{"id":75475,"date":"2020-06-01T07:12:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-01T07:12:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=75475"},"modified":"2022-03-02T23:15:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-02T23:15:33","slug":"porque-e-que-ainda-amo-o-meu-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/porque-e-que-ainda-amo-o-meu-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"Porque \u00e9 que ainda amo o meu ex e como \u00e9 que posso seguir em frente?"},"content":{"rendered":"

If you\u2019ve ever asked yourself \u201cWhy do I still love my ex?\u201d you probably also wondered how long it will take to finally super\u00e1-los<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Love and grief, like many emotions, aren’t predictable. Experiencing something good that turns bad is always painful. <\/strong><\/p>\n

In the end, it doesn’t matter why you broke up and who said what \u2013 you ended up hurt and you found it difficult to move on in your life.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You separated but your emotions stayed the same because they can’t just disappear overnight. If the breakup was unexpected, and particularly if it was painful, this is even more true.<\/p>\n

Even if you thought you hated that person right after the breakup, later on (and possibly after a few glasses of wine) you probably realized \u201cOh no, I’m still in love with my ex\u201d. “Wait, porque \u00e9 que eu o amo tanto<\/a>?”<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, porque \u00e9 que ainda amas o teu ex?<\/h2>\n

Uma das raz\u00f5es \u00e9, sem d\u00favida, o apego.<\/em><\/p>\n

Attachment is the deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another. It’s the first thing we seek as children and we keep searching for it throughout our life.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When we genuinely love someone we invest so much time and so many feelings in them that we almost feel like part of us stays with them \u2013 and part of us does.<\/p>\n

Depois de um desgosto<\/a>, many people feel like they’re missing a part of themselves. When we’re in a relationship we tend to think as a couple and always care about the needs of our significant other.<\/p>\n

Torna-se um padr\u00e3o de pensamento regular e muitas pessoas t\u00eam dificuldade em voltar a preocupar-se apenas consigo pr\u00f3prias.<\/p>\n

Often, people who get used to being in a long-term relationship will jump into a new relationship because they can’t stand being alone.<\/p>\n

They think that a new boyfriend or a new girlfriend will solve their problems. Do I even need to say that’s rarely the case?<\/p>\n

A rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a> exige que uma pessoa se preocupe com a outra e partilhe a sua felicidade e tristeza.<\/p>\n

Once that’s gone we’re left feeling confused, lost, and betrayed \u2013 even if we weren’t really betrayed.<\/p>\n

Every separation is trauma. Every loss of love is tragic. That’s just how human beings are. We’re dependent on love, connection, and being accepted by other people.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"rosto<\/p>\n

No wonder we’re obsessed with concepts like soulmates and a love that lasts forever. Deep down every one of us wants to be fully accepted and loved unconditionally.<\/p>\n

O \u00fanico problema \u00e9 que nunca nos sentiremos plenamente qualquer coisa<\/em> until we accept ourselves first. It might sound clich\u00e9, but it’s true.<\/p>\n

Pense em que tipo de sentimentos a aus\u00eancia de outra pessoa despertou dentro de si? <\/strong><\/p>\n

Do you feel like you’re not good enough, do you feel ashamed or abandoned \u2013 are you angry or sad?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask yourself why you feel all those feelings. In almost every case of stubborn emotions that won’t go away, there’s an underlying issue we have with ourselves.<\/p>\n

The thing is \u2013 when you’re at peace with yourself you can be sad e<\/em> love your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend; you can admit to yourself \u201cI still love my ex\u201d and yet move on with your life.<\/p>\n

It’s possible to give yourself enough time to grieve and then look back at everything with acceptance and love in your heart and start living your life without them.<\/p>\n

It’s not abnormal to keep loving your ex after the relationship ends.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Afinal de contas, partilhou com eles as partes mais \u00edntimas de si pr\u00f3prio. Mesmo que as coisas tenham corrido mal no final, o que aconteceu entre voc\u00eas os dois num determinado momento continua a ser real.<\/p>\n

Todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es, rom\u00e2nticas ou n\u00e3o, saud\u00e1veis ou pouco saud\u00e1veis, s\u00e3o uma experi\u00eancia de aprendizagem e, se refletir sobre as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es passadas, poder\u00e1 notar que padr\u00f5es semelhantes se repetem ao longo da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Tudo o que aconteceu entre voc\u00eas os dois estava destinado a acontecer e isso inclui a separa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Breakups are hard because it’s not only about the separation \u2013 it’s about having your dreams and hopes shattered.<\/p>\n

All the things you imagine you would do with your partner turned out to be an unreachable dream and that’s extremely unmotivating.<\/p>\n

Not to mention all society’s expectations that we subconsciously accept and that make us repeatedly feel disappointed because we, our partner, or our current relationship, don’t look a certain way.<\/p>\n

