{"id":72911,"date":"2020-05-19T12:49:26","date_gmt":"2020-05-19T12:49:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=72911"},"modified":"2021-11-22T19:24:11","modified_gmt":"2021-11-22T19:24:11","slug":"como-comunicar-com-os-homens","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-comunicar-com-os-homens\/","title":{"rendered":"Como comunicar com os homens: 16 maneiras de comunicar melhor"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Desde o in\u00edcio dos tempos, a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o entre homens e mulheres tem sido um mist\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n<p>Even though guys also try hard to understand girls, the truth is that women are usually the ones wondering how to communicate with men and doing their best to see inside a man&#8217;s brain.<\/p>\n<p>How to be a better communicator? How to be understood and listened to? How to communicate with a man who can\u2019t seem to have a mature conversation?<\/p>\n<p>Well, you&#8217;ve come to the right place because you&#8217;re about to get all the answers you need. Here are 16 tips on how to communicate with men.<\/p>\n<h2>1. Compreender que os homens e as mulheres comunicam de forma diferente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72953\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"casal multirracial a conversar sentado ao lado um do outro\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/multiracial-couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Most women are wondering how to have better communication with a guy who clearly doesn&#8217;t want to have or is not capable of having an adult conversation which surpasses everyday small talk.<\/p>\n<p>At first glance, it might appear to you that your boyfriend simply doesn\u2019t have the communication skills needed for a mature relationship.<\/p>\n<p>It seems that you&#8217;re a better communicator and that he doesn\u2019t know how to or doesn&#8217;t want to maintain healthy and effective communication.<\/p>\n<p>Well, that\u2019s actually not true. In fact, most miscommunication between couples comes from the fact that a man&#8217;s brain functions differently from a woman&#8217;s.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about the saying that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.<\/p>\n<p>It means that sometimes we\u2019re polar opposites and have little in common when it comes to certain things.<\/p>\n<p>Antes de mais, \u00e9 preciso esclarecer uma coisa: na maioria dos casos, as raparigas e os rapazes pensam de forma diferente, comportam-se de forma diferente e, por conseguinte, tamb\u00e9m falam de forma diferente.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, you can\u2019t expect your man to have the same communication skills and style as you.<\/p>\n<p>For example, us women often talk just for the sake of talking. Yes, we build relationships through communication but there are also cases where our monologues don\u2019t actually have a point.<\/p>\n<p>Por outro lado, a maioria dos homens pensa que a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o sem um objetivo claro \u00e9 absolutamente in\u00fatil.<\/p>\n<p>Also, they\u2019re not as good at reading non-verbal signals as women. Men mostly have an extremely hard time figuring out <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele\/inside-his-mind\/17-sinais-de-linguagem-corporal-de-que-ele-gosta-secretamente-de-si-e-esta-interessado-em-si\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sinais de linguagem corporal<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, knowing all of this, you understand why it\u2019s important to stop looking at things from just your point of view when you\u2019re trying to communicate effectively with a guy.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make any assumptions and instead realize that this man standing in front of you has a different style of communication.<\/p>\n<p>Get it that he probably won\u2019t understand the things you think are implied and that you have to adapt to him in a certain way if you want to be heard.<\/p>\n<h2>2. Ajustar os seus estilos de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72959\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"casal a conversar enquanto o homem l\u00ea o jornal e a mulher bebe caf\u00e9\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, even though it was already stated that men and women communicate differently, it\u2019s also true that you can\u2019t generalize a person based on their sex.<\/p>\n<p>Nem todos os homens t\u00eam o mesmo estilo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o. De acordo com a investiga\u00e7\u00e3o, existem quatro estilos de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o principais.<\/p>\n<p>When someone has a passive communication style, they usually repress their emotions and even if they\u2019re perfectly aware of them, they\u2019re not likely to openly express them.<\/p>\n<p>Estas pessoas fazem o seu melhor para evitar dramas e confrontos, o que normalmente resulta no facto de n\u00e3o serem honestas sobre os seus sentimentos ou opini\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>Pelo contr\u00e1rio, existe um estilo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o agressivo.