{"id":74149,"date":"2021-09-22T11:10:16","date_gmt":"2021-09-22T11:10:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=74149"},"modified":"2021-11-10T11:08:03","modified_gmt":"2021-11-10T11:08:03","slug":"ultrapassar-o-desgosto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ultrapassar-o-desgosto\/","title":{"rendered":"Como ultrapassar um desgosto de amor: 15 dicas para consertar seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido"},"content":{"rendered":"

Para todos os que est\u00e3o atualmente a passar pelo inferno chamado desgosto<\/a>… I just want to tell you that you’re in the right place because together, we’ll heal and get through it.<\/p>\n

I know that you’re <\/i>sentir-se s\u00f3<\/i><\/a> agora mesmo. Sei que te sentes como se o mundo inteiro te tivesse virado as costas.<\/i> O <\/b>dor emocional<\/b> \u00e9 avassalador, mas o medo de estar e ficar sozinho para sempre \u00e9 o que mais nos assombra e magoa, certo?<\/b><\/p>\n

Confia em mim, esse sentimento \u00e9-me muito familiar. Conhe\u00e7o-o muito bem porque j\u00e1 fui tu. O meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o tamb\u00e9m foi partido pela pessoa que eu mais amava e em quem mais confiava. Mas, como v\u00eaem, sobrevivi e, para ser sincero, nunca me senti t\u00e3o vivo em toda a minha vida.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, I think that gives me the full right to tell you that you are not alone. Because, even if the whole world leaves you, you still have yourself. So, try not to lose yourself because only then you won’t stand a chance against the heartbreak.<\/p>\n

A verdade sobre o desgosto (The One Nobody Told You)<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

I’m sure your <\/i>entes queridos<\/i> have already tried to comfort you by saying that you’ll get over it soon and forget that your heart was ever broken… that you’ll <\/i>apaixonar-se<\/i> de novo, muito em breve, e conserte o seu <\/i>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/i> with that new love. Blah, blah, blah…<\/i><\/p>\n

Well, as I’m not here to comfort you but to help you heal in the proper way, I really feel obligated to say that it’s all a bunch of crap.<\/p>\n

Do those people even know what heartbreak is? Did they ever experience it? Did they ever feel such shooting pain? I’m assuming they didn’t because they surely wouldn’t be comforting you that way.<\/p>\n

First of all, heartache hurts more than any other ache, and it definitely isn’t something that can be healed easily.<\/i><\/p>\n

Secondly, the new love doesn’t have the power to erase the old pain. It can only prolong your aching, which will make it even more painful later on.<\/i><\/p>\n

Desgosto<\/b> is beyond painful. But really, I’m thinking of the soul-ripping and heart-rending kind of pain.<\/b> And, the sooner you accept it, the sooner you’ll be able to face it and facilitate your healing.<\/p>\n

You’ll feel intense pain, both emotional and physical.<\/h3>\n

Num minuto, o seu mundo est\u00e1 tal e qual como gosta e, no outro, tudo parece estar arruinado. Todos os planos, promessas e ideias que tinha com o seu parceiro acabaram de repente.<\/p>\n

A love that you thought was stronger than anything now has nowhere to go, and it\u2019s stuck somewhere inside of you causing you to feel devastated (and curse the concept of tr\u00eas amores na vida<\/a>). <\/b><\/p>\n

You can almost feel physical pain from everything that\u2019s burning up inside of you, and it feels like it\u2019s going to rip you apart.<\/i><\/p>\n

Na verdade, Ethan Kross, o psic\u00f3logo experimental, neurocientista e escritor americano, fez um estudo sobre a intera\u00e7\u00e3o entre a dor social e a dor f\u00edsica chamado ‘<\/i>A rejei\u00e7\u00e3o social partilha representa\u00e7\u00f5es somatossensoriais com a dor f\u00edsica<\/i>‘.<\/i><\/p>\n

Resumindo, os resultados mostraram que a dor social ativa a sensibilidade som\u00e1tica <\/b>regi\u00f5es do c\u00e9rebro<\/b> que est\u00e3o associados \u00e0 nossa <\/b>sa\u00fade f\u00edsica<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, o estudo conduzido pelo psic\u00f3logo Art Aron, pela neurologista Lucy Brown e pela antrop\u00f3loga Helen Fisher mostrou que, com as emo\u00e7\u00f5es do amor rom\u00e2ntico, \u00e9 libertado no c\u00e9rebro um n\u00edvel elevado da hormona chamada dopamina. Da mesma forma que a marijuana ou a hero\u00edna.<\/p>\n

