{"id":79919,"date":"2020-06-10T13:42:09","date_gmt":"2020-06-10T13:42:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=79919"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:27:11","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:27:11","slug":"ele-foi-o-erro-da-minha-vida","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-foi-o-erro-da-minha-vida\/","title":{"rendered":"Ele foi o erro da minha vida, mas os erros s\u00e3o li\u00e7\u00f5es, n\u00e3o perdas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Toda a gente tem aquele momento na sua vida que gostaria que n\u00e3o tivesse acontecido. No meu caso, foi o tempo que passei com ele.<\/span><\/p>\n

De uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o aparentemente normal, acabei num pesadelo. Ele quebrou completamente a minha confian\u00e7a, abusou mentalmente de mim e fingiu que nunca tinha acontecido.<\/span><\/p>\n

O pior \u00e9 que quase deixei de acreditar nas pessoas boas e em mim pr\u00f3prio. Fiquei destro\u00e7ada com o facto de algu\u00e9m poder dizer que nos amava para nos trair no dia seguinte.<\/b><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t ready for his mind games; I didn\u2019t even recognize when he was doing them.<\/span><\/p>\n

A n\u00edvel emocional, ele fez-me recuar tanto que precisei de come\u00e7ar tudo de novo.<\/b><\/p>\n

Agora acho que foi uma coisa boa. <\/span>Porqu\u00ea? <\/span><\/i>Porque finalmente aprendi a amar-me verdadeiramente. Para ultrapassar a dor, tive de ser muito honesta comigo mesma e perguntar-me o que estava a fazer de errado.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

A \u00fanica coisa que fiz de errado foi deixar que os outros decidissem o que era bom para mim e que decidissem o meu valor. Essa foi a coisa mais dif\u00edcil de aceitar e mudar.<\/b><\/p>\n

Sometimes, I get the feeling that many people don\u2019t know how hard it is to mentally pull yourself out of a dark place, let alone do it every day while doing everything else besides that.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso coragem para nos defendermos, especialmente quando algu\u00e9m nos est\u00e1 a enganar e nos faz questionar a nossa realidade e os nossos sentimentos.<\/span><\/p>\n

I had enough of that. I\u2019d rather make a mistake than trust someone else to know what I feel, want and need better than me.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s true that my story is filled with terrible choices and things I wish I hadn\u2019t done but it\u2019s also full of transformation, getting up and being at peace with myself after that.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Acredito verdadeiramente que um erro \u00e9 uma li\u00e7\u00e3o e n\u00e3o uma perda.<\/span><\/p>\n

Loss is something you can\u2019t get back; the lesson is a wake-up call; the lesson is improvement.<\/b><\/p>\n

It makes you change your life and become better and stronger. Sometimes, I think that tough days maybe didn\u2019t <\/span>fazer<\/span><\/i> me fortaleceu, mas mostrou-me como sou forte.<\/span><\/p>\n

De qualquer forma, algo que eu via como um erro tornou-se, com o tempo, muito mais do que isso.<\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve learned that making mistakes indeed makes me imperfect but imperfect doesn\u2019t mean less than.<\/span><\/p>\n

Posso ser um trabalho em progresso e continuar a amar-me e a respeitar-me.<\/b><\/p>\n

Life will often knock you down, you will see things you don\u2019t want to see, you will feel rejected and ask yourself, \u201cWhat\u2019s the point of it all?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Still, you\u2019ll get back up on your feet and move on. That\u2019s the point\u2014to always get up, learn, improve and go forward.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t give up on love because of one person. Hold tightly to love because you deserve it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mereces ser amado tal como \u00e9s e acarinhado por tudo o que faz de ti <\/b>tu<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let the things that happen to you decide who you are. You have the power to decide what to do with yourself, your feelings and your life. Just believe in yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember that being happy isn\u2019t a destination or the point where you will have it all\u2014it\u2019s being thankful for what you have now and making the best of it.<\/b><\/p>\n

With the right kind of mindset, which is inspiring and productive, you\u2019ll allow the right kind of man into your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Um homem que a respeite e a aceite por inteiro, que compreenda o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o e aprecie a sua mente. Algu\u00e9m que veja para al\u00e9m das coisas superficiais da vida e esteja pronto para uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com significado.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s the same with the people you surround yourself with.<\/span><\/p>\n

D\u00e1 a ti pr\u00f3prio o melhor que puderes porque o mereces. Aprende com os erros, mas n\u00e3o te arrependas de nada. O arrependimento \u00e9 um sentimento in\u00fatil e sufocante que s\u00f3 torna as coisas mais dif\u00edceis.<\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, re\u00fana todas as coisas que aprendeu e fa\u00e7a uma promessa a si pr\u00f3prio:<\/span><\/p>\n

I will never stop striving for a better me and a better life. I know that life is imperfect but it\u2019s still beautiful and magical.<\/b><\/p>\n

Mere\u00e7o viver uma vida com sentido e feliz, apesar das dificuldades por que passei.<\/b><\/p>\n

I am not my struggle, I\u2019m a strong person who keeps moving forward despite the obstacles.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Ele<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Everyone has that one time in their life they wish hadn\u2019t happened. In my case, that was my time with him. From a seemingly normal relationship, I ended up in a nightmare. He completely broke my trust, mentally abused me and pretended like it never happened. The worst thing was I almost stopped believing in…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":79925,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-79919","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/He-Was-The-Mistake-Of-My-Life-But-Mistakes-Are-Lessons-Not-Losses.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","parent":38,"count":146,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29617,"category_count":146,"category_description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. That's why I've decided to collect different stories of heartbreak - to help everyone going through the same.","cat_name":"heartbreak","category_nicename":"heartbreak","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79919","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=79919"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/79919\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/79925"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=79919"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=79919"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=79919"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}