{"id":77745,"date":"2020-06-05T13:40:20","date_gmt":"2020-06-05T13:40:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=77745"},"modified":"2022-06-19T22:13:15","modified_gmt":"2022-06-19T22:13:15","slug":"sinais-de-alerta-de-que-e-uma-mulher-chata","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sinais-de-alerta-de-que-e-uma-mulher-chata\/","title":{"rendered":"9 sinais de alerta de que voc\u00ea \u00e9 uma esposa chata (e como parar de ser uma)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Uma das defini\u00e7\u00f5es mais comuns de \"chato\" \u00e9 “persistently annoying or finding fault with someone”<\/em>Assim, uma esposa irritante seria uma combina\u00e7\u00e3o das seguintes situa\u00e7\u00f5es<\/p>\n

– How many times have I told you not to put your socks under the bed?<\/em><\/p>\n

– Out of all the things on the grocery list, you forgot to buy the most important one!<\/em><\/p>\n

– Why am I always the one who has to take care and think of everything?<\/em><\/p>\n

– You’re not doing it right!<\/em><\/p>\n

– You said you would wash the dishes!<\/em><\/p>\n

The list of popular nagging phrases goes on and on… Does this sound familiar to you? If you fit the definition of a nagging wife, then I bet it does.<\/p>\n

Or if your wife’s nagging has become one of your top problemas matrimoniais<\/a>ent\u00e3o, certamente que sim.<\/p>\n

Before diving deeper into the essence of married life and the signs of a nagging wife, first let’s look at why some people have the urge to nag. So, here’s a simple question with a not that simple answer:<\/p>\n

Por que \u00e9 que (algumas) mulheres s\u00e3o chatas?<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

No, nagging is not an inborn trait and it’s not something women WANT to do. And yes, both women and men can be naggers, so it’s not something that only relates to women.<\/p>\n

Women don’t wake up in the morning and just decide that today they will play the role of an angry wife or a quarrelsome wife for the sake of driving their own husbands insane.<\/p>\n

They don’t want to deal with constant nagging and it’s not something they enjoy (and sometimes they’re not even aware they\u2019re doing it).<\/p>\n

Tal como os seus maridos, elas querem ter um casamento feliz, mas a falta das duas coisas seguintes torna-o dif\u00edcil:<\/p>\n

a) Falta de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o aberta<\/strong><\/p>\n

b) Falta de di\u00e1logo honesto.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Agora, apetece-me redefinir a defini\u00e7\u00e3o de esposa chata para isto: “persistently annoying or finding fault with someone due to a lack of open and honest conversation”.<\/em><\/p>\n

Healthy communication is the root of a healthy and happy marriage, and is something married couples forget about or don’t pay attention to.<\/p>\n

If you’re a husband to a nagging wife, you probably think the following: A minha mulher chateia-me porque quer fazer-me sentir menos digno e incapaz<\/em>.<\/p>\n

But, the truth is that your wife nags because she’s trying to tell you how she feels about certain things.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, esta frase: Porque \u00e9 que sou sempre eu que tenho de tomar conta e pensar em tudo?<\/em> soaria muito diferente se ela te contasse: I’m sorry, but I’m really tired of always being the one who has to think of everything. I wish you were more engaging and supportive.<\/em><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Se ela mudasse o tom de voz, a frase soaria automaticamente mais agrad\u00e1vel e sem ju\u00edzos de valor.<\/p>\n

Outra raz\u00e3o pela qual as mulheres tendem a tornar-se chatas \u00e9 a sua necessidade de estar no controlo.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isto explica-se melhor atrav\u00e9s do conceito de rela\u00e7\u00e3o pai-filho. Assim, uma mulher insistente nesta situa\u00e7\u00e3o seria o pai e o marido seria o filho.<\/p>\n

Just compare it with your childhood and you’ll understand it better. How many times did your mother or father tell you to take out the trash or make your bed?<\/p>\n

E quando se esquecia de o fazer, voltavam a lembr\u00e1-lo, mas desta vez com um tom irritante e sentia-se como se estivesse a ser for\u00e7ado a satisfazer as suas expectativas.<\/p>\n

The same thing goes with a nagging wife \u2013 the only difference is the things she’s nagging about. Usually they are the little things like socks, dishes, and forgetfulness.<\/p>\n