Assim, de acordo com <\/b>psiquiatria<\/b> e <\/b>neuroci\u00eancia<\/b>superar algu\u00e9m que amamos mas que nos magoou muito \u00e9 o mesmo que superar a toxicodepend\u00eancia.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cThe mind is a very powerful organ, and <\/i>desgosto<\/i> is a very powerful emotion. When the two combine, it can certainly produce a physical reaction\u201d<\/i>, diz Courtney Nesbitt, L.C.S.W.<\/p>\n

The scars last forever…<\/h3>\n

O <\/b>dor emocional<\/b> de um <\/b>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/b> est\u00e1, de facto, em sintonia com a sua dor f\u00edsica. <\/b>De facto, a maioria dos psicoterapeutas concorda que este tipo de trauma pode at\u00e9 ter os mesmos sintomas que um ataque card\u00edaco.<\/p>\n

E, tal como um <\/i>ataque card\u00edaco<\/i> podem deixar cicatrizes no vosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o, <\/i>atividade cerebral,<\/i> ou outros \u00f3rg\u00e3os, sobrevivendo a uma <\/i>desgosto<\/i> pode ter quase as mesmas consequ\u00eancias a n\u00edvel emocional e <\/i>sa\u00fade mental<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n

It’s a form of grief that won’t go away just so. It’s the type of pain that can’t be cured so easily. It takes time, and a dor vai mudar completamente a sua vida<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So, many marks and scars will be left on your heart and soul, and as much as you try, you won’t be able to get rid of them… ever. And, truth to be told, you shouldn’t even try.<\/b><\/p>\n

Que cada uma das tuas cicatrizes fique l\u00e1 para te servir de li\u00e7\u00e3o. Que elas sejam a lembran\u00e7a de toda a dor por que passaste e a prova da tua incr\u00edvel for\u00e7a e coragem.<\/i><\/p>\n

Qual \u00e9 a sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido?<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

No in\u00edcio, sente-se uma grande variedade de emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/b> Da raiva, frustra\u00e7\u00e3o e f\u00faria \u00e0 tristeza, desespero e depress\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Depois, direcciona toda a raiva e f\u00faria que sente pela pessoa que o magoou para si pr\u00f3prio<\/b>. You feel like you’ve let yourself down. Sometimes, it even evolves into self-hatred.<\/p>\n

Depois disto, come\u00e7a-se a <\/b>sentir-se completamente entorpecido<\/b><\/a>, sem qualquer tipo de emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/b> Like you’re empty from inside. And, that’s the feeling that will scare you the most.<\/p>\n

It feels like you’re left all alone in the world…<\/h3>\n

You’ll blame only the one who hurt you at the beginning. Afterward, you’ll start blaming all the people around you because you’ll feel like they’ve all betrayed you.<\/b><\/p>\n

You’ll feel completely alone, and that will break your heart even more.<\/i><\/p>\n

But, please know that no matter what your kind of blue is, you’re never alone. There are still many people who honestly love you and who are worried about your well-being.<\/p>\n

Don’t let that one person who hurt you badly make you lose faith in good people. <\/b>Your family and best friends will always be there for you, and they’re the only ones who truly count.<\/p>\n

It feels like someone is stabbing you in your chest…<\/h3>\n

Over and over again. And, the worst thing is that you can not be killed. They keep stabbing you and the pain is unbearable, but it seems like they can’t\/won\u2019t stab you to death.<\/i><\/p>\n

That kind of feeling and that intensity of pain can’t be explained simply. Only those who have experienced it know what I am talking about, and only we can sympathize with each other.<\/p>\n

Nada mais importa, ningu\u00e9m mais importa.<\/h3>\n

O <\/b>dor emocional<\/b> consome-te totalmente.<\/b> Parece que toda a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 desviada de uma forma inexplic\u00e1vel para o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o doloroso.<\/p>\n

You don’t care about anyone or anything else. You feel like your life stops here, and you’ll spend the rest of your days like a living dead.<\/i><\/p>\n

All you can think about is what is the point of living if you’re already dead inside…<\/p>\n

Ultrapassar <\/b>Desgosto<\/b>: 15 passos para a cura <\/b><\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Verdade seja dita, curar um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/a> \u00e9 t\u00e3o dif\u00edcil como parece. No entanto, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que Deus d\u00e1 as batalhas mais dif\u00edceis aos Seus soldados mais fortes.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know that you’re currently wondering if any of this is even real. And, that’s probably the trauma speaking. But, it’s real, and the sooner you face it, the sooner you’ll be able to overcome it and seguir em frente<\/a>.<\/p>\n

