{"id":7886,"date":"2020-05-02T11:48:40","date_gmt":"2020-05-02T11:48:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=7886"},"modified":"2021-08-11T19:07:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T19:07:22","slug":"estou-a-aprender-lentamente-a-deixar-ir-as-pessoas-que-nao-valorizam","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/estou-a-aprender-lentamente-a-deixar-ir-as-pessoas-que-nao-valorizam\/","title":{"rendered":"Estou a aprender lentamente a deixar ir as pessoas que n\u00e3o me valorizam"},"content":{"rendered":"

My whole life, I\u2019ve been thinking that I shouldn\u2019t give up on people. I believed that once someone walked into my life, I should do everything I could to keep them.<\/p>\r\n

Estava sempre a pensar que as pessoas que entram na minha vida precisam de ficar l\u00e1. Mas n\u00e3o fazes ideia de como eu estava errado.<\/a><\/p>\r\n

Fui t\u00e3o ing\u00e9nua ao pensar que todos os que aparecem merecem um lugar na minha vida e merecem um lugar no meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, que acabei sempre quebrada, tra\u00edda e vazia. A pior parte \u00e9 que fui eu que fiz isto a mim pr\u00f3pria.<\/p>\r\n

Continuei a magoar-me por n\u00e3o ser capaz de aceitar o facto de que nem todas as pessoas que amo me amam de volta.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Para mim, n\u00e3o era real que as pessoas nos devolvessem a tristeza quando lhes oferec\u00edamos um cesto cheio de amor.<\/p>\r\n

I couldn\u2019t wrap my head around it. Why would anyone want to bring me down when all I ever did was be good to them?<\/p>\r\n

It took me a while, a few heartbreaks too many and a few lonely nights when I cried myself to sleep to realize that there are people born mean. And there isn\u2019t a heart big enough to change them.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Pensei que os podia mudar<\/a>, but I couldn\u2019t. I thought if I showed them how love felt then they would decide to be good, but they didn\u2019t. And then I got lost.<\/p>\r\n

I had no idea what to do. I just couldn\u2019t understand how they could live their lives like that, so I kept giving and they kept taking my love and my kindness without ever giving me anything in return. Not that I asked, but still\u2026<\/p>\r\n

One day, I just couldn\u2019t do it anymore. One day, I got so tired and so worn out that I struggled climbing out of bed.<\/p>\r\n

Odiava-me por ser t\u00e3o fraca e n\u00e3o tinha mais amor para dar a ningu\u00e9m.<\/p>\r\n

Ao certificar-me de que todos os outros eram amados, esqueci-me, algures no caminho, de me amar a mim pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\r\n

E quando eu tentava fazer o meu melhor para ser bom para as pessoas \u00e0 minha volta, elas faziam o seu melhor para me usar o mais poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\r\n

E depois viraram-me as costas assim que viram que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o tinham utilidade para mim. Ser\u00e1 que isto pode piorar?<\/p>\r\n

After being emotionally drained, after doing my best for people who hadn\u2019t deserved my best in any way, after being alone when that was the last thing I needed, it occurred to me that sometimes you have to be your own hero and guard your heart.<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

Because, sometimes, people you can\u2019t picture your life without can live normally without you.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that just because I love someone, it doesn\u2019t mean they\u2019re good for me.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Just because I\u2019d like to have someone in my life doesn\u2019t mean they deserve to be there. Just because I do my best to be there for people, it doesn\u2019t mean they value me. Because some people won\u2019t love me no matter what I do.<\/p>\r\n

But I haven\u2019t lost my hope completely. Because I know that some people won\u2019t stop loving me no matter what I do. I\u2019m slowly learning to distinguish these two kinds of people.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m learning that even though there are things we don\u2019t want to happen, they\u2019re bound to happen and there is nothing we can do to avoid them.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m slowly learning<\/a> that there are things I don\u2019t want to know, but life will teach me them anyway.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m slowly learning that there are people I love, but whom I have to let go because they do me no good.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m slowly learning to let go of the people who don\u2019t value me and I\u2019m learning that I\u2019m not giving up on them, but rather I\u2019m doing myself a tremendous favor.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

I don\u2019t want to hold on anymore just because I think there will be no one else. I\u2019m slowly learning that there will always be someone else to whom I’m going to be good enough.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m learning that I\u2019m worth more than repeatedly being hurt by someone who doesn\u2019t really care about me.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m learning to trust my future and that there will be someone who\u2019ll see me for my true worth and who\u2019ll treat me the way I should be treated.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m learning to guard my heart and I\u2019m learning not to allow others who did me wrong make me think there is something wrong with me. I\u2019m learning not to devalue myself just because someone else didn\u2019t value me.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m reminding myself that I\u2019m worthy, that no one else can determine my worth and that I\u2019m worthy even if others don\u2019t really see it.<\/p>\r\n

\"mulher<\/p>\r\n

At this point, I\u2019ve figured out that I\u2019ve done too much for others and that the only next possible step is to stop. I\u2019m learning to let go of the people who don\u2019t value me and I\u2019m walking away.<\/p>\r\n

Because no matter how much I care, they\u2019re never gonna care for me. No matter how well I behave toward them, they\u2019ll never return the favor or decide to be good to someone else.<\/p>\r\n

No matter how selfless I am, they\u2019ll never stop being selfish. So I\u2019m letting go.<\/a><\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m letting go of all the toxic, narcissistic, selfish and self-centered people in my life. I\u2019m done giving my love, time, kindness and whatnot to those who don\u2019t appreciate it.<\/p>\r\n

Regardless of the amount of love I feel toward them, I\u2019m letting them go.<\/p>\r\n

I\u2019m slowly escorting them away from my life and I\u2019m learning that it is better to break your own heart once than to allow others to continuously break your trust, heart and your expectations.<\/p>\r\n

I’m learning that not all people who walk into my life are meant to stay. Some of them are only meant to teach me a lesson, such as to let go of those who don’t value me.<\/p>\r\n\r\n

\"Estou<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My whole life, I\u2019ve been thinking that I shouldn\u2019t give up on people. I believed that once someone walked into my life, I should do everything I could to keep them. I kept thinking that people who come into my life need to stay there. But you have no idea how wrong I was. I…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":90389,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29618],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7886","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-moving-on"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29618,"label":"moving on"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/I\u2019m-Slowly-Learning-To-Let-Go-Of-The-People-Who-Don\u2019t-Value-Me-1.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":1,"category_info":[{"term_id":29618,"name":"moving on","slug":"moving-on","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29618,"taxonomy":"category","description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","parent":38,"count":200,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29618,"category_count":200,"category_description":"When nothing else works - inspiring stories about moving on are bound to help you let go of people and situations you never thought you could live without.\r\n","cat_name":"moving on","category_nicename":"moving-on","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7886","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7886"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7886\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/90389"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7886"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7886"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7886"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}