{"id":79704,"date":"2020-06-11T08:15:12","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T08:15:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=79704"},"modified":"2022-01-17T23:13:27","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T23:13:27","slug":"como-se-desligar-emocionalmente-de-alguem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-se-desligar-emocionalmente-de-alguem\/","title":{"rendered":"Como se desligar emocionalmente de algu\u00e9m: 14 passos para o sucesso"},"content":{"rendered":"

Apesar da cren\u00e7a popular, a parte mais dif\u00edcil de rutura<\/a> com o seu ente querido n\u00e3o \u00e9 habituar-se \u00e0 vida sem ele ou ao desgosto que se vive.<\/p>\n

It’s being left with the question: Como \u00e9 que me desapego de algu\u00e9m que significa o mundo para mim?<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, Khalil Gibran once said, “Let there be spaces in your togetherness and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”<\/p>\n

In other words, you can love someone with all of your heart, but that doesn’t mean that you should become emotionally dependent on them.<\/p>\n

De facto, todos os romances em que duas pessoas est\u00e3o emocionalmente codependente<\/a> \u00e9 uma m\u00e1 rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Well, if you’re wondering how to detach from someone who is no longer with you, here is a detailed step-by-step guide through your detachment process.<\/p>\n

1. Accept that it\u2019s over<\/h2>\n

\"turista<\/p>\n

Antes de se desligar de algu\u00e9m com sucesso ou mesmo de descobrir como se desligar emocionalmente, \u00e9 preciso, antes de mais, aceitar a realidade.<\/p>\n

Your bad relationship is over. Yes, it was bad and that’s why terminou<\/a>.<\/p>\n

I know that this isn\u2019t easy. Your heart is broken and you think that you don\u2019t have the strength to face the painful truth.<\/p>\n

Instead, you live in denial. You keep hoping that this is not the end and that you don\u2019t have to go through the process of emotional detachment.<\/p>\n

Well, the number one mistake most people make when they end any relationship (and this especially goes for romances) is that they start obsessing on getting their ex \u2013 whom they still love \u2013 back.<\/p>\n

I get it. You miss this person badly and at this initial point, you\u2019d do everything in your power to reconcile with them.<\/p>\n

Por isso, passamos semanas ou mesmo meses a tentar subtilmente reconquist\u00e1-los ou at\u00e9 a implorar-lhes abertamente uma nova oportunidade.<\/p>\n

Esperamos pacientemente para ver o seu n\u00famero de telefone no ecr\u00e3 e colocamos a nossa vida em espera, esperando que essa pessoa volte.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not here to give you lectures about your self-worth and why this is something you should never do for multiple reasons. In fact, I\u2019ll just warn you about one thing.<\/p>\n

When you find yourself in a situation like this, after a while you\u2019ll turn around and see that you haven\u2019t actually moved an inch \u2013 that your state of mind is exactly the same as it was the first day of your breakup.<\/p>\n

Despite the fact that this person has been physically absent from your life for some time, you feel like you\u2019ve just lost them.<\/p>\n

You keep on expecting their phone call or text message where they tell you they can’t live without you.<\/p>\n

That is exactly why it\u2019s crucial not to waste any of your time on running from the truth or on trying to change something that can\u2019t be fixed.<\/p>\n

Instead of putting all of your strength into getting this person back, make a decision that, from this moment onward, you\u2019ll start your healing process.<\/p>\n

2. Dar passos de beb\u00e9<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you \u2013 emotional detachment and complete peace of mind can\u2019t come overnight.<\/p>\n

Kicking out someone from your life physically is not easy. However, it\u2019s a piece of cake in comparison to throwing them out of your heart, mind, and soul.<\/p>\n

Ordering your emotions and thoughts is one of the hardest things you\u2019ll ever have to do. In fact, some even consider it impossible.<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s not true. This is definitely possible, but it is a process that involves a lot of time, energy, effort, devotion, and \u2013 most importantly \u2013 patience.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you won\u2019t accomplish anything if you rush yourself through this journey.<\/p>\n