<\/p>\n<p>People who communicate in this way usually speak loudly, to the extent that it appears like they\u2019re ordering and demanding something from the other person.<\/p>\n<p>Existe tamb\u00e9m o <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/sinais-relacao-passivo-agressiva\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">passivo-agressivo<\/a> estilo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o. Este estilo consiste em ignorar e dar o tratamento do sil\u00eancio.<\/p>\n<p>Basically, these people won\u2019t directly tell you what\u2019s bothering them.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, ao contr\u00e1rio dos comunicadores passivos, eles deixam os seus sentimentos muito claros atrav\u00e9s de outras formas, especialmente atrav\u00e9s de sinais de linguagem corporal.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, those who have an assertive communication style will speak their mind but will always take other people\u2019s needs into consideration.<\/p>\n<p>Assertive communicators are empaths who don\u2019t have trouble expressing themselves but don\u2019t make the other person the bad guy even when they feel hurt by something they did.<\/p>\n<p>Knowing all of this, now you see why it\u2019s important to have compatible styles of communication with someone you\u2019re talking to, especially if that someone is your romantic partner and the person you share your every day with.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que somos todos pessoas diferentes e que \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que voc\u00ea e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/compreender-um-homem\/\">o seu homem<\/a> entrar\u00e3o na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com estilos de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o diferentes ou mesmo opostos.<\/p>\n<p>Nesse caso, \u00e9 crucial adaptar os vossos estilos e chegar a meio caminho.<\/p>\n<p>A vossa comunica\u00e7\u00e3o nunca ser\u00e1 saud\u00e1vel ou produtiva se tiver, por exemplo, um estilo agressivo, enquanto ele \u00e9 uma pessoa mais passiva.<\/p>\n<p>In this case, you\u2019ll do all the talking, he\u2019ll pretend that he is agreeing with everything you say but will actually be repressing everything.<\/p>\n<p>Ideally, it would be great if you both could adopt assertive communication styles. This way, you\u2019ll be able to express yourself but you\u2019ll avoid unnecessary fights while doing so.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, estas coisas requerem tempo e muito trabalho pessoal.<\/p>\n<p>In the meantime, it will be enough to try and harmonize your communication styles in a manner where you\u2019ll both feel equal to each other.<\/p>\n<h2>3. Tentar ver as coisas da perspetiva dele<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72965\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room.jpg\" alt=\"casal a comunicar na sala de estar com o jornal em cima da mesa, na m\u00e3o do homem\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-the-living-room-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es, incluindo a sua, s\u00e3o uma via de dois sentidos. Isso significa que ambas as partes envolvidas t\u00eam a sua quota-parte de responsabilidade.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, isto significa que ambos t\u00eam o direito de falar. O direito de ter a vossa opini\u00e3o e sentimentos sobre um determinado assunto.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, if you want to reach a conclusion and have better communication, you have to learn to look at things from your partner\u2019s point of view.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is that all of us think we\u2019re always right. After all, we wouldn\u2019t stand behind what we believed in if we thought it was wrong, would we?<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, a verdade \u00e9 que tamb\u00e9m existem duas faces de cada moeda.<\/p>\n<p>So, even when you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re the only right one and you want to blame your boyfriend or husband for something, take a step back and try looking at the world through his eyes.<\/p>\n<p>Por um momento, tentem p\u00f4r-se no lugar dele. Como \u00e9 que ele v\u00ea toda esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o? Como \u00e9 que ele se sente?<\/p>\n<p>E o mais importante: O que deve dizer para que este homem a compreenda realmente? Como deve agir para que ele compreenda as suas palavras e para que cheguem finalmente a um acordo?<\/p>\n<h2>4. Falar com ele pessoalmente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72971\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out.jpg\" alt=\"casal a conversar em fato de treino perto de uma parede de escalada\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-talking-in-working-out-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nos encontros modernos, tudo mudou, incluindo as capacidades de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o. Parece que tudo gira em torno de mensagens de texto, chamadas telef\u00f3nicas ou redes sociais.<\/p>\n<p>When you want someone to get your message, you\u2019ll probably post a status update or a quote dedicated to them, expecting them to understand what you\u2019re trying to say.<\/p>\n<p>Or you\u2019ll just text them; after all, it\u2019s much easier to write down everything that&#8217;s been bothering you than to say it face to face.