{"id":7162,"date":"2020-05-19T13:32:54","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T13:32:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7162"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:34:59","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:34:59","slug":"dentro-da-mente-a-rapariga-pensa-que-nao-e-suficientemente-boa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/dentro-da-mente-a-rapariga-pensa-que-nao-e-suficientemente-boa\/","title":{"rendered":"A mente de uma rapariga que pensa que n\u00e3o \u00e9 suficientemente boa"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando deixares algu\u00e9m, quando fechares a porta da vida de algu\u00e9m a partir do exterior, quando disseres o teu \u00faltimo adeus, presta aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao que dizes. Quando estiveres a sair da vida de algu\u00e9m, escolhe bem as tuas palavras.<\/p>\n

Porque, depois de dizeres o que tens a dizer em voz alta, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 como voltar atr\u00e1s. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 como voltar atr\u00e1s no que se disse, e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 como voltar a diz\u00ea-lo para o corrigir, porque da primeira vez que se disse, saiu errado.<\/p>\n

Quando dizemos as palavras de um \u00faltimo adeus, os danos que causamos s\u00e3o permanentes, mas a forma como nos despedimos faz a diferen\u00e7a. A forma como o diz determina os danos que causou.<\/a><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 uma rapariga que, por fora, parece ser uma rapariga normal. Para uns \u00e9 bonita, para outros nem por isso.<\/p>\n

Ela \u00e9 engra\u00e7ada e inteligente para alguns, para outros nem tanto. Alguns adoram-na, outros nem por isso.<\/p>\n

Ela \u00e9 suficientemente boa para alguns, para outros nem por isso. Nada disto teria import\u00e2ncia se ela fosse suficientemente boa para si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n

Ela j\u00e1 foi, uma vez, sabes. Mas j\u00e1 n\u00e3o \u00e9.<\/p>\n

When someone you care about utterly shows you day by day they think you\u2019re not good enough, when someone you choose every day doesn\u2019t bother to choose you, when someone is on the top of your priority list and they shove you down on theirs, no matter how strong you might think you are, there will be words of doubt whispering in your ears that you\u2019re just not good enough.<\/p>\n

And if you don\u2019t make them shut up or if somebody else doesn’t come along to show you that you are, indeed, good enough, you\u2019ll be convinced you\u2019re not good enough. This is exactly what happened to her.<\/p>\n

When you put as your priority someone who\u2019s not really good to you, it is doomed to end up badly for you. When you welcome someone in your life who doesn\u2019t know what to do with your kindness, you\u2019re doomed to be broken by this person.<\/p>\n

E foi exatamente nesta altura que tudo lhe correu mal.<\/p>\n

Ela sente que perdeu o controlo sobre a sua vida.<\/strong><\/a> Ela detesta acordar de manh\u00e3 e ser derrotada pelos seus pr\u00f3prios pensamentos. Ela odeia os seus pr\u00f3prios dem\u00f3nios, mas n\u00e3o faz ideia de como se livrar deles.<\/p>\n

As if she wouldn\u2019t like to be normal. But how do you get back to normal when whatever you do is somehow never good enough?<\/p>\n

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J\u00e1 n\u00e3o tem for\u00e7as para lutar contra os obst\u00e1culos que encontra pelo caminho.<\/strong> Somehow, no matter what she does, it\u2019s either wrong or not good enough.<\/p>\n

As coisas nunca correm a seu favor e tudo o que pode correr mal corre de certeza.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re constantly punched down by life, at one point, you have no strength to get back up again and fight. She decided to stay down and let everything go to hell because she thinks that\u2019s where everything has headed anyway.<\/p>\n

Ela culpa-se por cada pessoa que a deixa.<\/strong> She keeps asking herself if there is anything she could\u2019ve done to avoid it.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 sempre a perguntar a si pr\u00f3pria o que \u00e9 que ela fez para que eles a abandonassem.<\/p>\n

Estaria ela melhor hoje se se tivesse rido mais ou se tivesse feito tudo o que eles precisavam que ela fizesse? Teriam eles ficado nessa altura?<\/p>\n

She can\u2019t remember the last time someone made her a priority.<\/strong> \u00c9 a pessoa que p\u00f5e sempre as pessoas \u00e0 frente de si pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\n

She always gave everything and even the best of her, but somehow people didn\u2019t care enough to notice.<\/p>\n

They haven\u2019t noticed her efforts, her \u2018give-ups\u2019 to please them and God knows what else. Nobody cared to notice she was the one that deserved it all but got nothing.<\/p>\n

Ela dificilmente encontra for\u00e7as para se desenrascar sozinha.<\/strong> She\u2019s hardly going to get out of her dark place on her own.<\/p>\n

And you have to admit it\u2014we all need a little help from time to time. We weren\u2019t born to live our lives on our own.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, precisamos de um pequeno lembrete amig\u00e1vel para nos apercebermos de que somos, de facto, suficientemente bons. Ela precisa de um pequeno lembrete de que o que ela pensa est\u00e1 sobretudo na sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Ela precisa de algu\u00e9m que a lembre de que nunca ser\u00e1 suficiente para as pessoas erradas.<\/p>\n

But that\u2019s OK. She needs to be reminded that she is going to be more than enough for the right people.<\/p>\n

Ela precisa de ser lembrada de que, na vida, as merdas nunca param de acontecer, mas que \u00e9 ela que decide quantas das coisas m\u00e1s que acontecem a podem afetar.<\/p>\n

She needs to be reminded that bad days might not seem to have an end, but that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, and that everything she\u2019s struggling with today will be forgotten tomorrow. Because none of it will matter 24 hours from now.<\/p>\n

She needs someone to remind her that not everyone she likes is necessarily good. Just because a good person likes someone doesn\u2019t mean that someone is automatically good. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Na maioria dos casos, \u00e9 o contr\u00e1rio. As pessoas boas atraem pessoas t\u00f3xicas a toda a hora.<\/a> Diz-lhe isto. Diz-lhe tudo isto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Lembrar-lhe os seus lados bons.<\/strong> Diga-lhe o quanto ela significa para si. Diga-lhe que h\u00e1 mais na vida, mais nas pessoas e mais nela do que ela se permite acreditar neste momento.<\/p>\n

S\u00ea a sua rocha de apoio. S\u00ea bom para ela, tal como ela tem sido boa para todos os outros at\u00e9 agora.<\/p>\n

Show her that she is actually good enough. She needs just a small push now to get back on track. I promise you, one day, you\u2019ll be happy that you did.<\/p>\n

Because one day, when she fully recovers, you\u2019ll see her amazing side and you\u2019ll thank God that you were there in her bad days and that you got to live her good days with her.<\/p>\n

Because it\u2019s going to be memorable and worth the fight.<\/p>\n

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