{"id":72987,"date":"2020-05-13T15:55:49","date_gmt":"2020-05-13T15:55:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=72987"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:44:34","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:44:34","slug":"sinais-de-que-esta-casado-com-uma-mulher-egoista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sinais-de-que-esta-casado-com-uma-mulher-egoista\/","title":{"rendered":"13 sinais infelizes de que voc\u00ea est\u00e1 casado com uma esposa ego\u00edsta"},"content":{"rendered":"

According to most marriage advice, selflessness is a crucial part of every healthy relationship and good marriage. However, more and more marriages and relationships face the same problem\u2014the problem of a selfish wife or a selfish husband.<\/p>\n

A selfish wife is one who only looks after her own needs and is interested in her own life. One who rarely takes her husband’s feelings into consideration, who wants everything to go her way and who thinks that the world revolves around her.<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Well, in that case, you should definitely check out these unpleasant signs that you have a selfish wife, which will also help you understand how to deal with a selfish partner.<\/p>\n

1. Ela espera que estejas sempre l\u00e1 para ela, mas nunca retribui o favor<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Num casamento saud\u00e1vel, \u00e9 natural que tanto o marido como a mulher estejam presentes um para o outro, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/p>\n

After some years of marriage, you two become one another\u2019s melhores amigos<\/a> e o maior apoio na doen\u00e7a e na sa\u00fade e nos dias bons e maus, tal como dizem os vossos votos de casamento.<\/p>\n

However, in your marriage, things don\u2019t actually work that way. In fact, when you have a selfish spouse, she expects you to always be there for her but the first time you ask her to return the favor, she denies you it.<\/p>\n

Ela quer que a ou\u00e7a, que a fa\u00e7a avan\u00e7ar, que a inspire e que acredite nela. Acima de tudo, esta mulher quer que lhe enxugues as l\u00e1grimas, que lhe ponhas um sorriso no rosto e que lhe d\u00eas o apoio de que precisa.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, she never treats you the same. In fact, when you\u2019re going through any kind of trouble, she is nowhere to be found.<\/p>\n

O seu parceiro ego\u00edsta<\/a> n\u00e3o est\u00e1 l\u00e1 para o confortar, ser o vento sob as suas asas ou um ombro para chorar, s\u00e3o sinais claros de ego\u00edsmo.<\/p>\n

2. S\u00f3 se preocupa com as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Dar prioridade a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 \u00f3timo e n\u00e3o \u00e9 de forma alguma uma forma de comportamento ego\u00edsta, mesmo depois de anos de casamento. Colocar a sua felicidade em primeiro lugar \u00e9 algo que todos n\u00f3s dever\u00edamos fazer.<\/p>\n

However, you and your wife are now a team and you should be united. You\u2019re equal partners in crime and nobody is more important than the other. At least, that is how things should be.<\/p>\n

Well, if you\u2019re dealing with a selfish wife, her needs will always come before yours. Her satisfaction and pleasure are the most significant things in the world, while yours don\u2019t even matter.<\/p>\n

Selfish wives don’t care about how their husband feels. They’re not interested in their well being and all they care about is themselves.<\/p>\n

3. She doesn\u2019t take responsibility<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o uma via de dois sentidos. Isso significa que ambas as pessoas envolvidas t\u00eam de tentar fazer com que a rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcione. \u00c9 imposs\u00edvel que uma das partes assuma todas as culpas e seja sempre culpada pelas coisas m\u00e1s que acontecem.<\/p>\n

That is exactly what\u2019s happening in your married life; you\u2019re always the one your wife blames for literally everything that\u2019s not perfect or okay.<\/p>\n

Esta mulher nunca assume a responsabilidade pelas suas palavras e ac\u00e7\u00f5es. Em vez disso, ela acende a luz do g\u00e1s<\/a> into thinking that you\u2019re guilty, even when she\u2019s the one who made a mistake.<\/p>\n

When your wife apologizes, she doesn\u2019t do it sincerely from the heart. Somehow, she always finds a way to tell you that you provoked her into treating you badly or that you\u2019re the cause of her toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

All of this is a sign that this woman doesn\u2019t actually care much about your feelings and that she is the selfish partner here. She is obviously playing with your subconscious, trying to make you look like the bad guy at all times, even though the truth is much different.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fool yourself by thinking that she doesn\u2019t see how things really are. She is perfectly aware that she also carries a part of the responsibility for bad things going on in your marriage but she deliberately chooses not to.<\/p>\n

