{"id":81889,"date":"2020-07-09T11:19:27","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:19:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=81889"},"modified":"2022-12-02T11:17:52","modified_gmt":"2022-12-02T11:17:52","slug":"o-ex-ja-anda-com-outra-pessoa-e-isso-magoa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-ex-ja-anda-com-outra-pessoa-e-isso-magoa\/","title":{"rendered":"O meu ex j\u00e1 anda a sair com outra pessoa e isso magoa - \u00e9 por isso"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8221;My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts like hell. I thought I was over them. I was sure they had disappeared from my mind, yet here I am, broken to the bone seeing them with someone new.&#8221;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b>\u00c9 o que a maioria das pessoas sente ao ver o seu <\/b><b>ex-companheiro(a)<\/b><b> em um <\/b><b>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/b><b>. E se te identificas, isto \u00e9 para ti.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Break-ups are complicated and that&#8217;s the understatement of the century. A <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> por si s\u00f3 j\u00e1 \u00e9 suficientemente devastador, mas saber que o seu ex j\u00e1 tem algu\u00e9m novo \u00e0 espera traz um novo n\u00edvel de dor.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Afinal de contas, partilharam tantos momentos preciosos e \u00edntimos que agora simplesmente desapareceram. E para al\u00e9m disso, o vosso <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex-companheiro(a)<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> doesn&#8217;t seem to miss you much at all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Porque \u00e9 que se sente assim? Queres que o teu <\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex voltar<\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> or are you nostalgic for something that&#8217;s never coming back?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><em><strong><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">\u00c9 por isso que o teu cora\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 a partir-se todo outra vez<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you&#8217;re having a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">tempo dif\u00edcil<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> lidar com o facto de o seu ex seguir em frente com um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novo parceiro<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, isto permitir\u00e1 esclarecer a quest\u00e3o do <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">raz\u00f5es reais<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> porqu\u00ea.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>O seu ego est\u00e1 a ficar ferido<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81892 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de camisa preta ao ar livre\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-outdoor-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ao mesmo tempo, isto \u00e9 bom <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">e<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> bad news. What&#8217;s good about it, you may wonder?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, it&#8217;s kind of obvious; this is not about suppressed emotions or you pining for your ex <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">por si s\u00f3<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Isto tem a ver com o facto de o teu ego ter sofrido um duro golpe depois de veres o teu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex mover<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sobre.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You didn\u2019t break up due to unresolved issues and you&#8217;re not <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">obcecado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> over this out of romantic reasons. You have been replaced with a \u2018newer model\u2019 and it feels like crap.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Muitas vezes, acontece que as emo\u00e7\u00f5es persistentes n\u00e3o t\u00eam nada a ver com o facto de ver o seu ex <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ele-gosta-de-mim-mas-comecou-a-sair-com-outra-pessoa\/\">namorar com outra pessoa<\/a>. Sometimes, it&#8217;s a bit more superficial than that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>\u00c9 poss\u00edvel que (no fundo) queira o seu <\/b><b>ex-companheiro(a)<\/b><b> to still have feelings for you, even though you&#8217;re not willing to reciprocate them. It&#8217;s what makes you feel desired.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s somewhat comforting to know that there is still someone out there pining for you. And that false illusion you&#8217;ve created in your mind is blown the moment you see your ex with a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novo amor<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Longa hist\u00f3ria<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> short, you&#8217;re merely human! Just <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m\u00eas passado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Eu estava a ter um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">tempo dif\u00edcil<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> ver o meu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex-namorado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> com o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova namorada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e j\u00e1 t\u00ednhamos acabado h\u00e1 muitos meses!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Esta pessoa tornou-se a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">melhor amigo<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e se o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> terminou recentemente, \u00e9 claro que v\u00ea-lo com ela \u00e9 prejudicial para a sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">autoestima<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s human nature wanting to go on <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">redes sociais<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e ver como ele <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">intensificou-se <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">e deixou-o com um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">cora\u00e7\u00e3o partido<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Mas o <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">dia seguinte<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, temos de nos obrigar a enfrentar a m\u00fasica.