\u00c9 preciso aprender a arte do amor-pr\u00f3prio.<\/strong><\/p>\n It is when you’re convinced that no matter what you do or say, it will never be good enough for other people, or for you. <\/p>\n It is when you’re afraid to make mistakes in life because they make you feel like the ultimate failure.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es para nos sentirmos menos dignos, ser sens\u00edvel<\/a>e, e constantemente a remoer pensamentos negativos na sua cabe\u00e7a, e essas raz\u00f5es est\u00e3o muitas vezes ligadas a quest\u00f5es profundamente enraizadas.<\/p>\n Before diving deeper into things you should remember when you’re feeling like you\u2019re not good enough<\/a>, let’s first check out the possible roots of that feeling:<\/p>\n 7 Common Reasons Why You Feel Like You\u2019re Not Good Enough<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n One of the main reasons why we feel like we\u2019re not good enough lies in the past and previous events.<\/p>\n As children, we absorb everything around us \u2013 the way people talk, walk, and most importantly, the way people behave in certain situations.<\/p>\n Ligamos tudo e enquadramos essas mem\u00f3rias num compartimento especial do nosso c\u00e9rebro chamado pressupostos ocultos<\/strong>.<\/p>\n Enquanto crian\u00e7as, n\u00e3o conseguimos compreender que tudo acontece por uma raz\u00e3o ou as verdadeiras raz\u00f5es por detr\u00e1s de certas ac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n Por isso, fazemos suposi\u00e7\u00f5es. Criamos as nossas pr\u00f3prias cren\u00e7as sobre o motivo pelo qual as coisas acontecem e associamo-las \u00e0s nossas pr\u00f3prias e \u00fanicas raz\u00f5es.<\/p>\n Por exemplo, se uma crian\u00e7a acorda um dia e se apercebe de que um dos seus pais desapareceu, n\u00e3o compreender\u00e1 realmente porque \u00e9 que isso aconteceu.<\/p>\n All the child knows is that they love their parent and now they are gone. The hidden assumption here is: “If you care about someone, they abandon you.”<\/p>\n This hidden assumption becomes a deep-rooted issue and it becomes a part of a child’s everyday life and then their life as a grown-up.<\/p>\n These assumptions work on a subconscious level meaning you won’t really be aware of them, but they will still be active in the background.<\/p>\n And that core belief or assumption is what might make you feel like you’re not good enough, like you don’t deserve love and that you need to earn it.<\/p>\n Este medo pode for\u00e7\u00e1-lo a nunca deixar ningu\u00e9m aproximar-se de si.<\/p>\n J\u00e1 alguma vez escutou atentamente os seus pensamentos? J\u00e1 reparou que 90% do tempo os seus pensamentos s\u00e3o negativos e que raramente pensa em algo positivo?<\/p>\n We often become convinced that the reason why we feel we\u2019re not good enough is because of something or someone else.<\/p>\n We think that we’re not good enough because someone said something insulting or took us for granted.<\/p>\n Mas, por vezes, somos n\u00f3s a raz\u00e3o pela qual nos sentimos assim. O c\u00e9rebro humano \u00e9 complexo e complicado.<\/p>\n Se deixarmos que os nossos pensamentos prevale\u00e7am sem nunca interferirmos, podemos encontrar-nos no reino da d\u00favida, da falta de valor pr\u00f3prio e da baixa autoestima.<\/p>\n A healthy dose of self-criticism is motivating, but a toxic one is destructive. And that’s when we start asking ourselves: Porque \u00e9 que n\u00e3o sou suficientemente bom?<\/em><\/p>\n There’s no real reason for it, but we feel that way because we let all the negativity penetrate our thoughts and influence our behaviour.<\/p>\n There’s only one person who can silence your inner critic and that is YOU!<\/strong><\/p>\n Pode faz\u00ea-lo praticando pensamento positivo<\/a>, conversa interna e medita\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n If you do all these things on a regular basis, you will notice a significant improvement when it comes to your self-confidence and over time you’ll be less self-critical and self-loathing.<\/p>\n You’ll realize that you’re enough!<\/p>\n Se me perguntarem, uma das coisas mais t\u00f3xicas do planeta \u00e9 estar rodeado de pessoas cr\u00edticas e julgadoras.<\/p>\n We all know that human beings can be really toxic (especially when they’re having a bad day).<\/p>\n I bet that in everyone’s life there are a few people who are overly critical and\/or judgmental.<\/p>\n Essas pessoas podem ser os seus amigos, pais, familiares, parceiros ou pessoas aleat\u00f3rias nas redes sociais.