<\/p>\n<p>Quando envia a algu\u00e9m um <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/o-que-enviar-a-um-rapaz-para-chamar-a-sua-atencao-60-textos-que-funcionam-como-um-encanto\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">mensagem de texto<\/a>evita o risco de ser interrompido.<\/p>\n<p>Tem tempo suficiente para exprimir as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es da melhor forma poss\u00edvel, pode verificar tudo o que escreveu v\u00e1rias vezes e pode preparar o seu ensaio durante dias at\u00e9 obter a forma perfeita.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, est\u00e1 a salvo da possibilidade de o seu nervosismo estragar tudo.<\/p>\n<p>The other person won\u2019t hear your voice shaking, you won\u2019t get tongue-tied, they won\u2019t see your palms sweating and you won\u2019t start crying in the middle of making a point.<\/p>\n<p>This is especially the case when it comes to some \u2018difficult\u2019 talks.<\/p>\n<p>You won\u2019t chicken out when you see the other person\u2019s reaction to your words and you won\u2019t give up in the middle of your speech and change your mind about whatever you wanted to say.<\/p>\n<p>Sim, a verdade \u00e9 que falar com algu\u00e9m pelo telefone ou enviar-lhe uma mensagem de texto parece ser mais f\u00e1cil. No entanto, n\u00e3o \u00e9 o caminho a seguir numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o s\u00e9ria.<\/p>\n<p>Claro que pode enviar mensagens de texto ao seu namorado sobre coisas irrelevantes e as suas mensagens podem conter conversa fiada.<\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, when you want to address an important topic, it\u2019s always best to talk to him in person.<\/p>\n<p>First of all, this way, you\u2019ll show your strength and determination. You\u2019ll show him that you\u2019re not a coward who hides behind the screen of her phone.<\/p>\n<p>Besides, when you\u2019re talking face to face, there is no running away. There is no leaving one another\u2019s text messages on read, turning off your phone or not answering.<\/p>\n<p>Nunca se esque\u00e7am que s\u00e3o adultos e que devem comportar-se em conformidade.<\/p>\n<h2>5. Ser respeitoso<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72975\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking.jpg\" alt=\"dois casais a conversar ao ar livre com comida na mesa de centro\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/two-couples-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Even when they don\u2019t show it, all men have a fragile ego. The things they hate the most are being insulted, put down, or humiliated.<\/p>\n<p>Isto aplica-se especialmente \u00e0 sua masculinidade. Todos os homens gostam de sentir que s\u00e3o suficientemente homens para as suas mulheres e, se insultar a sua masculinidade, tudo o resto se torna em v\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Por conseguinte, a regra n\u00famero um para uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel com o seu namorado ou marido \u00e9 o respeito.<\/p>\n<p>Trust me\u2014you won\u2019t go anywhere if you show him that you don\u2019t respect him as a person or as your partner.<\/p>\n<p>Por muito que se ache que ele est\u00e1 errado, n\u00e3o deve haver insultos.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t try to ruin his self-esteem and increase <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-sinais-de-que-ele-e-emocionalmente-inseguro-nao-se-preocupe-em-namorar\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">as suas inseguran\u00e7as<\/a>. Even when you disagree with him, don\u2019t devalue his opinion.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t question his intelligence or wit. This is especially important when you\u2019re communicating in front of others.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, respecting your man doesn\u2019t have to include you nodding your head and agreeing with everything he has to say just not to hurt his feelings.<\/p>\n<p>Becoming a better communicator doesn\u2019t include you being a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/8-sinais-de-que-e-uma-pessoa-que-gosta-de-agradar-as-pessoas\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">agradar \u00e0s pessoas<\/a> just to boost your guy\u2019s ego.<\/p>\n<p>De facto, tem todo o direito de lhe chamar a aten\u00e7\u00e3o para as suas ac\u00e7\u00f5es ou de lhe dizer que ele est\u00e1 errado. No entanto, a chave est\u00e1 na forma como o faz.<\/p>\n<h2>6. Utilizar afirma\u00e7\u00f5es positivas<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72977\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed.jpg\" alt=\"casal sobre o homem que fala, com camisola e cal\u00e7as pretas \" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-on-the-bed-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re wondering how to communicate with men, the important thing is not to be negative while trying to make a point. Instead, try using positive statements while talking to your guy.<\/p>\n<p>O que s\u00e3o afirma\u00e7\u00f5es positivas e em que \u00e9 que diferem das negativas?<\/p>\n<p>Well, for example, let\u2019s say that you want to tell your partner that you\u2019re bothered by the amount of time you two spend together.