Soa-lhe familiar, certo? Bem, se isto \u00e9 algo com que se identifica, apresentamos-lhe estes 10 sinais dolorosos<\/a> that you really do have a selfish husband and that it’s about time to make some crucial changes in your marriage.<\/p>\n It is possible that you’re a woman who likes to be with an alpha man who knows how to take charge. This kind of guy knows what he wants and isn\u2019t afraid to get it.<\/p>\n Tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 aceit\u00e1vel se tiver este rela\u00e7\u00e3o dominante-submissa<\/a> no quarto. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de errado com um casal que gosta de jogar jogos como este.<\/p>\n However, when you\u2019re dealing with a selfish spouse, this dominance goes far beyond the sheets. In fact, this guy is doing his best to prove that you\u2019re less worthy than him, that he is the number one priority in your marriage.<\/p>\n Voc\u00eas os dois n\u00e3o s\u00e3o iguais e ele trata-a como se n\u00e3o fosse t\u00e3o importante como ele. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 compromisso e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 meio termo.<\/p>\n Your opinion doesn\u2019t count. Your needs and desires are always unimportant. You\u2019re not allowed to make decisions and to live your life your own way without consulting him first.<\/p>\n You literally have to ask for this selfish man\u2019s permission before doing anything, which is, without a doubt, a form of emotional abuse.<\/p>\n However, he doesn\u2019t put you in this position because he is jealous. He is probably a narcissist who wants to be above you. This guy wants to have complete control over your life.<\/p>\n Of course, having to deal with a selfish husband is ruining your self-esteem and mental health. However, that is exactly what he wants\u2014to destroy you completely so he could go on with his selfish behavior completely unbothered.<\/p>\n Another sign that your husband is selfish is the fact that he never takes responsibility for his words and actions. No matter what happens in your marriage, you\u2019re always the guilty one.<\/p>\n Even when he takes the blame for hurting you, he\u2019ll try making you think that you\u2019re the one who caused his misbehavior. You\u2019re the one who provoked him, the one who is exaggerating and the one who made him go crazy.<\/p>\n This selfish man doesn\u2019t seem to realize that every relationship is a two-way street. So, it is practically impossible for you to always be responsible whenever something goes downhill.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, I want you to be aware that your spouse is perfectly aware of his mistakes. He just doesn\u2019t care enough about you to admit them.<\/p>\n For him, it\u2019s much easier to keep on accusing you of being guilty than working on resolving the problem.<\/p>\n Ele pode ser um narcisista<\/a> who is concerned about keeping a positive image; he is always the good guy, while you’re the bad one in the story.<\/p>\n When you two fight, it\u2019s all about ego. The only important thing is who is right and wrong.<\/p>\n Isto deve-se ao facto de ele aprecia mais o seu orgulho do que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>. Nunca est\u00e1 interessado em chegar a um compromisso e em encontrar uma solu\u00e7\u00e3o para os seus problemas.<\/p>\n Besides, he doesn\u2019t give a damn about how all of this will make you feel and how it will affect your self-esteem and mental health.<\/p>\n One of the first examples of a selfish husband is his behavior in the bedroom. Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not talking about his qualities as a lover here.<\/p>\n Nem todos n\u00f3s nascemos para sermos garanh\u00f5es debaixo dos len\u00e7\u00f3is. Alguns homens precisam de mais pr\u00e1tica para se aproximarem da perfei\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Al\u00e9m disso, \u00e9 preciso tempo para que um casal alcance a harmonia no quarto. \u00c9 preciso que ambos tentem tornar-se compat\u00edveis debaixo dos len\u00e7\u00f3is e que se fa\u00e7am felizes um ao outro.<\/p>\n No entanto, o problema surge quando o seu parceiro ego\u00edsta<\/a> isn\u2019t ready to put in effort into pleasing you. The only thing he cares about is his satisfaction and his own needs.<\/p>\n This guy follows his pace and rhythm. For example, he ignores you when you\u2019re looking for intimacy but he pushes you too hard to sleep with him if he is in the mood.<\/p>\n After the action is over, he simply turns on the other side of the bed, despite the fact that you want to cuddle. He is not gentle enough and he doesn\u2019t care whether you\u2019re enjoying yourself at all.<\/p>\n On the other hand, if you\u2019re the one who wants to try new things, he is never up for it.<\/p>\n It\u2019s one thing if you two have different preferences and he certainly doesn\u2019t have to do everything you want him to but the point here is that he doesn\u2019t want to give any of your propositions a shot.