{"id":79672,"date":"2020-06-11T07:55:28","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T07:55:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=79672"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:19:12","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:19:12","slug":"antes-de-ti-o-meu-maior-medo-era-estar-sozinho-depois-de-ti-e-assentar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/antes-de-ti-o-meu-maior-medo-era-estar-sozinho-depois-de-ti-e-assentar\/","title":{"rendered":"Antes de ti, o meu maior medo era estar sozinho; depois de ti, o meu maior medo \u00e9 assentar"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Antes de te conhecer, pensava que ser solteira era a pior coisa que podia acontecer a uma rapariga. Acreditava que estar sozinha significava estar solit\u00e1ria.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 depois de me sentir mais s\u00f3 contigo do que alguma vez me senti na minha vida \u00e9 que me apercebi do erro que cometi.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Being with the wrong person, a person who doesn\u2019t know how to love you and whom you can\u2019t love the best possible way makes you the loneliest girl in the universe.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Despertaste algo dentro de mim que eu nem sequer sabia que existia. Pensei que podia amar qualquer pessoa que decidisse fazer-me sua.<\/p>\n<p>Fizeste-me perceber que o amor n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com escolher ou ser escolhido. Pelo menos n\u00e3o no in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n<p>True love chooses the person for you. You can\u2019t make any estimates and there\u2019s no time to think too hard about how that person fits into your life.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 precisas de estar com eles, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer. Eu quero esse tipo de amor.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79680\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de gorro de malha preto e casaco preto num local p\u00fablico com luzes ao longo das ruas\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-black-knit-cap-and-black-jacket-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>More than anything, more than being single, I\u2019m afraid of settling for anything less.<\/p>\n<p>Durante algum tempo, pensei que tu e eu ir\u00edamos crescer e amar-nos da forma correcta. Em vez disso, as coisas complicaram-se.<\/p>\n<p>Nem sequer tive a oportunidade de te amar da melhor forma poss\u00edvel, pois nunca despertaste isso em mim e nunca o mereceste.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Seeing that you couldn\u2019t care less about losing me made me drown. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>I wasn\u2019t devastated because I loved you THAT MUCH, I was devastated because I realized how much precious time I had spent trying to make things work with you.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>I started resenting myself for allowing this to happen, for allowing myself to go through so many months with someone who absolutely didn\u2019t deserve my love, even when what I\u2019d been giving him was only half of my love.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>The only thought that came to my mind was that right in those moments, I was wasting on trying to write a \u2018takes your breath away\u2019 kind of romantic story with you. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79676\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/shallow-focus-photo-of-woman.jpg\" alt=\"fotografia com pouca focagem de uma mulher com um tubo num campo aberto\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>The one who\u2019s supposed to be the main character in that story would pass me by.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Desde o in\u00edcio da nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o, senti que algo n\u00e3o estava bem. Nunca me senti completamente realizada, independentemente de como as coisas funcionavam entre n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n<p><strong>N\u00e3o havia fa\u00edsca, n\u00e3o havia liga\u00e7\u00e3o, n\u00e3o havia intimidade emocional crua e honesta.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Olhava para outros casais que pareciam n\u00e3o ter qualquer preocupa\u00e7\u00e3o neste mundo, exceto um com o outro e o seu amor, e invejava-os por terem encontrado isso.<\/p>\n<p>Pensei tantas vezes em ir-me embora, mas fiquei sempre porque tinha medo de ficar sozinha.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Agora sei que ser solteiro \u00e9 sempre melhor do que estar numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o errada. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>It\u2019s so much better to live on your own and hope for true love to find you than to settle and know right there and then you\u2019re never getting anything more than what you settled for.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79677\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-walking-in-the-rice-.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a caminhar num campo de arroz durante o dia\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m now absolutely certain that there\u2019s no happiness in trying to make things work with the one who will never be able to see your worth, to value your efforts, to love you the way you need to be loved.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t need anyone who cares more about correcting my flaws than loving my qualities. I want the one who will not only appreciate my virtues but adore my imperfections as well.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Encontrar a felicidade ao ser honesto comigo mesmo \u00e9 a minha nova prioridade.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Everyone is seeking that \u2018once in a lifetime\u2019 kind of love. I honestly believe anyone can find it if they give themselves a chance by not settling for a mediocre \u2018many in a lifetime\u2019 relationship.<\/p>\n<p><strong>I want the one my heart will want so desperately that it won\u2019t be able to beat without him. I won\u2019t ever again choose the one who knows nothing about me, who doesn\u2019t see me.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Quero um homem cuja alma seja um reflexo perfeito da minha. Quero um homem que me acarinhe e lute por mim, com todas as fibras do seu ser.<\/p>\n<p><em>Until I find that kind of man, or until he finds me, I\u2019ll stay single, because that\u2019s so much better than settling.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-79682\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Antes de ti, o meu maior medo era estar sozinho; depois de ti, o meu maior medo \u00e9 assentar\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Before-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Was-Being-Alone-After-You-My-Biggest-Fear-Is-Settling-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Before I met you, I thought that being single was the worst possible thing that could happen to a girl. I believed that being alone meant being lonely. Only after feeling lonelier with you than I have felt ever in my life did I realize what a mistake that was on my end. Being with&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79672","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":false,"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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