Em vez de ser duro consigo pr\u00f3prio e esperar que os milagres aconte\u00e7am de um dia para o outro, d\u00ea passos de beb\u00e9 e avance um dia de cada vez.<\/p>\n

Of course, there are a lot of people who are convinced that they\u2019ve managed to emotionally detach themselves from someone in a blink of an eye.<\/p>\n

However, that is not possible. In fact, in this case, it\u2019s likely that nunca amaram<\/a> a pessoa de quem estavam a tentar desligar-se a s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n

What is even more probable is that they\u2019ve just repressed their emotions, which is certainly not a healthy way to deal with things.<\/p>\n

They\u2019ve done everything in a hurry, but all of their feelings will come flooding back sooner or later, when they least expect it to.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, se quiser evitar este tipo de destino, esque\u00e7a a tentativa de varrer as coisas para debaixo do tapete, uma vez que esta pr\u00e1tica lhe trar\u00e1 mais preju\u00edzos do que benef\u00edcios a longo prazo.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, deixe o tempo fazer a sua magia e d\u00ea um pequeno passo de cada vez.<\/p>\n

3. Permitir-se fazer o luto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Acabar com algu\u00e9m e o desapego emocional que normalmente se segue anda sempre de m\u00e3os dadas com muitas luto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Bem, outro erro que muitas pessoas tamb\u00e9m cometem \u00e9 o facto de tentarem evitar esta fase.<\/p>\n

This is perfectly understandable. After all, there\u2019s not one person on this planet who enjoys a passar por um desgosto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m gosta de escavar as suas feridas emocionais e arriscar-se a aprofund\u00e1-las ainda mais. No entanto, esta \u00e9 tamb\u00e9m uma parte vital do processo de liberta\u00e7\u00e3o da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Por isso, em vez de evitar que toda a sua dor venha \u00e0 superf\u00edcie, fa\u00e7a exatamente o contr\u00e1rio.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t provoke it intentionally, but if you sense a wave of sadness coming, don\u2019t try shutting it down.<\/p>\n

Embrace your pain and see it as something completely normal. Don\u2019t let it define you, but accept that you\u2019re just a human being made out of flesh and blood and that you\u2019re allowed to suffer.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think of yourself as weak for feeling this way either. If you have the urge to scream or cry, that\u2019s exactly what you should do.<\/p>\n

Of course, this type of behavior shouldn\u2019t become a habit of yours. After all, you can\u2019t keep on living like this forever, can you?<\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly why you should give yourself a deadline. Determine a date until which you\u2019re allowed to grieve.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one who knows yourself the best, so you\u2019re also the only one who can at least predict the amount of time your heart will need to recover.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 esta data, lida com a tua dor como te apetecer.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t have to be smart and play your cards right during this period; just do whatever is easiest for you (except contacting the person you\u2019re learning how to emotionally detach from).<\/p>\n

Depois de decorrido esse per\u00edodo de tempo, organize-se e trabalhe no sentido de se libertar completamente.<\/p>\n

4. Cortar todos os la\u00e7os<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m sure you\u2019ve already heard about the (in)famous regra de n\u00e3o contacto<\/a>. Trata-se de uma t\u00e9cnica que as pessoas costumam aplicar para recuperar os seus ex.<\/p>\n

Basically, you cut all possible ties with this person for 30 to 90 days. No phone calls, no WhatsApp messages, no texting\u2026 If that doesn’t work, you even go as far as changing your phone number.<\/p>\n

D\u00e1-lhes a oportunidade de sentirem a sua aus\u00eancia e de come\u00e7arem a sentir a sua falta, e d\u00e1 a si pr\u00f3prio muito tempo para organizar os seus pensamentos e descobrir o que e quem realmente quer.<\/p>\n

