{"id":77152,"date":"2020-06-05T13:34:28","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T13:34:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=77152"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:14:53","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:14:53","slug":"parar-de-tentar-ser-perfeito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/parar-de-tentar-ser-perfeito\/","title":{"rendered":"Pare de tentar ser perfeita para homens imperfeitos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Para onde quer que olhes, ver\u00e1s praticamente a mesma mensagem.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll see magazine covers, TV shows \u2013 the entire media \u2013 telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, a partir do momento em que nos tornamos conscientes de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios, o mundo diz-nos como ser namorada e material de esposa<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Seria l\u00edcito pensar que, com o tempo, as coisas mudaram e que a mensagem que recebemos agora \u00e9 diferente da que os meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o social promoviam h\u00e1 algumas d\u00e9cadas...<\/p>\n

However, if you dig a little deeper, you\u2019ll see that we haven\u2019t evolved as much as we think we have.<\/p>\n

The advice may have a different wrapping paper but it\u2019s actually almost the same as it was in the past.<\/p>\n

Para onde quer que se olhe, existe uma press\u00e3o incr\u00edvel sobre as mulheres.<\/strong><\/p>\n

We have to be good wives, amazing mothers, have a career while maintaining an immaculate household, and be innovative in the bedroom so our partner doesn\u2019t get bored.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

We also have to be great cooks and keep on top of our finances \u2013 all while wearing high heels, flawless makeup, and a fabulous hairdo.<\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica quando se trata de namoro<\/a> and romantic relationships. In fact, this is where it\u2019s most expected of women.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t be too available, right? Otherwise, men will only want to sleep with you and dump you afterwards.<\/p>\n

However, you can\u2019t turn them down too often either. After all, nobody likes an unapproachable girl.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re married or in a committed relationship, it\u2019s pretty much your duty to make things work. It\u2019s your job to save a broken marriage and to make sure your partner doesn\u2019t walk away from you.<\/p>\n

Despite only being a human being, it appears that you\u2019re not allowed to make mistakes. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Cada movimento seu \u00e9 colocado sob uma lupa e cuidadosamente observado pelo mundo inteiro.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, what the world is trying to tell you is that you have to be flawless \u2013 mentally, physically and emotionally<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not allowed to have a bad day, to feel lousy, or to have cellulite, split ends, or be carrying a few extra pounds.<\/p>\n

Se tem algumas imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es, deve fazer o seu melhor para as esconder. Isto se quiser ser vista, ouvida e escolhida por um homem.<\/p>\n

What about those men your world seems to revolve around, though? I don\u2019t see any of them trying to reach perfection, do I now?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Parece que, desde muito cedo, as raparigas s\u00e3o ensinadas a serem perfeitas para homens imperfeitos.<\/strong> Onde est\u00e1 a justi\u00e7a nisso?<\/p>\n

Most importantly \u2013 what\u2019s the point?<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: n\u00e3o estou a dizer-vos que n\u00e3o se esforcem. N\u00e3o estou a aconselh\u00e1-lo contra o auto-aperfei\u00e7oamento.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the contrary, I\u2019m all for your individual empowerment. I\u2019m rooting for you to become the best possible version of yourself.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No entanto, there is a big difference between making yourself better mentally, emotionally, and physically because you\u2019re the one who wants it and making all of these modifications to be more likeable to the opposite sex.<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is a huge difference between changing some things YOU don\u2019t like about yourself and doing it so you can fit in the box or fulfill society\u2019s unrealistic standards and expectations.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re doing all of this for yourself, good for you. Carry on with the good work!<\/p>\n

No entanto, mesmo que o seja, I have to disappoint you and tell you that such a thing as perfection doesn\u2019t exist.<\/strong> You can work on yourself but you\u2019ll always have some flaws.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, it\u2019s much better to accept and love those imperfections. After all, they\u2019re all a part of the person you are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you\u2019re doing all of this for the sake of one particular imperfect man or to please the entire opposite sex, stop it right there.<\/p>\n

Deixe-me contar-lhe um segredo: um homem que se concentra nos seus defeitos e quer mud\u00e1-los n\u00e3o \u00e9 a pessoa certa para si. De facto, a homem certo<\/a> porque nunca vos pedirei que sejais perfeitos.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You know what the best part is? He\u2019ll love you just the way you are and you two will be imperfectly perfect together!<\/p>\n

\"Pare<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Wherever you look, you\u2019ll see pretty much the same message. You\u2019ll see magazine covers, TV shows \u2013 the entire media \u2013 telling you how to become more attractive to men, how to look better, how to behave in a relationship, and how to keep a guy. Basically, from the moment you become self-conscious, the world…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":42,"featured_media":77164,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29648],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-77152","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dating-tips"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29648,"label":"dating tips"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/05\/Stop-Trying-To-Be-Perfect-For-Imperfect-Men.jpg",800,547,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Selma June","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/selmajune\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29648,"name":"dating tips","slug":"dating-tips","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29648,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","parent":29643,"count":442,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29648,"category_count":442,"category_description":"Learn to date like a pro and avoid making some of the biggest mistakes in texting, flirting, winning a man's heart, and commitment. ","cat_name":"dating tips","category_nicename":"dating-tips","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77152","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/42"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=77152"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/77152\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/77164"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=77152"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=77152"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=77152"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}