With my guidance and these incredibly important tips below, you’ll find a way to deal with the messy web of emotions you’re currently dealing with. Let’s make your heart able to pump love again.<\/i><\/p>\n

1. Silenciar o mundo \u00e0 sua volta<\/h3>\n

First of all… don’t get me wrong here. You’ll need to have a <\/i>apoio social<\/i> para sair deste inferno doloroso, mas primeiro, por favor, d\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio algum tempo sozinho. <\/i>Deixe o seu telem\u00f3vel e fa\u00e7a uma desintoxica\u00e7\u00e3o das redes sociais.<\/p>\n

It’s really needed for your emotional and mental <\/i>bem-estar<\/i>.<\/i><\/p>\n

I know there are many questions you have, and I promise that you’ll get all the answers, but right now, you just need to concentrar-se em si pr\u00f3prio<\/a> e enfrentar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Tens de te abra\u00e7ar a ti pr\u00f3prio e a todas as tuas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/b> Embrace them the way they are right now. I know this seems impossible and incredibly awkward, but the pain you’re feeling right now will bring you to yourself.<\/p>\n

O facto \u00e9 que nunca <\/b>saber como<\/b> forte at\u00e9 que ser forte seja a sua \u00fanica op\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/b><\/p>\n

2. Permita-se sentir os seus sentimentos<\/h3>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de bom em tentar desligar-se das suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/i>Ningu\u00e9m lhe pode dizer que as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o inadequadas ou exageradas.<\/p>\n

O que quer que sintas, n\u00e3o faz mal. Pode estar mais frio do que esperava, ou pode estar muito magoado e chorar a toda a hora.<\/p>\n

Accept your emotions for whatever they are. It\u2019s your honest emotional reaction, which means it\u2019s true and no one can tell you otherwise.<\/b><\/p>\n

O seu processo de cura deve come\u00e7ar com a aceita\u00e7\u00e3o de que tem um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido.<\/p>\n

3. But, don’t let your emotions control you<\/h3>\n

As suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o uma resposta \u00e0 sua perce\u00e7\u00e3o do mundo que o rodeia. Elas n\u00e3o s\u00e3o quem tu \u00e9s.<\/i> Your emotions don’t represent you, but they definitely can gain full control of you IF you let them.<\/b><\/p>\n

When something hurtful happens to you, something that has you questioning your entire personality, it\u2019s easy to start thinking badly about yourself.<\/p>\n

Desgosto<\/i> usually has people feeling like a completely different person, and that\u2019s normal. However, don\u2019t let this ruin your self-esteem. Don’t let this bad experience make you think any less about yourself.<\/i><\/p>\n

You are not your emotions. Your personality isn\u2019t best represented by the way you feel and <\/b>agir depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

This is one of the lows of life that everyone goes through. Going through all the stages of grief is expected, so don\u2019t let it get to you.<\/p>\n

4. Gerir o processo de cura um dia de cada vez<\/h3>\n

The post-breakup mourning period doesn\u2019t have a limit.<\/b> Algumas pessoas precisam de menos tempo e outras de mais tempo para poderem regressar \u00e0 sua vida normal.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the mourning period take over your life, but certainly <\/i>d\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio tempo suficiente<\/i><\/a> para curar.<\/i><\/p>\n

A dura\u00e7\u00e3o do processo de cura depende muito da dura\u00e7\u00e3o da rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica ou dos termos em que esta terminou.<\/p>\n

Not every heartbreak is the same, and don\u2019t let anyone try to put your healing into a certain time-frame you should respect. There is no deadline for the healing process.<\/p>\n

Make sure you take as long as you need, and don\u2019t fake that you\u2019re feeling good just to satisfy other people\u2019s (or your own) idea of how you SHOULD be doing by now. D\u00e1-lhe tempo.<\/b><\/p>\n

5. Dar prioridade aos cuidados pessoais<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Autocuidado<\/b> \u00e9 uma das etapas mais importantes do processo de <\/b>processo de cura<\/b>. <\/b>A primeira coisa que deve fazer \u00e9 criar o seu pr\u00f3prio rotina de cuidados pessoais<\/a>e envolver-se no maior n\u00famero poss\u00edvel de coisas positivas.<\/p>\n

Take care of your diet \u2013 that\u2019s the beginning of staying healthy and feeling good.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7ar a fazer exerc\u00edcio. Ser fisicamente ativo tamb\u00e9m ajudar\u00e1 a combater os sintomas de abstin\u00eancia, fazendo-o sentir-se mais feliz, mais forte e mais em contacto com as suas pr\u00f3prias necessidades.<\/b><\/p>\n