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/esta-exatamente-onde-precisa-de-estar-neste-momento\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Confie em mim, voc\u00ea est\u00e1 exatamente onde precisa de estar agora<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>You&#8217;re currently in a rebound relationship<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81894 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-kissing-1-1.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher a beijarem-se perto de uma janela\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-kissing-1-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-kissing-1-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/couple-kissing-1-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O que constitui um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o de ricochete<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">? Geralmente, \u00e9 conhecida como uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o para a qual se salta diretamente da mais recente <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In most cases, it&#8217;s an escape route to avoid dealing with intricate issues post-break-up. You are distracting yourself (and shielding your heart) from the (inevitable) pain by focusing on a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novo namorado<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\/<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova namorada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Basically, you&#8217;re just in it to get away from your ex as quickly as possible. And at times, it works, but mostly, you&#8217;re just postponing the inevitable.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira vez<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Saltei para uma <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o de ricochete<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, it was more complex than I could&#8217;ve anticipated. Why? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Porque nunca me dei uma hip\u00f3tese real de melhorar. N\u00e3o havia <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">processo de cura<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Foi tudo apressado, sem emo\u00e7\u00e3o e frio.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pensei que se eu simplesmente fosse <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nenhum contacto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> desde o in\u00edcio, seria mais f\u00e1cil, mas acabou por ser uma das <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">coisas mais dif\u00edceis<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Eu passei por isso.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Nunca me curei realmente da rutura devastadora com quem eu acreditava ser o meu <\/b><b>alma g\u00e9mea<\/b><b>. Nunca imaginei que uma tarde normal de ter\u00e7a-feira seria a <\/b><b>\u00faltima vez<\/b><b> Alguma vez o beijei.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Quando o vi com um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova namorada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">,<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> someone I&#8217;ve known since <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">escola secund\u00e1ria<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">e tudo acabou em fracasso. Eu estava <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mensagens de texto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> perguntava-lhe como \u00e9 que ele me podia ter feito aquilo e implorava-lhe que <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">encontrar-se<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> para encerramento.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No entanto, nunca o consegui e tive de aprender da forma mais dif\u00edcil. A verdade \u00e9 que eu estava longe de o ter esquecido e a rela\u00e7\u00e3o em que me precipitei n\u00e3o ajudou em nada.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ele estava feliz com a sua nova namorada e eu estava infeliz, sozinha e a mentir a mim pr\u00f3pria que estava bem.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Se eu puder dar-vos um conselho <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u00e9 isto:\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&#8217;t jump into a <\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/i><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> straight out of a break-up, especially if your ex has already moved on. It&#8217;s going to make you realize a lot of really painful things. (Learn from my mistake.)<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<h2>You&#8217;re questioning whether they were ever <i>verdadeiramente<\/i> feliz consigo<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81896 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-wall-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher apoiada num muro de bet\u00e3o bege\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-wall-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-wall-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-wall-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can&#8217;t tell you how many times I thought to myself: <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8221;My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts like a mofo!&#8221;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I&#8217;d be scrolling through my <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">redes sociais<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> accounts and accidentally spot a photo of him and his new squeeze. And I can&#8217;t put into words how much my heart would sink.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Era eu. Eu costumava ser a rapariga que ele abra\u00e7ava t\u00e3o apertado com um sorriso de bochecha a bochecha. Eu costumava ser aquela que estava em toda a sua p\u00e1gina do Instagram e a garota que ele enviou milh\u00f5es de <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">mensagens de texto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> por dia.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, I am gone. There isn&#8217;t a trace of me on his <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">redes sociais<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> accounts and it&#8217;s as if I never existed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O nosso <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">amigos comuns<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> didn&#8217;t tell me much (they never wanted to get involved) but I could tell that he was happy with her. Worse yet, it was a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">de longa dist\u00e2ncia<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> rela\u00e7\u00e3o e eram <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ainda <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">pr\u00f3spero!