{"id":80936,"date":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","date_gmt":"2020-06-11T08:27:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=80936"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:46:41","slug":"aumentar-o-amor-proprio-e-deixar-de-se-sentir-indesejado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aumentar-o-amor-proprio-e-deixar-de-se-sentir-indesejado\/","title":{"rendered":"Formas poderosas de aumentar o amor-pr\u00f3prio e deixar de se sentir indesejado"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos n\u00f3s temos de lidar com a rejei\u00e7\u00e3o. Pode acontecer na nossa inf\u00e2ncia, no recreio, na escola ou, muito mais tarde, nas nossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es amorosas.<\/p>\n

Feeling unwanted follows some people wherever they go. There’s nothing as hard as having to deal with the feeling of not being good enough, worthy of love, or at all important in this world.<\/p>\n

Este artigo abordar\u00e1 a luta de se sentir indesejado, conduzindo-o atrav\u00e9s do processo de se reinventar nestes termos e encontrar uma nova felicidade.<\/p>\n

A luta quotidiana para se sentir indesejado<\/span><\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Why am I not enough? Why don’t I matter?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

These painful questions are racing through your mind. You feel your chest tighten and your body ache and it’s like all you need to do to release all this sorrow is cry, but you can’t.<\/p>\n

In your mind, there’s only one sad answer to those questions. EU N\u00c3O VALHO A PENA<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I know the heartache of constantly feeling unwanted and unloved. I’ve been there.<\/p>\n

A dor que sentes amea\u00e7a despeda\u00e7ar-te. A raiva e o nojo que sentes toldam o teu discernimento, deixando-te cego para tudo o que \u00e9 bom e belo \u00e0 tua volta.<\/p>\n

Feeling like you aren’t worth it, feeling like you’re a second-best, will mess with your head, I mean it.<\/p>\n

These are the worst feelings a human being can have, thinking you aren’t worth choosing, you don’t matter, you’re unimportant.<\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Having felt like that myself, I’ve moved through many different emotional states. I was depressed, indifferent, angry, and finally I found myself at rock bottom \u2013 feeling nothing for myself but pity.<\/p>\n

You can’t go anywhere from there but up, and that’s exactly what I did. I decided I needed to become stronger, I needed to learn to love myself and help my self-esteem.<\/p>\n

There’s a time for everything in life, and this was my time to finally put ME first.<\/p>\n

Feeling lonely and unloved has a lot to do with how other people treat you. Other people’s mistreatment of you is usually the trigger to this kind of feeling.<\/p>\n

We all know that, but there’s something new I’ve learned. Being unloved by some people and feeling unlovable in general don’t have to be connected.<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s podemos aprender a libertar-se da toxicidade que certas rela\u00e7\u00f5es trazem \u00e0 nossa vida.<\/a><\/p>\n

I’m not here to tell you what to do, I’m here to help you reach your own conclusion by guiding you through the process of aumentar a sua autoestima<\/a> e finalmente sentir-se amado e importante.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se lida com o facto de se sentir indesejado? A primeira coisa a fazer \u00e9 chegar \u00e0 causa principal da forma como se sente.<\/p>\n

Perguntas que deve fazer a si pr\u00f3prio antes de come\u00e7ar a lidar com o facto de se sentir indesejado:<\/strong><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

– What is it I want to be acknowledged for in order to finally feel accepted?<\/p>\n

-Porque \u00e9 que isto \u00e9 importante para mim, o que \u00e9 que significa para mim?<\/p>\n

-De que forma \u00e9 que eu quero ser reconhecido?<\/p>\n

-Quais s\u00e3o as formas de me reconhecer e valorizar?<\/p>\n

-How does my life change if I get the recognition I’m seeking?<\/p>\n

-Como \u00e9 que esse reconhecimento altera as minhas rela\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/p>\n

These questions will help you dig deeper into your own mind and soul and reach that place where you’re hiding your true emotions.<\/p>\n

Pense cuidadosamente em cada uma destas perguntas e tente dar algumas respostas a si pr\u00f3prio.<\/p>\n

The answers you get will be a starting point to going through this difficult time and finding the peace, appreciation, and love you seek and deserve. It’s time for you to curar-se<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Coisas importantes a compreender sobre o sentimento de n\u00e3o ser desejado:<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

1. Um grande n\u00famero de pessoas sente exatamente o mesmo que voc\u00ea<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

The society we live in, the social media boom, everything that’s happening in our everyday lives, are all causing the number of people who genuinely like and appreciate themselves to decrease.<\/p>\n

A forma como nos tratamos uns aos outros contribui para este decr\u00e9scimo e, todos os dias, h\u00e1 mais pessoas que se sentem indesejadas e mal amadas.<\/p>\n

Pense nisto. A forma como as pessoas se comportam \u00e9 a manifesta\u00e7\u00e3o direta de como se sentem por dentro.<\/p>\n

