{"id":8025,"date":"2020-04-28T14:07:18","date_gmt":"2020-04-28T14:07:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=8025"},"modified":"2022-02-24T10:48:36","modified_gmt":"2022-02-24T10:48:36","slug":"ele-e-um-narcisista-serio-disfarcado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-e-um-narcisista-serio-disfarcado\/","title":{"rendered":"Se o teu homem faz estas 10 coisas, ele \u00e9 um s\u00e9rio narcisista disfar\u00e7ado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Tudo come\u00e7a como num conto de fadas. Conhecem-se, apaixonam-se. Sente-se como se fosse a rapariga mais sortuda do mundo. Ele d\u00e1-te toda a aten\u00e7\u00e3o que pode.<\/p>\n

Ele d\u00e1-te presentes, leva-te a jantar, traz-te flores, he\u2019s the real Prince Charming<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Quem \u00e9 que recusaria uma aten\u00e7\u00e3o dessas? Ningu\u00e9m e tu tamb\u00e9m n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Querias acreditar no amor verdadeiro e ele apresentou-se como aquele por quem esperaste toda a tua vida.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Tudo isto estava a acontecer muito depressa. Ele queria passar para a fase seguinte da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o e obrigou-a a acompanh\u00e1-lo.<\/p>\n

Ele cegou-te com todo o amor e aten\u00e7\u00e3o e pensaste que era isso, o verdadeiro. Pensaste que finalmente tinhas encontrado algu\u00e9m com quem passar o resto da tua vida.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 assim que o jogo deles funciona. \u00c9 assim que eles vos atraem para a sua armadilha.<\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

In reality, when you take away all the gifts and trips you got, you\u2019re left with nothing but a narcissistic leech who sucked you dry.<\/p>\n

Quando os primeiros sinais de alerta come\u00e7aram a surgir, preferiu ignor\u00e1-los.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

You couldn\u2019t admit to yourself that you had fallen for such absurd lies and empty gestures. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ele usou tudo o que tinha para te cegar.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Por isso, confiaram nas suas desculpas est\u00fapidas. Escolheu acreditar nele porque, mais uma vez, ele era t\u00e3o convincente. Na altura, as suas desculpas faziam todo o sentido.<\/p>\n

Tudo voltava ao mesmo. Durante algum tempo, tratou-te como uma rainha, apenas para poder confirmar que ainda confiavas nele, para poder continuar a jogar o seu joguinho doentio.<\/p>\n

Isto pode prolongar-se durante anos. Depende da tua for\u00e7a e determina\u00e7\u00e3o. Depende se tens medo dele ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

It depends on if you\u2019ve lost the will to fight along with your self-esteem and respect.<\/p>\n

Viver nestas condi\u00e7\u00f5es \u00e9 algo que ningu\u00e9m deveria experimentar. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Living under the merciless fist of a narcissist can consume you and destroy you completely, but breaking free from one can give you a second chance to love someone else and receive a love you\u2019ve always deserved.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Ser muito cauteloso if you think you\u2019re dating a narcissist<\/a> e estar atento a estes sinais de alerta:<\/p>\n

1. Nunca pedem desculpa<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

They never apologize because they are sure they didn\u2019t do anything wrong. They lack awareness of other people\u2019s feelings.<\/p>\n

For example, if they show up late, leaving you to wait for them without even saying they are going to be late, they won\u2019t apologize because they consider they are the most important thing in the world and if you have to wait for them, you do.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not their problem.<\/p>\n

Isto pode apresentar-se de muitas formas diferentes na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o, desde coisas triviais como chegar atrasado a coisas muito mais s\u00e9rias.<\/p>\n

Por isso, encare este facto como uma s\u00e9ria bandeira vermelha e reaja a tempo.<\/p>\n

2. S\u00e3o obcecados pela perfei\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

They like to be the reflection of the world they see – a perfect world. Since you are in a relationship with them, they look at you as a reflection of themselves.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t be surprised if um narcisista tenta mudar-nos<\/a> de qualquer forma, como o seu comportamento ou a sua apar\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Tentar\u00e3o mesmo controlar a sua maneira de pensar e a sua maneira de ver o mundo.<\/p>\n

They will try to impose on you their own \u2018right\u2019 perception. They will try to make you strive for something they imposed as perfect.<\/p>\n

Your voice will be gradually lost, along with your identity. You\u2019re going to become something he wants you to be and not something you dream of being.<\/p>\n

3. S\u00e3o muito carism\u00e1ticos<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

\u00c9 assim que nos apanham. Eles podem ser muito magn\u00e9ticos. T\u00eam uma energia forte que nos consome. A sua energia e a sua alegria cegam-nos.<\/p>\n