<\/p>\n<p>You feel emotionally neglected and think that he isn\u2019t giving you enough of his attention.<\/p>\n<p>Your first impulse will probably be to attack him. It\u2019s to tell him that everyone and everything seems to be more important than you and to accuse him of not loving you enough.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 aqui que se engana. Cada uma destas frases \u00e9 uma afirma\u00e7\u00e3o negativa e tem o potencial de se transformar numa luta desnecess\u00e1ria, em vez de lhe dar o que pretende.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, it\u2019s time to change your ways of communicating. Instead of telling your partner any of the things mentioned above, try using a different approach.<\/p>\n<p>Por exemplo, diga-lhe quanto <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/depois-de-todo-este-tempo-ainda-sinto-a-tua-falta\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">tem saudades dele<\/a> e que gostaria de passar mais tempo com ele. Proponha uma atividade que vos agrade a ambos.<\/p>\n<p>Also, tell him that you\u2019re aware of all the good things he does for your relationship. State that you\u2019re not criticizing him and that you\u2019re only looking for ways to improve things between you two.<\/p>\n<h2>7. Escolher o local e a hora certos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72989\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de cabelo encaracolado com telem\u00f3vel e conta, sentada enquanto fala com uma pessoa\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/curly-haired-woman-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you\u2019re trying to figure out how to communicate with men and become a better communicator, two more important aspects are the time and place of your talks.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t start some important topics while you two are in a crowded place or with friends. First and foremost, you can\u2019t hear each other properly this way, let alone have healthy communication.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t do it while he\u2019s busy and in the middle of something. This way, your man won\u2019t be able to give you his full attention and completely focus on your discussion.<\/p>\n<p>When it comes to choosing the place for your communication, make sure it\u2019s somewhere where you both feel safe and comfortable. If you two live together, the best place is your home.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you\u2019re dating and still haven\u2019t moved in together, try choosing a neutral place.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t do the talking in your home because he might feel like you could kick him out if things get nasty and don\u2019t do it in his either because that is his space and you\u2019ll feel like you\u2019re being rude for calling him out on something in his own home.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, o biorritmo de ambos \u00e9 importante. Algumas pessoas s\u00e3o rabugentas quando se levantam, por isso, talvez n\u00e3o queira iniciar um assunto s\u00e9rio antes de tomar o seu primeiro caf\u00e9 da manh\u00e3.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, some don\u2019t function well at night after a long day so if you\u2019re one of those couples, avoid discussions before bedtime.<\/p>\n<h2>8. Cuidado com o tom de voz<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73005\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"casal s\u00e9rio a conversar mulher de top azul com livros entre eles\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/serious-couple-talking-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Muitas pessoas levantam a voz para tentar marcar uma posi\u00e7\u00e3o. Na maioria dos casos, nem sequer temos consci\u00eancia de que o estamos a fazer e estamos convencidos de que o nosso tom \u00e9 completamente normal.<\/p>\n<p>Este tipo de rea\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 completamente natural.<\/p>\n<p>You want to be heard and understood so desperately that you subconsciously start raising the tone of your voice in order for the other person to really get what you\u2019re trying to tell them.<\/p>\n<p>However, this approach will bring you more bad than good. Your partner will feel that you\u2019re attacking him and he won\u2019t listen to your point.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, he\u2019ll only hear you yelling at him and disregard the bottom line of what you\u2019re trying to tell him.<\/p>\n<p>Consequently, he\u2019ll feel the need to defend himself and you two will just end up fighting, without reaching any kind of conclusion.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, you shouldn\u2019t be too quiet either. This way, you\u2019ll just appear as being too scared to speak your mind and to say what you want.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, do your best to find the perfect balance while choosing the right words. Be certain about what you\u2019re saying without shouting and screaming.<\/p>\n<p>Try hard to remain as calm as possible and don&#8217;t raise your tone of voice. Don\u2019t lose your patience and don\u2019t let this conversation turn into a yelling competition.