Quando as pessoas se sentem sozinhas, magoadas e n\u00e3o amadas, comportam-se de forma diferente do que fariam se sentissem que estavam a receber todo o amor e carinho de que precisavam.<\/p>\n

As pessoas s\u00e3o como as flores; quando s\u00e3o acarinhadas e amadas, florescem e tornam tudo \u00e0 sua volta mais bonito, mais colorido e inspirador.<\/p>\n

When they aren’t getting love, which is their water and air, they dry and rot, like humans whose hearts and souls die slowly each day.<\/p>\n

Understanding that your environment works this way will help you realize two things. First, you’ll learn to be more empathetic towards others and understand better where they are coming from.<\/p>\n

Second, you’ll realize that you’re not the only one feeling unwanted. There are so many people around you who feel the exact same way.<\/p>\n

2. Just because things happened to you, it doesn’t mean you have to pity yourself<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to good people. Bad things happen to bad people too. Just because something happened to you doesn’t mean it’s your fault.<\/p>\n

Also, it doesn’t mean you should pity yourself for the rest of your life for being dealt those cards.<\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas circunst\u00e2ncias diferentes na nossa vida que nos conduzem ao ponto em que nos encontramos e determinam o rumo que a nossa vida toma.<\/p>\n

If you dwell on the things that happen to you and take them as the only variables in the equation of who you are as a person, you’ll get completely the wrong answer.<\/p>\n

Staying focused on the things that happen to you will mess with your mental health and draw you into the vicious cycle of feeling unloved, thinking you’re unworthy and attracting people who’ll push you even deeper into this hole.<\/p>\n

It’s you who has to learn to work with what you get. Make lemonade \u2013 you can do it. There isn’t anyone in this world who hasn\u2019t had something truly devastating happen to them.<\/p>\n

Some people were traumatized in their childhood, some were in nasty relationships with narcissists or psychopaths… no matter what happened to you that’s feeding your thoughts of being unworthy \u2013 it’s up to you to learn to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Your self-worth shouldn’t have anything to do with circumstantial experiences you’ve had. Pity yourself less, lame-se mais<\/a>.<\/p>\n

3. Podes e deves preencher o vazio que tens dentro de ti<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Unconsciously we all believe we need other people to make us feel happy and fulfilled. Children need others to satisfy their needs, adults don’t.<\/p>\n

Muitas pessoas acreditam que a \u00fanica forma de se sentirem completas \u00e9 encontrar outro ser humano (ou seres) para as ajudar.<\/p>\n

Os nossos entes queridos podem certamente ajudar-nos a sentirmo-nos mais apreciados, cuidados, amados e importantes.<\/p>\n

The truth is, though, this will only go so far, and sooner or later you’ll become aware that the emptiness inside you still exists.<\/p>\n

No amount of acknowledgment from others will make up for what you’re missing inside.<\/p>\n

You have the tools to fill the void inside you. Actually, you’re the only one who has those tools and it’s time you learned how to use them.<\/p>\n

9 formas poderosas de se ajudar a sentir-se mais desejado e amado:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Examine as suas cren\u00e7as sobre o amor e o mundo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Todos n\u00f3s temos algumas ideias erradas sobre a forma como o mundo funciona.<\/p>\n

Ningu\u00e9m sabe realmente a verdade completa, por isso n\u00e3o podemos dizer que a sua conce\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 errada, mas esforce-se por pensar profundamente sobre a raz\u00e3o pela qual acredita que certas coisas s\u00e3o verdadeiras.<\/p>\n

Muitas vezes, s\u00e3o os nossos traumas e experi\u00eancias negativas que nos moldam de forma mais agressiva do que as coisas boas por que passamos.<\/p>\n

Isto significa que a nossa perce\u00e7\u00e3o do mundo \u00e9 a imagem que temos dele depois de passar pelo prisma de toda a negatividade por que j\u00e1 pass\u00e1mos.<\/p>\n

Nem toda a gente pode ser otimista, mas ser realista \u00e9 suficiente por agora. Pense no mundo de formas diferentes, d\u00ea-lhe um contexto diferente e veja onde a sua mente o leva.<\/p>\n

There’s a good chance you’ll find that the way you thought about the world around you was false and needs some updating to do.<\/p>\n

Your perception of the world is the source of your emotions, that’s why it’s so important.<\/p>\n

2. O amor pode assumir diferentes formas, pensa nisto<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There’s a certain idea every human being has about love.<\/p>\n

A person’s image of love is shaped by their early childhood, their teen and adolescent years, the experiences they’ve had, the movies they’ve seen, the books they’ve read…<\/p>\n

There’s a whole lot that goes into this equation.<\/p>\n

We’re all seeking this ultimate, unconditional love that only the perfect person can give us. The truth is, love can be very different to how we imagined.<\/p>\n

Adapt your ideas to what you see to be true. Trust your instincts and let true love approach you even when it doesn’t match your idealized image of love.<\/p>\n