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>I had been right there but I just wasn&#8217;t enough for him. Was it all just a lie? Was I merely just another notch in his belt before he found who he <\/b><b><i>realmente <\/i><\/b><b>queria estar com ele?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I can&#8217;t explain how many toxic thoughts rummaged through my head. I was on the verge of getting a <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novo homem<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> s\u00f3 para lhe mostrar o qu\u00e3o pouco me afectava.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, then I realized&#8230; <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What was the point? What would I achieve? What we had was special while it lasted. Yeah, it hurts that he&#8217;s gone but why belittle our love story just because it&#8217;s over?<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">S\u00f3 me estaria a magoar a mim pr\u00f3pria. Por isso, deixei de ver os perfis dele e deixei de dizer a mim pr\u00f3pria que n\u00e3o significava nada para ele. Acab\u00e1mos por uma raz\u00e3o e ele tinha seguido em frente.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If I wanted to get better, I just needed to accept that and turn over a new leaf. Trust me, it&#8217;s so much easier that way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/o-poder-de-se-afastar-de-um-homem\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O poder de se afastar de um homem: Deixe-o ver o que perdeu<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>O seu ex-parceiro foi o seu primeiro amor verdadeiro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81898 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-holding-womans-hand.jpg\" alt=\"homem a segurar a m\u00e3o de uma mulher enquanto caminha no passeio\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-holding-womans-hand.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-holding-womans-hand-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-holding-womans-hand-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mesmo que o primeiro amor raramente se revele o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">alma g\u00e9mea<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> for life, they&#8217;re still a very significant part of your life. They are the one you went through all the ups and downs with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That person is who taught you stuff about love that you couldn&#8217;t possibly grasp before. And it&#8217;s normal to feel protective of that after your relationship fizzles out.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>De certa forma, sentimos que temos direitos sobre eles e quando os vemos com um <\/b><b>novo parceiro<\/b><b>, you get the feeling that they don&#8217;t deserve them or better yet, don&#8217;t belong with them.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Os primeiros amores podem ser muito complicados. Com o meu primeiro homem, senti que ele era <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ele<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> para mim, como se n\u00e3o houvesse outro lugar para onde eu pudesse ir sen\u00e3o em dire\u00e7\u00e3o a ele.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Na altura, n\u00e3o fazia ideia de como estava errada, mas estar com algu\u00e9m durante <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">primeira vez<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> e depois perd\u00ea-los faz-nos sentir perdidos.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If your ex was your first real love, this could explain the sheer volume of pain you&#8217;re experiencing now. Your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sa\u00fade mental<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> might seem to be deteriorating because you&#8217;re pining for someone who was never meant to last.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s hard saying goodbye to a romantic love, especially one who played an enormous role in shaping us into who we are today.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Veja as coisas desta forma: conheceu algu\u00e9m que acabou por mudar a sua vida. Cresceram juntos, amadureceram juntos e aprenderam muito atrav\u00e9s de uma s\u00e9rie de erros e pequenas vit\u00f3rias.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That was an experience that will always be embedded in your memory. It didn&#8217;t last but so what?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You still have a whole future ahead of you. And because of the lessons you&#8217;ve learned with your first love, now, you&#8217;re more careful when entering <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">novas rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deixe o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex-companheiro(a)<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> do his thing and you do yours. Don&#8217;t cry because it&#8217;s over, smile because it happened!<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Faz-nos sentir que a culpa da separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi toda nossa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81900 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com \u00f3culos sentada no cimento perto de uma veda\u00e7\u00e3o\" width=\"1280\" height=\"853\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-1.jpg 1280w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-1-1024x682.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-concrete-1-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1280px) 100vw, 1280px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es, ambas as partes tendem a investir grandes quantidades de esfor\u00e7o e energia para que tudo funcione. E quando tudo se desfaz em peda\u00e7os e o seu <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">movimentos ex<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> t\u00e3o facilmente, que pode fazer-nos sentir um fracasso total.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seeing your ex with their new squeeze brings back all the memories of what could&#8217;ve been but never was. It reminds you of how much you (supposedly) failed and this plays with your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It also leads you to think: \u201c<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My ex is dating someone new already and it hurts so much. I am such a complete failure!&#8221;<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tenha isto em mente quando esses pensamentos cru\u00e9is ocuparem a sua mente: O seu ex est\u00e1 destinado a mostrar as suas verdadeiras cores a dada altura.