{"id":7689,"date":"2017-10-30T12:50:34","date_gmt":"2017-10-30T12:50:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7689"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:41:49","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:41:49","slug":"uma-carta-a-uma-rapariga-que-luta-para-se-curar-apos-uma-relacao-toxica","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-carta-a-uma-rapariga-que-luta-para-se-curar-apos-uma-relacao-toxica\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma carta para todas as raparigas que lutam para se curar depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving any relationship can be a tumultuous experience. We all know that someone going through a bad breakup needs both a bit more care and a bit more space. It\u2019s a sensitive time when emotions can rise and fall rapidly for reasons that only make sense to the subconscious.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/acontece-que-o-narcisista-sai\/\">Sair de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica ou narcisista<\/a> is even harder. Your self and your state war with each other. You\u2019ve been denied and marginalized for so long that now you do it to yourself without considering it. When you realize you\u2019ve done to yourself what he or she used to, anger and shame well up at yourself for falling back into the old pattern.<\/p>\n<p>Isto n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que possa ser resolvido numa conversa de dez minutos. N\u00e3o se trata de uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o \u00fanica. Trata-se de um processo, que se mede em sorrisos, passos de beb\u00e9 e pequenos actos de bondade para consigo pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n<p>Raramente duas pessoas se curam da mesma situa\u00e7\u00e3o da mesma forma, e existem muitas estrat\u00e9gias e m\u00e9todos que foram desenvolvidos. Alguns m\u00e9todos s\u00e3o defendidos por profissionais e outros s\u00e3o mecanismos autodidactas de sobreviv\u00eancia que proporcionam um passo em frente.<\/p>\n<p>Um dos m\u00e9todos consiste em investigar o passado e todas as suas raz\u00f5es com um terapeuta ou outra pessoa neutra. Algumas pessoas consideram este m\u00e9todo extremamente \u00fatil. Pode dar-lhe uma conclus\u00e3o e clareza sobre uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o que causou confus\u00e3o e sofrimento. Pode tamb\u00e9m revelar alguns padr\u00f5es ou tend\u00eancias que a tornaram mais suscet\u00edvel aos avan\u00e7os do seu ex.<\/p>\n<p>Outra op\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 procurar um treinador que o ajude a definir e a atingir objectivos como m\u00e9todo para avan\u00e7ar. Esta abordagem deixa de lado o passado e concentra-se na melhoria a partir do ponto em que se encontra neste momento. N\u00e3o se trata de tentar recuar na forma como se chegou onde se est\u00e1, mas sim de definir onde se est\u00e1 e onde se quer chegar. Esta abordagem pode ser \u00fatil para as pessoas que gostam de atingir objectivos concretos e que t\u00eam uma sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de realiza\u00e7\u00e3o ao darem passos em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a esses objectivos.<\/p>\n<p>Ambos os m\u00e9todos t\u00eam m\u00e9rito e, de facto, ambos podem ser utilizados por uma pessoa. Alguns profissionais fazem ambos, come\u00e7ando como conselheiros e passando para o coaching quando a pessoa est\u00e1 preparada.<\/p>\n<p>Some former victims move forward on their own, forging ahead and cleaning up without any direction from outside sources. This method takes willpower and determination, and it will only work if you\u2019re willing to do the legwork and research on your own. One word of warning: this method is often the toughest, the most painful, and it takes the most time, but it does give you the most control and privacy. That can be a double-edged sword.<\/p>\n<p>The last option covered here is to recruit a group of people, be they friends, family, or a support group, with whom you can share your experiences in a less formal, more social way. Be sure, if you are going with this option, that the people in your group are willing to listen even when it\u2019s hard for them to do, and be sure to give a listening ear when they need one in return. This can be helpful, but it relies on forging relationships and there need to be agreed-upon rules. The level of confidentiality agreed upon must be very clear, and judgement-free compassion must be offered by all.<\/p>\n<p>A forma como se cura \u00e9, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, determinada por si. Estas op\u00e7\u00f5es n\u00e3o s\u00e3o, de forma alguma, todos os m\u00e9todos dispon\u00edveis, mas s\u00e3o os mais prontamente dispon\u00edveis e os mais f\u00e1ceis de implementar num curto espa\u00e7o de tempo. A maior parte das pessoas que procuram o rejuvenescimento pessoal encontrar\u00e3o um ou mais destes m\u00e9todos \u00fateis. O \"como\" e o \"porqu\u00ea\" exactos variam, evidentemente, muito.<\/p>\n<p>The main point here is not the method of healing you choose, but your willingness to undergo the process. This is not, as I said, an activity for a single sitting. There will be starts, and stops, and detours, and wrong turns. Along the way, your story develops. You grow and learn, and if you find yourself changing in ways you don\u2019t like then you can correct your course based on your goals.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/6-maneiras-de-curar-o-abuso-oculto\/\">Tu podes curar-te.<\/a> You can recover. Life is dynamic and everything changes. Don\u2019t give up. Whatever you do, don\u2019t give up.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><strong>por Jessica Hyten<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-48200\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"Uma carta para todas as raparigas que lutam para se curar depois de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/10\/Darling-If-You-Dont-Let-Go-It-Will-Just-Hurt-More-5.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Leaving any relationship can be a tumultuous experience. We all know that someone going through a bad breakup needs both a bit more care and a bit more space. It\u2019s a sensitive time when emotions can rise and fall rapidly for reasons that only make sense to the subconscious. 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