3. Tenta dar amor quando, de outra forma, julgarias<\/h2>\n

\"Amigos<\/p>\n

Look below the surface. Give people a chance. Of course, you shouldn’t go against your instincts and get with people who are dangerous for you.<\/p>\n

Tente evitar que o seu primeiro julgamento estereotipado se interponha entre si e uma verdadeira liga\u00e7\u00e3o humana.<\/p>\n

Be understanding and compassionate towards others and that’s what you can expect in return.<\/p>\n

Isto ajudar\u00e1 as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es com as pessoas em geral, com os seus familiares e amigos, e n\u00e3o apenas as suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es rom\u00e2nticas.<\/p>\n

Offer kindness to others, be there for them when they’re going through something bad instead of being the first to judge them and write them off.<\/p>\n

4. Reconhecer e valorizar as pessoas pelo que elas s\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"fam\u00edlia<\/p>\n

Recognize the people who are already in your life. In your search for someone else, someone to fill your void, you’re probably ignoring every amazing human being you already have in your life.<\/p>\n

You might be thinking that your potential romantic interest is more important than your friends or family but that’s completely false.<\/p>\n

A sua fam\u00edlia e os seus amigos s\u00e3o uma grande parte de quem \u00e9. Pense em tudo o que recebe deles e em todas as formas como eles o fazem sentir-se amado sem que se aperceba disso.<\/p>\n

Value those people, show your appreciation. This is one of the steps you need to take in order to rediscover love. Once you do, you’ll spread love everywhere you go.<\/p>\n

5. Think about everything you could but don\u2019t do for your loved ones<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Ficamos ofendidos quando os nossos entes queridos n\u00e3o nos conseguem fazer felizes fazendo algo que deviam ou podiam ter feito.<\/p>\n

Raramente paramos para pensar no que somos, ou melhor ainda, no que n\u00e3o estamos a fazer por eles.<\/p>\n

You have the power to bring more love, care, and nourishment into your life, and if you think your only way to get that is for someone to give to you, you’re very wrong.<\/p>\n

Passar algum tempo a pensar no que se pode fazer pelas pessoas de quem se gosta \u00e9 muito importante.<\/p>\n

Pensar nas suas vidas e avaliar as suas necessidades em rela\u00e7\u00e3o a algo que possa fazer por elas \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel para si e necess\u00e1rio para o sucesso das rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Talvez tamb\u00e9m haja pessoas que n\u00e3o se sintam amadas \u00e0 sua volta?<\/p>\n

6. Estar verdadeiramente presente na sua vida<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Aprenda a apreciar a sua vida dando-lhe o presente da sua presen\u00e7a absoluta.<\/p>\n

Don’t dwell in your past and don’t fret about your future. Stay in the present. Think about what’s happening to you. Learn to enjoy moments in this world.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself of the beauty of nature, of God’s love, of every little precious thing that you can enjoy every single moment of your time, even when you feel unworthy.<\/p>\n

You’re worth being here, don’t waste it.<\/p>\n

7. Utilizar conversas significativas para estabelecer contacto com as pessoas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Para estar mais em sintonia com o mundo que o rodeia, inicie conversas com as pessoas.<\/p>\n

Not just any kind of conversations though \u2013 meaningful conversations that leave you both feeling like you’ve learned something new, important, and motivating.<\/p>\n

Tente ligar-se \u00e0s pessoas a um n\u00edvel mais \u00edntimo. Aproxime-se dos outros com amor e sem julgamentos.<\/p>\n

Compreender os outros ajuda-nos tamb\u00e9m a compreendermo-nos melhor a n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios.<\/p>\n

8. Pense nas suas verdadeiras necessidades e desejos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

You can’t get what you want if you don’t know what you want.<\/p>\n

Many people think they are aiming for a certain goal while in reality, they are self-sabotaging because they\u2019ve never really thought about what their true desires are.<\/p>\n

D\u00ea a si pr\u00f3prio tempo para pensar no que realmente quer. O que \u00e9 que o faz sorrir?<\/p>\n

Even if your true desires don’t seem convenient, trust them and move in that direction because that’s the only way to feel fulfilled, worthy, and important.<\/p>\n

9. Aprender a gostar de si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

Pense em si. Ama-a (ou ama-o). Ela\/ele merece-o. H\u00e1 muitas coisas que pode fazer para se amar melhor, para se amar mais.<\/p>\n

Reserve tempo para fazer coisas de que gosta. Experimente algo novo, junte-se a um clube de leitura, encontre um grupo de apoio que se adeq\u00fae \u00e0s suas necessidades. Cuide bem de si.<\/p>\n

Challenge yourself, show yourself what you’re capable of. Give yourself some credit. Praise yourself for your accomplishments.<\/p>\n

Liberte a sua crian\u00e7a interior, mas encontre uma forma de lhe ensinar coisas novas: confian\u00e7a, amor e aceita\u00e7\u00e3o. Stop blaming yourself because someone didn’t know to love you<\/a>, it doesn’t mean you’re unlovable.<\/p>\n

\"Formas<\/p>\n

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