Well, when you\u2019re trying to detach yourself from someone, you\u2019ll also cut all ties with them. Basically, you\u2019ll go no contact with this person.<\/p>\n

However, your no contact period is not temporary. Also, it\u2019s not meant to serve as a tactic towards reconciliation.<\/p>\n

Instead, it\u2019s one of the steps towards your moving on for good.<\/p>\n

Yes, I know we\u2019re talking about emotional detachment here. Nevertheless, this is utterly impossible without physical detachment.<\/p>\n

Por ordem expulsar algu\u00e9m do seu sistema<\/a>primeiro tens de os expulsar da tua vida. E quando digo expulsar, estou a falar a s\u00e9rio.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nenhuma op\u00e7\u00e3o em que voc\u00eas os dois continuem a ser os melhores amigos.<\/p>\n

I know you want to be polite and you probably love this person as a human being before you see them as a romantic partner, but you can\u2019t expect to over get over them if you stay on friendly terms.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, isto significa que tem simplesmente de quebrar todas as liga\u00e7\u00f5es com essa pessoa. N\u00e3o h\u00e1 mensagens de texto casuais, sair para tomar uma ch\u00e1vena de caf\u00e9, desejar feliz anivers\u00e1rio ou p\u00f4r a conversa em dia.<\/p>\n

Sounds radical, I know. But it\u2019s the only way for you to accept it\u2019s really over, and save your mental and emotional health.<\/p>\n

You see, staying in touch with someone you\u2019re trying to forget equals reopening your wounds every time you have any kind of contact with them.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s moving forward one step and going back two, which is not your desired result.<\/p>\n

Besides, you know what they say: out of sight, out of mind. Just based on this, it\u2019s apparent that you have a way better chance of detaching yourself if you go no contact.<\/p>\n

5. Livrar-se dos lembretes<\/h2>\n

\"imagem<\/p>\n

However, cutting all ties usually means much more than just going no contact with someone you\u2019re sadly still attached to.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not enough to change your phone number, unfollow them on social media, block them on WhatsApp, and refrain from talking to them on a regular basis.<\/p>\n

In fact, if you really want to know how to emotionally detach and achieve complete peace of mind, you\u2019ll have to get rid of everything and everyone that might remind you of this person, as well.<\/p>\n

If you two were in a long term relationship (we’re even talking about an ex husband or wife here), it\u2019s perfectly natural that a lot of things and people around you are connected with this person.<\/p>\n

Bem, seria melhor se conseguisses, pelo menos, distanciar-te de todos eles. Isto aplica-se especialmente aos vossos amigos \u00edntimos comuns.<\/p>\n

I know that you\u2019ve grown to love these people, but the last thing you need is someone who will keep on talking about your ex and your memories together.<\/p>\n

Besides, whether you like to admit it or not, you\u2019ll always wonder if these people will talk to them about you and if they can serve you as a channel towards them.<\/p>\n

Tens de admitir que esta \u00e9 a \u00faltima coisa de que precisas se queres realmente seguir em frente.<\/p>\n

Therefore, the best thing would be to cut all ties with these people as well \u2013 at least for a certain period of time until you get better.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry: If they\u2019re your amigos verdadeiros<\/a>, they\u2019ll understand your situation. They won\u2019t pressure you into seeing them; they\u2019ll give you all the time you need.<\/p>\n

On the other hand, if you’re coworkers with your ex, things can get a little tricky and breaking up is more difficult.<\/p>\n

Nesse caso, fa\u00e7a o poss\u00edvel para manter a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o estritamente profissional e, se poss\u00edvel, tente encontrar outro emprego.<\/p>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

O mesmo se aplica \u00e0s recorda\u00e7\u00f5es f\u00edsicas da sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o falhada.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, deixe de frequentar os s\u00edtios que voc\u00ea e o seu ex frequentavam. Isto \u00e9 especialmente importante quando se trata de discotecas, centros comerciais, parques ou caf\u00e9s onde espera encontr\u00e1-los.<\/p>\n

