{"id":77166,"date":"2021-05-17T19:25:34","date_gmt":"2021-05-17T19:25:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=77166"},"modified":"2022-01-16T19:23:40","modified_gmt":"2022-01-16T19:23:40","slug":"o-derradeiro-livro-de-regras-para-reatar-com-um-ex","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-derradeiro-livro-de-regras-para-reatar-com-um-ex\/","title":{"rendered":"O livro de regras definitivo sobre como voltar com um ex: plano de 12 passos"},"content":{"rendered":"

Rekindling an old flame can be very exciting. You love someone, everything’s going perfectly, yet somehow you still end up breaking up.<\/p>\n

Sabes que os amas. Sabes que eles te amam. A \u00fanica quest\u00e3o \u00e9: conseguir\u00e1 ultrapassar o que quer que tenha causado a vossa separa\u00e7\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Reatar com um ex<\/a> can be very enticing, but it’s also a process that needs to be taken seriously. So, o teu ex quer-te de volta<\/a> or\u2026 you want them back?<\/p>\n

Leia o nosso incr\u00edvel livro de regras sobre os passos a dar e como garantir que todo o processo decorre sem problemas.<\/p>\n

Antes de voltarem a juntar-se<\/h2>\n

Porque \u00e9 que acabaram? Pensa bem nisto.<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It’s time for some analysis. If you’re the type of person who loves to get into every little detail of who did what and why, this will be your favorite part.<\/p>\n

Perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio:<\/strong><\/p>\n

– What was the reason for things between you not working out the first time around?<\/p>\n

– Was there a fight? What was the fight about?<\/p>\n

– How does the break connect to everything that was wrong in your relationship in the first place?<\/p>\n

– Are the reasons for your breakup something you can get past?<\/p>\n

– Did they cheat? Did you cheat? Can it be forgiven?<\/p>\n

Pense em tudo o que o seu parceiro fez para que quisesse acabar com ele, ou em tudo o que voc\u00ea fez para que ele acabasse consigo.<\/p>\n

Este \u00e9 o momento de ser cr\u00edtico em rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 sua personalidade e ao seu comportamento, mas tamb\u00e9m, mais do que nunca, \u00e9 o momento de explorar uma boa e velha autocr\u00edtica.<\/p>\n

Any relationship expert would tell you to stop putting all the blame on your partner, since that’s absolutely no way to actually build on your old relationship by getting back together.<\/p>\n

Think hard about everything in your relationship that was circumstantial and could easily be changed by a little more effort on both sides, but also concentrate on mistakes you’ve both made that brought you to where you are right now.<\/p>\n

Eles podem fazer-te feliz? Podes faz\u00ea-los felizes?<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you’re debating whether voltar para um ex<\/a> is the right decision for you, there’s one question you’ll absolutely need to answer.<\/p>\n

Deixem-me recuar um pouco. Voc\u00eas acabaram porque uma pessoa magoou a outra, ou ambas se magoaram.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, quando as pessoas decidem separar-se, pode ser uma decis\u00e3o muito precipitada, tomada devido a toda a dor que se sente no momento, ou pode ser algo bem pensado.<\/p>\n

If you were contemplating breaking up for a long time before you actually did it, there’s much less chance your relationship can be recovered.<\/p>\n

Why is this? This probably means there’s no way your partner can make you happy enough to continue your relationship (or, you can’t make them happy enough).<\/p>\n

Se aconteceu alguma coisa e tomaste uma decis\u00e3o precipitada de terminar a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, there’s a good chance you are right to want to get your ex back<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Uma vez passada a tempestade, pensa mais claramente em tudo o que se passava entre si e o seu antigo parceiro.<\/p>\n

Perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio:<\/strong><\/p>\n

– Do you have anything more to give to them?<\/p>\n

– Can they offer anything that makes you happy?<\/p>\n

– Are they the one person you want?<\/p>\n

– What is it that you want in a partner and in life?<\/p>\n

– Can they be a part of that, the way they are?<\/p>\n

– Are there things they need to fix before trying things for the second time?<\/p>\n

