{"id":84341,"date":"2020-07-09T09:43:03","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T09:43:03","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84341"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:28:48","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:28:48","slug":"diz-o-que-queres-dizer-e-diz-o-que-queres-dizer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/diz-o-que-queres-dizer-e-diz-o-que-queres-dizer\/","title":{"rendered":"Dizes sempre o que queres dizer e queres dizer o que dizes?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cSay what you mean and mean what you say. Don\u2019t be afraid to stand firm on the decisions that you make. Trust yourself. Believe in your instincts. Do what works best for YOU. Stay true to yourself and be good to yourself. Allow every decision that you make to empower, enrich, and add value to your life!\u201d<\/em> \u2013 Stephanie Lahart<\/p>\n

Falar sempre a verdade n\u00e3o \u00e9 uma tarefa f\u00e1cil. Tentar ser consciente de falar honestamente e expressar os seus verdadeiros pensamentos e emo\u00e7\u00f5es torna-se bastante complicado, especialmente nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/p>\n

Dar sentido ao que se diz pode ser ainda mais complicado, especialmente quando as emo\u00e7\u00f5es tomam conta de n\u00f3s.<\/p>\n

We’re here to help you learn how to remain respectful and kind when communicating with your partner, without compromising the truth that needs to be told.<\/p>\n

Also, we\u2019ll explore the idea of lying and if there\u2019s ever a time when it\u2019s okay to do so.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s start.<\/p>\n

9 dicas para melhorar o seu estilo de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. O timing \u00e9 tudo<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It’s not that you should always put off saying something important, but choosing the wrong timing won’t get you anywhere.<\/p>\n

Don’t surprise your partner with a super serious conversation while you’re having fun at a party, or interrupt them while they’re doing something important.<\/p>\n

Escolher o momento certo pode fazer toda a diferen\u00e7a entre resolver os seus problemas de forma honesta e aberta e discutir sem chegar a qualquer tipo de solu\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

It’s not a bad idea to agree on the time the conversation will take place so neither of you is surprised, angry, or overly emotional to resolve whatever there is to resolve.<\/p>\n

If it’s something small that you want to share, again, think of the timing. When your partner is just getting ready for work or an event is definitely not the time to tell them they’ve gained weight.<\/p>\n

Pode ser verdade, mas dizer-lhes algo assim naquele momento espec\u00edfico \u00e9 simplesmente cruel.<\/p>\n

2. Don’t plan the conversation ahead down to every little detail<\/h2>\n

\"jovem<\/p>\n

While most of us intuitively plan out what we’re going to say and even creatively imagine how the other person is going to respond to our words, conversations cannot really be predicted.<\/p>\n

This is especially true if it’s something deep and emotional that you have to talk about. Things will probably not go the way you planned.<\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que deve manter-se flex\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Ter uma ideia geral do que pretende partilhar e como quer comunic\u00e1-lo<\/a> \u00e9 importante, mas tentar controlar completamente a conversa s\u00f3 pode levar a um mal-entendido e, eventualmente, a uma briga.<\/p>\n

Mantenha a conversa, deixando espa\u00e7o para o que quer que o seu parceiro queira contribuir para a discuss\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

3. Paci\u00eancia, paci\u00eancia, paci\u00eancia<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Escolher as palavras certas<\/a> can be difficult. If your partner isn’t as good with words as you are or has a hard time expressing themselves, you might get impatient.<\/p>\n

Don’t force them to blurt out anything just because you can’t wait for them to find the right thing to say.<\/p>\n

A paci\u00eancia \u00e9 muito importante quando se tenta comunicar as emo\u00e7\u00f5es de forma honesta e aberta.<\/p>\n

Don’t try to help them out, putting words in their mouth. Also, don’t sit there planning the next thing you’re going to say.<\/p>\n

Tente ouvir ativamente tudo o que eles partilham, porque para as pessoas com problemas de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o, cada palavra \u00e9 importante.<\/p>\n

If you’re the one having issues expressing your exact thoughts and emotions and usually find it difficult to say what you mean, give yourself time. The right words will probably come, but…<\/p>\n

4. Quando as palavras lhe falham, siga a sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

It’s not just words that play a role in your communication with your loved ones. Sometimes, words fail us.<\/p>\n

Os mal-entendidos s\u00e3o muito desagrad\u00e1veis e toda a confus\u00e3o que da\u00ed adv\u00e9m pode ser bastante stressante.<\/p>\n

