{"id":82250,"date":"2020-06-22T12:50:24","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T12:50:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82250"},"modified":"2022-02-21T01:08:37","modified_gmt":"2022-02-21T01:08:37","slug":"sinais-irrefutaveis-de-que-e-um-facilitador","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sinais-irrefutaveis-de-que-e-um-facilitador\/","title":{"rendered":"7 sinais \u00e0 prova de bala de que voc\u00ea \u00e9 um facilitador em seu relacionamento t\u00f3xico"},"content":{"rendered":"

Quando se passa algum tempo numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a>Se o seu filho n\u00e3o se sentir \u00e0 vontade, uma atitude facilitadora torna-se o seu mecanismo de sobreviv\u00eancia.<\/p>\n

Basicamente, sem ter consci\u00eancia disso, come\u00e7a a agir de forma a permitir que o seu parceiro continue com os seus jogos t\u00f3xicos.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re creating an environment in which he feels safe to continue with his toxic behavioral patterns and consequently, you\u2019re supporting the unhealthy dynamics of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong. I\u2019m not trying to blame you for the fact that you have a toxic partner. No matter what, always remember that you\u2019re the victim here.<\/p>\n

No entanto, s\u00f3 quero que tome consci\u00eancia das suas pr\u00e1ticas facilitadoras, para que possa deixar de as fazer e estar um passo mais perto de se salvar desta situa\u00e7\u00e3o rela\u00e7\u00e3o destrutiva<\/a>.<\/p>\n

1. Continua a salv\u00e1-lo<\/h2>\n

\"imagem<\/p>\n

The first red flag that you\u2019re an enabler in your toxic relationship is the fact that you put so much effort into trying to save your partner, even though deep down you probably know that\u2019s utterly impossible.<\/p>\n

In fact, most of the time, you\u2019re trying to save this man from himself. You see yourself as this superwoman whose duty is to pull him into the light and chase away his darkness.<\/p>\n

You think that you\u2019re the only one who has the capacity to fight his demons, the only one who truly understands him and doesn\u2019t have the luxury of giving up on him.<\/p>\n

2. Perdoa sempre o seu parceiro t\u00f3xico<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest here. How many segundas oportunidades<\/a> has your boyfriend gotten from you? How many times have you forgiven him for the way he\u2019s treated you?<\/p>\n

I bet you can\u2019t even remember, can you? Well, the worst part is that by now, you\u2019ve started forgiving him even before he apologizes.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 sempre \u00e0 procura de desculpas para o seu comportamento t\u00f3xico. Basicamente, continua a justific\u00e1-lo e a procurar formas de o perdoar, para poder justificar a sua perman\u00eancia com ele.<\/p>\n

3. Evita conflitos para manter a paz<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Another sign that you\u2019re an enabler is the fact that you do everything in your power to avoid any kind of arguments in your relationship.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying you should be constantly picking fights with your boyfriend without a valid reason.<\/p>\n

However, there is a great difference between avoiding all types of conflict because you\u2019re scared of his reaction and trying to resolve things in a peaceful way.<\/p>\n

Basically, you\u2019ll remain silent even if you disagree with him because you know that even the smallest issues can cause hell in your relationship.<\/p>\n

4. You think that he\u2019ll change<\/h2>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Almost all enablers have one thing in common: false hope. You wouldn\u2019t be in this relationship if you thought things would remain like this forever, would you?<\/p>\n

So, instead of seeing the harsh reality, you live in a dream. You\u2019re convinced that this is just a phase in your romance and you refuse to accept that your boyfriend is really a pessoa t\u00f3xica<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You do your best to make him change his ways, without realizing it\u2019s an impossible feat.<\/p>\n

5. Assume sempre a responsabilidade<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

Whatever happens in your relationship, it\u2019s always your fault. Whenever something goes wrong, you\u2019re the only one to blame.<\/p>\n

In fact, most of the time, you\u2019re the one who consciously takes over the entire responsibility for things you aren\u2019t guilty of.<\/p>\n

Not only that, you also take responsibility for your other half\u2019s words and behavior. You can\u2019t seem to grasp the idea that he is an adult who should stand behind his actions \u2013 without you babying him.<\/p>\n

6. Defende-o perante o mundo<\/h2>\n

\"grupo<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re an enabler in your toxic relationship, you have this uncontrollable urge to defend your partner in front of everyone else, including your closest friends and family members.<\/p>\n

Esconde o seu mau comportamento e tenta apresent\u00e1-lo melhor do que ele \u00e9 na realidade.<\/p>\n

Well, tell me one thing: Why would you have the need to do all of this if he isn\u2019t doing anything wrong?<\/p>\n

I guess that deep down, you know perfectly well that he\u2019s the bad guy here and you\u2019re actually ashamed of your relationship.<\/p>\n

7. Nega que tem um problema<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

What is common for every enabler out there is that they refuse to accept there\u2019s a serious problem in their relationship.<\/p>\n

Por isso, se continuar a negar que o seu romance \u00e9 t\u00f3xico, apesar de todas as signs you\u2019re in a toxic relationship<\/a>, you\u2019re without a doubt an enabler.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re a smart girl. You see all the red flags and people have been warning you about your relationship.<\/p>\n

However, it\u2019s easier for you to sweep things under the carpet than face them.<\/p>\n

If you had to admit that you\u2019re in an unhealthy relationship, you\u2019d have to do something about it \u2013 and that\u2019s exactly what you\u2019re trying to avoid.<\/p>\n

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When you spend some time in a toxic relationship, an enabling attitude becomes your coping mechanism. Basically, without being aware of it, you begin to act in a manner that allows your partner to continue with his toxic games. You\u2019re creating an environment in which he feels safe to continue with his toxic behavioral patterns…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":82421,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82250","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/7-Bulletproof-Signs-That-You\u2019re-An-Enabler-In-Your-Toxic-Relationship.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82250","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82250"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82250\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82421"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82250"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82250"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82250"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}