Recupere a sua confian\u00e7a<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Chances are that the period from your breakup till now was filled with pain, mourning, questioning everything, listening to everyone’s relationship advice, and trying to move on \u2013 at least enough to make it look like you’re moving on.<\/p>\n

Se quer realmente voltar para a sua ex de uma forma saud\u00e1vel e madura, tem de pensar no seu pr\u00f3prio bem-estar. Ponha-se em primeiro lugar durante algum tempo e veja o que acontece.<\/p>\n

Work on yourself. Gain back the confidence you’ve lost by having a failed relationship, being cheated on, or whatever it is that went down between you and your ex.<\/p>\n

Accepting everything that happened to be a part of life, and possibly just a small part of your otherwise amazing relationship (I’m guessing it was, otherwise why would you be thinking of going back) is a very good start.<\/p>\n

Give your soul some pampering \u2013 it needs it to go on. Give your body some as well \u2013 it will surely help you feel confident.<\/p>\n

Pense em quem \u00e9, sem mais ningu\u00e9m na imagem. D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio algum tempo.<\/p>\n

This is not a new relationship, it’s a chapter of the old one, so\u2026<\/em><\/h2>\n

Discutir os seus problemas antigos<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Yup. It’s time to open some old wounds. Yes, you have to. Absolutely. Leaving your problems in the past, just hoping they won’t happen again, is hardly even a good choice.<\/p>\n

Se os vossos problemas foram suficientemente grandes para causar uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o, isso significa que precisam absolutamente de ser falados. Tente dar a tudo isto uma nova perspetiva, um novo par de olhos.<\/p>\n

Approach your issues from a completely different point of view \u2013 your partner’s. It would be amazing if they can do the same.<\/p>\n

Discuta as coisas prestando o m\u00e1ximo de aten\u00e7\u00e3o poss\u00edvel \u00e0 forma como o seu parceiro se deve ter sentido durante tudo aquilo por que ambos passaram.<\/p>\n

If by the end of this process you can say you understand what went wrong and find a new way to deal with your issues, AMAZING, you’re almost ready.<\/p>\n

If you still can’t in any way understand what the hell happened and why they acted the way they did, you might start considering not getting back with them.<\/p>\n

If you’re trying to be a part of a healthy relationship, it’s necessary to resolve your old issues before you go on to anything new.<\/p>\n

Ou\u00e7a o seu instinto<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Os conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es que funcionam para uma pessoa podem n\u00e3o funcionar para si. Embora todas as rela\u00e7\u00f5es sigam alguns padr\u00f5es, s\u00e3o todas \u00fanicas \u00e0 sua maneira.<\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro s\u00e3o seres humanos \u00fanicos, com personalidades, desejos e necessidades pr\u00f3prias.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, your own gut feeling is so much more valuable than whatever anyone has to say. Listen to what it’s telling you.<\/p>\n

Everything might seem to be going perfectly on your relationship’s path to recovery, but you might be having that little voice in your head telling you to rethink what you’re doing.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, there might be more issues between you two than some would think to be resolvable, yet there’s still something inside of you telling you it\u2019ll all be okay.<\/p>\n

Make sure, though, that the little voice in your head it’s not just you missing your former partner speaking.<\/p>\n

Estar pronto para perdoar<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se est\u00e1 a entrar num processo de reatar com um ex, tem de estar consciente de que ter\u00e1 de perdoar.<\/p>\n

If you know in your heart that you can’t forgive your partner for whatever it is they did to you, don’t even bother starting.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 definitivamente coisas que correram mal da \u00faltima vez, por isso quer come\u00e7ar desta vez com um registo emocional limpo. Se decidir perdoar o seu parceiro, certifique-se de que o faz at\u00e9 ao fim.<\/p>\n

Don’t rehash the past whenever you argue about anything, mentioning it often or blaming them for something you’ve decided to forgive.<\/p>\n

And if you’re the one who made things fall apart, forgive yourself. It’s necessary to do this to be able to start over \u2013 or better said, continue your old relationship.<\/p>\n

After you’ve started to resolve some old issues<\/h2>\n

Fazer as coisas com muita calma<\/h3>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