A vida real isn’t<\/em> uma com\u00e9dia rom\u00e2ntica.<\/p>\n

It’s messy, unpredictable, and sometimes scary and painful (especially when it comes to as fases de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/a>). Things don’t always go the way we want them to but that doesn’t mean we should give up.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s possible to achieve what we want \u2013 it’s just that we first need to know the difference between what we realmente<\/em> queremos e precisamos e o que pensar<\/em> que precisamos e queremos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

For example, if someone has broken up with you, doesn’t that mean that que<\/em> person clearly isn’t what you need?<\/p>\n

Yes, we can always choose to indulge in fantasies we create about our partners but eventually, we should realize the truth, even if it hurts \u2013 if they don’t love us that means they’re not what we need and the heartache that we feel might be just the pain of feeling not good enough for someone else.<\/p>\n

Precisamos de amor rec\u00edproco. Precisamos de um melhor amigo e de um amante que nos ame incondicionalmente. Antes de tudo isso, por\u00e9m, precisamos de nos amar a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

Por vezes, acabamos com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido s\u00f3 para aprendermos a construir uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel connosco pr\u00f3prios e com os outros.<\/p>\n

Todo o tempo e esfor\u00e7o que dedicamos aos outros, devemos tamb\u00e9m dedicar-nos a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. O amor-pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 o que nos vai curar da dor.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Don’t continue the cycle, break it. Don’t end up in another relationship and repeat the same mistakes when you can heal yourself first and be ready for the person who’s really meant for you.<\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid to be sad, to grieve, and reflect. All these things help to teach you a lesson. On your journey to amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/a> e a cura, s\u00e3o necess\u00e1rios alguns passos adicionais para facilitar as coisas:<\/p>\n

Como ultrapassar um ex que ainda ama<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Aplicar o regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/em><\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

\u201cIt always seems impossible until it’s done.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Nelson Mandela<\/p>\n

O objetivo do regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a> \u00e9 ajud\u00e1-lo a curar-se de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o e a ver as coisas de forma mais objetiva. As separa\u00e7\u00f5es s\u00e3o complicadas e as pessoas s\u00e3o sens\u00edveis.<\/p>\n

Every little thing can trigger our feelings: one word or text message is enough to make us spiral down to our lowest point \u2013 not to mention what one look or the sound of their voice, their smell, or their touch could do.<\/p>\n

If you’re frequently thinking about your ex, you’re not ready for any kind of contact.<\/p>\n

We go back and revisit all the best moments we had with them while forgetting all the bad ones (because that\u2019s what our brains do).<\/p>\n

Cutting off contact is hard, but it’s the most efficient way to really heal. Remove them from your social media and deixar de lhes enviar mensagens<\/a>.<\/p>\n

And let’s not fool ourselves \u2013 keeping an ex as a friend is too often just a sign that one of you is hoping for things to go back the way they were.<\/p>\n

I’m not saying that friendship isn’t possible, but it’s not possible right after a breakup and it’s not possible to be as intense as you would like it to be.<\/p>\n

You need to protect yourself with healthy boundaries, especially if you’re in a situation where you can’t avoid seeing your partner \u2013 for example, because of children if they’re your ex-wife or ex-husband.<\/p>\n

Pense nos seus sentimentos, no que o faz sentir bem e no que o faz sentir mal, no que alimenta o seu desejo e no que o faz sentir bem por si s\u00f3.<\/p>\n

Be a friend to yourself first. Live your life. Do things that make you happy, even if it’s just a small and insignificant thing. Try doing new things.<\/p>\n

Reencontrar-se a si pr\u00f3prio. Explore os seus interesses sozinho. Invista em si pr\u00f3prio. Fa\u00e7a planos para si pr\u00f3prio e comece a trabalhar neles.<\/p>\n

Saia com os seus amigos e deixe que eles lhe tirem a aten\u00e7\u00e3o do seu ex. Come\u00e7a a falar com outras pessoas.<\/p>\n

Just put all your effort into self-improvement and self-care activities and make sure it’s something you truly like.<\/p>\n

Pare de idealizar o seu ex<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cMemories warm you up from the inside. But they also tear you apart.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Haruki Murakami<\/p>\n

This is probably the number one reason why we can’t get over our exes. We idealize them!<\/p>\n

Ask yourself: \u201cDo I love my ex or do I like my idea of him\/her?\u201d<\/p>\n

We go back and revisit all the best moments we had with them while forgetting all the bad ones (because that’s what our brains do).<\/p>\n

Essencialmente, imaginamos coisas que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o verdadeiras na realidade. As mem\u00f3rias n\u00e3o s\u00e3o fi\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

It’s easier for us to think about what’s already been than to deal with what’s happening now.<\/p>\n

Getting back with your ex won’t solve anything and you’ll probably end up even more disappointed and create a problem and a half.<\/p>\n

They’re not what you remember: they are the same person you broke up with \u2013 and you broke up with a reason.<\/p>\n

They’re not the one who got away. If they’re gone, that’s because they weren’t the one<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Romance and daydreaming are not a bad thing, but if they make you hurt yourself \u2013 then yes, I suggest you skip them altogether.<\/p>\n

