{"id":82711,"date":"2020-06-22T12:24:27","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T12:24:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82711"},"modified":"2021-08-24T12:34:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T12:34:27","slug":"aceitar-as-pessoas-como-elas-sao","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/aceitar-as-pessoas-como-elas-sao\/","title":{"rendered":"Aceitar as pessoas como elas s\u00e3o em vez de as tentar mudar"},"content":{"rendered":"

J\u00e1 alguma vez tentaste mudar algu\u00e9m? Eu j\u00e1.<\/span><\/p>\n

The thing is, I have always thought that I’m the kind of person who would always accept people for who they are. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I realized I actively tried to change several people in my life, the ones closest to me, I was very upset. I didn’t take it well.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta bolha de aceita\u00e7\u00e3o que eu pensava fazer parte da minha vida rebentou-me mesmo na cara.<\/b><\/p>\n

Acredito que cada <\/span>ser humano<\/span> tem o direito de ser quem quer que seja. A s\u00e9rio que sim. Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que aconteceu? <\/span><\/p>\n

In my everyday life, certain things that people in my surroundings were doing made me feel like my needs weren\u2019t being met. <\/span><\/p>\n

What actually happened was that I was too selfish to see that people were just living their lives and just because something else would suit me better it didn\u2019t mean they were doing anything wrong.<\/span><\/p>\n

I became a selfish control freak who had one mission only: make other people adapt to me, my needs and my schedule. Awful… I know, I’m still ashamed that that’s who I was.<\/b><\/p>\n

I lied to myself that I cared so much about other people and that’s why I was trying to \u2018inspire\u2019 and \u2018motivate\u2019 them to become the best versions of themselves, while I was actually trying to make them into something I thought they should be or needed them to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

4 raz\u00f5es pelas quais deves parar de tentar mudar as pessoas<\/h2>\n

1. It isn’t possible<\/h2>\n

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You can’t change anyone. You simply can’t do it. Even if someone wants to change, only they can do it. <\/span><\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can plan, say or do that would make a person truly change until something happened in their mind that triggered their need to change.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durante algum tempo, pode parecer que uma pessoa mudou, porque algu\u00e9m que nos ama ir\u00e1 provavelmente querer fazer-nos a vontade e tentar dar o seu melhor para ser a pessoa que queremos que ela seja. <\/span><\/p>\n

Still, that can’t last forever. There are many elements that come together to make a person who they are and you can’t simply change something that’s already a huge part of your personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>6 sinais de que ele nunca vai mudar<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

2. It’s frustrating and exhausting<\/h2>\n

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There’s enough negativity in your mind from judging someone, so trying to change them and failing will cause even more. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you’re thinking you have it all figured out and that you have a perfect strategy that will help that <\/span>uma pessoa<\/span> mudan\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you try doing what you had planned, it might seem to work for a while. However, as already said in the first reason, there’s no way it will last. Enter frustration. <\/span><\/p>\n

You will be so mad and for what? You’ll be mad at that person who only tried to change themselves to suit your needs but failed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Haver\u00e1 muitas emo\u00e7\u00f5es contradit\u00f3rias e n\u00e3o haver\u00e1 nada que possa fazer para impedir que a situa\u00e7\u00e3o v\u00e1 de mal a pior.<\/span><\/p>\n

After you do this a couple of times, you’re going to be so exhausted. Give it up, it doesn’t work.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u00c9 necess\u00e1rio concentrar a sua energia em trabalhar sobre si pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

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Um <\/span>passo crucial<\/span> in learning to accept other people is learning to accept yourself. All the extra energy you’ll have from not trying to change others should be focused on trying to improve yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Usa todo esse tempo e for\u00e7a para o teu <\/span>crescimento pessoal<\/span>em vez de o desperdi\u00e7ar em algo que nunca foi sequer uma possibilidade.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop pointing out everything that’s wrong with other people and take a good look at yourself. Everybody has things they could change for the better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Canalize a sua energia para se ajudar a si pr\u00f3prio a tornar-se uma pessoa melhor, em vez de a for\u00e7ar a ser uma pessoa melhor para os outros. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quando vem de um lugar de bondade e amor, a mudan\u00e7a pode ser espantosa. Todas as ideias sobre como <\/span>uma pessoa<\/span> pode mudar para melhor deve ser aplicado a si pr\u00f3prio e n\u00e3o aos outros. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>Dicas de autocuidado: Como se apaixonar por cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

4. You wouldn’t like someone to try to change you, would you?<\/h2>\n

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Change isn’t easy. It takes a <\/span>muito trabalho<\/span>, even when you want it. Imagine if someone else, a person you love, was forcing you to change because you didn\u2019t fit their idealized image of who you should be. Sounds awful, right? <\/span><\/p>\n

Trate os outros como gostaria de ser tratado. Funciona mesmo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t push your beliefs, attitudes or opinions on others. Everybody has their own and they aren’t pushing them on you.<\/span><\/p>\n

Separa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> com este h\u00e1bito vicioso, fazendo a si pr\u00f3prio uma simples pergunta: Que direito tenho eu de obrigar algu\u00e9m a mudar? <\/span><\/p>\n

