{"id":81203,"date":"2020-06-22T11:52:50","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T11:52:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=81203"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:39:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:39:24","slug":"relacao-transacional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relacao-transacional\/","title":{"rendered":"Tudo o que precisa de saber sobre uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional"},"content":{"rendered":"

I bet that right now you’re probably wondering what on earth a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional<\/span> is and whether you’re unknowingly in one!<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t worry, I’m here to answer all of your questions \u2013 and then some! <\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s start with the obvious. When you look up the word “transaction,” you’ll notice it has to do with buying and selling. It’s a <\/span>transa\u00e7\u00e3o comercial,<\/span> so in this sense we can say it’s sort of like <\/span>marketing relacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s the type of relationship that is based on need. Two lovers are like <\/b>parceiros comerciais<\/b>Cada um beneficia da rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 sua maneira (<\/b>quid pro quo<\/b>).<\/b><\/p>\n

Doesn’t sound very romantic, right?<\/b><\/p>\n

That’s because it isn’t.<\/b> Diferente <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es transformacionais<\/span> que se baseiam no desejo e s\u00e3o, de facto <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es significativas<\/span>, os transaccionais s\u00e3o sobre <\/span>interesse pr\u00f3prio<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 reparou que quando as pessoas querem algo do seu parceiro, irm\u00e3o ou amigo, o caminho mais f\u00e1cil \u00e9 oferecer-lhes algo em troca?<\/span><\/p>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

And isn’t that kind of like a <\/span>acordo comercial<\/span> disfar\u00e7ado de genu\u00edno <\/span>intera\u00e7\u00e3o social<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

There isn’t necessarily anything wrong with <\/span>casamentos transaccionais<\/span> and relationships, it’s just that they lack love, and <\/span>they’re not based on <\/b>o que pretende<\/b>mas o que \u00e9 necess\u00e1rio.<\/b><\/p>\n

We don’t<\/span> at\u00e9 mesmo perceber que muitos dos nossos <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es duradouras<\/span> tendem a terminar precisamente devido ao seu car\u00e1cter transacional. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quantas vezes j\u00e1 terminou com o seu parceiro porque ele continuava a precisar de algo de si, em vez de lhe dar amor desinteressado?<\/span><\/p>\n

How many times have you been forced to settle for mediocre love due to your partner’s inability to see you as anything more than a possession that keeps on giving?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quando <\/span>saber como<\/span> much you’re worth, you are able to draw a line that nobody gets to cross anymore.<\/span><\/p>\n

And if you’re sick and tired of the transactional nature of your relationship, isn’t it high time you did something about it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>10 Sinais honestos de que voc\u00ea \u00e9 casado, mas est\u00e1 apaixonado por outra pessoa<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Por que raz\u00e3o devemos evitar as rela\u00e7\u00f5es transaccionais e esfor\u00e7ar-nos por obter mais?<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

When we’re so focused on the need as opposed to desire, we lose the sense of what relationships are all about in their core.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pensem nisto. Quando toda a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o se baseia no que podem oferecer e na qualidade de <\/span>acordo comercial<\/span> que se pode fazer, perde-se todo o sentido de uma verdadeira rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea? <\/span>Because when your partner is only willing to offer something based on how much you’re willing to contribute, that’s a business partnership, not a loving union.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, a different approach would allow your bond to strengthen and you’d see each other as actual life partners, and not a business team.<\/span><\/p>\n

J\u00e1 alguma vez disseste ao teu parceiro, <\/span>“Why should I do this for you, when you’ve never done it for me?”<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

That’s an excellent example of a transactionally-oriented relationship. One partner is unwilling to put forth anything due to the fact they haven’t received the same from the other party.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rela\u00e7\u00f5es transaccionais<\/span> est\u00e3o condenados desde o in\u00edcio. S\u00e3o prejudiciais e pouco saud\u00e1veis e, se houver crian\u00e7as envolvidas, incutem-lhes os valores errados.<\/span><\/p>\n