Depois, os maridos dizem aos seus amigos algo do g\u00e9nero: A minha mulher n\u00e3o p\u00e1ra de me chatear por eu passar demasiado tempo consigo \/ beber demasiado \/ n\u00e3o a ajudar nas tarefas dom\u00e9sticas.<\/em><\/p>\n

Um casamento que se baseia em queixas resulta frequentemente em aconselhamento matrimonial, na procura de aconselhamento matrimonial junto de profissionais ou num div\u00f3rcio.<\/p>\n

While there’s nothing wrong with seeking help from marriage counselors, a divorce is something you want to prevent if you still care about each other.<\/p>\n

To help you with that, here is a list of signs you\u2019re a nagging wife and how to stop being one!<\/p>\n

9 Signs You\u2019re A Nagging Wife And What You Can Do To Change<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Pedir sempre algo mais do que uma vez<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores sinais de uma esposa chata \u00e9 a necessidade de repetir as coisas n\u00e3o uma, n\u00e3o duas, mas v\u00e1rias vezes.<\/p>\n

When you ask your husband to do something and he doesn’t do it, you assume that he didn’t hear you the first time, so you repeat your request a few more times, just in case.<\/p>\n

Quanto mais repete, mais chateia. O seu marido fica totalmente confuso sobre a verdadeira raz\u00e3o dos seus constantes lembretes.<\/p>\n

He starts to feel like you don’t care whether he’s able to do it, if he has time, or if something else is bothering him. He becomes convinced that he’s not good enough and he never will be.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

Em vez de repetir os pedidos, \u00e9 sempre mais sensato perguntar ao seu marido qual \u00e9 exatamente o problema (se \u00e9 que existe) e procurar uma forma de o resolver em conjunto.<\/p>\n

If you don’t do that, your husband will only be able to think about the two following things:<\/p>\n

Prov\u00e9rbios 21: 9 \u201cIt is better to live in a corner of the housetop than in a house shared with a quarrelsome wife.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Prov\u00e9rbios 27:15 \u201cA quarrelsome wife is as annoying as constant dripping on a rainy day.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

It’s important to pay attention to the real reason why your husband hasn’t done something yet or why he refuses to do it.<\/p>\n

Is it because he doesn’t have time or is it because he’s not sure how to do it? It could also be laziness or forgetfulness.<\/p>\n

Whatever it is, nagging won’t help. What will help is dealing with the problem and trying to find an adequate solution for it.<\/p>\n

2. Utilizar afirma\u00e7\u00f5es que desencadeiam a culpa e a acusa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Lembra-se das declara\u00e7\u00f5es populares da esposa chata que mencion\u00e1mos no in\u00edcio? Bem, esses s\u00e3o exemplos perfeitos de afirma\u00e7\u00f5es que despoletam a culpa e a acusa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Declara\u00e7\u00f5es como Nunca lavas a lou\u00e7a! ou Deixas sempre as tuas meias debaixo da cama!<\/em> est\u00e3o cheios de acusa\u00e7\u00f5es e a palavra-chave \u00e9 TU<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

When you begin your sentences with \u2019you\u2019, you are directly criticizing and attacking your husband. Why is that bad?<\/p>\n

Because if you do that, he won’t focus on the real problem of washing the dishes, but instead he\u2019ll think about attacking him. He will feel rejected and resentful.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

Em vez de utilizar instru\u00e7\u00f5es que accionam culpa<\/a> and accusation or deciding to take things into your own hands, it’s important to redefine your questions.<\/p>\n

Em vez de o acusar de nunca lavar a loi\u00e7a, tente dizer-lhe: I’d like you to wash the dishes.<\/em><\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma forma educada e simp\u00e1tica de dizer o que espera do seu marido.<\/p>\n

Ao dizer-lhe isto, est\u00e1 a dar-lhe a entender que gostaria que ele fizesse algo em vez de o criticar por n\u00e3o o fazer.<\/p>\n

Um dos maiores erros que muitas mulheres cometem \u00e9 pensar que os seus maridos v\u00e3o ler nas entrelinhas quando lhes dizem coisas como: Nunca lavas a lou\u00e7a!<\/em><\/p>\n