A segunda parte \u00e9 remover todas as suas fotografias e mem\u00f3rias das suas redes sociais e de outros ambientes.<\/p>\n

When it comes to this person\u2019s gifts and other things that remind you of them, you don\u2019t have to throw away all of it.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, h\u00e1-de chegar o dia em que cada uma destas coisas lhe far\u00e1 sorrir em vez de o fazer chorar.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, o melhor \u00e9 manter alguns pequenos lembretes, mas escond\u00ea-los de si pr\u00f3prio at\u00e9 que o per\u00edodo cr\u00edtico termine.<\/p>\n

Another significant thing here is music. While you\u2019re in the grieving stage, you\u2019ll probably listen to a lot of sad songs on a regular basis to help you release your sadness.<\/p>\n

However, in this phase, you should do your best not to listen to any songs that might remind you of the person you\u2019re trying to emotionally detach yourself from.<\/p>\n

6. Deixem de idealizar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

The next step in your emotional detachment process is all about you idealizing your past relationship (or marriage, if we’re talking about your ex husband or wife).<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry: You\u2019re not the only one doing this.<\/p>\n

De facto, esta \u00e9 uma pr\u00e1tica comum entre os que est\u00e3o de luto por uma separa\u00e7\u00e3o. Pensa que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 muito melhor do que era na realidade.<\/p>\n

Voc\u00ea sentir falta do seu ex<\/a> boyfriend or girlfriend so much that you\u2019ve forgotten all about your arguments and everything bad regarding your relationship.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, recorda apenas os dias bonitos e romantiza-os ainda mais.<\/p>\n

Deste ponto de vista, o que voc\u00eas os dois tinham era um tipo de amor \u00fanico. Tinham um tipo especial de liga\u00e7\u00e3o, uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o c\u00e1rmica.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re convinced that this person is your only soulmate and the only man or woman you\u2019ll ever love this much.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you that this is all pain talking. I don\u2019t doubt that you and your ex cared for each other, but trust me, it was a romantic relationship like every other.<\/p>\n

You had your ups and downs. Besides, the bad days apparently outnumbered the good. After all, you broke up for a reason, didn\u2019t you?<\/p>\n

Therefore, I promise you that your relationship wasn\u2019t as perfect as it now might seem. Your ex boyfriend or girlfriend has their own set of flaws, and I assure you that you\u2019ll find someone better than them.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that you should forget everything nice you shared with this person either.<\/p>\n

Em vez disso, tente encarar as coisas da forma mais realista poss\u00edvel, o que lhe facilitar\u00e1 a supera\u00e7\u00e3o de toda esta prova\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

7. Lembra-te que podes sobreviver sem ningu\u00e9m<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

So, you\u2019re in a situation where you\u2019re wondering how to detach from someone once you\u2019ve built an emotional codependency with them.<\/p>\n

Isto acontece frequentemente em rela\u00e7\u00f5es com narcisistas.<\/p>\n

These people convince you that you’re completely worthless without them and that breaking up with them never means breaking emotionally free from them.<\/p>\n

You come to believe that you can’t make it without them, that you need them to continue existing.<\/p>\n

Convence-se de que essa pessoa \u00e9 o centro do seu universo, que a sua vida sem ela n\u00e3o teria sentido e que o seu bem-estar depende dela.<\/p>\n

Assim, naturalmente, quando perdemos o nosso ente querido que era o Sol para a nossa Terra, sentimos que perdemos tamb\u00e9m todo o nosso valor pr\u00f3prio (mesmo que nos tenhamos apercebido que est\u00e1vamos a lidar com um narcisista).<\/p>\n

O seu estado de esp\u00edrito altera-se ao ponto de pensar que a \u00fanica forma de continuar a funcionar corretamente \u00e9 fazer tudo o que estiver ao seu alcance para os ter de volta.<\/p>\n