By exposing your child to this type of environment, you’re teaching him to appreciate people based on how much he can get from them<\/i><\/b>. <\/span><\/i>E esperemos que isso n\u00e3o seja algo que se viva genuinamente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta \u00e9 uma triste realidade em que todos n\u00f3s vivemos, tal como os nossos filhos. As nossas interac\u00e7\u00f5es com as pessoas tendem a ser transaccionais, para nosso desd\u00e9m.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you’ve been living this reality for long enough, it becomes difficult to fight it and seek something more genuine and honest like a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transformacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Como criar confian\u00e7a numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o? Estrat\u00e9gias simples mas eficazes<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

A beleza das rela\u00e7\u00f5es transformacionais<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Como o seu nome indica claramente, <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es transformacionais<\/span> s\u00e3o sobre dar, ajudar e fazer mudan\u00e7as para melhor.<\/span><\/p>\n

Caracterizam-se por encontrar um <\/span>vantajoso para todos<\/span> way to handle couples\u2019 hurdles as they presuppose that together (as a united front) you are much stronger than as individuals.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas h\u00e1 muito mais do que isso!<\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se pode afirmar que se est\u00e1 numa <\/i><\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transformacional<\/i><\/b> if it hasn’t changed you in some meaningful way<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/i> A forma como pensa, a forma como v\u00ea as coisas, ou a forma como o mundo funciona.<\/span><\/p>\n

It has to have affected some profound part of you that has allowed you to express yourself in new, exciting ways. But the thing is, it isn’t all about you and your needs.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s about you and your partner in a synergy that allows you both to grow as individuals while keeping you together as loving partners.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re not in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transformacional<\/span> if it doesn’t give you the urge to make changes for the better. In your own life, the lives of those you love, and the world in general.<\/span><\/p>\n

O seu alcance \u00e9 extremamente amplo e tende a fazer com que queiramos ser melhores, fazer melhor e continuar a exceder as nossas pr\u00f3prias expectativas.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s genuine and deep, based on mutual appreciation, respect, and adoration. It consists of two people willing to go to the ends of the earth for each other without expecting anything in return.<\/span><\/p>\n

Assim, a raz\u00e3o para nos esfor\u00e7armos por alcan\u00e7ar um <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transformacional<\/span> \u00e9 bastante \u00f3bvio. S\u00e3o a \u00fanica forma de resistir ao teste do tempo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se pretende um parceiro cujo <\/span>prioridade m\u00e1xima<\/span> estar\u00e1 a criar pessoas emocionalmente ricas e felizes <\/span>vida pessoal<\/span> that you can share, you’ll never get it if you stay in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desta forma, ser\u00e1 sempre sobre <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> e encontrar o mais <\/span>formas eficazes<\/span> para beneficiar da vossa parceria. <\/span>O que pretende<\/span> is unwavering love, support, and knowing they’ve got your back.<\/span><\/p>\n

You want to hear “<\/span><\/i>Eu amo-te<\/span><\/i>” and you deserve to know you’re appreciated and loved. But how do you get there? How do you turn things around? The answers are below.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Ultrapassar o desgosto: 16 dicas para ajudar a curar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Como \u00e9 que se cultiva uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo mais significativa?<\/h2>\n

Apresento-lhe as dicas mais valiosas sobre como criar algo mais transformador a partir da sua <\/span>acordo comercial<\/span> de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Aqui est\u00e3o os passos que deve dar para dar a volta \u00e0 situa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Abandonar todas as expectativas<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma das coisas mais importantes que se pode dizer sobre as rela\u00e7\u00f5es baseadas em transac\u00e7\u00f5es \u00e9 que est\u00e3o cheias de expectativas.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you\u2019re stuck on maintaining certain expectations the moment you enter a relationship, you’re not giving it a solid chance <\/span>em primeiro lugar<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn’t provide you with the clarity you need to see what’s actually happening, as you’re too sidetracked by what you need from it.<\/span><\/p>\n

As expectativas matam o romance, a espontaneidade e a excita\u00e7\u00e3o, e tamb\u00e9m fazem com que a sua cabe\u00e7a trabalhe horas extraordin\u00e1rias. Como? Mantendo constantemente a pontua\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are your expectations met? Has your partner fulfilled his\/her purpose? What’s the next goal on the agenda? And so on!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