<\/p>\n And those people have the power to change the quality of your whole life in a second. They follow your every move and they can’t wait to jump into critic mode.<\/p>\n Whatever you say or do, they’ll always find a way to convince you that you’re not doing something right, that you’re incapable of achieving something or fixing something.<\/p>\n Or they judge your decisions and choices even though it’s none of their business.<\/p>\n By doing that they’re subtly implanting a message into your brain that you’re not good enough. And over time you\u2019ll start to believe it.<\/p>\n If this is the case with you, you need to stand up for yourself and stop spending time with such toxic people (or at least minimize the time you spend with them if you don’t have the luxury of avoiding them completely).<\/p>\n As a person who had highly critical parents, I can totally relate to this one. So, let’s start with the critical aspect first.<\/p>\n There’s a thin line between healthy criticism and toxic criticism.<\/p>\n A cr\u00edtica saud\u00e1vel consiste em criticar o seu filho de vez em quando para o motivar a fazer algo melhor, enquanto a cr\u00edtica t\u00f3xica consiste em criticar constantemente algu\u00e9m.<\/p>\n It’s when you never say anything positive to your child, but you only acknowledge when they do something wrong.<\/p>\n Then the child starts to think that they’re not good enough because they’re never praised, but only criticised. And such children grow up into adults who still think they’re not good enough.<\/p>\n Also, if the parents are too demanding, they don’t give the child the space to make mistakes.<\/p>\n They often demand perfection and when children are unable to meet or fall short of their parents’ impossible standards, they start feeling bad about themselves.<\/p>\n Distant parents make children feel like they\u2019re not good enough because they never show any kind of affection and they don’t shower their children with the unconditional love that is the essence of happy parenting.<\/p>\n (In most cases, the parents also didn\u2019t experience such love, so they don’t know what unconditional love is).<\/p>\n Children who\u2019ve never experienced a parent’s unconditional love are at high risk of becoming a grown up who will never feel good enough because they weren’t worthy of their parent(s) love.<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: 10 boas raz\u00f5es para ela ser suficientemente boa<\/a><\/p>\n Nem todas as crian\u00e7as t\u00eam a sorte de ter pais capazes de lhes oferecer estabilidade e seguran\u00e7a. Alguns pais est\u00e3o a travar as suas pr\u00f3prias batalhas com o \u00e1lcool, as drogas ou sofrem de ansiedade e depress\u00e3o.<\/p>\n Muitas vezes, estes pais n\u00e3o podem mostrar aos seus filhos amor incondicional<\/a> e para os fazer sentir protegidos.<\/p>\n Since they are fighting their own demons, they don’t have enough time to be there for their children.<\/p>\n And because of that, the children start to feel like they are the reason why their parent(s) are absent or why they’re drinking.<\/p>\n Children don’t have the ability to think rationally, therefore their only conclusion will be that they are doing something terribly wrong and making their parents do things they normally wouldn’t.<\/p>\n Come\u00e7am a sentir que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o suficientemente bons desde a inf\u00e2ncia e este sentimento acompanha-os tamb\u00e9m na idade adulta.<\/p>\n When they grow up, they start searching for stability and protection somewhere else (in their partners) or they become attracted to commitment-phobes because they often feel like they need to compete for other people’s affection and approval.<\/p>\n Como j\u00e1 foi referido, o amor incondicional \u00e9 uma das coisas mais importantes quando se trata de uma parentalidade saud\u00e1vel e feliz (especialmente numa idade precoce).<\/p>\n If your parents didn’t give you enough attention and love when you were a kid, chances are that’s the reason why you think: I\u2019m not good enough.<\/em><\/p>\n As a child, you probably thought that you were the problem \u2013 that you were the reason why your parents never hugged you or kissed you good night.<\/p>\n As crian\u00e7as fazem isso. Elas ligam os pontos \u00e0 sua maneira, \u00e0 sua maneira parva.<\/p>\n They don’t have the capacity to understand the deep-rooted issues behind this phenomenon.<\/p>\n In most cases, parents who don’t give attention or shower their children with love didn\u2019t receive it from their parents, either.<\/p>\n It’s like an endless chain that needs to be understood and broken into pieces in order for something to change. But, that\u2019s easier said than done.