{"id":7569,"date":"2020-03-26T13:49:30","date_gmt":"2020-03-26T13:49:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7569"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:53:04","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:53:04","slug":"carta-narcisista-ja-nao-e-prisioneiro","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/carta-narcisista-ja-nao-e-prisioneiro\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para o meu narcisista: J\u00e1 n\u00e3o sou tua prisioneira"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hoje, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.elitedaily.com\/life\/motivation\/break-free-toxic-life\/1049384\" rel=\"noopener\">Decidi libertar-me de ti<\/a>. Finalmente percebi que n\u00e3o \u00e9s o homem que eu mere\u00e7o. Abri os olhos e vi que tipo de homem estava ao meu lado durante todo este tempo.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, I don\u2019t want to call you a man. Instead I will call you a mistake because that is who you are.<\/p>\n<p>And I was just one of those na\u00efve girls who fell into your trap of lies.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Eu era um dos que te amavam cegamente.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Eu era o \u00fanico que merecia tudo, mas n\u00e3o tinha nada. E o \u00fanico culpado \u00e9s tu. TU, TU, TU!<\/p>\n<p>Fizeste da minha vida um inferno. Ainda me lembro de como eu era alegre quando come\u00e7\u00e1mos a namorar.<\/p>\n<p>Era uma rapariga divertida, com sentido de humor e autoestima. Era sempre a alma de todas as festas e uma pessoa com quem as pessoas gostavam de falar. Mas depois conheci-te.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72809\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/attractive-young-woman-smiling-outdoor.jpg\" alt=\"mulher jovem e atraente a sorrir ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/attractive-young-woman-smiling-outdoor.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/attractive-young-woman-smiling-outdoor-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/attractive-young-woman-smiling-outdoor-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Amaldi\u00e7oo o dia em que te vi e em que aceitei a tua proposta para sairmos.<\/p>\n<p>Porque nesse dia, a minha agonia come\u00e7ou. Fui teu prisioneiro durante muito tempo. Torturaste-me com os teus jogos mentais.<\/p>\n<p>Fizeste-me coisas horr\u00edveis s\u00f3 para me fazeres sentir mal, enquanto sorrias depois de me virares as costas. Desfrutaste da tua vit\u00f3ria cheia das minhas l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n<p><strong>E eu s\u00f3 queria amar-te.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Eu s\u00f3 queria que te preocupasses. Mas isso era demasiado para ti. Na verdade, quando penso duas vezes, vejo que tinhas ci\u00fames de mim.<\/p>\n<p>You were jealous of all the friends I had and of my successful life. You couldn\u2019t stand to be with a strong person like me. You had the need to be superior in our relationship and you did it.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72812\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-couple-arguing-in-bed.jpg\" alt=\"jovem casal a discutir na cama\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-couple-arguing-in-bed.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-couple-arguing-in-bed-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/young-couple-arguing-in-bed-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Fizeste jogos mentais comigo, convencendo-me de que eras a \u00fanica pessoa de que eu precisava para ser verdadeiramente feliz.<\/p>\n<p>You didn\u2019t allow me to contact my family and friends because deep down, you were afraid that they would tell me how bad a person you were.<\/p>\n<p>You broke my heart a million times. I was crying and begging you not to harm me but you didn\u2019t listen.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/raechel-kleber\/2014\/05\/we-need-to-start-swallowing-our-pride\/\" rel=\"noopener\">You couldn\u2019t swallow your pride<\/a> e dar-me cr\u00e9dito por ter raz\u00e3o, nem que seja uma vez.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Tinhas de ser o melhor! Tinhas de ser o mais bem sucedido! Tinhas de ser t\u00e3o perfeito!<\/p>\n<p>E nunca fui suficientemente boa para ti. Sentia que era apenas uma mulher med\u00edocre ao teu lado e que s\u00f3 dizia alguma coisa quando me perguntavas algo.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72816\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-with-long-blond-hair.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste com cabelo louro comprido\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-with-long-blond-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-with-long-blond-hair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-with-long-blond-hair-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t have my self-esteem anymore. I thought I was the ugliest woman in the room and in fact, I was the most beautiful one.<\/p>\n<p>Mas tu fizeste-me sentir assim. S\u00f3 para te sentires bem. Para que o teu ego ficasse ainda mais elevado. Todos podiam ver que tu eras a pessoa certa.