Talk about your needs… think about everything you used to do before your relationship. Is there anything you miss, like a hobby or an activity you used to do with friends?<\/p>\n

Pense em continuar de onde parou ou encontrar um novo passatempo interessante para o manter ocupado.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 ben\u00e9fico para si ter um pouco mais de cuidado com a sua apar\u00eancia. Sabe aquele clich\u00e9 em que uma mulher corta o cabelo ou pinta o cabelo logo ap\u00f3s uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o? Pois bem, isso ajuda.<\/i><\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a tudo o que o ajude a sentir-se mais confiante e mais feliz. Apaixonar-se<\/b> com o cuidar de si<\/b><\/a> e deixar que ela o conduza a uma recupera\u00e7\u00e3o total.<\/b><\/p>\n

6. Apaixonar-se (e manter-se) por si pr\u00f3prio<\/h3>\n

Francamente, isto ser\u00e1 muito dif\u00edcil de conseguir, especialmente no in\u00edcio da sua jornada de cura. <\/i>The trauma and all those negative emotions you’re feeling might make you start hating yourself.<\/p>\n

It’s an undeniable fact that this kind of experience affects your self-esteem by making you judge your own worth. You’ll start feeling like it was all your fault… like you deserved to get your heart broken.<\/i><\/p>\n

And, if you allow these feelings to consume you entirely, it’ll surely make your <\/i>processo de cura<\/i> ainda mais complicado.<\/i><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso encontrar uma forma de <\/b>lidar com esses pensamentos depressivos<\/b><\/a> e resistir-lhes. <\/b>Combata esses sentimentos que, gradualmente, mas completamente, arruinar\u00e3o a sua confian\u00e7a.<\/p>\n

Ama-te a ti pr\u00f3prio por despeito. <\/b>Show that person who TRIED to break you that you can’t be broken. As long as your heart is filled with the love you feel for yourself, it’ll be break-resistant.<\/i><\/p>\n

7. Estabelecer um sistema de apoio social<\/h3>\n

Toda a gente precisa de um <\/b>sistema de apoio<\/b>. It\u2019s pretty hard to go through any kind of heartache if you don\u2019t have your <\/b>entes queridos<\/b> ao vosso lado.<\/b><\/p>\n

Afinal, quem precisa de um treinador de vida quando se tem o seu pr\u00f3prio <\/i>melhor amigo<\/i>?!<\/i><\/p>\n

O seu melhor amigo \u00e9 normalmente a pessoa que o conhece melhor e est\u00e1 tamb\u00e9m muito bem informado sobre tudo o que se passa na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

They are the ones who can help you get over it all as soon as possible. Your loved ones play the most important part in your healing process because they’re the ones who’ll motivate you to move on and aplicar a regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

O psic\u00f3logo cl\u00ednico de Nova Iorque, Franklin A. Porter, Ph.D., diz \u201cMost everyone has been on the receiving end of a breakup at one time or another, and commiserating with them, sharing experiences, getting counsel, and being reminded you\u2019re not alone can be highly beneficial.”<\/i><\/p>\n

8. Combater a nostalgia mantendo-se realista<\/h3>\n

As pessoas t\u00eam tend\u00eancia a p\u00f4r os \u00f3culos cor-de-rosa quando est\u00e3o a passar por <\/i>desgosto,<\/i> e concentram-se nos momentos mais preciosos da rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/i><\/p>\n

A \u00faltima coisa de que precisa neste momento \u00e9 pensar em como o seu ex-companheiro era fant\u00e1stico. Crying over all the wonderful memories you built together won’t help you.<\/b> Heck, they won’t even allow you to get out of the bed.<\/p>\n

Think about the things that caused your breakup. Focus on whatever it was that you didn\u2019t like about your ex-partner. Remind yourself of all the bad things they’ve done to you and all those times they’ve hurt you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Isto ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a manter-se realista em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0s circunst\u00e2ncias em que se encontra e ajud\u00e1-lo-\u00e1 a lidar melhor com a situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

9. Mas tamb\u00e9m, concentre-se em coisas positivas<\/h3>\n

Quando sentir que est\u00e1 a come\u00e7ar a ultrapassar o desgosto<\/a>, don\u2019t let it remain a weak point in your life.<\/p>\n

Deu-te um novo individualismo, amor-pr\u00f3prio e (a longo prazo) ajudou-te a perceber quem \u00e9s e o que queres na tua vida. Aprecie isso.<\/b><\/p>\n