Nenhum, da mesma forma que ningu\u00e9m tem o direito de o obrigar a mudar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>5 sinais de que precisa de mudar radicalmente a sua vida<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

10 maneiras de aceitar as pessoas pelo que elas s\u00e3o:<\/h2>\n

1. Respeitar a sua individualidade<\/h2>\n

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Cada pessoa \u00e9 uma pessoa \u00fanica <\/span>ser humano<\/span>. The beauty of this world is in the fact that everyone is different, a combination of different virtues, flaws, character, upbringing… <\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas coisas que nos fazem ser quem somos. Amar uma pessoa significa respeitar quem ela \u00e9, com tudo o que a faz ser assim.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t accept one part of someone without accepting the other parts. Everything you see is a part of a whole\u2014their interesting, unique personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cada pessoa v\u00ea o mundo de forma diferente e a sua perspetiva afecta tremendamente o seu comportamento e, mais importante ainda, cada pessoa tem o direito de se comportar de acordo com as suas cren\u00e7as, vontades, desejos e necessidades.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Liberte-se dos seus ideais<\/h2>\n

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There’s a certain image in your head of what other people should be like. The more controlling you are, the more you force this image on them, pushing them to become who you think they should be.<\/span><\/p>\n

O que se passa \u00e9 que, porque \u00e9 que hav\u00edamos de pensar no que ou em quem \u00e9 que algu\u00e9m deveria ser, a n\u00e3o ser n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios?<\/span><\/p>\n

A maior parte do seu <\/span>aceita\u00e7\u00e3o dos outros<\/span> is realizing you don’t get to decide what the best possible version of anyone is but yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 absolutamente necess\u00e1rio libertar-se dessa imagem e desses ideais. N\u00e3o s\u00f3 pelos outros, mas tamb\u00e9m por si pr\u00f3prio, porque aceitar-se a si pr\u00f3prio \u00e9 crucial para aprender a aceitar os outros.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Ponha-se no lugar deles<\/h2>\n

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J\u00e1 alguma vez discutiu com algu\u00e9m e, a certa altura da discuss\u00e3o, come\u00e7ou a pensar em tudo o que essa pessoa lhe poderia dizer para provar o seu ponto de vista? Como <\/span>seres humanos<\/span>\u00c9 natural para n\u00f3s sermos emp\u00e1ticos e compassivos.<\/span><\/p>\n

A melhor maneira de compreender verdadeiramente onde o seu <\/span>entes queridos<\/span> \u00e9 colocar-se no lugar delas. Se parece ter um problema em aceitar as pessoas como elas s\u00e3o, deve tentar fazer isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

Imagine that you’re them. Try to think about as many details as you can that are a part of their life and think about how you’d act in that exact situation. <\/span><\/p>\n

More often than not, this will make you realize they’re doing great, given the circumstances. Understanding people will help you accept them.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Concentrar-se nos seus aspectos positivos<\/h2>\n

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It’s easy to notice someone’s flaws. Everybody has them and they are usually pretty obvious.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se quiser avan\u00e7ar no <\/span>aceitar a dire\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span>,<\/span> you’ll have to put less focus on people’s flaws and focus more on their good sides. <\/span><\/p>\n

Existem muitos <\/span>pequenas coisas<\/span> that can be annoying about a person but let’s be honest; there are many more beautiful things about them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Normalmente, damos por garantido tudo o que algu\u00e9m faz de bom e acentuamos tudo o que faz de mau. Se deixar de o fazer, ser\u00e1 muito mais f\u00e1cil aceitar as pessoas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Keep in mind that the person you’re judging is probably doing a <\/span>muito trabalho<\/span> to do everything they do well. They can’t be perfect, as no one is.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Estar grato por os ter<\/h2>\n

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Dito isto, pratique a gratid\u00e3o. Tome uma decis\u00e3o consciente de come\u00e7ar a ser mais grato por tudo o que essas pessoas representam na sua vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you think about everything that’s positive about them and all the positive ways they affect your everyday life, start having and showing more gratitude. <\/span><\/p>\n

Focusing on people’s flaws is not only the <\/span>caminho errado<\/span> para manter rela\u00e7\u00f5es, mas impede-nos de as reconhecer por tudo de belo que nos d\u00e3o e por todas as formas maravilhosas como melhoram a nossa vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Ser compassivo<\/h2>\n

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N\u00e3o h\u00e1 direito\/<\/span>dicotomias erradas<\/span>. You should avoid thinking about the world, the people in your life and everything they do or don’t do in black and white. It’s never that way. There’s always so much of a gray area.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t only notice the aftermath of what someone did; instead, try to be compassionate toward their circumstances. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ter empatia pelo que o seu <\/span>entes queridos<\/span> est\u00e3o a passar nas suas vidas porque um <\/span>falta de aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> geralmente vem de uma falta de compaix\u00e3o e compreens\u00e3o.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Deixar de fazer compara\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

