{"id":7509,"date":"2020-10-26T08:37:01","date_gmt":"2020-10-26T08:37:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7509"},"modified":"2021-08-24T12:27:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T12:27:30","slug":"estou-a-aprender-gradualmente-a-nao-reagir-as-coisas-que-incomodam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/estou-a-aprender-gradualmente-a-nao-reagir-as-coisas-que-incomodam\/","title":{"rendered":"Estou a aprender lentamente que n\u00e3o tenho de reagir a todas as coisas que me incomodam"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cThink once before you act, twice before you speak, and three times before you post on Facebook.\u201d<\/i> P.C. Brunson<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I really don\u2019t live by this quote, except maybe just the part related to Facebook.<\/p>\n

I say the first thing that comes to my mind. Sometimes my mouth runs faster than my brain and I say something I definitely shouldn’t. <\/p>\n

Os meus amigos dizem sempre, \u201cYou have to learn to count to ten when in these situations,\u201d <\/i>o que significa que tenho de aprender a controlar-me.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t say the first thing that pops into my mind when I am in the middle of some kind of discussion, because I usually unintentionally hurt the people involved.<\/p>\n

Apesar de ter uma boca grande, nunca fiz mal a ningu\u00e9m e as pessoas que me conhecem bem sabem isso sobre mim.<\/em><\/p>\n

Agora, quando penso nisso, provavelmente sou assim porque fui magoado demasiadas vezes.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As pessoas costumavam aproveitar-se do facto de eu ser basicamente uma boa pessoa, do tipo que carrega o cora\u00e7\u00e3o na manga.<\/p>\n

I was really losing sleep thinking about why someone would be so mean to me or why someone is treating me like I’m not good enough.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que eu sabia era que tinha de aprender a defender-me. As pessoas magoaram-me tantas vezes que acho que as minhas reac\u00e7\u00f5es eram inevit\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

The problem now is that I tend to overreact at times. I think that people have bad intentions even when they don\u2019t.<\/p>\n

And that’s something I need to change about myself when I take a step back and look at the whole picture it only drains my energy and brings me stress that I don\u2019t really need.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I am slowly learning not to act on all the things that bother me.<\/p>\n

Estou a aprender que nem tudo precisa da minha rea\u00e7\u00e3o. Estou a dominar a arte do autocontrolo. Estou a tentar ser a pessoa mais importante.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that I agree with everything people say or do, it just means that I am choosing to rise above it.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ignorar \u00e9 normalmente a melhor cura para qualquer situa\u00e7\u00e3o. As discuss\u00f5es sobre algumas coisas que s\u00e3o irrelevantes s\u00e3o, na verdade, uma perda de tempo. <\/p>\n

Arguing drains your energy and it doesn\u2019t solve anything; you are trying to make a point, the other person is trying to make theirs and nobody manages to hear anything.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why, sometimes, ignoring the whole situation is the best thing you can do. You actually say a lot when you don\u2019t say anything at all. <\/b><\/p>\n

I am becoming aware that self-control is the best thing you can master. It\u2019s all about you and within you.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t control what other people say or how they act but you can control yourself.<\/p>\n

Quando nos limitamos a observar a situa\u00e7\u00e3o em que nos encontramos, aprendemos mais do que quando reagimos a ela.<\/p>\n

\"rapariga<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o agir \u00e9, na verdade, a melhor rea\u00e7\u00e3o que se pode ter numa discuss\u00e3o. <\/b><\/p>\n

Deixar\u00e1s as pessoas a pensar no que aconteceu aqui. H\u00e1 pessoas que est\u00e3o apenas \u00e0 espera que aja de alguma forma para verem que pode ser controlada.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why I am refusing to give them control over me.<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/strong> Finjo que sou forte porque, secretamente, odeio o facto de ser sens\u00edvel<\/a><\/p>\n

I am starting to see that in the end, it\u2019s all about me.  <\/b>I have to be OK with myself. I won\u2019t change anybody\u2019s mind with my reaction.<\/p>\n

Everybody will stick to their beliefs no matter what I say. My opinion won\u2019t make them change theirs. It won’t make them treat me better or with greater respect. <\/p>\n

That’s why I am learning to stay silent.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I am starting to see that other people’s behavior has more to do with the relationship they have with themselves than the one they have with me. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

I don’t have to react to everything that’s getting on my nerves. I don’t have to turn every wrong to right. I have my own opinions and beliefs. <\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m estou disposto a ouvir as opini\u00f5es de outras pessoas. Talvez eu possa aprender alguma coisa. Talvez eles possam aprender alguma coisa comigo se estiverem dispostos a ouvir-me tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s never about other people \u2013 let them go. It\u2019s not about seeking explanations \u2013 some things are better left unsaid.  <\/p>\n

It\u2019s not about who is right or wrong \u2013 sometimes there are no rights or wrongs. Sometimes it is what it is and nothing more.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s always about being satisfied with yourself. It\u2019s about something priceless like inner peace. It\u2019s about the fact that happiness is a state of mind. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Por isso, seja feliz e lembre-se que, por vezes, n\u00e3o reagir \u00e9 a melhor a\u00e7\u00e3o que pode tomar.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

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