<\/p>\n Consequently, for you, sleeping with this man has become real torture and you\u2019ve started seeing it as a job that needs to be done. You can\u2019t be relaxed in these kinds of conditions and you\u2019re far from being satisfied. Without a doubt, these are legit signs your husband isn’t in love with you<\/a>.<\/p>\n There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a spouse who has different hobbies and interests from yours. After all, just because the two of you are a married couple, it doesn\u2019t have to mean that you cease to exist as individuals.<\/p>\n Besides, you have your girl best friends you can talk to about make-up, shopping and celebrities. So, if your hubby isn\u2019t very keen on being involved in these, it doesn\u2019t make him a selfish person right away.<\/p>\n However, with your marriage, things are different. Your husband’s selfishness is so intense that he has literally zero interest in anything you are concerned about.<\/p>\n It\u2019s a huge effort for him to even do the simplest things such as watch your favorite movie with you or tell you which outfit looks better on you. He doesn\u2019t care about your hobbies and other things you enjoy doing.<\/p>\n When you come to think about it, your husband knows very little about you. Yes, he is familiar with some basic information about you but he doesn\u2019t know the pequenas coisas<\/a>.<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t have a clue what you love doing in your spare time, he never roots for you and he doesn\u2019t know any random things such as the name of your favorite band or author.<\/p>\n At first, all of this probably doesn\u2019t seem like a big deal. After all, he is a guy and you think it\u2019s normal that he isn\u2019t interested in these kinds of things.<\/p>\n However, if you dig a little deeper under the surface, you\u2019ll see that his indifference hides much more.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll see that your selfish spouse has never been there to hear you out throughout all of these years of marriage. For him, everything concerning you is irrelevant.<\/p>\n Ningu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a dizer que o seu marido tem de lhe beijar os p\u00e9s por cada coisa que faz por ele ou que deve estar constantemente a apontar os favores que faz.<\/p>\n Marriage is all about mutual giving and receiving so if you\u2019re a good wife, you\u2019ll love him, be there for him and make sure he is well.<\/p>\n However, being an ungrateful asshole is something completely different. Your selfish husband doesn\u2019t appreciate anything you do for him.<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t cherish the sacrifices you\u2019re making for your marriage. He is acting like he doesn\u2019t see all the efforts you\u2019re putting into making your marriage work. You feel like nothing you do is ever enough for him to be pleased.<\/p>\n Not only that\u2014what is even worse is that your husband’s selfishness prevents him from giving you anything in return. He doesn\u2019t reciprocate your efforts, nor does he ever try to make you feel better and happier.<\/p>\n On the other hand, he doesn\u2019t fail to notice when you do something that bothers him. He never forgets to call you out on your mistakes, while your good actions always get totally ignored.<\/p>\n Quantas vezes \u00e9 que este tipo te deixou pendurada? Quantas vezes \u00e9 que ele alterou os planos que voc\u00eas tinham juntos?<\/p>\n You can\u2019t even count, right? Because this is something that happens on a regular basis.<\/p>\n Este \u00e9 um homem que n\u00e3o respeita o seu espa\u00e7o ou o seu tempo, o que \u00e9 um sinal seguro de que tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o tem respeito por si. Bem, isso n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que um marido bom e carinhoso<\/a> deve fazer.<\/p>\n I get it\u2014you both live busy lives. You both have careers and extended family outside of this marriage.<\/p>\n However, you\u2019re never allowed to be busy for him. You always make time in your tight schedule to hear him out, go out on a date with him or do something to put a smile on his face.<\/p>\n On the other hand, this man treats you like you\u2019re always available. He expects you to spend your days patiently waiting at home for him to remember that he has a wife who needs attention.<\/p>\n Of course, he\u2019s not like that with others. He doesn\u2019t have a problem with standing you up when his friends call or when he has something better to do.<\/p>\n One thing is more than obvious\u2014he wants to be your priority, while you should settle for being his second choice. It\u2019s like this man has completely forgotten about his vows and the fact that he chose you to be his life partner.<\/p>\n Relacionadas: 5 sinais da s\u00edndrome do marido infeliz (+ dicas para lidar com isso)<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n You\u2019ve given your husband so many second chances that, sadly, it is possible that he\u2019s started taking you for granted.