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Everybody has their own way they like to live their life. In most people’s minds, there’s a certain idea of who they want to be and what kind of people they like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Se comparar constantemente as pessoas da sua vida com a ideia que tem na sua cabe\u00e7a de quem VOC\u00ca deve ser, elas provavelmente nunca passar\u00e3o nesse teste. <\/span><\/p>\n

There’s no reason for anyone to fit the way you believe you should live your life.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Deixe de comparar as outras pessoas consigo pr\u00f3prio e deixe tamb\u00e9m de as comparar com qualquer outra pessoa. Mais uma vez, toda a gente \u00e9 \u00fanica e cada um tem circunst\u00e2ncias de vida \u00fanicas.<\/span><\/p>\n

8. Aceit\u00e1-los e tudo o que eles fazem<\/h2>\n

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A \u00fanica maneira de viver a sua <\/span>vida atual<\/span> O amor e a positividade s\u00e3o a base da aceita\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span>Auto-aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> comes first and it’s directly related to your <\/span>autoestima<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

As pessoas que se aceitam a si pr\u00f3prias podem estar mais abertas a aceitar as pessoas pelo que elas s\u00e3o em tudo o que fazem na vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Podemos pensar que somos um aceitador, <\/span>pessoa carinhosa<\/span> mas o nosso <\/span>intera\u00e7\u00e3o di\u00e1ria<\/span> pode mostrar o contr\u00e1rio. Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o a ouvir, compreender e aceitar verdadeiramente as pessoas com quem vive, interage ou trabalha.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Lembra-te porque \u00e9 que os querias na tua vida em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n

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There’s a reason why you chose someone to be a part of your life. They attracted you with something that made you want to make them stay around. Think about this when you decide they should change.<\/span><\/p>\n

Gostou deles pelo que eram no in\u00edcio, mesmo que agora perceba que h\u00e1 coisas que o incomodam, mas lembra-se de tudo o que o atraiu no in\u00edcio. <\/span>primeiro lugar<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se eles s\u00e3o a sua fam\u00edlia e, por isso, \u00e9 obrigado a passar tempo com eles, ent\u00e3o lembre-se da import\u00e2ncia que t\u00eam na sua vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Vigia os teus pensamentos<\/h2>\n

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Nunca ningu\u00e9m decide tornar-se uma pessoa que n\u00e3o se aceita. Esses pensamentos destrutivos v\u00e3o-se infiltrando lentamente, um a um, acumulando-se na sua mente at\u00e9 dar por si a ser excessivamente negativo em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao comportamento da sua <\/span>entes queridos<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se come\u00e7ar a ser demasiado cr\u00edtico, lembre-se de que a cr\u00edtica aos outros \u00e9 normalmente a <\/span>resultado das nossas cr\u00edticas pessoais<\/span>. O <\/span>julgamentos dos outros<\/span> muitas vezes prov\u00eam dos julgamentos de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios. <\/span><\/p>\n

Block negative thoughts by instantly thinking positively, remembering everything you’ve learned reading this article. <\/span><\/p>\n

O <\/span>primeira vez<\/span> Isto pode ser estranho para si, mas quando se habituar a tirar conclus\u00f5es positivas em vez de negativas, tornar-se-\u00e1 uma parte regular do seu processo de pensamento.<\/span><\/p>\n

It all comes down to this…<\/h2>\n

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\u00c9 preciso permitir que os outros sejam diferentes. <\/b>O mundo seria incrivelmente aborrecido se todos tiv\u00e9ssemos as mesmas cren\u00e7as, interesses e comportamentos. <\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how uncomfortable you may be with a certain way someone chooses to live their life or certain things they do that you don’t find to be the best possible choice, you still have to let them choose their own path. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re anything like I was, you’re trying to make people see things your way.<\/span><\/p>\n

It constantly feels like there’s no way to get through to them, it feels like you can’t reach them and you keep looking for ways to do exactly that. <\/b><\/p>\n

I hate to be the one to break this to you but there’s rarely only right and wrong and nothing makes you competent enough to decide what someone should or should not do.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not your job to control how other people feel, what kind of vibes they get from the world or the choices they make in order to live their life the way they see fit.<\/span><\/p>\n

No matter how much you love someone, it doesn’t give you the right to try to change them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: <\/span>A verdade \u00e9 que n\u00e3o se pode mudar um homem amando-o mais<\/span><\/a> <\/span><\/p>\n

As \u00fanicas escolhas correctas s\u00e3o aceitar as pessoas como elas s\u00e3o e motiv\u00e1-las a viver a sua melhor vida, amando-as e cuidando delas e n\u00e3o dizendo-lhes como devem viver.<\/span><\/p>\n

Aviso importante: <\/b>Bullying, harassment or verbal or physical abuse aren’t things to be accepted.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se algu\u00e9m est\u00e1 a estragar intencionalmente o seu <\/span>autoestima<\/span>, endangering your psychological or physical well being, that’s not something to be accepted. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00f3 n\u00e3o se deve tentar mudar esse tipo de pessoa, como tamb\u00e9m se deve fugir dela o mais rapidamente poss\u00edvel e para o mais longe poss\u00edvel e procurar a ajuda e a prote\u00e7\u00e3o necess\u00e1rias.<\/span><\/p>\n

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