If you’re entering a relationship, there is only one expectation you should keep in mind. To be truly present in the now!<\/span><\/p>\n

Escolha viver cada dia como ele vier. Acorde sem segundas inten\u00e7\u00f5es e ame o seu parceiro, aconte\u00e7a o que acontecer.<\/span><\/p>\n

Try to have a conversation with your partner and express your dissatisfaction with how your relationship has unfolded. If you’re seeking a deeper bond and a solid foundation, ask for it openly.<\/span><\/p>\n

Muitos <\/i><\/b>rela\u00e7\u00f5es transformacionais<\/i><\/b> come\u00e7am por se basear em transac\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Mas quando se descobre que essa pessoa \u00e9 mais do que uma <\/i><\/b>parceiro de neg\u00f3cios<\/i><\/b>, tem-se a oportunidade de o transformar em algo mais.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Deixe as expectativas de lado e mantenha a mente aberta. Se o que procura \u00e9 amor, ent\u00e3o esteja disposto a oferec\u00ea-lo tamb\u00e9m. Tudo come\u00e7a em si. <\/span><\/p>\n

E se o seu parceiro \u00e9 realmente a pessoa certa, as coisas devem come\u00e7ar a desenrolar-se para um ambiente melhor, mais quente e genu\u00edno.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Seja sempre o seu eu aut\u00eantico<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

This is something that differs from one individual to another. Nobody knows who the “real you” is but you! Try to figure out who you are when there’s no one around and commit to being that person all the time.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s challenging, but ultimately, it’s what ensures your happiest self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being your authentic self is the most personal thing ever. Nobody can tell you how to do it and what you should do to get there. It’s up to you to uncover your true self to a person you share your life with.<\/span><\/p>\n

One thing that’s for certain is that being real and authentic in a sea of fake people is beyond noticeable. Any deviation from what we are exposed to in the world is appreciated and welcome.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser verdadeiro ir\u00e1 beneficiar a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o de v\u00e1rias formas. Ajudar-vos-\u00e1 a criar la\u00e7os com base na vossa capacidade de se exprimirem livremente, sem desculpas e ferozmente.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Criar\u00e1 uma zona segura, onde o seu parceiro ser\u00e1 encorajado a tirar a m\u00e1scara e a mostrar quem realmente \u00e9.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quem sabe, talvez estejam cansados da sua <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional<\/span> e, secretamente, anseiam por mais!<\/span><\/p>\n

A autenticidade \u00e9 vital quando se trata de manter <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es significativas<\/span>. As pessoas conseguem fingir durante muito tempo, e fazem-no muito bem.<\/span><\/p>\n

But with time, they get tired of it. It becomes exhausting constantly playing a role that’s simply not you. So why not do yourselves a favor and just be who you really want to be?<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re not <\/span>parceiros comerciais<\/span>S\u00e3o amantes que partilham a sua vida um com o outro. Comecem a agir em conformidade e vejam como \u00e9 bom.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Estar disposto a correr riscos por vezes<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

\u201cBut he’d learned long ago that a life lived without risks pretty much wasn’t worth living. Life rewarded courage, even when that first step was taken neck-deep in fear.\u201d<\/span><\/i> \u2013 Tamera Alexander <\/span><\/p>\n

Life and love are all about taking risks, giving yourself fully and completely, and hoping for the best. You can’t always have a safety net. Sometimes you just need to go all in and see where it takes you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Taking risks with your partner forges a stronger bond and creates a sense of deep trust. Why? Because it shows your partner that you’re willing to go all-in for them.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t always play it safe, can you? You can’t always keep waiting for others to do something for you in order to give something back! Sometimes you just have to follow your gut and let go of your need for control.<\/span><\/p>\n

Rela\u00e7\u00f5es transaccionais<\/span> s\u00e3o atormentados por rejei\u00e7\u00f5es constantes, o que acaba por nos fecharmos \u00e0s pessoas e n\u00e3o nos permitirmos amar verdadeiramente.<\/span><\/p>\n

It leaves you feeling alone and scared of reaching out to your partner out of fear of being turned down. And that ends up being the voice inside your head that’s always telling you to play it safe.<\/span><\/p>\n