<\/p>\n<p>But in all that mess you forgot one important thing\u2014love. Do you treat someone you love the way you treated me?<\/p>\n<p>Deixas que uma mulher que amas chore e passe noites em claro a pensar em todas as coisas desagrad\u00e1veis que lhe fizeste? Achas mesmo que isso \u00e9 um sinal de amor?<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t think so! That is not love, my dear, it is surviving. It is fighting for your own life, because you are not capable of letting things go.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Eu sabia que tinha sido v\u00edtima de maus tratos, mas de alguma forma pensava que isso ia passar.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72819\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-mirror.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada em frente ao espelho\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-mirror.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-mirror-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-in-front-of-mirror-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Pensei que o meu amor por ti te iria curar. Pensei que estavas apenas a passar por uma fase dif\u00edcil da tua vida. Oh, quantas desculpas inventei para ti!<\/p>\n<p>I can\u2019t remember the number anymore, but I know it was more than you deserve. A life with you was a lesson I had to learn\u2014for better days, for life to come.<\/p>\n<p>Tinha de ser mais forte e tinha de aprender como \u00e9 que o amor nunca deveria ser. E tu foste um professor magn\u00edfico. Eu era o teu melhor aluno com as melhores notas de sempre.<\/p>\n<p>Aprendi a chorar at\u00e9 adormecer, pensando que n\u00e3o era suficientemente boa. Aprendi a n\u00e3o confiar nos meus amigos quando eles me diziam que eras t\u00f3xico.<\/p>\n<p>I learned to make excuses for every crappy thing you did. I learned to offer you another cheek to hit me. Because, like you said\u2014I deserved it all.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72821\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no sof\u00e1\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/sad-woman-sitting-on-the-couch-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Todas as palavras m\u00e1s, todas as bofetadas, todos os olhares afiados de ti.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Eras t\u00e3o t\u00f3xico que te entranhaste na minha pele, comendo-me vivo at\u00e9 n\u00e3o haver mais nada para ser comido.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Mataste a rapariga que eu costumava ser. Agora, sou apenas uma casca daquela rapariga alegre que viste no in\u00edcio da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t recognize myself anymore. I am like a walking dead. So, let me ask you something: \u201cAre you happy with what you see?<\/p>\n<p>Are you satisfied with the woman I transformed into?\u201d I bet you are, because seeing me in this state of mind is food for your soul\u2014that dark and cold place where there is no love.<\/p>\n<p>You know, maybe I am this way now but at least I figured out what you did to me. I realized that you are a toxic man and that I don\u2019t need you in my life.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72823\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman.jpg\" alt=\"homem zangado a gritar com uma mulher\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/angry-man-yelling-at-woman-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I deserve so much more and you can\u2019t provide me with that. In fact, you can\u2019t provide me with anything anymore. You know why? Because I am fucking done with you.<\/p>\n<p>So, go ahead and live your life like you want to, but don\u2019t seek me anymore. I am immune to your sweet talk and your lies.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 espero que, algures no tempo, te apercebas de que fizeste uma coisa m\u00e1. E eu sei que o karma \u00e9 uma cabra, por isso vai dar-te uma dose completa do que mereces.<\/p>\n<p>Nem mais, nem menos, mas uma quantidade igual de dor. S\u00f3 quero que sintas tudo o que eu senti quando estava contigo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>E desta vez, espero que aprendam uma li\u00e7\u00e3o, porque eu sei que aprendi a minha. E adivinha? J\u00e1 n\u00e3o sou vosso prisioneiro!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-72838\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Uma carta ao meu narcisista J\u00e1 n\u00e3o sou tua prisioneira\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore-pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore-pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Today, I decided to break free from you. I finally realized that you are not a man I deserve. I opened my eyes and saw what kind of man was next to me all this time. In fact, I don\u2019t want to call you a man. Instead I will call you a mistake because that&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":72825,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7569","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/A-Letter-To-My-Narcissist-I-Am-Not-Your-Prisoner-Anymore.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. 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