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>\u00c9 apenas uma quest\u00e3o de tempo at\u00e9 que fa\u00e7am o mesmo com os seus <\/b><b>novo parceiro<\/b><b> que te fizeram a ti.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&#8217;t suppress all of their shortcomings just because they&#8217;re seemingly so happy now. Remind yourself of how emotionally unavailable they were.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pense em todas as formas como o fizeram sentir-se mal-amado e invis\u00edvel. Toda a gente pode parecer feliz \u00e0 primeira vista, mas ningu\u00e9m sabe o que acontece \u00e0 porta fechada, a n\u00e3o ser eles!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&#8217;t diminish yourself just because they look happy on paper.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One day (it could be tomorrow or in a year), you&#8217;re going to meet the person you&#8217;re truly meant to be with and when you do, this person will stop mattering altogether.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why not speed up the process? Why not realize how utterly irrelevant your ex and who they&#8217;re seeing are? It has no bearing on your current life.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As rupturas acontecem por uma multiplicidade de raz\u00f5es. <\/span><b>Haven&#8217;t you heard that it takes two to tango?<\/b><\/p>\n<h2>Ainda est\u00e1 de luto por uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-81902 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de olhos fechados apoiada numa mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-2.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-2-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">People try to fool themselves into believing that they&#8217;ve moved on and that there is zero emotional attachment left.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, the honest truth is that you might need a little extra time to rid yourself of all the pain you haven&#8217;t fully processed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have consciously moved forward but that doesn&#8217;t erase the grief that&#8217;s left in your heart. The pain doesn&#8217;t simply dissolve without a trace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o, pode ainda estar totalmente ligado a essa pessoa, sem sequer se aperceber de como a separa\u00e7\u00e3o foi profundamente traumatizante para si.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">O meu conselho \u00e9 que reserve algum tempo para si e permita-se libertar todas as emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas que possa sentir.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pense muito bem no estado atual da sua mente e em como se sente verdadeiramente quando se fala do seu ex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Does it give you anxiety when you think: &#8221;<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts,&#8221; <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ou consegue manter-se calmo, controlado e com uma cabe\u00e7a racional?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Leva o tempo que precisares para processar o que aconteceu entre voc\u00eas os dois. Ningu\u00e9m pode apressar o <\/b><b>processo de cura<\/b><b>.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">D\u00ea um passo atr\u00e1s e reavalie a sua situa\u00e7\u00e3o. Se o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o ainda est\u00e1 a sofrer pela sua <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, deix\u00e1-lo encontrar a paz ao seu pr\u00f3prio ritmo.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s okay to grieve something that once meant a great deal to you. It doesn&#8217;t necessarily mean that you want your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex voltar<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Isto significa apenas que precisas de mais algum tempo para ficares bem sozinho novamente.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And guess what? One day, you&#8217;ll be okay. Your heart won&#8217;t sink when you see them again and you&#8217;ll be able to smile without swallowing tears.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Seja corajoso. Todos n\u00f3s estamos na nossa pr\u00f3pria jornada para a felicidade.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/ele-esta-a-afastar-se-ou-a-acabar-consigo\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ele est\u00e1 se afastando ou terminando com voc\u00ea? 17 maneiras de saber<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h2>You&#8217;re wondering why you weren&#8217;t enough<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-82009 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de camisola branca apoiada numa mesa\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-3.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-leaning-on-table-3-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ser um <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ex-namorada<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> sucks. Seeing your ex in the warm embrace of a new person brings out something inside of you that you didn&#8217;t know existed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Faz-nos sentir inadequados, vazios, n\u00e3o suficientemente inteligentes e n\u00e3o suficientemente divertidos.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">E deixa um sabor t\u00e3o amargo na boca que nunca desaparece, n\u00e3o at\u00e9 que estejas completamente bem e com algu\u00e9m novo que te faz mais feliz do que alguma vez foste com o teu ex.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But until that happens, you can&#8217;t help but wonder why you weren&#8217;t enough.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You opened up your heart and gave them a piece of you that they ultimately couldn&#8217;t appreciate. You made yourself be vulnerable like you never were before, just to see that it didn&#8217;t matter.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Aqui est\u00e3o eles hoje, felizes, realizados e como se nenhum cora\u00e7\u00e3o tivesse sido partido no processo. Quando \u00e9 que <\/b><b><i>tu<\/i><\/b><b> deixar de ter import\u00e2ncia?<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You can&#8217;t help but wonder why couldn&#8217;t that have been you? How close were you to being their one true love? What should you have done differently for them to stay?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Do you know what? The answer is absolutely nothing. You were a good partner, a kind one, and you cared more than you should&#8217;ve.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You put in the effort on a daily basis and you always put their well-being first. Their needs trumped your own and you would&#8217;ve gone to the ends of the earth for them and they still left.