Praise yourself for going through a hard time and coming out stronger on the other side. Don\u2019t wallow in the pain it caused you forever.<\/i><\/p>\n

Accept it for what it was \u2013 a turning point in your life that made you see things differently, and probably opened up the possibility of meeting someone new… the person who will be the one for you.<\/p>\n

10. Construir novas rotinas<\/h3>\n

\"uma<\/h3>\n

Quando uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o termina, pode sentir-se completamente perdido porque o seu antigo parceiro era uma grande parte da sua rotina. Provavelmente, costumava fazer muitas coisas com ele, e tentar seguir exatamente a mesma rotina vai deix\u00e1-lo vazio.<\/p>\n

Criar um <\/b>nova rotina<\/b> for yourself… something that won\u2019t be tainted by the image of your <\/b>ex-companheiro(a)<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Crie algo que seja completamente seu e sinta-se feliz por ter a oportunidade de o fazer. Fa\u00e7a as coisas \u00e0 sua maneira, sem necessidade de compromissos.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t cling to the way your life looked when you were still in the relationship. Things change. Everyone gets to love, and everyone sometimes needs to let go.<\/i><\/p>\n

Make sure you don\u2019t dwell on what might have happened if you\u2019d stayed together. If you were meant to be, you wouldn\u2019t have broken up in the first place.<\/p>\n

11. Seja a pessoa maior e perdoe<\/h3>\n

You’ve probably sworn that you will never forget your <\/i>ente querido<\/i> por te ter partido o cora\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/i>I’m assuming that you promised yourself that no matter what they do, they will never be able to earn your forgiveness.<\/p>\n

No entanto, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que ser a pessoa maior faz de si SEMPRE uma pessoa melhor.<\/b><\/p>\n

E, sim <\/b>perdoar-lhes<\/b><\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7am-no para a vossa pr\u00f3pria paz de esp\u00edrito. F\u00e1-lo para saberes que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 limpo. Fa\u00e7a-o para que possa afastar-se deles de cabe\u00e7a erguida.<\/i><\/p>\n

Also, you’ll never be able to let go of the grudges as long as you don’t forgive them. And, holding on to all that resentment will only make you harbor more negative feelings and energy.<\/p>\n

12. Depois, corte todos os la\u00e7os com a pessoa que o magoou<\/h3>\n

O seu objetivo final \u00e9 criar um quadro limpo<\/b>. Quer quebrar todos os la\u00e7os que a ligam ao seu ex, especialmente a energia que sente a pux\u00e1-la.<\/p>\n

However, removing them from your life doesn’t mean that you’ll forget about them ASAP. It doesn’t mean that your heart will stop loving them. But, it’ll undoubtedly help you reach that point of feeling indifferent towards them.<\/p>\n

Contact\u00e1-los n\u00e3o \u00e9 o fim do mundo, mas vai certamente tornar todo este processo muito mais longo. Tente manter-se fiel a <\/b>a regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/b><\/a>. After all, it’s the mother of all breakups.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t seek them. It will be hard, but it\u2019s the best, if not the only way to completely recover from a broken heart.<\/p>\n

If your former partner contacts you, be honest and tell them you\u2019d prefer it if you didn\u2019t see them or hear from them for a while.<\/i><\/p>\n

Explain to them that this wish isn\u2019t a product of hard feelings they might think you have, but simply something you need to do for yourself in order to heal.<\/p>\n

13. Remember, the pain won’t last forever<\/h3>\n

Nothing lasts forever… please remember this.<\/b> Bem, nada exceto o verdadeiro amor, de facto.<\/p>\n

All the pain you’re feeling right now will go away one day, and you’ll actually start feeling thankful for it because it turned you into a whole new person.<\/i><\/p>\n

Uma pessoa mais forte. Uma pessoa mais inteligente (tanto a n\u00edvel emocional como mental). E, acima de tudo, uma pessoa mais feliz que aprecia cada momento da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Eras uma bela lagarta e esta m\u00e1 experi\u00eancia s\u00f3 te ajudou a transformares-te numa borboleta ainda mais bela.<\/b><\/p>\n

14. Follow your heart… it’ll lead you to happiness<\/h3>\n

\u00c9 claro que seguir estes passos tornar\u00e1 a sua jornada de cura muito mais f\u00e1cil. Mas tamb\u00e9m precisa de aprender a ouvir o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Just because it’s a bit damaged right now doesn’t mean that it’s completely destroyed.<\/b> O teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o continua a ser o \u00fanico que sabe realmente o que te pode fazer feliz.<\/p>\n

Your mind is currently filled with fears, and it’ll help you make only logical decisions. But, the truth is, logic will never lead you to happiness.<\/p>\n

