{"id":70653,"date":"2020-05-13T15:44:35","date_gmt":"2020-05-13T15:44:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=70653"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:42:39","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:42:39","slug":"pensar-em-enviar-uma-mensagem-de-texto-ao-seu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/pensar-em-enviar-uma-mensagem-de-texto-ao-seu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Devo telefonar ao meu ex? Leia isto se est\u00e1 a pensar em enviar mensagens de texto ao seu ex"},"content":{"rendered":"

Est\u00e1 a ter um <\/span>tempo dif\u00edcil<\/span> ultrapassar a separa\u00e7\u00e3o? Sente falta do seu <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span>? Est\u00e1 a pensar em telefonar ou <\/span>mensagens de texto<\/span> ele? <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu sei que <\/span>estar s\u00f3<\/span> <\/a>pode fazer-nos pensar no nosso ex e na nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada. Por vezes, at\u00e9 come\u00e7amos a pensar que temos saudades do nosso <\/span>ex-companheiro(a)<\/span> and actually, all we can think about is, “Devo telefonar ao meu ex<\/a>?” <\/span><\/p>\n

I know it’s hard because he was also your <\/span>melhor amigo<\/span> and you thought that he was your soulmate and that you\u2019d be together for the rest of your lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, uma coisa que deve saber \u00e9 que um ex \u00e9 chamado de ex por uma raz\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you were meant to be together, you wouldn’t have broken up in the <\/span>primeiro lugar<\/span> e se estiverem verdadeiramente destinados a ficar juntos, o destino acabar\u00e1 por vos juntar, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. <\/span><\/p>\n

Either way, you have nothing to worry about. Time will show whether or not he deserves your heart. Be patient and wait. Just because you miss him, it doesn’t mean that you need that man in your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

YOU are the only person you deserve in your life. That’s why you have to be careful. You may lose yourself in chasing a man who never deserved you in the <\/b>primeiro lugar<\/b>. <\/b><\/p>\n

You have to be strong and let him go or you’ll be left with another <\/span>desgosto<\/span>. Respeita-te o suficiente para saberes quando te deves afastar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Isso <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/span> was ruining your life and only you know how much he hurt you. Although you haven’t fully recovered yet, only you know how painful your healing process was.<\/span><\/p>\n

O <\/span>\u00faltima coisa<\/span> Agora precisa de reavivar essa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e dar outra oportunidade ao homem que quase destruiu a sua vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t send him <\/span>mensagens de texto<\/span> ou telefonar-lhe. Para <\/span>per\u00edodo de tempo<\/span>Se n\u00e3o fores bem-sucedida, tens de encerrar toda a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o que tiveste com ele. <\/span>Longa hist\u00f3ria<\/span> em suma, \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio seguir o <\/span>regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

A regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/span> always works. It’s the only way you’ll make him understand how much he hurt you. Ignoring your ex will drive him crazy and it’ll make him regret losing you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Never call or text your ex if…<\/h2>\n

1. You’re drunk<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You’re angry at your ex for the way he treated you while you were in a relationship. After a few drinks, you finally get the courage to tell him everything you couldn’t tell when you broke up. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quer dar-lhe um <\/span>chamada telef\u00f3nica<\/span> e dizer-lhe que ele foi um idiota e que perdeu a \u00fanica rapariga que o amava independentemente de tudo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu sei que ele merece ouvir isso e que isso a faria sentir-se melhor nesse momento. No entanto, tens de saber uma coisa importante.<\/span><\/p>\n

Drunk-texting is the worst thing you can do. It is going to help you feel better at that moment and the next morning, once you have sobered up, you’ll instantly regret it. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. You’re lonely<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Many people are scared of being alone, especially after their long-term relationship has ended. It’s perfectly normal to feel that way but again, you need time to emotionally process it all. <\/span><\/p>\n

For a good while, that man was a huge part of your life and you loved him with all your heart. Now that he has left, you’re left with a void, some emptiness inside you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eu sei que <\/span>ano passado<\/span> everything was different, you were in love but things have changed and you have to accept it. Tell yourself: \u201cOkay, <\/span>acab\u00e1mos<\/span>, it’s over now, I have to let it go and finally move on.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t confuse that feeling of loneliness with wanting your <\/span>ex-namorado de volta<\/span> and missing him. It’s not the same and deep down, you know that. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Ouviste dizer que ele tem uma nova namorada<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Descobrir que o seu ex tem uma nova namorada ou, pior ainda, que ele voltou para a sua <\/span>ex-namorada<\/span>pode ser muito dif\u00edcil para si, especialmente se ainda sente alguma coisa por ele. <\/span><\/p>\n