Bem, o ponto-chave no seu processo de desapego emocional \u00e9 descobrir que nada do que foi mencionado acima \u00e9 verdade.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t need your ex<\/a> \u2013 you chose them to be a part of your life. Actually, as self-centered as this might sound, the truth is that you don\u2019t need anyone to survive. No one but yourself, of course.<\/p>\n

After all, you lived and existed before this person came along. So, what makes you think that you can\u2019t keep on doing that now that they\u2019re gone?<\/p>\n

Please, don\u2019t forget that you\u2019re stronger than you might think. Even if things don\u2019t appear that way now, trust me that you\u2019re more independent and self-sufficient than you think.<\/p>\n

Tenha f\u00e9 que pode e vai conseguir.<\/p>\n

No, realizing all of this won\u2019t magically make you forget all about this person, nor will it shut all of your feelings off just like that. The truth is that you\u2019ll probably still miss them.<\/p>\n

However, you won\u2019t be emotionally attached to them anymore, which is the entire point, right?<\/p>\n

8. Obter o for\u00e7a para os perdoar<\/a>\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"silhueta<\/p>\n

Most people think that emotional attachment has to mean that you only love this person we\u2019re talking about. Well, the fact is, things are usually much more complicated than that.<\/p>\n

In fact, when you\u2019re in this kind of state, it\u2019s pretty normal for you to feel all sorts of emotions.<\/p>\n

One day, you love them and want them back, the next you hate them for leaving you, the day after that you think you\u2019re finally over them, and so it goes on.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, this is nothing unusual and it doesn\u2019t make you crazy. In fact, it\u2019s just your brain and heart\u2019s system of dealing with this roller-coaster you got yourself onto.<\/p>\n

Basically, the point is that it doesn\u2019t matter how you feel for your ex. The bottom line is the same: they exist inside of you, one way or another.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s pretty much the same if you love them or hate them. Either way, you\u2019re still emotionally attached to them and need help letting them go.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you have to get the strength to forgive this person, even if it\u2019s the last thing they deserve.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso deixar de lado o ressentimento e o rancor se quisermos deixar de lado todos os sentimentos que temos por eles.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll simply have to find a way to surpass the anger and the bitterness. Trust me: it\u2019s the only way for you to set yourself free.<\/p>\n

Be the better person and accept even the apologies you didn\u2019t get. This won\u2019t be easy, but it\u2019s necessary for your healing process.<\/p>\n

9. \u2026and yourself<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Mais importante ainda, \u00e9 preciso encontrar a for\u00e7a para perdoar-se a si pr\u00f3prio<\/a>. You see, sometimes you\u2019re not emotionally attached to your ex \u2013 you\u2019re still hung up on the person you were with them.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not referring to the happy person you were back then. I\u2019m talking about the fact that maybe you\u2019re having a hard time forgiving yourself for not being smarter and for not knowing better.<\/p>\n

Maybe you\u2019re angry at yourself for still loving someone who obviously doesn\u2019t deserve it.<\/p>\n

Either way, the point is that you need to remember one thing: You just followed your feelings. You only broke your own heart and you\u2019re not responsible for someone\u2019s misfortune.<\/p>\n

Por conseguinte, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 absolutamente nada que tenha de perdoar a si pr\u00f3prio. Lembre-se que estas coisas acontecem e que passar por algo assim faz parte da vida.<\/p>\n

Por favor, p\u00e1ra de ser t\u00e3o duro contigo mesmo e d\u00e1 um tempo a ti mesmo.<\/p>\n

10. Saber que isto vai passar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O pr\u00f3ximo passo \u00e9 n\u00e3o ver esta situa\u00e7\u00e3o como o fim do mundo. Seja otimista e saiba que isto vai passar.<\/p>\n

This is just a phase in your life \u2013 not a permanent state. You will get over it and sarar\u00e1s<\/a>, even though it doesn\u2019t look that way now.<\/p>\n