Ou\u00e7a essa sua voz interior e tenha a coragem de <\/i>siga o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/a>. It’ll direct you onto the right path… the one filled with utter happiness and unlimited love.<\/i><\/p>\n

15. Once you feel ready… Enter the dating world again<\/h3>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

If you feel like you\u2019re ready to date or meet someone you like, <\/i>colocar-se no mundo dos encontros<\/i><\/a> novamente.<\/i><\/p>\n

There\u2019s nothing and no one stopping you from doing that. Maybe you don\u2019t feel like entering a serious relationship, and if you\u2019re only looking for a fling, be open about it with your partner.<\/p>\n

Just because you\u2019re feeling hurt doesn\u2019t mean you should intentionally hurt someone else.<\/p>\n

That won\u2019t help you… it will actually only make you feel worse about yourself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s perfectly fine to follow your instincts and voltar a namorar<\/a>Mas tenha uma longa conversa consigo pr\u00f3prio sobre o que precisa e quer de uma nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o e partilhe essas ideias com o seu parceiro.<\/p>\n

Quanto tempo dura o desgosto de amor?<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, n\u00e3o existe uma resposta definitiva para esta pergunta, porque todos n\u00f3s lidamos com a dor e o luto de forma diferente.<\/p>\n

Alguns de n\u00f3s recuperam muito rapidamente e seguem em frente com a vida. No entanto, essas s\u00e3o, de facto, apenas algumas pessoas verdadeiramente sortudas que <\/i>saber como<\/i> para lidar com <\/i>dor emocional<\/i> in an ‘easier’ way.<\/i><\/p>\n

Por outro lado, a maioria de n\u00f3s luta contra isso durante muito, muito tempo e, mesmo depois de seguirmos em frente com a nossa vida, sentimo-nos um pouco emocionalmente incapacitados.<\/b><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 quem diga que<\/i> o tempo cura todas as feridas<\/i><\/a>, while others strongly disagree with this. And, my intention isn’t to persuade you into thinking that time will indeed cure you because it truly won’t unless you cooperate. But, my <\/i>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/i> convinced me that…<\/i><\/p>\n

O tempo tem o poder m\u00e1gico de curar<\/h3>\n

Para mim, foi mesmo assim. Ainda me lembro de toda a agonia e desespero que senti no in\u00edcio. Tinha quase a certeza de que nunca seria capaz de me curar completamente e de seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

I couldn’t even imagine that I would find someone… a new love… a new happiness… a person who would save me… help me to stand on my feet again, and <\/b>apaixonar-se<\/b> comigo mesmo e com a vida novamente.<\/b><\/p>\n

But, time brought it to me. It brought all those things to me, and I couldn’t be more grateful for it all.<\/i><\/p>\n

O tempo afastou toda a tristeza e dor. Deu-me a for\u00e7a para curar, esquecer e seguir em frente. <\/b>To be honest, the wound is still there, in the depth of my heart, and it’s reminding me of everything I had to go through to become the person I am today.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 precisa de dar algum tempo<\/h3>\n

However, that ‘time’ isn’t something that happens overnight. One thing I can tell you for sure is that you won’t heal your aching heart so fast.<\/p>\n

Even though time is on your side, it still doesn’t mean that it’ll help you recover magically in a day or two. No; the only aim of time is to help you heal completely and successfully… to <\/i>ajud\u00e1-lo a seguir em frente<\/i><\/a> com a sua vida.<\/i><\/p>\n

Remember… good things take time, so please don’t rush your <\/b>processo de cura<\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

In the end, heartbreak isn’t something you need to get over… it’s something you need to go through.<\/p>\n

Encontrar o amor depois de um desgosto<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

Sei que o vosso <\/b>dor emocional<\/b> est\u00e1 a sufocar-te de dentro para fora. <\/b>You feel like you’ll never be able to find love again… to allow someone to enter your heart again… to fall honestly and unconditionally in love with someone.<\/i><\/p>\n

Depois de se curar, encontrar essa paz interior e decidir que <\/b>it’s time to move on<\/b><\/a>, you’ll understand that your heart deserves another chance…<\/b> uma segunda oportunidade para amar e ser amado da mesma forma.<\/p>\n

Compreenda que a pessoa que lhe partiu o cora\u00e7\u00e3o nunca foi a sua alma g\u00e9mea e nunca foi a pessoa com quem deve passar a sua vida. <\/i>Isso significa que o seu verdadeira alma g\u00e9mea<\/a> ainda est\u00e1 algures l\u00e1 fora.<\/p>\n

