p>\n

When you confront him about this, he tells you that he hasn\u2019t heard his phone ringing, that he hasn\u2019t seen your text messages, or that he forgot to reply.<\/p>\n

However, when he is with you, he doesn\u2019t let his cell phone out of his hands for even a second. He is est\u00e1 constantemente a enviar mensagens de texto a algu\u00e9m e \u00e9 reservado<\/a> sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, I have to disappoint you and tell you that him answering your calls and texts at the same speed he always has isn\u2019t a guarantee that he is being one hundred percent fiel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

After all, there is a possibility that this other woman knows about you. Yes, as much as this appears hard to believe, he might ask her to be silent while he is talking to you so you don\u2019t suspect a thing.<\/p>\n

10. Ele \u00e9 reservado em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s suas finan\u00e7as?<\/h2>\n

\"notas<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re wondering \u201cIs he cheating on me or am I paranoid?\u201d one of the first things you should pay attention to are your partner\u2019s finances.<\/p>\n

This will be somewhat difficult to do if you are not married or don\u2019t live together. After all, you are separate individuals and you have no access whatsoever when it comes to his money.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, even in this scenario, you can still notice some changes if you look closely. Has he started complaining about being broke all the time but you can\u2019t see where his money is going?<\/p>\n

He hasn\u2019t made any investments, his paychecks are the same, and he hasn\u2019t made any crucial changes in his life to justify his lack of cash.<\/p>\n

I hate to break it to you but it\u2019s possible that he\u2019s spending his money on a mi\u00fada do lado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

After all, he\u2019s just met this woman and it is clear that he wants to impress her, so he might be getting her expensive gifts or taking her out on fancy dinner dates.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t forget that living a double life isn\u2019t cheap. Not to mention the effort, energy, and time he has to put in.<\/p>\n

No entanto, antes de o acusar e de o condenar por algo que ele pode n\u00e3o ter feito, fale com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Maybe he is going through some financial difficulties he doesn\u2019t want to burden you with, or he is saving to take you on a trip or to buy you something nice.<\/p>\n

Claro que, se ele ficar na defensiva e se recusar a dar uma explica\u00e7\u00e3o, \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que algo esteja errado e deve preparar-se para recupera\u00e7\u00e3o de casos<\/a>. <\/p>\n

\"Ele<\/p>\n

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