Even though this is a wife’s subtle attempt to motivate him to wash the dishes, he will not see it the same way.<\/p>\n

He will see it as something offensive and not productive. That’s why it is important to rephrase questions and think about the type of message you want to send to him.<\/p>\n

3. Sentir-se desamparado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

People often think that their criticizing or nagging is justified because they’re doing it primarily because they’re worried about their partner.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, se o seu marido \u00e9 um fumador ativo e gostaria que ele deixasse de fumar.<\/p>\n

So, you remind him of that every day even though it’s evident he’s not going to quit anytime soon. That is when you start feeling helpless and start nagging even more.<\/p>\n

E quando o seu marido lhe perguntar o que \u00e9 que a incomoda e porque \u00e9 que est\u00e1 a agir dessa forma, diga algo do g\u00e9nero: It doesn’t matter.<\/em><\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

First and foremost, you need to understand that you can’t change someone who is not willing to change themselves.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso aprender a aceitar as coisas que n\u00e3o se podem mudar, porque essa \u00e9 a ess\u00eancia do verdadeira felicidade<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You could nag your husband for the rest of your life about something, but if he himself hasn’t decided to stop doing it or to improve things, there’s nothing you can do about it.<\/p>\n

You could continue nagging, but by doing that you’ll make things even worse.<\/p>\n

Whenever you’re feeling helpless about something you want to change (even though you know you can’t), always remind yourself that the only person who can do it is THEM (in this context \u2013 HIM).<\/p>\n

(E, por vezes, seguir em frente \u00e9 inevit\u00e1vel).<\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 12 sinais de uma mulher controladora<\/a><\/p>\n

4. Ter o forte desejo de controlar tudo \u00e0 sua volta<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 semelhante \u00e0 anterior.<\/p>\n

Many spouses turn into control freaks (both men and women) and observe their partner’s every move, write down their every flaw, lack of effort, motivation and so on.<\/p>\n

They get this strong urge to control everything around them because if they’re not in control, they feel helpless and like a passive character in marriage.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

Realize that you can’t control everything around you \u2013 the only thing you can is yourself.<\/p>\n

De facto, o desejo de controlo tem origem num desejo profundo de mudar a si pr\u00f3prio e n\u00e3o as coisas ou as pessoas que o rodeiam.<\/p>\n

Whenever you’re nagging about something, ask yourself if it\u2019s really what bothers you or if it is something else; something that is deeply rooted within you.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you’re not satisfied with your career or your appearance, or maybe you’re having difficulties with your family.<\/p>\n

All those things can be triggers to nagging behaviour and that’s why you need to pay close attention to them.<\/p>\n

5. Sentir-se como um pai para o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"um<\/p>\n

A igualdade \u00e9 algo que \u00e9 frequentemente esquecido no casamento e nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es e h\u00e1 sempre um parceiro que domina mais.<\/p>\n

Neste caso, a esposa irritadi\u00e7a desempenha o papel de um pai para o seu marido.<\/p>\n

Este papel inclui controlar, dominar, importunar e seguir todos os seus passos.<\/p>\n

Um casamento ou uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o n\u00e3o pode funcionar desta forma porque um dos parceiros sentir-se-\u00e1 sempre menos digno e menos capaz do que o outro.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

A nagging wife needs to absorb the fact that she’s not a parent to her partner and she’ll never be (and she’s not supposed to be).<\/p>\n

If you feel like a parent to your partner, then there’s something more going on here.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your personalities are completely different and you’re the one who is more grown-up and responsible, whereas your husband is less mature and therefore less dominant.<\/p>\n

It’s important to understand that some people need more time to mature and treating them like a child won’t help. It will only deix\u00e1-los loucos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

6. Fazer com que o seu parceiro se sinta rejeitado ou ressentido<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

O inc\u00f3modo constante pode tornar um parceiro sentir-se rejeitado<\/a> and resentful. It’s when they decide to withdraw to their man cave (in this particular case) and they no longer seem present.<\/p>\n

They withdraw because they can’t stand constantly being criticized for something and never praised.<\/p>\n

E quando eles se afastam, as mulheres continuam muitas vezes a chate\u00e1-los por serem ignorantes e n\u00e3o quererem cooperar e trabalhar sobre si pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao n\u00famero de vezes por dia ou por semana que chateia o seu parceiro. \u00c9 literalmente de cinco em cinco minutos ou de poucas em poucas horas?<\/p>\n