E, quando Deus decidir cruzar os vossos caminhos, estejam prontos e dispostos a deix\u00e1-lo entrar. They’ll show you what true love looks like, and they’ll be the ones who’ll glue the final piece of your <\/b>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/b> e fazer com que o amor volte a fluir atrav\u00e9s dele.<\/b><\/p>\n

Depois da chuva vem o arco-\u00edris<\/h3>\n

And, the greater the storm, the brighter the rainbow will be. That’s purely the law of mother nature.<\/i><\/p>\n

The sun will shine again. Your heart will be filled with love again, but only this time, it’ll be reciprocated in the same way and with the same intensity.<\/b><\/p>\n

And, just imagine how much you’ll love the right person if you’ve loved the wrong one that much!<\/p>\n

Cita\u00e7\u00f5es inspiradoras de desgosto para ela e para ele<\/h2>\n

\"a<\/p>\n

Sobreviver a uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 emocionalmente desgastante para cada um de n\u00f3s. Estas cita\u00e7\u00f5es de separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a> ir\u00e1 inspir\u00e1-lo a n\u00e3o desistir do seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido e a seguir em frente mais depressa.<\/p>\n

1. “Hearts can break. Yes, hearts can break. Sometimes, I think it would be better if we died when they did, but we don’t.” \u2013 Stephen King<\/p>\n

2. “No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn\u2019t stop for a vossa dor<\/a>.” \u2013 Faraaz Kazi<\/p>\n

3. “It is strange how often a heart must be broken before the years can make it wise.” \u2013 Sara Teasdale<\/b><\/p>\n

4. “Only time can heal your broken heart. Just as only time can heal his broken arms and legs.” \u2013 Miss Piggy<\/p>\n

5. “I wish I were a little girl again because skinned knees are easier to fix than a broken heart.” \u2013 Julia Roberts<\/p>\n

6. “My heart no longer felt as if it belonged to me. It now felt as if it had been stolen; torn from my chest by someone who wanted no part of it.” \u2013 Meredith Taylor<\/b><\/p>\n

7. “When you are in love, and you get hurt, it\u2019s like a cut \u2014 it will heal, but there will always be a scar.” \u2013 Soo Jie<\/p>\n

8. “Perhaps, someday, I\u2019ll crawl back home beaten, defeated. But, not as long as I can make stories out of my heartbreak… beauty out of sorrow.” \u2013 Sylvia Plath<\/p>\n

9. “I don\u2019t know why they call it <\/b>desgosto<\/b>. Parece que todas as outras partes do meu corpo tamb\u00e9m est\u00e3o partidas<\/b>.” \u2013<\/i><\/b> Terri Guillemets<\/b><\/p>\n

10. “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it\u2026” \u2013 Nicholas Sparks<\/p>\n

11. “The shattering of a heart when being broken is the loudest quiet ever.” \u2013 Carroll Bryant<\/p>\n

12. “Every time your heart is broken, a doorway cracks open to a world full of new beginnings, new opportunities.” \u2013 Patti Roberts<\/b><\/p>\n

13. “I\u2019d rather have a broken arm than a broken heart.” \u2013 Christie Brinkley<\/p>\n

14. “When your heart is broken, you plant seeds in the cracks and you pray for rain.” \u2013 Andrea Gibson<\/p>\n

15. “Stab the body and it heals, but injure the heart and the wound lasts a lifetime.” \u2013 Mineko Iwasaki<\/p>\n

16. “I\u2019d rather love a million times and have my heart broken every time than hold a permanently empty heart forever.” \u2013 H.C. Paye<\/b><\/p>\n

17. “It\u2019s hard asking someone with a broken heart to fall in love again.” \u2013 Eric Kripke<\/p>\n

18. “A broken heart is the worst. It\u2019s like having broken ribs. Nobody can see it, but it hurts every time you breathe.” \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

19. “I think heartbreak is something you learn to live with as opposed to learning to forget.” \u2013 Kate Winslet<\/p>\n

20. “Love is only made more valuable by the risk of <\/b>desgosto<\/b>.” \u2013 Alessandra Torre<\/b><\/p>\n

Para mais cita\u00e7\u00f5es reconfortantes, consulte esta lista de cita\u00e7\u00f5es de cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/a> e encontrar consolo nelas. E, estes cita\u00e7\u00f5es sobre separa\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a> pode trazer-lhe esperan\u00e7a e um conforto emocional h\u00e1 muito necess\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