4. She doesn\u2019t listen to you<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Has it ever happened to you that you feel like your spouse doesn\u2019t pay any attention whatsoever to the things you\u2019re saying? That she actually doesn\u2019t put any effort into understanding your points of view and getting to the bottom of your personality, despite the fact that she is your life partner?<\/p>\n

Well, in that case, I\u2019m sorry to break it to you but you\u2019re dealing with a selfish wife. You have a wife who doesn\u2019t give a damn about what you have to tell her, who doesn\u2019t even try to understand you and who is always too busy to hear you out.<\/p>\n

When you come to think about it, you have pretty poor communication in your marriage and mostly, it\u2019s your wife\u2019s fault. She is the one who doesn\u2019t take your opinion into consideration and who never stops for a minute just to hear you out.<\/p>\n

5. She doesn\u2019t take part in your interests<\/h2>\n

\"dois<\/p>\n

Tu e a tua mulher s\u00e3o dois indiv\u00edduos distintos. S\u00f3 porque voc\u00eas se tornaram um casal<\/a>, it doesn\u2019t mean that you ceased to exist as two different people.<\/p>\n

However, when you love someone, you\u2019ll try your best to be included in their life. You\u2019ll put an effort into liking the things they like, just to have something in common to share.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, your wife doesn\u2019t take part in your interests at all. She refuses to get involved in something you enjoy doing, even though she knows it would make you happy.<\/p>\n

For her, it is too much of a sacrifice to watch an action movie for the sake of your love, even if she prefers romantic comedies, to accompany you to a concert of your favorite band even if she doesn\u2019t enjoy listening to them or to watch a football match with you every once in a while.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014nobody is asking her to change her tastes in music, movies or food. However, it would be nice of her to make some compromises because of you.<\/p>\n

6. Ela \u00e9 mandona<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing if you\u2019re the type of guy who likes dominant women. You don\u2019t feel threatened if you have a wife who knows what she wants from life and who doesn\u2019t hesitate to take it, and also who is completely independente .<\/a><\/p>\n

No entanto, \u00e9 completamente diferente quando ela \u00e9 mandona e lhe d\u00e1 ordens, pois isso \u00e9 algo que s\u00f3 as pessoas ego\u00edstas fazem.<\/p>\n

Ever since you two got married, she\u2019s been ordering you around. Everything has to be her way and she expects you to blindly obey her and follow her instructions.<\/p>\n

The moment you do something she doesn\u2019t like, problems arise. It appears that she only loves you until you allow her to treat you like her subordinate.<\/p>\n

This woman doesn\u2019t understand that a happy marriage is all about equality. She doesn\u2019t let you take part in the decision-making process when it comes to your life and acts like she owns you or as if you’re her doormat.<\/p>\n

Compromise is an unknown word to this woman. She wouldn\u2019t make one step toward meeting you halfway even if her life depended on it.<\/p>\n

7. She threatens to leave when things don\u2019t go her way<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest; in every marriage and romantic relationship there comes a moment when one of you threatens to leave in the heat of an argument.<\/p>\n

A certa altura, pensa que o seu a rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o tem futuro<\/a> and you\u2019re so angry that you see walking away as the best option you have.<\/p>\n

However, things like these escalate too often in your married life. In fact, your wife emotionally blackmails you. She threatens to leave you every time something doesn\u2019t go the way she wanted or planned and that is anything but a happy marriage.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, sente-se sem esperan\u00e7a e n\u00e3o v\u00ea qualquer sa\u00edda. Se lhe disser a sua opini\u00e3o, que n\u00e3o \u00e9 a mesma que a dela, ela provavelmente pedir\u00e1 o div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

No final do dia, se quer manter o seu casamento, n\u00e3o tem outra escolha sen\u00e3o concordar com ela. Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos que isto n\u00e3o passa de uma forma de manipula\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

8. O ego dela est\u00e1 em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

All of us should have our pride and work hard to keep our dignity. However, love should always be above these things; of course, that\u2019s if we\u2019re talking about true love.<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s not how your wife rolls. In fact, she is a self-centered person who puts her ego above your marriage and above the alleged feelings she has for you.<\/p>\n

When you two argue, she doesn\u2019t care about reaching a final conclusion. She is not interested in making your fights productive; she is only interested in proving her point and coming out of all of your arguments right and undefeated.<\/p>\n

Looking at things from this perspective, you\u2019ll admit that for your selfish wife, her ego is more important than you and the future of your marriage.<\/p>\n