<\/p>\n<h2>9. Faz com que ele se concentre<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72999\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de p\u00e9 em frente a homem com casaco de cabedal\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-standing-in-front-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As mulheres nascem para ser multitarefas. Pelo contr\u00e1rio, esta n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma qualidade que a maioria dos homens possua e esse \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m um dos problemas mais comuns na comunica\u00e7\u00e3o entre homens e mulheres.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, it\u2019s crucial for your guy to be completely concentrated on what you\u2019re saying. If you want to have a successful conversation, you simply have to find a way to get him to focus on it.<\/p>\n<p>Isto significa que deve livrar-se de todas as distrac\u00e7\u00f5es poss\u00edveis. Diga-lhe que quer falar com ele sobre algo importante e pe\u00e7a-lhe toda a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Certifique-se de que mant\u00e9m <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/5-coisas-que-ele-esta-a-tentar-dizer-usando-um-contacto-visual-prolongado\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">contacto visual<\/a> e que as suas express\u00f5es faciais demonstram a sua seriedade.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t look away while you two are talking and don&#8217;t turn your conversation into background noise while you&#8217;re busy making lunch or doing something else.<\/p>\n<p>I know that sometimes you don\u2019t want to make a big deal about the things you want to say so you just casually mention them and expect your partner to listen to you and understand what you are trying to tell him.<\/p>\n<p>However, I\u2019ll have to burst your bubble and tell you that this is not likely to happen.<\/p>\n<p>Se queres que ele <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-razoes-pelas-quais-o-seu-homem-nao-a-leva-a-serio-de-todo\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">levar-vos a s\u00e9rio<\/a>Para isso, tem de se certificar de que tem toda a aten\u00e7\u00e3o dele e que ele est\u00e1 concentrado na conversa.<\/p>\n<h2>10. Ser concreto e direto<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73017\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe.jpg\" alt=\"casal a comunicar num caf\u00e9 com o homem a segurar uma ch\u00e1vena e a mulher a rir\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-communicating-in-cafe-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Here is the tough part\u2014whenever you\u2019re communicating with men, you have to be concrete and direct.<\/p>\n<p>Tem de verbalizar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e pensamentos em pormenor se quiser ser compreendido da forma correcta.<\/p>\n<p>The truth which most women fail to accept is that men don\u2019t take hints.<\/p>\n<p>They don\u2019t understand mixed signals, have zero capacity for reading between the lines and, most importantly, they\u2019re not mind readers.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, if you expect your partner to know that he\u2019s been doing something wrong just because it is clear and logical for you, think again.<\/p>\n<p>Se esperas que ele perceba isso <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/carta-aberta-homem-ferido\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">he\u2019s been hurting you<\/a> with a certain behavior without you pointing out his mistake, you\u2019ll be disappointed.<\/p>\n<p>Se espera que ele mude por ser passivo-agressivo ou por lhe dar a <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/7-formas-de-reagir-ao-tratamento-silencioso-na-sua-relacao\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">tratamento silencioso<\/a>, trust me that you\u2019ll be waiting for ages but nothing will happen.<\/p>\n<p>If you want him to magically know how you feel and what you think, you\u2019ll get nowhere.<\/p>\n<p>All of this means just one thing\u2014when it comes to men, there is no beating around the bush. Instead, if you expect success, explain to your guy in detail everything you want to say.<\/p>\n<h2>11. Alcan\u00e7ar a igualdade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73019\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking.jpg\" alt=\"casal feliz a conversar nos degraus do parque com muitas folhas secas no ch\u00e3o\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/happy-couple-talking-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Como j\u00e1 dissemos, uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 uma via de dois sentidos.<\/p>\n<p>Among other things, that also means that you\u2019re both equal partners and that one person should never be dominant over the other when it comes to open communication and problem solving, among other things.<\/p>\n<p>Isto \u00e9 especialmente importante quando se trata de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, se quisermos que esta seja saud\u00e1vel. Ambos t\u00eam o mesmo direito de falar, de ter uma opini\u00e3o e de sentir o que quiserem.<\/p>\n<p>So, please, make sure you don\u2019t fall into a trap many women sadly get themselves into. Don\u2019t act like your partner is a little child.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/5-sinais-de-que-es-mae-e-nao-namorada\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">n\u00e3o a sua m\u00e3e<\/a> or his teacher and you\u2019re not there to parent him.