{"id":84279,"date":"2020-07-09T09:41:15","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:41:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84279"},"modified":"2022-03-24T02:11:41","modified_gmt":"2022-03-24T02:11:41","slug":"o-que-e-a-ligacao-emocional","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/o-que-e-a-ligacao-emocional\/","title":{"rendered":"O que \u00e9 o apego emocional e como reconhecer se n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel"},"content":{"rendered":"

O apego emocional \u00e9 uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o afectiva forte e duradoura que se forma entre pessoas, embora por vezes o termo possa ser utilizado para descrever o apego a bens, h\u00e1bitos ou cren\u00e7as.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It includes a desire to be near the person or thing we’re attached to and returning to the same person or thing for comfort. Absence of the attachment figure results in anxiety.<\/strong><\/p>\n

While attachment is normal for human beings and involves an exchange of comfort and care, it’s true that sometimes it can mean a lack of freedom and unhealthy clingy behavior.<\/p>\n

When you create an attachment, you might find it hard to let go when something goes wrong. When we’re used to our comfort zone, we don’t like forced changes.<\/p>\n

Psychological research show that early experiences in childhood are important for development and behavior later in life, which means we learn our attachment style while we’re still babies and later on in life, they can change.<\/p>\n

Why should we learn about our attachment style? It’s not to confine love into strict categories but rather to easily understand where we’re coming from.<\/p>\n

Diferentes estilos de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

A teoria da vincula\u00e7\u00e3o (descrita pelo psicanalista John Bowlby) distingue quatro estilos principais de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o, cada um dos quais diz muito sobre a pessoa e as suas necessidades.<\/p>\n

Os quatro principais estilos s\u00e3o os seguintes:<\/p>\n

Seguro<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

When a person has this type of emotional attachment, that means they’re starting off with great assets.<\/p>\n

They have no problem in communicating with their partner, they don’t hesitate to ask for help or emotional support and do the same for their partner in return, which results in a rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>.<\/p>\n

That’s why someone with this attachment style has equal and understanding relationships that help them grow together.<\/p>\n

Ter o mesmo ritmo numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o d\u00e1 estabilidade, o que \u00e9 muito importante para uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o a longo prazo.<\/p>\n

They don’t engage in so-called obriga\u00e7\u00f5es de fantasia<\/em> que d\u00e3o uma falsa sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de seguran\u00e7a, mas que, em vez disso, apoiam genuinamente o seu parceiro e satisfazem as suas necessidades emocionais.<\/p>\n

All of this doesn’t mean secure relationships are perfect but what it does mean is that there’s an effort to understand, listen and solve problems together instead of putting blame on each other, passive-aggression or abandonment.<\/p>\n

Um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o seguro significa que ambos os parceiros t\u00eam uma grande consci\u00eancia de si pr\u00f3prios, o que os ajuda a ultrapassar quaisquer problemas e a concentrarem-se nos objectivos m\u00fatuos e na obten\u00e7\u00e3o de bem-estar.<\/p>\n

Ansioso-preocupado<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

Ao contr\u00e1rio do estilo anterior, os indiv\u00edduos ansioso-preocupados envolvem-se nos chamados obriga\u00e7\u00f5es de fantasia<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa com este estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o tende a fantasiar com o romance, mas n\u00e3o consegue satisfazer as expectativas na realidade.<\/p>\n

Pensam e analisam em demasia, o que os torna pegajosos e por vezes obsessivos.<\/p>\n

Em vez de amor verdadeiro, sentem uma forte necessidade emocional que tem origem na priva\u00e7\u00e3o que experimentaram no in\u00edcio da sua vida.<\/p>\n

Este vazio emocional torna-os emocionalmente faminto<\/em> and that hunger can’t be fully satisfied by their partner if the person doesn’t work on solving their issues first.<\/p>\n

They’re likely to fall for a partner whom they can save or in some cases who they think can save them and that’s usually the wrong person.<\/p>\n

Um tema recorrente numa pessoa com este tipo de personalidade \u00e9 a baixa autoestima, que resulta do facto de ter crescido sem limites.<\/p>\n

Their insecurity causes relationship problems because more often than not, they perceive their partner’s independence as a threat.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, se um parceiro passa tempo com os seus amigos ou com outras pessoas, percebe isso como uma falta de cuidado ou abandono e fica desesperado ou passivo-agressivo.<\/p>\n

Infelizmente, t\u00eam tend\u00eancia para confundir um rela\u00e7\u00e3o t\u00f3xica<\/a> pela paix\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Dismissivo-evitante<\/h2>\n

\"vista<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa com um desdenhoso-evitador<\/a> O estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o mais forte tende a ser emocionalmente indispon\u00edvel numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Normalmente, apresentam-se como auto-suficientes e independentes e evitam frequentemente a intimidade.<\/p>\n

They’re focused on themselves and seek isolation, have a hard time being vulnerable and frequently look and act unbothered by things that happen in their relationship.<\/p>\n

Mesmo depois de o parceiro as magoar ou deixar, t\u00eam tend\u00eancia a bloquear os sentimentos, o que n\u00e3o faz mais do que engarrafar os sentimentos n\u00e3o expressos. Por outras palavras, desligam-se emocionalmente.<\/p>\n