You might feel like simply continuing where you left off, but it’s so much wiser to take things slow.<\/p>\n

Even though you’ve already been through many steps of the relationship, it would benefit you to go through them again, as if you were experiencing them for the first time.<\/p>\n

Start by dating each other and talking about basic things. You may even want to hold off being intimate for a while. If you lived together before your breakup, you shouldn’t simply go back to that.<\/p>\n

Take a few steps back and go slowly. See where your new experience takes you. Don’t rush things. You need time to accept all that’s unfolding and do it without making any more rash decisions.<\/p>\n

Falar de coisas que aconteceram quando estavam separados<\/h3>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

This step is important for two reasons. The first one is that it’s important to be honest with your partner.<\/p>\n

Just because something happened when you weren’t together, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t know about it.<\/p>\n

If you dated someone or had any kind of relationship, best you share this with them. You don’t want to try to rebuild your relationship based on lies or misconceptions.<\/p>\n

If you don’t mention something like this, your partner will probably assume nothing like that happened. It’s especially kind to be honest if they ask you.<\/p>\n

A outra raz\u00e3o pela qual este passo \u00e9 importante \u00e9 o facto de querer que o seu parceiro o veja como \u00e9 sem ele.<\/p>\n

Let’s be honest, taking your partner for granted is a huge part of relationships.<\/p>\n

Ao dar ao seu parceiro uma vis\u00e3o do que faz quando n\u00e3o est\u00e1 com ele, vai recordar-lhe quem era quando o conheceu e tudo o que ele gostava em si.<\/p>\n

Falar sobre as raz\u00f5es pelas quais querem voltar a estar juntos<\/h3>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Fale honestamente com o seu parceiro sobre o que \u00e9 que o faz querer voltar a estar junto.<\/p>\n

Opening up about your emotions and sharing all the things you love so much about each other that you’re willing to look past the mistakes will be a great start for you both.<\/p>\n

Se decidir tentar de novo<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Prepare-se para receber reac\u00e7\u00f5es negativas dos seus entes queridos<\/h3>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

You probably went on and on, or at least shared a bit about your breakup to your friends and family. Don’t be surprised if they don’t approve of you getting back together with your ex.<\/p>\n

In their mind, your ex-boyfriend is probably someone who hurt you real bad and got you into a state they never want to see you again in. They’re scared for you and only want what’s best.<\/p>\n

Don’t respond negatively to their caring thoughts and comments.<\/p>\n

Se a sua melhor amiga tiver algo a dizer sobre toda a situa\u00e7\u00e3o, ou\u00e7a-a e tenha em considera\u00e7\u00e3o tudo o que ela disser, porque ela n\u00e3o s\u00f3 \u00e9 objetiva como tamb\u00e9m tem em mente o seu melhor interesse.<\/p>\n

Lembra-te, ainda est\u00e1s com a mesma pessoa<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

This person you’re getting together with is still the very same person you broke up with.<\/p>\n

Do not fantasize about them changing and don’t get to thinking they will be completely different just because they got a second chance.<\/p>\n

Yes, you’ve discussed your old issues and you\u2019ve forgiven them for the way they’ve hurt you, and they\u2019ve done the same for you, but they still aren’t a whole new changed person.<\/p>\n

If your only hope lies in your partner changing their personality or behavior, you’re on the completely wrong track here.<\/p>\n

If you can accept \u2013 and not only accept but love that you are with the very same guy, good for you. You have a chance of making things work.<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a o seu melhor para n\u00e3o seguir padr\u00f5es antigos e t\u00f3xicos<\/h3>\n

\"doce<\/p>\n

It’s rarely one bad thing that makes for a breakup of a relationship; it’s usually many little things building up on top of each other or causing each other.<\/p>\n

This time around, you have to make sure you don’t find yourselves in the exact same position you were right before your breakup.<\/p>\n

Try to do things differently and also try to respond differently to the things your partner does. You can’t do things exactly the same way you did them before and expect the outcome to be different.<\/p>\n

Estabele\u00e7a alguns objectivos para a sua nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o e, desta vez, cumpra-os.<\/p>\n