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re not there to show him how to live his life or teach him anything so there is absolutely no need to use a condescending tone or any words which will make him feel inferior.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, this goes both ways as well. Don\u2019t allow him to treat you like he is above you either.<\/p>\n<p>Remember that you can\u2019t have healthy communication as long as one of you is afraid of the other in any way. I\u2019m not talking about the possibility of actual <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/os-verdadeiros-homens-protegem-as-suas-mulheres-nao-abusam-delas\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abuso<\/a> de qualquer tipo aqui.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m talking about the fact that you\u2019re, for example, scared of your boyfriend\u2019s reaction if you tell him something he doesn\u2019t agree with or if you avoid going against the grain just not to provoke an argument or you even think that he might leave you if you tell him something he doesn\u2019t like.<\/p>\n<p>Neste cen\u00e1rio, nunca se pode ser honesto ou aberto com a pessoa amada. Naturalmente, isto traz muita insatisfa\u00e7\u00e3o e problemas para o futuro.<\/p>\n<h2>12. Ser t\u00e3o r\u00e1pido quanto poss\u00edvel<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73021\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables.jpg\" alt=\"casal a colher legumes numa horta comunit\u00e1ria\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-harvesting-vegetables-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When you were told to tell your partner how you feel and what you think in detail, it doesn\u2019t mean that your conversations should last an entire day.<\/p>\n<p>In detail means being specific but it doesn\u2019t have to include long conversations.<\/p>\n<p>De facto, est\u00e1 cientificamente provado que os homens t\u00eam uma capacidade de aten\u00e7\u00e3o mais curta do que as mulheres.<\/p>\n<p>Your partner is no exception so it is likely that he\u2019ll lose focus after some time and that he\u2019ll just remain physically present in the room, without actually listening to you.<\/p>\n<p>Well, in order to avoid this, it\u2019s important not to make tiring speeches. Instead, be as quick as possible and get to the point.<\/p>\n<p>Cut to the chase. Don\u2019t make long introductions and conclusions and just speak about what\u2019s important. Instead, split this conversation into a few shorter ones.<\/p>\n<p>On the other hand, if you see that he has stopped listening but you still haven\u2019t finished or you haven\u2019t reached a conclusion, end the conversation.<\/p>\n<p>N\u00e3o faz sentido ter mon\u00f3logos sem qualquer feedback.<\/p>\n<p>Eu sei que quer fazer o trabalho imediatamente, mas acredite que isso ter\u00e1 um efeito melhor a longo prazo na vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<h2>13. Be honest about your feelings\u2026<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com um problema enquanto o homem a tenta consolar\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-having-problem-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>A base de cada <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/15-characteristics-of-a-healthy-and-mature-relationship\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> \u00e9 uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta e a base de toda a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o eficaz \u00e9 a honestidade.<\/p>\n<p>You can\u2019t expect to achieve anything or to reach your goals if you lie to or deceive the person you\u2019re talking to.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, you simply must be one hundred percent honest about your feelings and thoughts when communicating with your guy and this can\u2019t be stressed enough.<\/p>\n<p>Antes de mais, \u00e9 preciso ser honesto consigo pr\u00f3prio. Tem de ter a capacidade de reconhecer as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, de as aceitar e, finalmente, de as avaliar antes de as apresentar \u00e0 sua cara-metade.<\/p>\n<p>However, remember that feelings are always subjective. Therefore, you\u2019re not the judge of any conversation.<\/p>\n<p>You have the right to say how things make you feel and how certain events look from your point of view. However, this doesn\u2019t mean that your side of the story is the only real one.<\/p>\n<p>Finally, please don\u2019t be ashamed of your emotions. They don\u2019t make you weak and you won\u2019t appear desperate if you acknowledge them.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, ser honesto sobre os seus sentimentos e defend\u00ea-los \u00e9 um sinal de maturidade. Ser <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/her\/alpha\/vulneravel-principal-carateristica-mulher-forte\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">vulner\u00e1vel \u00e9 um sinal de uma incr\u00edvel for\u00e7a interior<\/a> n\u00e3o s\u00e3o muitos os que o fizeram.