{"id":8018,"date":"2020-04-06T13:51:31","date_gmt":"2020-04-06T13:51:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8018"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:10:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:10:40","slug":"a-rapariga-do-lado-feio-ve-o-lado-bom-dos-outros","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-rapariga-do-lado-feio-ve-o-lado-bom-dos-outros\/","title":{"rendered":"O lado feio de ser uma rapariga que s\u00f3 v\u00ea o bem nos outros"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando se \u00e9 uma boa pessoa, tende-se a projetar a sua \"bondade\" nos outros.<\/p>\n<p>Tem esta tend\u00eancia inata para observar as pessoas como sendo muito melhores do que elas e tende a esquecer as coisas m\u00e1s que lhe aconteceram.<\/p>\n<p>Tendes a perdoar aqueles que vos fizeram mal e tendes a dar novas oportunidades sem parar. Continuas a escrever novos livros com as mesmas personagens de antes.<\/p>\n<p>Por causa da pessoa que \u00e9s, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/blog\/tech-support\/201403\/the-trouble-trust\" rel=\"noopener\">continuas a confiar nas pessoas<\/a>Se n\u00e3o fores capaz de os amar, continua a dar-lhes todas as chaves para abrirem as portas que conduzem ao teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>You often forget to take care of yourself because you\u2019re too busy taking care of everyone else.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Nunca aprender\u00e1s, pois n\u00e3o? Nunca deixar\u00e1s de usar o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o na manga, pois n\u00e3o?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You stay even when people show you their ugly sides. When you see the ugly parts of someone you don\u2019t run away.<\/p>\n<p>You decide to love them even more for showing you that they\u2019re only human and you keep thinking your love will make their bad sides a bit less bad. You stay even when things get rough.<\/p>\n<p>You stay even when the other person doesn\u2019t deserve you because you\u2019re a believer. And you can\u2019t stop believing that each tomorrow will be better than ever today.<\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re a good person, but the ugly side of being a good girl is a little fact you keep forgetting and that\u2019s that you live in a cruel world.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82554\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-in-deep-thoughts.jpg\" alt=\"mulher bonita em pensamentos profundos\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-in-deep-thoughts.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-in-deep-thoughts-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-in-deep-thoughts-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>You live in a world and in an age filled with toxic people, filled with narcissists and self-centered people who\u2019re just waiting for someone like you to drink from their cup.<\/p>\n<p><strong><a href=\"https:\/\/thoughtcatalog.com\/brianna-wiest\/2014\/10\/16-things-we-expect-of-others-but-rarely-consider-changing-ourselves\/\" rel=\"noopener\">Espera que os outros estejam l\u00e1 para si<\/a> quando precisamos deles, s\u00f3 porque estivemos sempre l\u00e1 para eles. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You expect others not to betray you, just because you\u2019d never betray them. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re like that little Little Red Riding Hood, who expected a wolf not to eat her just because she doesn\u2019t eat wolves.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>What happened the last time you got broken? Actually, don\u2019t tell me, I know exactly what happened.<\/p>\n<p>Por uma vez na vida, precisavas de algu\u00e9m em quem te apoiar. Precisava de algu\u00e9m que lhe segurasse a m\u00e3o e lhe dissesse que tudo ia correr bem.<\/p>\n<p>You needed them to hug all the bad from you, just like you\u2019d do if they needed you. But, \u2018surprisingly\u2019, nobody was there.<\/p>\n<p>Deixaram-no sozinho para lidar com os seus problemas. Eles foram-se embora porque o que quer que estivessem a fazer era mais importante do que estar l\u00e1 para a pessoa que sempre esteve l\u00e1 para eles.<\/p>\n<p>And your naive little heart never saw that coming. You thought you could count on them, didn\u2019t you? Unfortunately, that didn\u2019t turn out as planned.<\/p>\n<p>Seeing those who should\u2019ve been there walking away from you broke you. It left you empty-handed and speechless.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82556\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-in-chair.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada numa cadeira\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-in-chair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-in-chair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/sad-woman-sitting-in-chair-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Deixava-nos a pensar no que t\u00ednhamos feito de errado e no que estava errado com eles tamb\u00e9m.