But it’s time to stop listening to that voice. Start moving in a direction that allows you to share your deepest wants and needs, and stop living in your comfort zone.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

So what if it ends up biting you in the ass? It’s not the end of the world! Do <\/span>o que pretende<\/span>, quando tu quiseres. Ningu\u00e9m vos pode dizer o contr\u00e1rio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take risks, share your “failures,” and be proud of every little step in the right direction you take as a couple. Life is too short to live in any type of fear, don’t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Fazer perguntas inc\u00f3modas (e muito necess\u00e1rias)<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

It’s beyond difficult to connect on a deeper level if you’re not willing to dig deeper. You know exactly what I’m referring to, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Tem de ser capaz de fazer aquelas perguntas dif\u00edceis e inc\u00f3modas e de fazer o seu parceiro refletir! Caso contr\u00e1rio, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o ser\u00e1 superficial, com um toque de transa\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

Create a safe, secure environment in your relationship by daring to ask what you haven’t been able to ask so far. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Key elements of a relationship are breaking what’s supposed to be “taboo” topics and digging deeper than ever. That is ultimately the only way to penetrate your partner’s core and find what makes them tick, and vice versa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tenta esquecer o que o teu <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional<\/span> e lutar contra o seu impulso de estar do lado seguro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Get to know the person you’re spending your life with and share your innermost thoughts with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Eventually, you will start realizing that you’ve transcended into a much deeper, more genuine territory that you didn’t think was there.<\/span><\/p>\n

Dare to go where you haven’t gone thus far and you will find the truth that was hidden for so long. <\/span><\/p>\n

Who is your partner truly? What’s the thing that has truly made them think that you’re the one? What is their biggest fear in life? How fearful are they of what the future holds?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Without asking the tough questions, you will forever be stuck in the gray zone. You’ll be partners, but your relationship will resemble a <\/span>acordo comercial<\/span> que n\u00e3o tem quaisquer emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cortem a transa\u00e7\u00e3o pela raiz e optem por evoluir, transformar e criar algo que transcenda todas as vossas expectativas. Sejam uma equipa nas formas mais \u00edntimas que apenas os dois conhecem.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s what a real, raw relationship is at its very core.<\/b><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m:<\/span> 9 Formas alarmantes de ceder o seu poder quando se apaixona<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

Considera\u00e7\u00f5es finais<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Rela\u00e7\u00f5es transformacionais<\/span> est\u00e3o aqui para o transformar de uma forma que n\u00e3o foi capaz de compreender enquanto estava preso na sua <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o transacional<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

They provide you with a brand-new outlook on life that allows you to see all you’ve been missing thus far. <\/span><\/p>\n

Enquanto as rela\u00e7\u00f5es baseadas em transac\u00e7\u00f5es se baseiam em <\/span>interesse pr\u00f3prio<\/span> e necessidade, os transformacionais centram-se na mudan\u00e7a, no crescimento e nos valores fundamentais.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love isn’t a <\/span>acordo comercial<\/span> que \u00e9 tudo sobre <\/span>quid pro quo<\/span> action. Love isn’t supposed to be void of intimacy and authenticity.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love is an affectionate collaboration between two people who show up for each other. Not because they are forced to \u2013 because they want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

Procurem um amor que vos transforme e que vos permita crescer juntos, lado a lado, sem deixarem de ser aut\u00eanticos e puros. <\/span><\/p>\n

Essa \u00e9 a chave para uma verdadeira intimidade, uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o genu\u00edna e um v\u00ednculo duradouro.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u201cMost people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: Love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.\u201d \u2013<\/span><\/i> Aberjhani<\/span><\/p>\n

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I bet that right now you’re probably wondering what on earth a transactional relationship is and whether you’re unknowingly in one! Don’t worry, I’m here to answer all of your questions \u2013 and then some!  Let’s start with the obvious. When you look up the word “transaction,” you’ll notice it has to do with buying…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":81207,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81203","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Everything-You-Need-To-Know-About-A-Transactional-Relationship.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81203","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=81203"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/81203\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/81207"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=81203"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=81203"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=81203"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}