Em vez de se concentrar apenas nos seus sentimentos, concentre-se em pensar na forma como esta irrita\u00e7\u00e3o ir\u00e1 afetar a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo. \u00c9 poss\u00edvel viver feliz num ambiente t\u00e3o t\u00f3xico?<\/p>\n

Como podem ver, era uma pergunta ret\u00f3rica.<\/p>\n

Pergunte a si pr\u00f3prio como se sente quando faz com que o seu parceiro se sinta rejeitado e ressentido.<\/p>\n

Is it something you want to improve and change? If yes, then it’s high time you replaced nagging with an open and honest conversation.<\/p>\n

7. Estar concentrado apenas no seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Being only focused on your partner results in constant bickering about trivial things, or worrying about whether he’s going to forget your anivers\u00e1rio de casamento<\/a> even though you\u2019ve mentioned it thousand times so far.<\/p>\n

Tudo isto resulta na maior das importuna\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

When you’re only focused on your partner, you fail to see your own quirks and flaws.<\/p>\n

Lord knows, no one is perfect. Because of that, we shouldn’t demand the impossible from our partners; we shouldn’t nag if we’re not ready to receive the same treatment in return.<\/p>\n

Both partners should primarily focus on themselves so that they don’t get tempted into being the dominant one.<\/p>\n

When you’re focused on yourself instead of only on your partner, you will distract yourself from potential nagging.<\/p>\n

Por outras palavras, n\u00e3o ter\u00e1 material de apoio (o que \u00e9 \u00f3timo, certo?).<\/p>\n

8. Falta de intimidade<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Nagging is a serious libido killer and if you can’t remember the last time you and your partner were truly intimate, then you know whom you should blame for it.<\/p>\n

Constantly reminding your partner that they’re not doing something right will result in discontent and a huge gap between the two of you.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o haver\u00e1 mais abra\u00e7os e beijos calorosos porque a irrita\u00e7\u00e3o matou literalmente tudo isso.<\/p>\n

Sim.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

Well, stop nagging and you’ll improve your intimacy! I know that it’s easier said than done, but the first step is being willing to stop nagging (especially about trivial things).<\/p>\n

Comece por abra\u00e7ar e beijar o seu parceiro quando acorda de manh\u00e3, porque \u00e9 prov\u00e1vel que n\u00e3o encontre nada para se queixar t\u00e3o cedo.<\/p>\n

Joking aside, try to shower your husband with warmth and comforting words from time to time, so that he sees you care about him and your “nagging personality” is not the real you.<\/p>\n

The real you is the woman who loves and cares about her husband and who wants the best for him. Let him know that and you’ll significantly improve your intimacy.<\/p>\n

9. Falta de confian\u00e7a e de respeito pelo seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Has your husband done something bad to you or hurt you one way or another so that you don’t trust him anymore?<\/p>\n

Have you lost respect for him because he didn’t treat you the way you deserve?<\/p>\n

If yes, nagging won’t help you with that either. Constantly demanding to know your partner’s whereabouts or nagging him about other things will only show how insecure you are.<\/p>\n

A longo prazo, voc\u00ea e o seu parceiro tornar-se-\u00e3o ainda mais infelizes.<\/p>\n

O QUE FAZER<\/h3>\n

If you have difficulties trusting your partner, then think about the reasons why. Focus on finding the root of your nagging and you’ll fix the problem.<\/p>\n

Fale com o seu marido sobre o assunto e diga-lhe como se sente. Quando n\u00e3o existe uma conversa aberta e honesta, existe tamb\u00e9m uma falta de confian\u00e7a e de respeito.<\/p>\n

Once you improve the way you communicate with each other, you’ll also improve your marriage!<\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Aprender a deixar de ser uma esposa chata n\u00e3o \u00e9 algo que se consiga dominar de um dia para o outro. \u00c9 um processo que requer muita paci\u00eancia, compreens\u00e3o e ainda mais paci\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

What’s important is that you’re aware of the problem and you’re willing to work on it. And remember: S\u00e3o precisos dois para que um casamento funcione.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: 17 sinais de um casamento infeliz (e como corrigi-lo)<\/a><\/p>\n

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