<\/p>\n<p>You know they should\u2019ve been there for you, you know they should\u2019ve asked how you were, but nothing like that ever came from them.<\/p>\n<p>E acabou por ser quebrado por outras pessoas, pelas suas pr\u00f3prias cren\u00e7as e por n\u00e3o ver as suas expectativas satisfeitas.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/5-tips-heal-broken-heart\/\">Partiu-se<\/a> by not getting in return the love and care you\u2019d been giving so selflessly to others.<\/p>\n<p>Sei exatamente como me senti. Foi uma dor incomensur\u00e1vel. Fic\u00e1mos magoados at\u00e9 aos ossos, chor\u00e1mos um pouco e continu\u00e1mos a questionar tudo.<\/p>\n<p>You tried to turn the other cheek, you tried to be rude, you tried to push them away, out of your life, you tried to be mad, but it didn\u2019t last.<\/p>\n<p>Ficou zangado durante um dia. Odiou-os durante um segundo e depois tentou explicar o seu comportamento.<\/p>\n<p>Fez deles v\u00edtimas de circunst\u00e2ncias desconhecidas, quando a \u00fanica v\u00edtima era voc\u00ea.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, decidiste que eles precisavam mais do teu amor e da tua bondade do que tu do deles. E ent\u00e3o perdoou-os.<\/p>\n<p>A pior parte \u00e9 que vais esquecer qualquer coisa m\u00e1 que te tenham feito. Esquecer\u00e1s tudo num instante.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82558\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg\" alt=\"mulher bonita sentada \u00e0 janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-sitting-by-the-window.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-sitting-by-the-window-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/pretty-woman-sitting-by-the-window-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>And you\u2019ll allow those who hurt you, those who broke you, to get back in your life again.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You\u2019re just not the kind of person who uses others. You\u2019re the one who keeps giving herself, keeps firing love like fireworks, even though she\u2019s broken on the inside. You just don\u2019t have a mean bone in your body.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Sempre que aquela voz fraca no fundo da sua mente tenta lembrar-lhe o quanto os outros o magoaram, voc\u00ea sacode-a e sorri como se nada tivesse acontecido.<\/p>\n<p>S\u00f3 que o teu sorriso \u00e9 menos sorriso do que era antes. S\u00f3 no teu sorriso e nos teus olhos consegues esconder o que te foi feito.<\/p>\n<p>Mas abanamos a cabe\u00e7a ao mais pequeno aparecimento de m\u00e1s recorda\u00e7\u00f5es e sorrimos.<\/p>\n<p>You put your heart on your sleeve again and you go out loving people regardless of if they\u2019re gonna love you back or not.<\/p>\n<p>Damos uma segunda, uma terceira, uma quinta oportunidade e baixamos a guarda, esperando que desta vez seja diferente.<\/p>\n<p><strong>You keep repeating the same mistakes day after day. But you couldn&#8217;t do it any other way because that&#8217;s just who you are. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>You&#8217;ll keep giving the best of you and they&#8217;ll keep using it and your smile will be more and more broken each time, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.theodysseyonline.com\/never-stop-smiling\" rel=\"noopener\">but you&#8217;ll never stop smiling.<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>You will never learn the science behind being mean because you&#8217;re just not that kind of person.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82552\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Being-A-Girl-Who-Sees-Only-Good-In-Others-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"O lado feio de ser uma rapariga que s\u00f3 v\u00ea o bem nos outros\" width=\"735\" height=\"1102\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Being-A-Girl-Who-Sees-Only-Good-In-Others-pinterest.jpg 735w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Being-A-Girl-Who-Sees-Only-Good-In-Others-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Being-A-Girl-Who-Sees-Only-Good-In-Others-pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 735px) 100vw, 735px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you\u2019re a good person you tend to project your \u2018goodness\u2019 on others. You have this inborn tendency to observe people as way better than they are and you tend to forget bad things that happened to you. You tend to forgive those who did you wrong and you tend to give new chances endlessly&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":82560,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8018","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/The-Ugly-Side-Of-Being-A-Girl-Who-Sees-Only-Good-In-Others.jpg",800,529,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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