{"id":80435,"date":"2020-06-10T13:49:10","date_gmt":"2020-06-10T13:49:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=80435"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:26:54","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:26:54","slug":"as-tuas-desculpas-nao-significam-nada","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/as-tuas-desculpas-nao-significam-nada\/","title":{"rendered":"As tuas desculpas n\u00e3o significam nada se n\u00e3o mudares"},"content":{"rendered":"

Se algu\u00e9m \u00e9 uma pessoa que perdoa, sou eu. <\/span><\/p>\n

We\u2019re all human beings. People make mistakes and nobody is perfect. I get it, I really do. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por isso, nunca te pedi a perfei\u00e7\u00e3o. Nunca te pedi que fosses impec\u00e1vel e fui sempre compreensivo quando fizeste algo de errado e te arrependeste mais tarde. <\/span><\/p>\n

You could even say that I am an empath. I know that you can sometimes find yourself in a situation where you do something you normally wouldn\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

Some would say that I am a forgiving person, as well. I\u2019m not someone who throws people out of their lives on a first strike.<\/span><\/p>\n

In fact, I\u2019m widely known as a professional giver of <\/span>segundas oportunidades<\/span><\/a>. Tento sempre dar o meu melhor para conhecer o seu ponto de vista, para ouvir a sua vers\u00e3o da hist\u00f3ria e para me colocar no seu lugar. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

However, don\u2019t you dare take me as a fool. I may be many things but I\u2019m not a stupid girl. You see, my patience has its limits. <\/b><\/p>\n

Sim, sigo o meu cora\u00e7\u00e3o na maioria das ocasi\u00f5es. Deixo que as minhas emo\u00e7\u00f5es prevale\u00e7am nos meus processos de tomada de decis\u00e3o mais vezes do que deveria.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, I have a brain as well. I\u2019m capable of reasoning things and of seeing the truth through my rose tinted glasses. <\/span><\/p>\n

Basically, what I\u2019m trying to tell you is that I am well aware of the fact that apologies are only valid when you never repeat your mistakes. <\/span><\/p>\n

Em todas as outras ocasi\u00f5es, n\u00e3o significam nada. N\u00e3o t\u00eam qualquer valor quando as usamos como desculpas para justificar o nosso comportamento.<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o vale a pena pedir-me para <\/b>perdoar-vos<\/b><\/a> if you don\u2019t plan on changing your ways.<\/b><\/p>\n

No point in asking for a second chance if you\u2019ll go back to your old ways as soon as the opportunity arises.<\/b><\/p>\n

However, that is exactly what you\u2019ve been doing all along. In fact, it seems that this kind of behavior has become a habit of yours. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cometes um erro, tratas-me mal e feres os meus sentimentos. Assim que v\u00eas que te quero expulsar da minha vida, ajoelhas-te.<\/span><\/p>\n

All of a sudden, you act like you\u2019re ready to do whatever it takes just for me to take you back.<\/span><\/p>\n

You make endless promises about how you\u2019ll change, how you\u2019ll never repeat your mistake, and how this is the last time we\u2019ll be in this situation.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

So, silly me forgives you. The truth is that I don\u2019t do it because I truly believe you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Na verdade, fa\u00e7o-o porque quero acreditar em ti. Porque te amo tanto que estou \u00e0 procura de uma desculpa para te perdoar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, \u00e9 exatamente isso que eu fa\u00e7o. Aceito-te de volta e dou-te mais uma segunda oportunidade. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, passado algum tempo, quando tens a certeza do teu lugar na minha vida, voltas aos teus velhos h\u00e1bitos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Fazes exatamente o que juraste que nunca farias: repetes o mesmo erro de que alegadamente estavas t\u00e3o arrependido e acabas por me pedir perd\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Durante anos, estivemos presos neste ciclo intermin\u00e1vel e eu n\u00e3o via qualquer sa\u00edda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Durante anos, <\/span>you\u2019ve been breaking my heart and each time you did, you expected one apology to magically glue it together, so you could keep on crushing it.<\/b><\/p>\n

Bem, minha querida, tenho de a desiludir e dizer-lhe que esta pr\u00e1tica chegou ao fim. <\/span>You\u2019re out of second chances \u2013 and most importantly, you\u2019ve run out of my forgiveness. <\/b><\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not doing this because I\u2019ve lost the ability <\/span>perdoar<\/span><\/a>. My heart is still kind and full of love. It just doesn\u2019t have any more room for you. <\/span><\/p>\n

I\u2019ve stopped forgiving you because you don\u2019t deserve it. In fact, I\u2019ve chosen to stop doing it simply because none of your apologies were ever real. <\/span><\/p>\n

You never wanted my forgiveness because you were really sorry. You didn\u2019t ask for it because you repented your choices or because you realized you had made a mistake. <\/span><\/p>\n

Em vez disso, <\/span>you kept on apologizing because you wanted a chance to keep on hurting me. Well, my darling, that is something I won\u2019t be allowing you to do anymore.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"As<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

If anyone is a forgiving person, I am.  We\u2019re all human beings. People make mistakes and nobody is perfect. I get it, I really do.  So, I never asked you for perfection. I never asked you to be flawless and I was always full of understanding when you did something wrong and repented later.  You…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":80444,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-80435","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Your-Apology-Means-Nothing-If-You-Don\u2019t-Change.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80435","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=80435"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/80435\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/80444"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=80435"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=80435"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=80435"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}