Acabamos por ver apenas as coisas que eles querem que vejamos. Tudo isto acontece no in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que eles querem realmente est\u00e1 a receber toda a aten\u00e7\u00e3o <\/a>e colocarem-se no centro das aten\u00e7\u00f5es, o que vem depois.<\/p>\n

4. Fazem tudo em torno de si pr\u00f3prios<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Seja qual for a dire\u00e7\u00e3o em que a conversa esteja a ir, eles encontrar\u00e3o sempre uma forma de a orientar na sua pr\u00f3pria dire\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Sabem exatamente como se colocar no centro das aten\u00e7\u00f5es de que tanto gostam.<\/p>\n

Desta forma, procuram a valida\u00e7\u00e3o dos outros e, secretamente, exigem elogios.<\/p>\n

At\u00e9 o colocar\u00e3o numa situa\u00e7\u00e3o que o elogie sem que se aperceba.<\/p>\n

5. \u00c9s feito \u00e0 medida deles<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

This is the only goal of your relationship. This is the only thing they want from you – to humor their wishes and needs.<\/p>\n

They will never do the same for you and, for example, put your needs before their own. They don\u2019t even notice when something is wrong because they simply don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n

The only time that you think they might give a rat\u2019s ass about you is when they fake interest because they probably need something from you.<\/p>\n

6. You can\u2019t depend on them<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If something bad happens to you or you get yourself into a situation and you need someone to get you out, they won\u2019t be there to offer you help or to answer your cry for help.<\/p>\n

They probably have something better to occupy themselves with – themselves.<\/p>\n

If you know in the bottom of your heart that the person you are with won\u2019t come to help you when you need them to, or you hesitate to ask because you already know the answer will be no, think again about your relationship and trust if there\u2019s even one at all.<\/p>\n

7. S\u00e3o mestres manipuladores<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"Se<\/p>\n

Eles manipulam-no<\/a> into thinking you\u2019re the one to blame for everything bad that happens.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s impossible that they did something wrong because they are perfect and you are the one who needs improvement.<\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, isto tem a ver com o medo de serem abandonados. Se a fizerem pensar que a culpa de tudo \u00e9 sua, isso f\u00e1-la-\u00e1 sentir-se impec\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

And if it makes them flawless, you won\u2019t leave them.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s their logic. And even if deixa-os<\/a>Se o fizerem, v\u00e3o dar cabo de si e apresent\u00e1-lo sob uma luz negativa para parecerem inocentes.<\/p>\n

8. Falta-lhes empatia<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Any thoughts or feelings that are not directly connected to them don\u2019t interest them.<\/p>\n

So, if you\u2019re hurting, crying in your bedroom for whatever reason – from the smallest to the biggest reason – they won\u2019t feel it.<\/p>\n

They may fake interest and approach you but they will get bored soon and walk away because it\u2019s not affecting or connected to them in any way.<\/p>\n

9. They can\u2019t stand criticism<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It\u2019s because they think they are perfect. They can\u2019t stand criticism even if it\u2019s positive criticism, something you\u2019ve said to help them be better.<\/p>\n

They will attack you with all they\u2019ve got because they will feel attacked.<\/p>\n

Either they will criticize you to pay you back and it\u2019s going to be a mean criticism, or they will lose it and go in a whole different direction, opening a set of whole different problems the two of you might have swept under the rug.<\/p>\n

Eles fazem-no apenas para se vingarem de si.<\/p>\n

10. Est\u00e3o constantemente a enviar sinais contradit\u00f3rios<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

Fazem planos consigo e falam do vosso futuro juntos, mas nunca acontece nada.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all empty words, which they forget as soon as they let them out.<\/p>\n

Um dia fazem-no sentir-se especial e, no dia seguinte, desaparecem, colocando-o em \u00faltimo lugar na sua lista de prioridades.<\/p>\n

This puts you on an emotional rollercoaster. Maybe you can take it now, but you sure won\u2019t be able to for much longer.<\/p>\n

\"Se<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

It all begins like a fairy tale. You meet, you fall in love. You feel like you\u2019re the luckiest girl alive. He gives you all the attention he can. He showers you with gifts, takes you to dinner, brings you flowers, he\u2019s the real Prince Charming. Who would turn down attention like that? No one…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":67248,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29633],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8025","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-narcissism"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29633,"label":"narcissism"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/11\/If-Your-Guy-Does-These-10-Things-Hes-A-Serious-Narcissist-In-Disguise-1.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":4,"category_info":[{"term_id":29633,"name":"narcissism","slug":"narcissism","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29633,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","parent":22911,"count":232,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29633,"category_count":232,"category_description":"Mind games and manipulations are narcissist's favorite controlling tactics. Learn how their mind operates so that you can protect yourself. ","cat_name":"narcissism","category_nicename":"narcissism","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8025","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8025"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8025\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/67248"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8025"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8025"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8025"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}