O pior que se pode fazer \u00e9 perder a esperan\u00e7a. Se perder a f\u00e9 em si pr\u00f3prio, tudo isto ser\u00e1 muito mais dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n

Trust me, you\u2019re not the only one to go through something like this. In fact, I bet that there\u2019s not a person alive who hasn\u2019t experienced something similar.<\/p>\n

Look, I\u2019ll be completely honest with you here. This is probably not the last time you\u2019ll be asking yourself how to detach from someone.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re likely to fall in love with someone new in the future, and there is a possibility that you\u2019ll have trouble forgetting them and detaching from them too.<\/p>\n

No entanto, tamb\u00e9m passar\u00e1, da mesma forma que esta experi\u00eancia. Amanh\u00e3 \u00e9 sempre um novo dia e existe<\/em> a light at the end of the tunnel, even if you don\u2019t see one.<\/p>\n

11. Manter-se ocupado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Outra coisa importante aqui \u00e9 manter-se o mais ocupado poss\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong: I\u2019m not trying to tell you that you should run away from your feelings into overwhelming yourself with loads of work and other obligations.<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019re sitting around and doing nothing, it\u2019s more likely that your thoughts will end up drifting to where they shouldn\u2019t go.<\/p>\n

Whether you like it or not, when you\u2019re bored, you\u2019ll start thinking about your ex and catch yourself preoccupied with them again.<\/p>\n

Por isso, a melhor maneira de o evitar \u00e9 ter o dia todo preenchido se quiser deixar de ser obcecado<\/a> sobre esta pessoa.<\/p>\n

Para come\u00e7ar, inicie uma atividade f\u00edsica. V\u00e1 ao gin\u00e1sio, fa\u00e7a exerc\u00edcio em casa, junte-se ao clube de caminhadas ou fa\u00e7a o que quer que canse o seu corpo.<\/p>\n

First and foremost, this is one of the best ways to get rid of all of that anger you\u2019ve got pent up deep inside. Also, I promise you that your mind will follow your body sooner than you might think.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re physically exhausted, you have a better sleeping schedule and you simply have no strength left to think about someone you shouldn\u2019t be thinking about.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, uma boa maneira de se manter ocupado \u00e9 encontrar um novo passatempo. Este novo passatempo pode incluir aprender uma nova l\u00edngua, dominar uma nova habilidade, juntar-se ao clube de leitura ou frequentar uma aula de arte.<\/p>\n

It wouldn\u2019t be bad if you could get in touch with some of your old friends either.<\/p>\n

I know that you\u2019re probably scared of their reaction, since you\u2019ve been ignoring them while you were in a relationship, but you can always try reaching out to them.<\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve got nothing to lose. Besides, I have a pretty good feeling that they\u2019ll understand you and take you back.<\/p>\n

12. Redirecionar esta energia para si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re emotionally attached to someone who is no longer physically present in your life, you spend a lot of time and energy thinking about them.<\/p>\n

Of course you want to avoid this, but you feel like you just can\u2019t help yourself.<\/p>\n

No matter what you do, you can\u2019t help but wonder where this person is, how they are, and whether they also feel the emotional connection you do.<\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00f3 isso, como tamb\u00e9m gastava muita energia com o seu ex enquanto estavam juntos.<\/p>\n

Fizeste tudo o que podias para salvar a tua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, apesar de uma parte de ti saber que estava condenada ao fracasso.<\/p>\n

After that, you\u2019ve spent ages crying and lamenting the loss of someone who is still alive. Basically, your feelings for this person have become your be-all and end-all.<\/p>\n

Well, now it\u2019s time to change that. And the best way to do so is to redirect all of the time you\u2019ve been giving to your ex towards yourself.<\/p>\n

Recolha toda essa energia e comece a investi-la na \u00fanica pessoa que a merece: voc\u00ea.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

