{"id":82965,"date":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:21:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=82965"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:36:06","slug":"problemas-em-encontrar-a-pessoa-certa","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/problemas-em-encontrar-a-pessoa-certa\/","title":{"rendered":"5 problemas para encontrar \"a pessoa certa\" no mundo moderno"},"content":{"rendered":"

For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers.<\/p>\n

1. Amor \u00e9 igual a apego<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

In the modern dating world, there is no such thing as love. At least, it doesn\u2019t exist in the form you\u2019re familiar with.<\/p>\n

On the contrary, you\u2019re automatically accused of being pathetic if you\u2019re looking for something which used to be a bare minimum.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re romantic, you\u2019re cheesy and if you want attention, you\u2019re needy.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you: comportamento demasiado pegajoso<\/a> has never been attractive. However, you\u2019re not needy for expecting a good morning text or for wanting to see your boyfriend a few times a week.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re not pathetic for telling him how much he means to you and you\u2019re not cheesy for asking him to listen to a love song that reminds you of him.<\/p>\n

However, the truth is that in modern dating, you\u2019re not allowed to do any of these things unless you want to be called old fashioned.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, como \u00e9 que se pode criar uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o com um homem se todas estas coisas est\u00e3o fora dos limites?<\/p>\n

2. A infidelidade tornou-se normalizada<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Outro grande problema dos encontros modernos, que o impede de encontrar a pessoa certa, \u00e9 o facto de, infelizmente, a fidelidade n\u00e3o ser valorizada como antigamente.<\/p>\n

In fact, the concept of cheating has changed so much that at the end of the day, you simply can\u2019t tell what is considered acceptable behavior.<\/p>\n

A quest\u00e3o \u00e9 que as pessoas j\u00e1 n\u00e3o colocar um r\u00f3tulo nas suas rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/a>. J\u00e1 ningu\u00e9m \u00e9 exclusivo, o que lhe d\u00e1 o direito de ver v\u00e1rias pessoas ao mesmo tempo.<\/p>\n

So, when you\u2019re not in a relationship and when you\u2019re just dating, you\u2019re allowed to date other people as well.<\/p>\n

You can be in touch with a guy for a while, but if he doesn\u2019t call you his girlfriend (which he probably won\u2019t) you can\u2019t accuse him of cheating if you catch him texting or even sleeping with someone else.<\/p>\n

Sounds like a real bummer, right? Well, technically, you\u2019re also allowed to keep on doing the same things, but in this kind of arrangement, is it even possible to find true love? I think not.<\/p>\n

3. Toda a gente tem medo de compromissos<\/h2>\n

\"Mulher<\/p>\n

I\u2019m here to ask a crucial question: have we all really become so scared of commitment or has fobia de compromisso<\/a> tornar-se uma coisa?<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que todos n\u00f3s nos torn\u00e1mos realmente emocionalmente indispon\u00edveis ou ser\u00e1 que as pessoas t\u00eam medo de dizer que procuram um verdadeiro romance porque esperam ser vistas como ing\u00e9nuas por acreditarem em tais coisas?<\/p>\n

Whatever the answer is, the bottom line is the same: everywhere you look, you\u2019ll bump into commitment phobes.<\/p>\n

People who don\u2019t have the desire to truly connect with someone or to build real relationships.<\/p>\n

Sim, viver o momento \u00e9 \u00f3timo. Afinal de contas, nunca se sabe o que o amanh\u00e3 nos pode trazer, por isso \u00e9 melhor aproveitar cada respira\u00e7\u00e3o como se fosse a \u00faltima.<\/p>\n

However, when you\u2019re trapped in the middle of a culture that doesn\u2019t believe in giving your entire self to another being and that doesn\u2019t believe in building a future as a part of a couple, finding the one often seems like mission impossible.<\/p>\n

4. As suas expectativas s\u00e3o reduzidas<\/h2>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

Quer goste de o admitir ou n\u00e3o, no mundo moderno dos encontros, as suas expectativas est\u00e3o constantemente a baixar.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re not involved in a modern relationship, you can\u2019t help but be affected by what you see in other people\u2019s lives.<\/p>\n

De facto, toda a gente o acusa de ser demasiado exigente s\u00f3 porque tem alguns padr\u00f5es b\u00e1sicos.<\/p>\n

People look at you like you\u2019re a lunatic if you expect certain things that used to be normal, such as fidelity, undivided attention, and most importantly unconditional love.<\/p>\n

After some time,, without even noticing it, you start to settle for less. You adapt to the rest of the world and you adopt \u201cthe new normal\u201d.<\/p>\n

5. A cultura do namoro tornou-se um campo de jogos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Last but not least, when you\u2019re in the piscina de encontros<\/a>, the main problem you\u2019ll encounter is the fact that dating culture has actually become similar to a children\u2019s playing field.<\/p>\n

Tudo gira em torno de jogos mentais imaturos que toda a gente joga. Basicamente, os encontros transformaram-se numa competi\u00e7\u00e3o. A quest\u00e3o principal \u00e9 saber quem engana quem.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re expected to know the drill even though there\u2019s no manual on how you should behave properly.<\/p>\n

Assim, durante a maior parte do tempo, em vez de se concentrar em construir uma potencial rela\u00e7\u00e3o, tem de dominar a arte de jogar estes jogos de encontros, quer goste ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Instead of enjoying your love life, you\u2019re pressured into dissecting other people\u2019s words and actions.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso fazer o melhor que se pode para ler os sinais contradit\u00f3rios e chegar ao fundo das suas inten\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

To put things simply: the trick is to outsmart the other person. It\u2019s almost as if you are working against each other, instead of being united towards your common goal of eventually being happy.<\/p>\n

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For many, finding a soulmate in today\u2019s era seems like a dream which will never turn into reality. It\u2019s like we\u2019ve all accepted the fact that we\u2019re heading nowhere. Nevertheless, we rarely question why. What are the problems of finding \u201cthe one\u201d in the modern world? Well, we\u2019ve got the answers. 1. Love equals clinginess…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":82988,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29615],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-82965","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-soulmate-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29615,"label":"soulmate"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/5-Issues-With-Finding-\u201cThe-One\u201d-In-The-Modern-World.jpg",800,511,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29615,"name":"soulmate","slug":"soulmate-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29615,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","parent":38,"count":95,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29615,"category_count":95,"category_description":"Do you believe in twin flames - a person you're meant to have in your life no matter what? I do, and right here is where I share my thoughts on the topic.","cat_name":"soulmate","category_nicename":"soulmate-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=82965"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/82965\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/82988"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=82965"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=82965"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=82965"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}