{"id":82946,"date":"2020-06-22T13:00:21","date_gmt":"2020-06-22T13:00:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82946"},"modified":"2022-01-14T02:26:34","modified_gmt":"2022-01-14T02:26:34","slug":"uma-vitima-de-abuso-emocional-deixa-uma-mensagem-poderosa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/uma-vitima-de-abuso-emocional-deixa-uma-mensagem-poderosa\/","title":{"rendered":"Uma v\u00edtima de abuso emocional deixa uma mensagem poderosa que todos deveriam ler"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Quando ouvimos as palavras \"abuso\" e \"v\u00edtima\", associamo-las automaticamente a uma agress\u00e3o f\u00edsica.<\/p>\n<p>Vemos imediatamente uma imagem de algu\u00e9m com n\u00f3doas negras por todo o rosto e corpo, com cicatrizes, feridas abertas e sangue por todo o lado.<\/p>\n<p>Well, I\u2019m different and there are many just like me.<strong> When you see me, you won\u2019t see marks or any other visible <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/9-sinais-de-que-ele-esta-a-abusar-de-ti-mentalmente\/\">sinais de abuso<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>No entanto, continuei a ser uma v\u00edtima. Mesmo que as minhas cicatrizes n\u00e3o sejam vis\u00edveis, elas continuam a existir.<\/p>\n<p><strong>My wounds and bruises are hidden under my skin. They\u2019re all over my heart and soul. I\u2019m bleeding internally and that doesn\u2019t make it any less painful.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>For the first time ever, I\u2019m able to say this painful sentence out loud: I\u2019m a victim of abuse.<\/p>\n<p>My ex never actually raised his hand to me, he was never physically violent, but he emotionally abused me and that doesn\u2019t make my suffering any less important.<\/p>\n<p>Even though I\u2019m not trying to devalue anyone\u2019s suffering, <strong>h\u00e1 este truque com a viol\u00eancia emocional e mental que todos <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/homem-7-coisas-agressor-domestico\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abusadores<\/a> are perfectly aware of: People will rarely see you as a real victim until they see physical evidence of all you\u2019ve been through.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82952\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying.jpg\" alt=\"mulher maltratada a chorar numa fotografia em tons de cinzento\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/abused-woman-crying-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Moreover, it will take you a long time before you yourself acknowledge your abuse. Trust me, I\u2019ve been there.<\/p>\n<p>A primeira vez que o meu ex come\u00e7ou a insultar-me e a chamar-me nomes, estava simultaneamente a convencer-me de que nenhuma destas coisas era importante. <strong>It\u2019s not abuse until he hits you, right?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Com o tempo, comecei a acreditar nele. Pensei que estava a exagerar e a exagerar.<\/p>\n<p><b>Quando ele come\u00e7ou a fazer-me luz de g\u00e1s, comecei a questionar a minha pr\u00f3pria sanidade mental em vez de ver este homem como o monstro oculto que ele era.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Pensava que estava a imaginar coisas e ele fez-me pensar que era eu que estava a interpretar tudo mal, em vez de ver que ele estava, na verdade, a brincar com a minha mente desde o in\u00edcio.<\/p>\n<p>When he started putting me down, I didn\u2019t see it as his attempt to reduce my worth. When he assured me that I was good for nothing, I believed him and adopted the idea that I wasn\u2019t enough.<\/p>\n<p>Nobody saw me as a victim and it took me years to acknowledge my abuse.&nbsp;After all, it\u2019s not abuse until he hits you, right?<\/p>\n<p>I know what you must be thinking right now. You may not say it out loud, but you can\u2019t help but wonder why I didn\u2019t just walk away.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82958\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman-.jpg\" alt=\"mulher triste sentada no ch\u00e3o com as m\u00e3os na cabe\u00e7a\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman-.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman--300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/sorrowful-sad-woman--768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No, I wasn\u2019t financially dependent on him and we didn\u2019t have kids. In fact, the truth is that I had somewhere to go.<\/p>\n<p>No entanto, <strong>ele fez-me <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/o-que-e-a-dependencia-emocional-10-formas-de-a-ultrapassar-com-sucesso\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">emocionalmente dependente<\/a> sobre a nossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong>. Ele fez-me desejar a sua aprova\u00e7\u00e3o e convenceu-me de que eu n\u00e3o era am\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n<p>Ele fez chantagem emocional para que eu ficasse com ele. Convenceu-me de que eu era completamente incompetente e incapaz de viver a vida sem a sua orienta\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Al\u00e9m disso, sempre que tentava sair ou me atrevia a acus\u00e1-lo de ser um agressor, diziam-me que estava a procurar demasiado.<\/p>\n<p>Even when I tried confiding in my closest ones, they didn\u2019t see the real picture.<\/p>\n<p>De facto, <strong>todos insinuavam que eu era demasiado sens\u00edvel. Em vez de o aconselharem a mudar o seu comportamento, disseram-me para ser mais forte e crescer.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Ningu\u00e9m me via como uma v\u00edtima e demorei anos a reconhecer o meu abuso.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Years for me to see that I wasn\u2019t overly emotional, that I wasn\u2019t the one causing all of this mess because I take everything too personally.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82954\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1.jpg\" alt=\"mulher dentro do carro a olhar triste para o exterior\" width=\"800\" height=\"527\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1-300x198.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-inside-the-car-1-768x506.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Levei anos a perceber finalmente que estava envolvida com um narcisista que estava a arruinar a minha vida e a minha sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n<p>Years before I saw that I wasn\u2019t weak for feeling like a victim because \u2013 guess what \u2013 I\u2019d been a victim all along.<\/p>\n<p>Na verdade, abandonar o agressor \u00e9, de facto, o passo mais f\u00e1cil. A parte mais dif\u00edcil \u00e9 ver a realidade e encontrar a for\u00e7a para enfrentar a sua terr\u00edvel verdade.<\/p>\n<p>And for the rest of the world? Well, I can just say that I don\u2019t give a damn about what anyone might think.<\/p>\n<p>No, I\u2019m not looking for people\u2019s sympathy. I don\u2019t want them to perceive me as a victim because I\u2019m much more than that. I don\u2019t expect anyone\u2019s approval anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Afinal de contas, ningu\u00e9m andou uma milha nos meus sapatos e ningu\u00e9m, exceto eu, lutou contra os meus dem\u00f3nios.<\/p>\n<p><strong>No entanto, espero que, um dia, o inferno por que passei seja reconhecido. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Espero que esta dor deixe de ser menosprezada e que <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/life\/consequencias-do-abuso-emocional\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">abuso emocional<\/a> ser\u00e1 finalmente classificado como o que realmente \u00e9.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-82959\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Uma v\u00edtima de abuso emocional deixa uma mensagem poderosa que todos deveriam ler\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When you hear the words \u201cabuse\u201d and \u201cvictim,\u201d you automatically connect it with getting physical. You immediately see a picture of someone with bruises all over their face and body, with scars, open wounds, and blood all over them. Well, I\u2019m different and there are many just like me. When you see me, you won\u2019t&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":82956,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82946","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse &amp; trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/A-Victim-Of-Emotional-Abuse-Leaves-A-Powerful-Message-Everyone-Should-Read.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse &amp; trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse &amp; trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82946","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82946"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82946\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82956"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82946"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82946"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82946"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}