Heartbreak Poems That’ll Touch Your Soul<\/h2>\n

\"a<\/p>\n

Compilei os poemas mais tocantes sobre um cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido que podem ajud\u00e1-lo a aliviar a sua dor e a ver a luz ao fundo do t\u00fanel.<\/p>\n

1. I found a picture of us, collecting dust in the bottom of that drawer I no longer open today \u2014 parecemos t\u00e3o felizes.<\/i><\/p>\n

‘A picture says a thousand words,’ I remember you saying, lips pressed to my cheek. Looking at it now, you were right. Sometimes, they’re just all lies.<\/p>\n

Cindy Cherie<\/i><\/p>\n

2. P\u00f4r fim \u00e0 m\u00e1goa.<\/p>\n

Desembara\u00e7a a tua alma<\/p>\n

do seu aperto apertado.<\/p>\n

Dizer adeus ao<\/p>\n

partes que se est\u00e3o a aguentar.<\/p>\n

Avan\u00e7ar em paz<\/p>\n

e descobrir o novo,<\/p>\n

evoluiu para si.<\/p>\n

Harpreet M. Dayal<\/i><\/p>\n

3. I fancied you’d return<\/p>\n

a forma como o disse,<\/p>\n

Mas eu envelhe\u00e7o<\/p>\n

e esqueci-me do teu nome.<\/p>\n

(Acho que te inventei<\/p>\n

ainda na minha cabe\u00e7a).<\/p>\n

Sylvia Plath<\/i><\/p>\n

4. Num raro momento de confian\u00e7a, ela baixou a seguran\u00e7a das suas muralhas, olhou para a alma dele e viu o que tanto se esfor\u00e7ara por ignorar. Sem saber o que o futuro lhe reservava, silenciosamente, ela deixou-se ir e preparou-se para a queda livre. Lentamente, ela estendeu os bra\u00e7os, oferecendo o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido na palma das suas m\u00e3os.<\/p>\n

‘Here,’ she whispered, ‘…take it.’<\/p>\n

Cindy Cherie<\/i><\/p>\n

5. Senhor, ouve a minha ora\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00e3o querida.<\/p>\n

My heart is aching; my mind isn’t clear.<\/p>\n

O meu amor deixou-me; d\u00f3i-me a alma.<\/p>\n

Without that love, I don’t feel whole.<\/p>\n

Ralph P Quinonez<\/i><\/p>\n

Vers\u00edculos b\u00edblicos que consolam o cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

Por muito triste que se sinta e por muito grandes que sejam as suas m\u00e1goas, deve sempre pedir conforto a Deus. Deixe que estes vers\u00edculos b\u00edblicos o guiem na sua dif\u00edcil jornada de cura do cora\u00e7\u00e3o magoado.<\/p>\n

1. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And, the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4: 6-7<\/p>\n

2. “Do not let your hearts be troubled. You believe in God; believe also in me.” John 14:1<\/b><\/p>\n

3. “My flesh and my heart fail; [But] God [is] the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Psalms 73:26<\/p>\n

4. “The LORD [is] near to those who have a <\/b>cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/b>, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.” Psalms 34:18<\/b><\/p>\n

5. “The Lord is close to all whose hearts are crushed by pain, and he is always ready to restore the repentant one.” Psalms 34:18<\/p>\n

6. “He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” Revelation 21:4<\/b><\/p>\n

7. “Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27<\/p>\n

8. “He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalms 147:3<\/b><\/p>\n

9. “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy [to be compared] with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans 8:18<\/p>\n

10. “The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalms 34:18<\/p>\n

Para terminar<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

These tips above helped me survive my heartbreak, and I hope from the very bottom of my heart that they’ll be just as helpful to you. My thoughts and prayers are with each and every one of you because I know very well the pain you’re currently going through.<\/p>\n

And, I don’t want to lie to you… the wound in your heart will be there forever… BUT, you will learn to accept it and let it be a part of your experience, not an experience that will define you on its own.<\/i><\/p>\n

Ap\u00f3s este per\u00edodo deprimente de escurid\u00e3o, a luz entrar\u00e1 na sua ferida e a sua vida tomar\u00e1 um rumo mais feliz.<\/b><\/p>\n

D\u00f3i, sim, mas \u00e9s suficientemente corajosa para te deixares curar.<\/p>\n

E deixe que estas palavras do incr\u00edvel poeta Rumi o guiem no seu caminho de cura; \u201cThe wound is the place where the Light enters you.\u201d<\/i><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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Fortunately, that’s only the pain speaking. Encontrar o amor depois de um desgosto<\/a> is not some kind of myth. It’s possible, indeed, and it can happen, of course, if you allow it to happen.<\/p>\n