<\/p>\n<h2>14. \u2026 but don\u2019t be a drama queen<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73029\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a chorar e homem a consol\u00e1-la segurando-lhe nos ombros\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/woman-crying-and-man-consoling-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Nevertheless, it\u2019s crucial not to behave like a drama queen while you\u2019re trying to argue or just communicate with your forever person.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t be a spoiled brat and stop thinking that the earth revolves around you because guess what? It\u2019s not.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, don\u2019t even talk to your partner unless you calm yourself down first. Sometimes it\u2019s better to cool down and let time be your ally before saying or doing some things you might regret later on.<\/p>\n<p>Por conseguinte, se o seu parceiro fez algo que o magoou, mas sabe que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/para-o-tipo-que-magoou-a-boa-rapariga-enquanto-ele-estava-a-magoar\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">sente-se demasiado magoado<\/a> now to talk to him calmly, leave this topic for tomorrow. Sleep it off and don\u2019t react impulsively.<\/p>\n<p>There is no point in making a big fuss about everything. Men don\u2019t like arguing and will mostly react negatively to constant drama, fights and scandals.<\/p>\n<h2>15. Don\u2019t be accusatory<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73035\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa.jpg\" alt=\"casal a discutir no sof\u00e1 enquanto a mulher segura um telem\u00f3vel\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-on-sofa-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Whether we like to admit this or not, every couple fights. Arguments and miscommunication are a part of all relationships and there don\u2019t exist two people who never had the slightest disagreement.<\/p>\n<p>Por conseguinte, parece que as brigas ocasionais fazem parte da comunica\u00e7\u00e3o. Todos n\u00f3s gostar\u00edamos de as evitar, mas essas s\u00e3o expectativas irrealistas.<\/p>\n<p>However, arguments don\u2019t have to be bad for a relationship. In fact, they can actually help you on your path toward healthier communication.<\/p>\n<p>Como v\u00eaem, o mais importante <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/conselhos-de-relacionamento-para-mulheres-12-coisas-empoderadoras-que-deve-saber\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> here is to understand this: You two are not fighting with each other, you\u2019re fighting against the problem you\u2019re dealing with.<\/p>\n<p>At least, that\u2019s how things should be; you two should work together toward problem solving.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, there is absolutely no point in engaging in different blame games. You\u2019ll get nowhere if you keep on accusing each other and trying to put the blame on one person only.<\/p>\n<p>Take over your share of the responsibility, be open about everything that\u2019s been bothering you and work united toward a solution.<\/p>\n<h2>16. Evitar pressupostos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73046\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors.jpg\" alt=\"casal a discutir ao ar livre com uma mulher a usar um top cinzento \" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/couple-arguing-outdoors-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re trying to figure out how to communicate with men in the best way possible, one of the things you have to do is get rid of all possible assumptions you might have.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t make conclusions on your own and don\u2019t create different scenarios in your head, which probably have nothing to do with reality and are only based on fragments of truth.<\/p>\n<p>Here is what I\u2019m talking about; if, for example, you suspect that your <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/flirting-is-cheating-7-ways-to-be-unfaithful-without-even-knowing-it\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">o namorado est\u00e1 a ser infiel<\/a>confront\u00e1-lo sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n<p>Don\u2019t spend days or weeks imagining different scenarios and reaching your own conclusion before even discussing things with him.<\/p>\n<p>Sim, este exemplo pode parecer demasiado brutal, mas o resultado final \u00e9 praticamente o mesmo em todas as situa\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n<p>Se tem alguma pergunta a fazer ao seu namorado ou c\u00f4njuge, ele \u00e9 o \u00fanico que lhe pode dar as respostas de que necessita.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-73320\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest..jpg\" alt=\"Como comunicar com os homens: 16 maneiras de comunicar melhor\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest..jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/How-To-Communicate-With-Men_-16-Ways-To-Have-Better-Communication-Pinterest.-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>From the beginning of time, male-female communication has been a mystery. Even though guys also try hard to understand girls, the truth is that women are usually the ones wondering how to communicate with men and doing their best to see inside a man&#8217;s brain. How to be a better communicator? 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