When you’re at the listening side of the conversation, try to listen with your heart.<\/p>\n

Even when our ears hear our partner saying something that absolutely doesn’t fit who they are, our hearts hear past that.<\/p>\n

Siga a sua intui\u00e7\u00e3o e tente discutir o assunto com calma, sem empurrar o seu parceiro para a lama das palavras inadequadas que proferiu, zangando-se.<\/p>\n

If you’re the one speaking and you\u2019ve just said something wrong, explain that you weren’t able to find the words to express yourself better and what you said wasn’t what you wanted to communicate.<\/p>\n

O amor ideal tem a ver com uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/a>mas tamb\u00e9m de falar com o cora\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

5. Deixar de julgar e escolher a aceita\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Para dizeres o que queres dizer e para dizeres o que queres dizer, as tuas palavras t\u00eam de vir de um lugar de amor e clareza.<\/p>\n

A honestidade n\u00e3o significa ser cr\u00edtico.<\/p>\n

Quando decidimos comunicar, o nosso objetivo final \u00e9 fazer com que o nosso parceiro nos compreenda, da mesma forma que n\u00f3s precisamos de o compreender a ele. Criar um ambiente seguro<\/a> \u00e9 imprescind\u00edvel.<\/p>\n

Come\u00e7ar a conversa a partir de um lugar de julgamento e cr\u00edtica s\u00f3 leva a mal-entendidos, brigas e sentimentos feridos. Em vez disso, opte pela aceita\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

Independentemente do assunto de que falem, decidam antecipadamente que o vosso ponto de partida \u00e9 a aceita\u00e7\u00e3o e o amor.<\/p>\n

If your partner feels judged, they’ll shut down, hiding their vulnerabilities from you. Honest communication is not about offending or hurting someone.<\/p>\n

It’s about creating a safe environment for your conversational partner where they feel safe to open up.<\/p>\n

6. Honestidade<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Of course, the biggest part of saying what you mean and meaning what you say is honesty. There’s no point in sharing something that isn’t even true. No one benefits from lies and deception.<\/p>\n

Os parceiros precisam de ser capazes e estar dispostos a dizer as suas verdades, tendo sempre em mente que o amor, as boas inten\u00e7\u00f5es e a clareza s\u00e3o partes importantes de uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel.<\/p>\n

Ser honesto e, ao mesmo tempo, vir de um esp\u00edrito de amor ir\u00e1 aprofundar e fortalecer a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o mais do que qualquer outra coisa.<\/p>\n

7. Escolher sempre a comunica\u00e7\u00e3o cara a cara em vez de qualquer outra<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As cartas, os e-mails e as mensagens de texto podem ser mal interpretados. Na maior parte das vezes, s\u00e3o-no.<\/p>\n

When there’s something important or tricky you have to share with your partner, it’s best to choose a face to face conversation.<\/p>\n

Falar pessoalmente ajuda a evitar todos os erros de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o desnecess\u00e1rios que s\u00e3o demasiado comuns em qualquer outra forma de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

If you’re trying to avoid talking in person because it seems to you like you never share everything you want to, it might be a good idea for you to collect your thoughts beforehand and write them down so you can remind yourself of all you wanted to say.<\/p>\n

8. Aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 sua linguagem corporal<\/h2>\n

\"casal<\/p>\n

Besides the actual words you say, your body language is the biggest part of your communication style. Make sure that it’s telling the same story your mouth is.<\/p>\n

Preste aten\u00e7\u00e3o ao seu parceiro. Sente-se perto dele e envolva-se fisicamente na conversa.<\/p>\n

Make eye contact and stay open. Don’t clench your fists or do a nervous tick like bouncing your leg.<\/p>\n

O seu corpo deve permanecer calmo e aberto da mesma forma que a sua mente est\u00e1 aberta para receber tudo o que o seu parceiro est\u00e1 a partilhar. Quando falar, fa\u00e7a-o com calma.<\/p>\n

Don’t over-gesticulate, especially not in aggressive ways that would only show your anger and impatience.<\/p>\n

Show your partner that you have respect for them, even when you disagree and want to make a point that’s completely different to theirs.<\/p>\n

Don’t be distracted with anything else like checking your phone while you’re talking.<\/p>\n

