{"id":82842,"date":"2020-07-09T11:19:07","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:19:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82842"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:08:22","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:08:22","slug":"ser-o-primeiro-a-deixar-ir","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/ser-o-primeiro-a-deixar-ir\/","title":{"rendered":"Desta vez, seja o primeiro a deixar ir"},"content":{"rendered":"

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve faced pretty much the same scenario over and over again. In all of your previous relationships, you were <\/span>aquele que mais amou<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

The one who fought with her last breath, who made more sacrifices, and the one who put in more effort, even when the other person acted like he couldn\u2019t care less about the future of the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

Consequently, you\u2019re always the one who ends up left behind, abandoned, and with the broken pieces of the relationship, while your ex is already long gone. <\/b><\/p>\n

This is not a question of ego. After all, it\u2019s completely irrelevant who calls it quits. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que importa \u00e9 a diferen\u00e7a entre as consequ\u00eancias que a separa\u00e7\u00e3o deixa em si e no seu parceiro. Ele, sendo o primeiro a abandonar o vosso romance, tem mais hip\u00f3teses de recuperar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por outro lado, <\/span>\u00e9 mais dif\u00edcil curar-se, pois foi o \u00fanico que aguentou at\u00e9 ao \u00faltimo dia.<\/b> Recusou-se a aceitar que o fim estava pr\u00f3ximo e ignorou todos os sinais de alerta.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Sounds familiar, doesn\u2019t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s not that you\u2019re a girl who begs for love, even where there is no love to be found. It\u2019s not that you chase guys who don\u2019t want you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Isto continua a acontecer porque tem um mau h\u00e1bito: <\/span>agarramo-nos a coisas que s\u00e3o <\/b>condenado ao fracasso<\/b><\/a>. <\/b><\/p>\n

Tem dificuldade em admitir que uma parte do seu percurso, a parte que tem a ver com um homem espec\u00edfico, chegou ao fim.<\/span><\/p>\n

You hold on to people who don\u2019t deserve your effort anymore.<\/b> You stay in their lives even though deep down you\u2019re well aware that parting ways is a much better option. <\/span><\/p>\n

Basicamente, <\/span>tem um problema com a liberta\u00e7\u00e3o atempada.<\/b> Recusa-se a abandonar aqueles que acha que precisam da sua ajuda, mesmo que isso signifique p\u00f4r em causa a sua pr\u00f3pria sa\u00fade emocional e mental. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also, you never lose hope. Don\u2019t get me wrong: being optimistic is awesome but sometimes, you just have to look reality straight in the eyes and face the truth, as painful as it might be.<\/span><\/p>\n

Por vezes,<\/span> n\u00e3o h\u00e1 mais nada a fazer e a \u00fanica op\u00e7\u00e3o que tem \u00e9 levantar a \u00e2ncora. <\/b>Sometimes, as much as you try, things won\u2019t get better and there is nothing to be saved. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, I\u2019m begging you to do things differently this time. For a change, be the one to let go first. <\/b><\/p>\n

The moment you see that your relationship isn\u2019t heading in the right direction, turn around. Don\u2019t be the only one to fight for something that is already lost. <\/span><\/p>\n

This time, don\u2019t wait for the other person to stop loving you to safely exit the relationship. Don\u2019t give them an advantage and don\u2019t let them do the dirty work. <\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Stop holding on to a relationship that doesn\u2019t make you happy just because you\u2019re scared of escaping your comfort zone.<\/b><\/p>\n

Stop staying with a man who doesn\u2019t deserve a presence in your life just because you think he needs you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t let your conscience prevent you from making the right call. Don\u2019t feel guilty for choosing yourself over someone else because this is exactly what you should do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lembra-te: <\/span>deixar ir<\/b><\/a> doesn\u2019t mean that you failed<\/b>. It doesn\u2019t mean that you wasted years of your life with someone just because it didn\u2019t work out in the end. <\/span><\/p>\n

Abandoning a relationship that doesn\u2019t make you happy is an act of self-care and self-love. <\/b>It\u2019s a sign that you\u2019re mature enough to know that saving yourself has to be your priority.<\/span><\/p>\n

Giving up doesn\u2019t equal defeat. <\/b>It just means that for the first time ever, you\u2019re playing your cards right and making the wise move. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just because you decided it\u2019s time to stop fighting, it doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re weak and it certainly doesn\u2019t make you a coward.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, it\u2019s a sign of your power \u2013 a sign that you\u2019re strong enough to go against your emotions and to do the right thing. <\/span><\/p>\n

Al\u00e9m disso, n\u00e3o se esque\u00e7a de que <\/span>letting go isn\u2019t the same as running away \u2013 it\u2019s just retreating on time.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Desta<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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