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that you should play jogos quentes e frios<\/a> with him\u2014after all, you two are adults but it\u2019s not okay for him to have no fear of losing you at all either.<\/p>\n According to this man, you\u2019re not going anywhere. No matter how he treats you, you\u2019ll always be there for him.<\/p>\n It\u2019s like there is nothing he can do for you to stop loving him. He thinks that he won you over ages ago and that his job was done when you said, \u201cI do.\u201d<\/p>\n He doesn\u2019t make any romantic gestures, he doesn\u2019t take you out and he doesn\u2019t care whether you\u2019re still attracted to him.<\/p>\n Your husband is convinced that you\u2019re so crazy over him that his selfish behavior could never chase you away. It\u2019s like you\u2019re blinded and he doesn\u2019t have to put any effort whatsoever into keeping you by his side.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s get one thing straight\u2014your spouse is under no obligation to love your best friends and family members. These people are a part of your life or the ones you chose to be next to you; he didn\u2019t have anything to do with that.<\/p>\n Therefore, it is perfectly acceptable if your loving husband isn\u2019t crazy about your friends and family, especially if they don\u2019t like him so much either. He doesn\u2019t have to hang out with them when you\u2019re not around or treat them as if they were his loved ones.<\/p>\n No entanto, ele tem o dever de os respeitar. Quer ele goste ou n\u00e3o, quando casou consigo, elas passaram a fazer parte da vida dele tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n Afinal de contas, este homem escolheu-a para ser sua mulher e devia, pelo menos, fazer um esfor\u00e7o m\u00ednimo para ter uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o decente com as pessoas de quem gosta.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, things are quite different in your marriage. Your husband doesn\u2019t give a damn about your friends and family and he is very open about it.<\/p>\n He treats these people as strangers or even worse\u2014as his enemies. He has no respect for them or your relationship.<\/p>\n Not only that\u2014he is always complaining when he has to accompany you to a certain event. It\u2019s too much trouble for him to spend some time with your people, despite knowing how happy that would make you feel.<\/p>\n On the other hand, he expects you to hang out with his clique and to be crazy about his family. If that is not one of the clear signs of a selfish husband, I don\u2019t know what is.<\/p>\n The truth is that your spouse couldn\u2019t care less about your happiness. He can see you crying and being miserable and he won\u2019t lift a finger to do something about it.<\/p>\n No vosso casamento, a \u00fanica coisa que importa \u00e9 o bem-estar dele. Ele esfor\u00e7a-se por satisfazer as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades, enquanto as suas s\u00e3o irrelevantes.<\/p>\n When I say needs, I\u2019m talking about financial, romantic, emotional and all other needs here. It\u2019s pretty simple; this guy always vem em primeiro lugar<\/a> e tudo no vosso casamento acontece \u00e0 sua maneira.<\/p>\n This can be seen with little, everyday stuff. You two will go to lunch at a restaurant he prefers, even though you want to eat something different, you\u2019ll watch a movie he wants to watch, if you\u2019re good with money, you\u2019ll be left without a cent in your pocket while he\u2019ll have everything he needs…<\/p>\n However, it also happens with some big life decisions. He chose your kids’ names, he picked the house you live in, you always go on vacation to the places he wants to visit and so on…<\/p>\n One thing is clear\u2014he only cares about making himself feel good. If that is the case, it\u2019s time to ask yourself whether this man even loves you for real.<\/p>\n1. Ele quer ser dominante<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Nunca assume responsabilidades<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. He doesn\u2019t care about your needs in bed<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Ele n\u00e3o est\u00e1 envolvido nos seus interesses<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Ele doesn\u2019t appreciate you<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. He doesn\u2019t respect your time<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Ele toma-te por garantido<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8. He doesn\u2019t care about your friends and family<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n9. O seu bem-estar \u00e9 a \u00fanica coisa que importa<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n10. Trata-o como seu servo<\/h2>\n
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