For starters, do your best to start loving yourself the way you love your ex. Start thinking about your life as much as you\u2019ve thought about theirs, and taking care of yourself the same way you did them.<\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m trying to say is to take your ex off this pedestal you\u2019ve obviously put them on. Stop prioritizing them and switch places between you two.<\/p>\n

Para variar, ponha-se a si pr\u00f3prio e ao seu bem-estar em primeiro lugar. Pare de ligar toda a sua exist\u00eancia a essa pessoa e lembre-se que o seu pequeno universo gira \u00e0 sua volta.<\/p>\n

Trust me, your ex isn\u2019t as important to you as they seem to be. You\u2019re the most significant figure in your own life and the only one who really matters.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you\u2019re the one who deserves all the love in this world, your sa\u00fade mental<\/a> e n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada mais importante do que o seu bem-estar.<\/p>\n

Please, use this time to build the person you\u2019re destined to be. Grow and do everything in your power to become the best possible version of yourself.<\/p>\n

Trabalhe a sua autoestima, perceba a import\u00e2ncia do amor-pr\u00f3prio e desenvolva o seu sentido de autoestima.<\/p>\n

Once you accomplish all of this, just like that, you\u2019ll stop developing emotional codependency towards other people.<\/p>\n

13. Aprender com o passado<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the thing: As much as we\u2019d like to, the fact is that nobody can change the past. So, the question is: What\u2019s the point of obsessing so much over it?<\/p>\n

That\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ve been doing. You\u2019ve been dwelling on the past and completely disregarding the present and future.<\/p>\n

Bem, em vez desta pr\u00e1tica (que pode ser perigosa para a sua sa\u00fade mental), experimente tomar alguns aulas<\/a> from everything you\u2019ve been through.<\/p>\n

Em primeiro lugar, toda esta experi\u00eancia deve ensinar-lhe a nunca se permitir ficar emocionalmente dependente de outra pessoa.<\/p>\n

You can love someone with all of your heart, but that doesn\u2019t mean that your entire world should stop turning if it happens that you lose them.<\/p>\n

Another crucial lesson here is that you don\u2019t actually need anyone but yourself. When you lose a loved one, you are convinced that you won\u2019t be able to keep on living without them. But here you are.<\/p>\n

So, I guess that you\u2019re much stronger than you initially thought. You can take much more than you expected, and you have what it takes to go through life on your own, without anyone holding your hand.<\/p>\n

Yes, you\u2019re an independent and emotionally self-sufficient individual and don\u2019t let anyone change that.<\/p>\n

14. Pedir ajuda<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Emotionally detaching yourself from a loved one is never easy. In fact, some people find themselves in a situation where they can\u2019t cope with their feelings in this process on their own.<\/p>\n

Se isto \u00e9 algo com que se identifica, por favor ou\u00e7a o meu conselho e pe\u00e7a ajuda a um familiar ou amigo pr\u00f3ximo. Confie em mim, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de que se deva envergonhar.<\/p>\n

Acreditem em mim quando vos digo que qualquer fardo se torna muito mais leve quando o partilhamos com outra pessoa. O mesmo acontece com este bagagem emocional<\/a> you\u2019ve been carrying around.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that a third person will magically wipe away your pain. However, sometimes just talking to your best friend or a close family member helps a lot.<\/p>\n

It becomes a lot easier to deal with all of this once you know that you\u2019re heard and that you\u2019re not alone.<\/p>\n

Also, some people around you have also been through something similar to what you\u2019re going through right now. Believe me, their experiences can serve you well.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 claro que cada um de n\u00f3s tem o seu pr\u00f3prio ritmo e forma de lidar com as coisas. No entanto, a forma como os outros atingiram o seu objetivo e ultrapassaram o apego emocional pode, pelo menos, servir de inspira\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Se nada ajudar, n\u00e3o h\u00e1 nada de vergonhoso em perguntar a um profissional como se desligar de algu\u00e9m de uma forma saud\u00e1vel. Desejo-lhe a melhor das sortes!<\/p>\n

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