{"id":71178,"date":"2020-05-13T15:46:01","date_gmt":"2020-05-13T15:46:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=71178"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:47:33","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:47:33","slug":"erros-pos-separacao-que-pioram-as-coisas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/erros-pos-separacao-que-pioram-as-coisas\/","title":{"rendered":"7 erros p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o que tornam as coisas ainda piores"},"content":{"rendered":"

Passar por uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o nunca \u00e9 f\u00e1cil, mas lidar com ela de uma forma saud\u00e1vel pode tornar o per\u00edodo p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o menos terr\u00edvel.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 certo que quase ningu\u00e9m lida na perfei\u00e7\u00e3o com uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. A maioria das pessoas comete pelo menos um erro, o que as leva a sentir-se ainda pior em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Veja estes 7 erros mais comuns ap\u00f3s uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o e tente n\u00e3o os cometer voc\u00ea mesmo.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Minimizar as emo\u00e7\u00f5es p\u00f3s-separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

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Toda a gente se sente mal depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. Pode pensar que est\u00e1 a provar que \u00e9 forte e est\u00e1vel ao minimizar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, mas ningu\u00e9m espera que o fa\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s perfectly normal to feel sad \u2013 even devastated. Accept your emotions, they are valid. Burying them will only cause some serious passive-aggressive behavior on your side.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Procurar o encerramento<\/h2>\n

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Closure after a relationship can be perfectly healthy, but ending a relationship and then trying to immediately have the “closure talk” is just you wanting to spend more time with your ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s conhecemos a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o. Acab\u00e1mos uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o e, de repente, apercebemo-nos de como sentimos a sua falta na vida quotidiana.<\/span><\/p>\n

A part of you hopes that a long talk will help solve all of your problems and get back together, but that\u2019s not what you need right now.<\/span><\/p>\n

The time for closure talk will come \u2013 probably months or even years after the breakup \u2013 when you least expect it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t call them to have that talk. You\u2019ll end up hurting yourself and possibly your ex even more.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Tentar ser imediatamente amigos<\/h2>\n

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Maybe you two can eventually go back to being friendly after you\u2019ve completely moved on from your breakup, but right after ending a relationship is not the time to try to be friends.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your emotions are still raw and everything is still way too fresh. All the pain inside of you won\u2019t go away just like that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest. Your “friendly” relationship would be a disguise for getting to spend time with them and casually trying to make everything okay between you two.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s best if you have no contact with your ex for a while\u2026 If you\u2019re meant to be friends, the time for that will come after you\u2019ve resolved all of your emotions regarding your ex and the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Avan\u00e7ar demasiado cedo<\/h2>\n

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A maioria das pessoas diz que a melhor maneira de ultrapassar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 come\u00e7ar uma nova.<\/span><\/p>\n

Looking for a rebound might make you feel like you\u2019re getting over your ex very quickly, but in reality you\u2019re just passing time until your huge breakdown.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reserve algum tempo para refletir sobre tudo o que aconteceu entre si e o seu ex. Certifique-se de que reflecte sobre os erros que cometeu na rela\u00e7\u00e3o, de modo a n\u00e3o voltar a repeti-los.<\/span><\/p>\n

Getting back on the horse after a split is a good thing, but don\u2019t try to do it too quickly, otherwise you\u2019ll end up hurting yourself more once your rebound relationship fails to fill your expectations.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Persegui\u00e7\u00e3o nas redes sociais<\/h2>\n

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Just yesterday you were posting a pic of you two sharing a bowl of spaghetti and today you\u2019re sitting alone aggressively refreshing their profile, looking for something new and unexpected.<\/span><\/p>\n

Parece que tem uma vontade compulsiva de verificar tudo o que sai nas suas contas das redes sociais, mas isso n\u00e3o s\u00f3 a torna obcecada pelo seu ex como tamb\u00e9m prolonga a sua dor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop snooping around. Nothing good can come from it. Devote your time to something liberating and refreshing. Take a long bath, read a book, go out for a walk\u2026 Find a way to stop yourself from stalking your ex.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Planeamento da vingan\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

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Se a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o com o seu ex-companheiro terminou em maus termos e ele o magoou intencionalmente, pode estar a pensar em encontrar uma forma de o magoar de volta.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might think that humiliating them or making them feel as broken as you feel right now will make you feel better, but it probably won\u2019t.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take the high road. Deal with your emotions in a healthy way. Talk to your best friend or even seek professional help if you can\u2019t seem to get over whatever happened.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Constantly thinking about what could\u2019ve been<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If it could\u2019ve been, it would\u2019ve been. Honestly, stop dwelling on the idea you have in your mind about how perfectly things might have turned out between you and your ex. <\/span><\/p>\n

You obviously had issues you didn\u2019t know how to solve.<\/span><\/p>\n

Right after the breakup you\u2019re going through a turmoil of emotions, which can sometimes make you forget how your relationship really looked like and see things in some new, idealized light.<\/span><\/p>\n

Move on. The perfect scenario you have in your head is possible \u2013 just not with that exact person.<\/span><\/p>\n

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