<\/p>\n Luckily, most children learn valuable lessons from their parent’s behaviour and they don’t do the same things to their future children.<\/p>\n If someone lacked parental love, they know how they felt about it and that’s why they promise they’ll never repeat the same mistakes as their parents. But, some things remain or hardly change.<\/p>\n Those children will continue to feel like they’re not good enough until they realize their parent’s lack of attention and love was not their fault.<\/p>\n Abuso f\u00edsico, abuso sexual, abuso emocional<\/a>… There are many categories and subcategories of abuse and these three are the most common ones.<\/p>\n Now, many people think that emotional abuse is something that doesn’t leave scars because they are not visible like with physical abuse.<\/p>\n Those scars may not be seen on a person’s body, but they are deeply rooted in their soul.<\/p>\n Talvez fa\u00e7am com que a pessoa se lembre desses acontecimentos dolorosos todos os dias e, com o tempo, esses sentimentos piorem cada vez mais.<\/p>\n They become convinced that they’re not good enough, that the reason why something bad happened to them is that they deserved it (even though they didn’t).<\/p>\n It’s really hard to convince children that something is not their fault. They grow up into adults who still believe that they are a bad person even though they haven’t done anything wrong.<\/p>\n Traumatic experiences are like ghosts \u2013 they tend to follow a person through their entire life.<\/p>\n Seeking professional help or advice is often the only thing that can make them feel better about themselves and everything they’ve gone through.<\/p>\n 10 Things To Remember When You Feel You\u2019re Not Good Enough<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Now that we’re done with the list of common reasons for not feeling good enough, it’s time to dive into the self-help department.<\/p>\n Sempre que come\u00e7ar a sentir-se assim, lembre-se das seguintes coisas:<\/p>\n Todos temos o nosso cr\u00edtico interior dentro de n\u00f3s, mas alguns s\u00e3o mais barulhentos e outros menos intrusivos. O que precisa de fazer \u00e9 pensar porque \u00e9 que teve aquele pensamento negativo em primeiro lugar.<\/p>\n Do you repeat in your head that you’re too lazy because you haven’t done something yet? In that case, you should start doing something about it. You should roll up your sleeves and start working.<\/p>\n And you should tell yourself that your unwillingness to do something at the moment doesn’t make you lazy or a bad person.<\/p>\n We all have days when we’re a little off and we’re less motivated to do our daily tasks.<\/p>\n That doesn’t make us less worthy or not good enough. It’s time to start making a difference and prevent that inner critic from turning you into a slave of your own thoughts!<\/p>\n Whenever you start feeling like you’re not good enough, it’s important to detach yourself from that illusion.<\/p>\n Tem de mudar a sua mentalidade para uma mais positiva, que o ajudar\u00e1 a destruir a negativa.<\/p>\n Think about all the happy moments from the past, your achievements, something nice you’ve done for someone; think about your loved ones and all the other things that make your heart beat faster.<\/p>\n \u00c9 preciso reencontrar esse lado positivo, recordando e lembrando-se de todas as coisas positivas da sua vida!<\/strong><\/p>\n It won’t be easy at first. You’ll notice the battle between your positive and negative side, but if your stay persistent, you will most certainly succeed in making the positive one prevail!<\/p>\n Once you’re done with contemplating all the positive things in your life, it’s wise to write them down on a piece of paper so that you always have a reminder when you need it.<\/p>\n Crie uma lista de mem\u00f3rias positivas com todas as coisas positivas que se lembrar sobre si, o seu estilo de vida, a sua personalidade, etc.<\/p>\n Pense nos momentos em que se sentiu verdadeiramente feliz por fazer algo, em que fez algo inspirador e em que ajudou algu\u00e9m que precisava.<\/p>\n Once you start to feel like you\u2019re not good enough, it’s really important to remind yourself of all those things because they are your motivation and proof that you are enough.<\/p>\n Let’s face it. It has never been easier to compare yourself to others than it is nowadays.