9. Ela \u00e9 financeiramente irrespons\u00e1vel<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Provavelmente, ambos t\u00eam emprego e as vossas pr\u00f3prias fontes de rendimento, o que \u00e9 \u00f3timo. Afinal de contas, todas as pessoas neste mundo deveriam, idealmente, ser financeiramente independentes, independentemente do seu estado civil.<\/p>\n

However, you\u2019re no longer dating. From the day you got married, you both agreed to share a life together. Not only that\u2014you live in the same household as well. Therefore, it would be logical that you share both your incomes and costs.<\/p>\n

No entanto, a sua mulher \u00e9 incrivelmente irrespons\u00e1vel no que diz respeito a quest\u00f5es financeiras. Ela age como se o dinheiro fosse s\u00f3 dela, enquanto o seu sal\u00e1rio \u00e9 para ser partilhado e gasto em conjunto por voc\u00eas os dois.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014nobody is claiming that your wife shouldn\u2019t have her own money. However, it is certainly not fair that she expects you to cover all the expenses of your marriage while she wastes her entire paycheck on herself, as if you don\u2019t exist and as if you two are not family members.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, haver\u00e1 sempre dinheiro suficiente em casa para os desejos dela. Ela tem o direito de se mimar a si pr\u00f3pria, enquanto voc\u00ea deve gerir o dinheiro que sobra.<\/p>\n

10. She doesn\u2019t appreciate you<\/h2>\n

\"namorada<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re involved with a real woman, she\u2019ll know how to appreciate everything you do for her.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that she has to be eternally grateful for the fact that you\u2019re a bom marido<\/a> but she\u2019ll certainly respect all the sacrifices you make for the sake of your marriage and everything you do to make her happy.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, your wife is selfish because she takes you for granted. She doesn\u2019t appreciate you and acts as if she\u2019s not happy to have such a great man like you by her side.<\/p>\n

11. Ela toma todas as decis\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Selfishness, the same way as selflessness, can sometimes be seen in little, seemingly irrelevant things. One of the signs that your spouse is selfish is that they\u2019re the one making all the choices and decisions about your life together.<\/p>\n

For example, you two always go on vacation to the places she wants to visit. It doesn\u2019t matter whether you prefer the mountains over the seaside; you\u2019ll always put your desires aside, try your best to please her and do things her way.<\/p>\n

The same goes for some everyday stuff. You\u2019ll always spend your free time the way it suits her the best, you\u2019ll go to the restaurants where she likes to eat and you\u2019ll sleep together whenever she is in the mood.<\/p>\n

12. Ela nunca se aproxima de ti primeiro depois de uma discuss\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Todos os casais discutem. De facto, quando se casar<\/a>Quando se est\u00e1 numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, come\u00e7a-se a discutir com mais frequ\u00eancia do que quando se estava apenas numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Portanto, a quest\u00e3o do ego\u00edsmo dela n\u00e3o est\u00e1 no facto de voc\u00eas discutirem. A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que ela quase nunca o aborda primeiro depois de qualquer desentendimento que tenham tido.<\/p>\n

You might not notice this at first but if you look at things a little deeper, you\u2019ll come to the conclusion that your selfish wife actually almost never made the first step toward your reconciliation. It\u2019s like she could stay mad at you forever or continue giving you the silent treatment for the rest of your lives.<\/p>\n

Instead, you\u2019re always the one who apologizes and who tries to make things work.<\/p>\n

13. She doesn\u2019t do any work around the house<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

In a good marriage, both partners share their duties around the house. The time when it was only a woman’s job to go to the grocery store, cook and clean for the entire family while a man was there to financially provide for them, are luckily long gone.<\/p>\n

However, just because you two are equals and because you’re not a selfish man who treats his wife like a personal servant or a doormat, it doesn’t mean that it’s okay for her not to do any work around the house.<\/p>\n

De facto, a sua mulher ego\u00edsta age como se fosse uma h\u00f3spede num hotel de luxo a maior parte do tempo. Ela espera que voc\u00ea fa\u00e7a todas as tarefas, que conserte as coisas da casa, que compre comida no supermercado, que cozinhe o almo\u00e7o e assim por diante.<\/p>\n

Se os dois t\u00eam filhos, a situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 praticamente a mesma no que diz respeito a co-parentalidade<\/a> as well. It doesn’t have to mean that she completely disregards your children but the fact is that you do much more as their father than her as their mother.<\/p>\n

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