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does that tell you? They weren&#8217;t worthy of your time, love or effort. You are going to be enough for a person who deserves you. And that person <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">vontade<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> venha!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When they do, there will be no more second-guessing or diminishing your own worth. You&#8217;ll be content and at peace just the way that you are.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><em><strong><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\">O que fazer quando o seu ex est\u00e1 com outra pessoa?<\/span><\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<h2>Don&#8217;t allow yourself to react negatively<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-85318 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-on-a-boardwalk.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de p\u00e9 num passeio rodeada de p\u00e1ssaros\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-on-a-boardwalk.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-on-a-boardwalk-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-standing-on-a-boardwalk-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter what happens, don&#8217;t let your heart get the better of you. Remain calm and collected. Think about your reaction before you make a scene or cause yourself any unnecessary pain.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas podem facilmente transbordar da sua mente e criar um ambiente t\u00f3xico que o sufocar\u00e1. Resista ao impulso de reagir mal e, em vez disso, caminhe na dire\u00e7\u00e3o oposta.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Em vez de pensar: <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8221;My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts so much, when will the pain stop?&#8221; <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Permita-se sentir-se triste durante um minuto, depois levante-se, ligue \u00e0 sua melhor amiga e deixe-a ajud\u00e1-la a ver o seu valor.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Evitar qualquer men\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu ex-parceiro<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-85342 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-14.jpg\" alt=\"mulher loira sentada numa rocha perto de uma montanha\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-14.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-14-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-rock-14-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don&#8217;t think about them, don&#8217;t talk about them and don&#8217;t let anyone fill your head with any information about them.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let that person evaporate from your mind and eventually, you&#8217;ll stop thinking about them altogether. It&#8217;s funny how the mind works. When you force yourself to erase someone from your memory, it ends up doing the trick.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It takes a little bit of effort that I know isn&#8217;t easy but it&#8217;s all for the sake of successfully moving on toward a healthier, happier future. Put your <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">sa\u00fade mental<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> em primeiro lugar e os seus pensamentos negativos em segundo.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2>Prepare-se para um sentimento de perda para poder seguir em frente<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-85345 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada numa rede a olhar para a \u00e1gua\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-hammock-1-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Deixar ir \u00e9 excruciante e requer muita for\u00e7a de vontade e for\u00e7a de vontade, por isso encorajo-o a preparar-se para um sentimento de perda que se aproxima e que ir\u00e1 inevitavelmente invadir a sua mente.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Independentemente do facto de a rela\u00e7\u00e3o ser prejudicial, t\u00f3xica ou desgastante, continuava a ser uma parte importante da sua vida que agora perdeu.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Acknowledge the pain, feel it and don&#8217;t be afraid of your emotions. It&#8217;s never easy<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/a-minha-ex-tem-uma-nova-namorada\/\"> ver o seu ex com algu\u00e9m novo<\/a> mas assim que fizeres as pazes com esta nova situa\u00e7\u00e3o na tua cabe\u00e7a, seguir em frente ser\u00e1 mais f\u00e1cil.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Alivie o stress da sua mente, estando preparado para os sentimentos que por vezes o podem dominar.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then, instead of thinking: &#8221;My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts like hell,&#8221; you&#8217;ll be able to see it from a rational point of view.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><b><i>They are happy with someone new and one day you will be too. And that&#8217;s all there is to it. Chapter closed!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/ultrapassar-o-desgosto\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultrapassar <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Desgosto<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: 16 dicas para o ajudar a curar o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-82446 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"O meu ex j\u00e1 anda a sair com outra pessoa e isso magoa - \u00e9 por isso\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&#8221;My ex is dating someone else already and it hurts like hell. I thought I was over them. I was sure they had disappeared from my mind, yet here I am, broken to the bone seeing them with someone new.&#8221; This is what most people go through upon seeing their ex-partner in a new relationship&#8230;.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":13,"featured_media":81891,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29628],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-81889","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-dealing-with-breakup"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29628,"label":"dealing with breakup"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/My-Ex-Is-Dating-Someone-Else-Already-And-It-Hurts-This-Is-Why.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"April Callaghan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/april\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29628,"name":"dealing with breakup","slug":"dealing-with-breakup","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29628,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Breakups are painful but worry not; you don't need to go through all of it alone. 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