<\/p>\n Todas aquelas pessoas perfeitas na televis\u00e3o, todas aquelas pessoas ricas e perfeitas nas redes sociais, os seus vizinhos, os seus colegas de trabalho, os seus amigos, a sua fam\u00edlia. A lista \u00e9 intermin\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n There is not a single thing or a person you can’t compare yourself to (I even compare myself to my cat, yup).<\/p>\n Whenever you see someone “prettier” or who is more settled in life than you, you automatically start comparing yourself to them and, as a result, you start to feel that you\u2019re not good enough.<\/p>\n It’s important to remind yourself that the grass is not greener on the other side of the fence.<\/p>\n It’s important to be grateful for what you already have. (And it’s important to stop comparing yourself to others).<\/p>\n Ver tamb\u00e9m: Leia isto sempre que come\u00e7ar a comparar-se com uma rapariga mais bonita<\/a><\/p>\n As mentioned above, social media is one of the biggest things that can ruin our mental health and make us feel like we’ll never be good enough \u2013 no matter how hard we try.<\/p>\n Os meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o social convencem-nos de que existem vidas perfeitas e que n\u00f3s tamb\u00e9m podemos viver essa vida perfeita se come\u00e7armos a vestir-nos como eles, a comportar-nos como eles e a viver como eles.<\/p>\n In case you’re wondering who \u201cthem\u201d is, I’m referring to all those (self-proclaimed) influencers.<\/p>\n Para evitar uma overdose de compara\u00e7\u00f5es, \u00e9 preciso minimizar o tempo que se passa nas redes sociais e fazer outras coisas que, sem d\u00favida, ser\u00e3o mais gratificantes.<\/p>\n This is a great way to help you feel better instantly. Whenever you feel like you\u2019re not good enough, make a list of a few things that you could do in order to help someone, or to help yourself.<\/p>\n The accent is on doing a nice thing that will make someone’s day or doing something nice for yourself that will make you proud of yourself.<\/p>\n Pode ser qualquer coisa, desde ajudar algu\u00e9m nas suas tarefas dom\u00e9sticas at\u00e9 reorganizar o seu guarda-roupa.<\/p>\n Once you’ve done it, make sure you give yourself a pat on the back and say out loud: I did a great job! I’m freaking awesome!<\/strong><\/p>\n Uma das raz\u00f5es pelas quais muitas pessoas come\u00e7am a sentir-se mal consigo pr\u00f3prias \u00e9 o facto de s\u00f3 celebrarem as grandes vit\u00f3rias (como acabar a faculdade, arranjar um emprego ou algo semelhante).<\/p>\n Esquecem-se de todas as pequenas vit\u00f3rias que tamb\u00e9m s\u00e3o muito importantes.<\/p>\n Pequenas vit\u00f3rias como levantar-se da cama de manh\u00e3, preparar o pequeno-almo\u00e7o (estar grato pela oportunidade de preparar o pequeno-almo\u00e7o), ultrapassar os seus medos, ir ao gin\u00e1sio quando se sente mal, etc.<\/p>\n H\u00e1 milhares de pequenas vit\u00f3rias que nos acompanham ao longo do dia e, se prestarmos aten\u00e7\u00e3o a elas (e n\u00e3o apenas \u00e0s grandes), aperceber-nos-emos do nosso poder e potencial ilimitados.<\/p>\n1. Tem pressupostos ocultos sobre o mundo devido a alguns acontecimentos passados<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. You’re overly self-critical<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Rodeia-se de pessoas demasiado cr\u00edticas e\/ou julgadoras<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Teve um ou mais pais muito exigentes, cr\u00edticos ou distantes<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. O(s) seu(s) progenitor(es) n\u00e3o conseguiu(aram) oferecer-lhe estabilidade ou prote\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. You didn’t get enough attention and love as a kid<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Teve uma ou mais experi\u00eancias traum\u00e1ticas no passado<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n1. You don’t have to be a slave to your inner critic<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Mudar a sua mentalidade para uma mais positiva<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Criar uma lista de mem\u00f3rias positivas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Deixar de se comparar com os outros<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Minimizar o tempo que passa nas redes sociais<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Aumente a sua autoestima fazendo algumas coisas boas para si ou para os outros<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Celebrar as grandes e pequenas vit\u00f3rias<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8. Desabafar far\u00e1 com que se sinta melhor instantaneamente<\/h2>\n
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