It can make you think that the break-up was a mistake because you think you’ll end up alone in the long-term. But trust me, it’s just a temporary feeling because that news surprised you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You might even be jealous or angry at him because he was able to forget you and move on so quickly. Don’t immediately dial his phone number.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cool down and work through those feelings before you do anything you’ll later regret. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Os vossos amigos em comum disseram que ele tamb\u00e9m sente a tua falta<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t fall for that right away because it might be one of his games and tactics to get you to call him first. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not probably the first<\/span> tempo<\/span> que ele fez jogos consigo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ele pode dizer aos vossos <\/span>amigos comuns<\/span> that the break-up was a mistake and that he misses you or that he can’t live <\/span>sem ti<\/span> but he is doing that because he knows that they’ll tell you and that you’ll believe them. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, think about it. If he truly can’t live <\/span>sem ti<\/span>, why can’t he call you or ask you to <\/span>encontrar-se<\/span> e dizer-vos isso pessoalmente? <\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe his stubborn pride is important to him and that’s why he doesn’t want to text first, maybe he is afraid of your reaction, but either way, he doesn’t deserve you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Devo telefonar ao meu ex?<\/h2>\n

Somos todos <\/span>seres humanos<\/span> and we all make mistakes. That’s why we should all be able to forgive others for their mistakes. I firmly believe that every person deserves a second chance, maybe sometimes even a third one. <\/span><\/p>\n

A man who truly loves you will make the most out of a second chance, doing everything he can to prove to you that you did the right thing by giving him another chance. But that’s it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t give him endless chances because he doesn’t deserve them at all. If he doesn’t take the second chance seriously, that means that he doesn’t care whether or not you’ll be together. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you are thinking that you\u2019ll <\/span>enviar uma mensagem ao seu ex<\/span>, here are some questions you must ask yourself before you do that. They might help you to decide if that’s a good idea.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Como \u00e9 que voc\u00eas se conheceram?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A forma como iniciaram a rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 importante. Se os dois se juntaram numa festa (provavelmente b\u00eabados), a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o estava condenada ao fracasso desde o in\u00edcio. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se se conheceram no Facebook ou noutro s\u00edtio qualquer <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> e depois concordou com <\/span>encontrar-se<\/span> in person and after a while decided to start dating, you shouldn’t send him a text because he is probably chatting with some other girls right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se eram amigos antes de andarem juntos e quer continuar a ser amiga dele depois da separa\u00e7\u00e3o, pode sempre enviar-lhe uma mensagem e perguntar-lhe como est\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Porque \u00e9 que se separaram?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Cheating, lying, abusive behavior and a lack of support are truly some of the most unforgivable reasons for a break-up and if one of those is your case, you shouldn’t <\/span>enviar uma mensagem ao seu ex<\/span>por muito que sintas a falta dele. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if you broke up because of some stupid little fight, it’s probably a good idea to call your ex (especially if the fight was your fault).<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Quando foi a \u00faltima vez que ele disse que a amava?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Isto \u00e9 verdadeiramente importante. Tente lembrar-se de quando o <\/span>\u00faltima vez<\/span> foi que ele disse <\/span>ele amava-te<\/span><\/a> ou gostava muito de si. Como \u00e9 que ele se comportou depois disso? As suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es seguiram as suas palavras? <\/span><\/p>\n

Pense bem no assunto e depois decida se lhe deve telefonar ou n\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Ainda o amas como no primeiro dia?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Antes de fazer qualquer coisa, \u00e9 preciso perguntar a si mesmo se o que sente \u00e9 amor ou algo que sente por h\u00e1bito.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you can’t accept the idea of the break-up just because you got used to that person and that’s why it’s hard for you to let go.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Era muito mais feliz na rela\u00e7\u00e3o com ele ou agora?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Pense no tempo que passou numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com ele. Pense em todas as vezes que ele a surpreendeu e a fez feliz.<\/span><\/p>\n

Think about all those times he hurt you and all the nights you couldn’t sleep because you had a fight. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now, say honestly whether you’re happier now that you’re alone or while you were dating him.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1 a pensar em come\u00e7ar uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o com outra pessoa?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se conheceu algu\u00e9m novo e come\u00e7ou a pensar que talvez pudesse come\u00e7ar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o <\/span>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> with that man, that means that you’re ready to move on and that you shouldn’t <\/span>enviar uma mensagem ao seu ex<\/span> and give him hope that you’re thinking about getting back together.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Ele apagou todas as fotografias que tinha consigo nas suas redes sociais?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se ele apagou todas as vossas fotografias no seu <\/span>redes sociais<\/span>significa que, desta vez, ele terminou as coisas consigo a s\u00e9rio e que est\u00e1 pronto para um novo come\u00e7o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Accept his decision and don’t bother him by sending him a text that you’re missing him. It’ll only make you look desperate.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Esta \u00e9 a tua primeira separa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se este for o <\/span>primeira vez<\/span> you broke up, then you’ll probably reconcile because first fights and break-ups are almost always misunderstandings. <\/span><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, se este for o teu primeiro combate, tens de lhe dar uma segunda oportunidade e recome\u00e7ar do in\u00edcio.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Quanto tempo passou desde a separa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t call him right after you’ve broken up. Give him and yourself some time. Think about the reason for your break-up. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is no need to hurry. If he loves you, he’ll also give you some space and he’ll wait for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Tens a certeza de que consegues perdoar-lhe e esquecer que ele te magoou?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you are going to reconcile with him, you must be ready to do so because otherwise you’ll only make things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll mention his mistakes all the time and that’s how you’ll make him break up with you again but this time, it’ll be for good. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you want to text him that you’ve forgiven him, then you must also be ready to forget what happened and leave it in the past.<\/span><\/p>\n