Este tipo tem poucas rela\u00e7\u00f5es genu\u00ednas na sua vida como resultado do seu estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante e desdenhoso.<\/p>\n

\u2018I don’t care\u2019<\/em> is their mantra, even though that’s almost always untrue because full independence is an illusion.<\/p>\n

Every human being craves genuine and meaningful relationships; even if you’re an introverted person who doesn’t like crowds, to have a quality connection with other people is essential.<\/p>\n

Medo e evitamento<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Uma pessoa com este tipo de estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o tem uma abordagem mista. Teme estar demasiado perto ou demasiado longe do seu parceiro e, normalmente, tem dificuldade em compreender as suas pr\u00f3prias emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

A sua incapacidade de compreender as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es faz com que se sintam sobrecarregados, o que s\u00f3 torna as coisas mais complicadas e, por vezes, cria um problema de sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n

They want to be close to the other person but at the same time, they’re scared of being hurt.<\/p>\n

When they’re hurt, they tend to be clingy, while other times, they experience fear of intimacy and withdrawal. In other words, they’re confused about how to get their needs met.<\/p>\n

Seguem-se muitos altos e baixos com o seu parceiro, o que resulta numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o inst\u00e1vel e por vezes abusiva.<\/p>\n

Sinais de uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional pouco saud\u00e1vel<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

We can all agree that no relationship is perfect and there’s always an occasional argument or problem that needs to be solved. However, there are many red flags that need to be brought to light.<\/p>\n

A healthy romantic relationship shouldn’t support the following behaviors, as they are signs of an unhealthy attachment:<\/p>\n

Necessidade de seguran\u00e7a constante<\/h2>\n

\"fotografia<\/p>\n

It’s normal for human beings to be concerned with how others perceive them, especially their loved ones.<\/p>\n

Nevertheless, if we do it constantly, it’s a sign for concern.<\/p>\n

\u2018Do you love me? Why won’t you tell me you love me? How much do you love me? Are you sure about it?\u2019<\/em> e perguntas semelhantes s\u00e3o apenas alguns exemplos de comportamento pegajoso.<\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m disso, a necessidade de outros tipos de afeto, como beijos e abra\u00e7os, tamb\u00e9m \u00e9 normalmente sobrevalorizada.<\/p>\n

This type of behavior overwhelms the other person and pushes them away. It puts too much pressure on one person, who can’t fill the emotional hunger of the other person.<\/p>\n

A solu\u00e7\u00e3o para este problema \u00e9 enfrentar o conflito interior n\u00e3o resolvido. Em vez de se agarrar a um parceiro para obter garantias, a pessoa precisa de aprender a resolver os seus pr\u00f3prios problemas.<\/p>\n

We will never be fully satisfied unless we learn to respect ourselves and realize our self-worth. When you know your self-worth, you don’t need the approval of others.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t care about their opinions but you already know what’s best for you and what you are capable of.<\/p>\n

Amor obsessivo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

O amor obsessivo \u00e9 um extremo paix\u00e3o<\/a> that’s usually accompanied by delusional jealousy and controlling behavior (not to be confused with feelings of infatuation that are normal for a new relationship).<\/p>\n

It’s love that never matures enough to attain a healthy emotional connection. Instead, it almost becomes a personality disorder.<\/p>\n

O que torna as coisas piores \u00e9 o facto de o amor obsessivo ser romantizado na cultura popular atrav\u00e9s de livros e filmes.<\/p>\n

Alguns dos comportamentos pouco saud\u00e1veis s\u00e3o normalizados e as liga\u00e7\u00f5es problem\u00e1ticas dos adultos s\u00e3o desculpadas.<\/p>\n

Unfortunately, obsessive love is viewed as something worthy of praise when in reality it’s just toxic behavior.<\/p>\n

Alguns dos sinais de alerta do amor obsessivo s\u00e3o: pensamentos obsessivos sobre o objeto de desejo, aten\u00e7\u00e3o intensa ao objeto de amor, telefonemas e mensagens de texto obsessivos, problemas de confian\u00e7a, alegria e al\u00edvio excessivos quando se est\u00e1 perto do objeto de amor, dificuldade em concentrar-se noutras coisas, etc.<\/p>\n

Being overly concerned by their partner\u2019s feelings<\/h2>\n

\"uma<\/p>\n

A psicologia social diz-nos qu\u00e3o significativa e impactante \u00e9 a presen\u00e7a dos outros nas nossas vidas. Afecta os nossos pensamentos, sentimentos e comportamentos.<\/p>\n

That’s why many people are concerned about how they look in the eyes of others and sometimes even to the point of altering their own life and behavior to fit the needs of their partner.<\/p>\n

The problem with this kind of behavior is that we’re sacrificing our authentic self, which eventually leads us to feel unhappy about ourselves and our relationship.<\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m reflecte a baixa autoestima<\/a> e faz-nos sentir que n\u00e3o somos ouvidos.<\/p>\n

If we’re too concerned or fearful over our partner’s reactions, especially when it comes to everyday things, it’s possible that we’re trapped in unhealthy emotional behavior.<\/p>\n