5 terrible “getting back with an ex” mistakes you should avoid at all costs<\/h2>\n

Mensagens de texto e chamadas em excesso<\/h3>\n

\"pessoa<\/p>\n

Deve telefonar ou enviar uma mensagem de texto ao seu ex?<\/a> There’s basically nothing worse you can do than constantly call, text, or contact your ex on social media.<\/p>\n

They need time to get away from it all, just like you do. This definitely won’t help your ”getting back with an ex” mission.<\/p>\n

If you want to make them think about you and improve the way they treat you in order to be back together, try the ”no contact” rule.<\/p>\n

Don’t contact them for at least a month after the breakup, unless there’s something really important to discuss (for instance, if you have kids together.)<\/p>\n

Implorando-lhes uma segunda oportunidade<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

No matter how much you love or miss your ex, do not get yourself into a situation that you\u2019re begging for a second chance. Their pity is not your friend.<\/p>\n

You want your partner to see you as this amazing woman who’s worth a second chance, not a pathetic, needy girl begging for their love.<\/p>\n

Raise your head high. The person who you\u2019d need to beg to love you is not the one you should be with. Give them time and show them you can most definitely live your life without them.<\/p>\n

Deixar que eles andem em cima de n\u00f3s<\/h3>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Tens de deixar que o teu ex-namorado te veja como uma mulher forte e determinada que pode fazer o que quiser sozinha.<\/p>\n

Do not think that letting him do whatever he wants \u2013 humiliating you or using you in any way \u2013 will get you where you want to be.<\/p>\n

If you’re the one who made a mistake or cheated and that’s why he left you, let him know that you understand his pain and would be happy if he found it in himself to forgive you.<\/p>\n

Still, don’t let him walk all over you to show him you’re sorry for what happened.<\/p>\n

Ficar obcecado com o seu ex e com uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/h3>\n

\"rosto<\/p>\n

Keep it cool. Do not obsess over your whole relationship and especially don’t let him or other people think of you as a nutjob, who is not only crazy about him but probably a little crazy as it is.<\/p>\n

Tenha algum respeito por si pr\u00f3pria. Mostre a si pr\u00f3pria, a ele e a todos os outros que tem uma vida para al\u00e9m da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o (passada).<\/p>\n

A parte mais importante deste processo \u00e9 n\u00e3o publicar nenhum post pat\u00e9tico nas redes sociais sobre o seu ex ou sobre as saudades que tem dele.<\/p>\n

Chamar nomes ou tentar intencionalmente magoar o seu ex<\/h3>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Pode ficar muito zangada ou simplesmente querer magoar o seu ex para que ele se sinta mal ou para que voc\u00ea pr\u00f3pria sinta que tem poder.<\/p>\n

Name-calling and offending him won’t help you. Try to always keep your calm and openly share your opinions and emotions.<\/p>\n

Also, if you thought of talking about all the boys you’ve been with since you two have broken up ( be this true or not) to make him jealous, think again.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3 o vai fazer parecer desesperado. E ningu\u00e9m gosta de desespero.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1, no entanto, alguns factores que impedem o neg\u00f3cio: O nosso conselho sincero<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es em que nunca se deve pensar em reatar com um ex.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, se os dois tiveram uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 dist\u00e2ncia em que ningu\u00e9m se podia mudar para estarem juntos e a dist\u00e2ncia era obviamente um problema, porqu\u00ea voltar a isso?<\/p>\n

Your one problem is there to stay, so there’s no point in trying to make the relationship work.<\/p>\n

Also, if your partner had some kind of mental health issue, mental illness, or an addiction he didn’t want to deal with by going to therapy or taking his meds, don’t go back.<\/p>\n

There’s nothing good waiting for you there, no matter how much you may love him.<\/p>\n

Also, if you had just an awful toxic relationship with your ex \u2013 one with emotional, verbal, or even physical abuse \u2013 don’t think anything will change.<\/p>\n

Someone who was never good to you never will be. Bullies don’t change, ever. Run away from this as far as possible and never ever think of going back.<\/p>\n

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