11. Are you sure you’re thinking rationally?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I know it’s hard and you are missing him like crazy but you shouldn’t let your emotions control you. You have to think rationally about giving him a second chance. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se deixares que as tuas emo\u00e7\u00f5es decidam por ti, podes voltar a ficar com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que fazer em vez de telefonar ao seu ex-namorado<\/h2>\n

Aqui est\u00e3o algumas coisas que pode fazer quando come\u00e7ar a pensar em como obter o seu <\/span>ex voltar<\/span>. Abra o seu mundo a novas possibilidades. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deixar o telem\u00f3vel em paz<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you’re thinking about <\/span>mensagens de texto<\/span> o seu ex, guarde o seu telem\u00f3vel durante pelo menos <\/span>um dia<\/span>. Pe\u00e7a ao seu amigo que organize uma pequena interven\u00e7\u00e3o para si sempre que come\u00e7ar a pensar nisso.<\/span><\/p>\n

Deixe-a pegar no seu telem\u00f3vel e diga-lhe que, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer, n\u00e3o lho deve dar durante, pelo menos <\/span>um dia<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also tell your siblings that they must not give you their phones if you ask them. That’s the only way you’ll be sure that you won\u2019t call or text him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Perder o n\u00famero dele e bloque\u00e1-lo nas suas redes sociais<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You know how people say out of sight, out of mind? That’s why the <\/span>regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/span><\/a> is so awesome. Looking at his photos and posts on Facebook or Instagram won’t bring you any good. <\/span><\/p>\n

Bloqueie-o em todas as suas <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> contas. Fecha essa porta. Al\u00e9m disso, apague o n\u00famero de telefone dele. De facto, apague todas as suas mensagens e <\/span>chamada telef\u00f3nica<\/span> history so you can’t find his number in your phone at all.<\/span><\/p>\n

Livrar-se das fotografias que tem com o seu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You broke up and you have to deal with that fact. Leave him where he belongs and that’s in the past. <\/span><\/p>\n

Eliminar as fotografias dele \u00e9 o primeiro passo para o fazer. Guardar fotografias do seu <\/span>ex-namorado<\/span> \u00e9 uma m\u00e1 ideia, porque olhar para elas vezes sem conta pode fazer com que sintamos ainda mais a falta dele.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m pode levar-nos a fazer a pior coisa, que seria <\/span>enviar uma mensagem ao seu ex<\/span> that you’re missing him and that you want to get back together. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sair com os seus amigos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t look at your phone all day hoping that he’ll send you a text because that text will never come. Go out and have fun. Enjoy being with your friends. Do the things you like. Stop thinking about him. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 necess\u00e1rio <\/span>reconstruir o seu <\/span>autoestima<\/span><\/a> e curar-se da <\/span>dor de cabe\u00e7a<\/span> da separa\u00e7\u00e3o e os teus amigos s\u00e3o as \u00fanicas pessoas que te podem ajudar com isso.<\/span><\/p>\n

They\u2019ll do everything they can to make you feel better and hanging out with them will make you forget that you wanted to send your ex a text in the <\/span>primeiro lugar<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Concentrar-se no seu trabalho ou educa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Concentrar-se nas suas tarefas e obriga\u00e7\u00f5es quotidianas ajud\u00e1-la-\u00e1 a esquecer-se dele e da separa\u00e7\u00e3o durante algum tempo. <\/span><\/p>\n

O trabalho \u00e9 sempre a melhor distra\u00e7\u00e3o para lidar com as <\/span>dor de cabe\u00e7a<\/span> depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. Concentre-se na sua carreira. Trabalhe nos seus sonhos e objectivos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tem de se empenhar totalmente no trabalho e trabalhar arduamente para ter sucesso e provar ao seu ex o que ele perdeu. O sucesso \u00e9 sempre a melhor vingan\u00e7a. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trabalhar em si pr\u00f3prio <\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Terminar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 dif\u00edcil para toda a gente e pode ser especialmente dif\u00edcil para a nossa autoestima e pode deixar-nos com menos <\/span>autoestima<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why you should be especially careful after a break-up and give yourself enough time to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you aren’t aware of your worth, you’ll think that you aren’t good enough and that you will never again find a man who will love you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to boost your self-confidence and understand your personal value. You have to learn that some things were meant to happen and that it wasn’t your fault.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have to know that it’s his loss because he was the one who lost a person who loved him more than she loved herself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para terminar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You have to know that no matter how painful missing your ex is, you aren’t alone. Many other people are also having a hard<\/span> tempo<\/span> depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Life is a journey and you shouldn’t focus too much on only one part of it. “Should I call my ex?” is a dilemma but in order to move on with your life properly, you have to decide whether it’s a good thing or not and give it closure. <\/b><\/p>\n

Claro que tem alguns assuntos pendentes com o seu ex, mas acredite que a melhor decis\u00e3o que pode tomar \u00e9 <\/span>deix\u00e1-lo no passado<\/span><\/a>. It’s what he truly deserves.<\/span><\/p>\n

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