Another way this problem manifests is when we feel responsible for other people’s feelings, so let me say this again:<\/p>\n

You’re not responsible for other people’s feelings. That’s exactly what keeps us numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o dif\u00edcil<\/a>Pensar que tudo o que acontece de mau \u00e9 culpa nossa \u00e9 prejudicial para a nossa autoestima.<\/p>\n

Evitar a intimidade<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

In order to have a close relationship, two people need to acknowledge each other’s feelings and work toward mutual contentment.<\/p>\n

That means constant care, support, trust and vulnerability. There’s no real intimacy without vulnerability.<\/p>\n

O medo de partilhar uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o emocional pr\u00f3xima \u00e9 um medo da intimidade, que \u00e9 a coisa mais importante entre parceiros rom\u00e2nticos.<\/p>\n

Existem in\u00fameras raz\u00f5es para este medo, incluindo experi\u00eancias dif\u00edceis na inf\u00e2ncia, um historial de abusos e muitas outras.<\/p>\n

A intimidade \u00e9 a capacidade de nos partilharmos com outra pessoa e podemos faz\u00ea-lo de v\u00e1rias formas.<\/p>\n

Por exemplo, de uma forma intelectual (partilha de pensamentos e ideias), emocional (partilha de sentimentos profundos), sexual (partilha de intimidade f\u00edsica) e experiencial (partilha de experi\u00eancias).<\/p>\n

Diferentes tipos de liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Quando ouvimos o termo liga\u00e7\u00e3o afectiva, pensamos normalmente na liga\u00e7\u00e3o a pessoas, como parceiros de vida, filhos, familiares e amigos. No entanto, existem muitos mais tipos, tais como:<\/p>\n

Apego \u00e0s coisas materiais<\/h2>\n

\u00c9 dif\u00edcil para si quando alguns dos seus bens materiais se avariam ou quando tem de os abandonar? Alguma vez se perguntou porqu\u00ea?<\/p>\n

The fact is, we’re attached to material things. If we weren’t, why would we buy unessential things in the first place?<\/p>\n

Quase todas as compras importantes s\u00e3o emocionais.<\/p>\n

Think about if you left your phone alone for a few days; I’m sure you would miss it and feel a certain amount of frustration at times.<\/p>\n

Of course, it’s normal to enjoy material things but we should be aware that they’re all replaceable.<\/p>\n

There’s the idea that the less attached we are, the happier we are. Everything in life is transient, so learning to let go is a useful skill.<\/p>\n

Apego aos h\u00e1bitos<\/h2>\n

Para al\u00e9m das pessoas e das coisas, apegamo-nos aos h\u00e1bitos. A forma mais f\u00e1cil de o constatar \u00e9 ver pessoas que fumam, comem demais, s\u00e3o obcecadas com o exerc\u00edcio f\u00edsico, etc.<\/p>\n

It’s possible to have healthy habits but it’s easier to have unhealthy ones. That’s why in order to break a habit, one needs willpower and discipline.<\/p>\n

Apego aos lugares<\/h2>\n

Para muitas pessoas, mudar de ambiente \u00e9 um pesadelo.<\/p>\n

Apegam-se demasiado a certos lugares; por exemplo, a sua cidade natal ou a casa da fam\u00edlia e, por vezes, mesmo quando precisam desesperadamente de mudar.<\/p>\n

Refusing change when it’s good for us is a big sign of an unhealthy emotional attachment because it stops progress and growth.<\/p>\n

Apego \u00e0s mem\u00f3rias<\/h2>\n

Dwelling on the things that happened in the past is another type of attachment. There’s no point in daydreaming or crying over the things that already happened because we can’t change them.<\/p>\n

O que podemos fazer \u00e9 concentrarmo-nos nas coisas que podemos fazer agora e fazer o melhor que pudermos.<\/p>\n

Como quebrar o ciclo pouco saud\u00e1vel<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Embora a liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional seja uma coisa normal e esperada para os seres humanos, por vezes fica fora de controlo.<\/p>\n

Para mantermos o nosso equil\u00edbrio emocional e a nossa liberdade pessoal, precisamos de nos desapegar das coisas que j\u00e1 n\u00e3o nos servem.<\/p>\n

How do we do that? Firstly, it’s good to work on your self-esteem. It’s crucial to get comfortable with yourself before anyone else in order to experience happiness, freedom and emotional balance.<\/p>\n

Secondly, it’s good to find new things to focus on.<\/p>\n

Don’t rely on other people to make you feel good; find out how to do so on your own. Engage in things that make you less stressed. Make some new friends, try new things.<\/p>\n

Don’t think of yourself as someone who needs something or someone else to feel fulfilled, as you’re already whole.<\/p>\n

Don’t forget that you have the power to change your life every day, starting from today.<\/p>\n

\u201cRenew, release, let go. Yesterday\u2019s gone. There\u2019s nothing you can do to bring it back. You can\u2019t \u2018should\u2019ve\u2019 done something. You can only DO something. Renew yourself. Release that attachment. Today is a new day!\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Steve Maraboli<\/p>\n

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