There’s no perfect person for you and your ex definitely wasn’t perfect either. You don’t want your ex back<\/a>.<\/p>\n

There are people with whom you can achieve your full potential but that still doesn’t mean they’re perfect, it means their imperfection doesn’t affect you badly.<\/p>\n

Instead of idealizing your ex, use your imagination to plan out the next big thing in your life that’s going to make you happy.<\/p>\n

Remember you’re powerful<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cYou’re always one decision away from a totally different life.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Unknown<\/p>\n

Pode ser dif\u00edcil ganhar confian\u00e7a depois de uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, mas \u00e9 exatamente nisso que precisa de trabalhar.<\/p>\n

Tens de voltar a apaixonar-te por ti pr\u00f3pria. Deixe-se curar em paz, mas dedique-se a coisas que gosta de fazer.<\/p>\n

Now it’s the best time to push through self-limiting beliefs.<\/p>\n

Go back to that mindset of a child when you thought you could do anything \u2013 because that’s true and you still can. What separates you from that is your fear of failure.<\/p>\n

Don’t be afraid of failure. Everyone who has made progress and become successful in any aspect of life first had to fail.<\/p>\n

Os fracassos, no final, tornam-se sempre a prova do nosso sucesso e do nosso trabalho \u00e1rduo.<\/p>\n

Remember the potential you carry in yourself \u2013 you can do the things you dream of and you don’t need anyone but yourself.<\/p>\n

Don’t confuse your past experiences and your memories with facts. What happened to you in the past doesn’t define you. You have permission to change and outgrow things.<\/p>\n

Tens permiss\u00e3o para viver a tua vida nos teus pr\u00f3prios termos.<\/p>\n

Don’t forget that you’re powerful being on your own. Ditch the self-doubt and start experiencing life as a one time opportunity.<\/p>\n

You’re powerful enough to face your fears \u2013 and that includes the fear of loneliness, the fear of not being enough, and every other fear that comes with a breakup.<\/p>\n

Aceitar o seu passado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cLife can only be understood backward, but it must be lived forwards.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 S\u00f8ren Kierkegaard<\/p>\n

Deixa-o ir.<\/p>\n

O primeiro passo \u00e9 permitir emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas e ser gentil consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

Step two is to accept the fact that other people don’t owe you anything, they’re responsible for their actions and how you react to things is your responsibility.<\/p>\n

P\u00e1ra de pensar nos \"e se\". O que aconteceu no passado fica l\u00e1. A \u00fanica coisa que pode afetar \u00e9 o agora. Por isso, belisque-se e pergunte: O que \u00e9 que eu posso fazer agora<\/em> para melhorar a minha vida?<\/p>\n

Cuidar das suas necessidades<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cBe you, love you. All ways, always.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Alexandra Elle<\/p>\n

Comece a pensar ativamente no seu bem-estar. Dedique-se ao autocuidado.<\/p>\n

Don’t just read about and listen to what other people are doing but try to find the things you personally like.<\/p>\n

Take care of your body. It’s not just a superficial thing \u2013 it’s the way we connect with the present moment.<\/p>\n

That’s how we ground ourselves and rest our overactive minds. Other than that it’s the practice of self-love.<\/p>\n

Aprenda a dizer n\u00e3o, proteja a sua energia. Escolhe com quem passas o teu tempo.<\/p>\n

Organize-se. Ofere\u00e7a a si pr\u00f3prio uma viagem a um s\u00edtio onde sempre quis ir.<\/p>\n

Spend time with your friends and tell them how much they mean to you. Don’t be afraid of being vulnerable. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings.<\/p>\n

If you’re feeling like things are not getting better, seek the help of mental health professionals. There’s nothing wrong with that, in fact \u2013 it can transform your life and make you feel whole again.<\/p>\n

Don’t think it’s wrong to still love your ex<\/h2>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t count life as life without love.”<\/em> \u2013 Leo Tolstoy<\/p>\n

Don’t close off your heart because you’ve been hurt. If you still love your ex that means you’re capable of loving someone without interest and that’s a beautiful thing.<\/p>\n

Don’t ever think that feeling is wrong, because it’s not \u2013 no matter what anyone says.<\/p>\n

Don’t stop believing in love and think you’re never going to find anyone who will understand you.<\/p>\n

You never know what life has in store for you. There’s always a silver lining in every situation, you just need to look in the right direction.<\/p>\n

Dealing with a breakup is tough but it’s possible to overcome it.<\/p>\n

I can assure you that one day you’ll look back at this part of your life and be grateful that things happened the way that did because they taught you so many things about life and yourself.<\/p>\n

Thinking \u201cI still love my ex\u201d shouldn’t be something that holds you back or makes you feel self-conscious.<\/p>\n

You can grow from it and change that thought to \u201cI love myself enough to understand that thing that happened to me helped me grow and be the person I am today\u201d.<\/p>\n

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