9. Use the two days rule \u2013 not everything needs to be shared<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se aconteceu algo que lhe deu vontade de dizer o que pensa ao seu parceiro, mas se sente muito zangado ou confuso, ou se as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es est\u00e3o \u00e0 flor da pele, opte por esperar.<\/p>\n

48 horas depois, se continuar a sentir o mesmo, fale com o seu parceiro sobre o assunto.<\/p>\n

If, after that time, you don’t even care about what happened, consider simply not saying a thing.<\/p>\n

The big part of “say what you mean and mean what you say” attitude applied to relationships is to know when not to overshare.<\/p>\n

It’s okay to simply not say something if it’s no longer important and wouldn’t change anything except maybe cause a fight.<\/p>\n

If you choose to speak up when you’re upset, you’re risking not meaning what you say. And that’s equally important as saying what you mean \u2013 never forget that.<\/p>\n

This Is How To Mean What You Say When You’re Angry<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Dar um passo atr\u00e1s e respirar<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If you’ve found yourself in the midst of a passionate conversation (read: fight), and feel like you’re no longer in control of your emotions or words, it’s best to hit the pause button.<\/p>\n

Diga ao seu parceiro que precisa de algum tempo para pensar em tudo o que aconteceu.<\/p>\n

Calm yourself down before you make the situation even worse by saying a lot of things you don’t even mean that would hurt your partner’s feelings and possibly even ruin your relationship.<\/p>\n

2. Pense no que o deixou zangado<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

When you’re calm, think about what made you so mad. Try to analyze the situation as comprehensively as you can.<\/p>\n

Foi algo que o seu parceiro fez que o irritou ou foi algo que ele disse ou a forma como o disse?<\/p>\n

Pense bem at\u00e9 perceber o que quer realmente dizer e o que precisa de ser partilhado com o seu parceiro para exprimir as suas verdadeiras emo\u00e7\u00f5es e pensamentos.<\/p>\n

3. Talk (keeping in mind all the tips we\u2019ve given you)<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

When you know just what it is that you want to say, and when you’re finally calm, talk to your partner. Keep in mind all the tips we\u2019ve outlined.<\/p>\n

Stay respectful, open, and accepting. Choose patience and flexibility and make sure your body language is in tune with how you’re feeling.<\/p>\n

Always say what you mean, but don’t say it mean.<\/p>\n

Find a way to express love and understanding even when you’re calling down behavior or trying to prove something to your partner that they don’t necessarily agree on.<\/p>\n

4. LISTEN \u2013 don’t forget to listen<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Don’t only focus on what you have to say. While your partner is talking, don’t use that time to come up with the next thing you’re going to say.<\/p>\n

Para que uma conversa fa\u00e7a sentido, ambos t\u00eam de expressar as suas verdades.<\/p>\n

Ou\u00e7a ativamente, pensando bem em tudo o que o seu parceiro partilha consigo. Tente compreender o seu ponto de vista.<\/p>\n

Criar espa\u00e7o para uma comunica\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel e calma, em que todos se sintam livres para serem verdadeiros e vulner\u00e1veis.<\/p>\n

A honestidade \u00e9 sempre a melhor pol\u00edtica? Tudo sobre mentiras brancas<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\"bela<\/p>\n

At first glance, it may seem to you that the obvious answer is to always be truthful. But, there’s a good reason white lies exist.<\/p>\n

Ent\u00e3o, o que \u00e9 que s\u00e3o?<\/p>\n

Uma mentira branca \u00e9 uma mentira contada com a melhor das inten\u00e7\u00f5es, tentando evitar que a outra pessoa fique desnecessariamente magoada ou embara\u00e7ada.<\/p>\n

Existem muitos tipos diferentes, e apresentamos-lhe quatro tipos de mentiras brancas habitualmente utilizadas nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es:<\/p>\n

Mentiras descaradas<\/strong><\/p>\n

Outright lies don’t have the tiniest bit of truth in them.<\/p>\n

Remember high school, when you were late for class and your teacher asked you why and you told them that your bus was late or your driver was sick, all the while you actually overslept? Yup, that’s it.<\/p>\n

So, if you tell your partner that you didn’t go out, but were studying while you were actually watching Netflix, that’s just an outright lie \u2013 no matter how little difference the truth would make.<\/p>\n

Verdades suavizadas<\/strong><\/p>\n

Softened truths are a kind of white lies that you use when you want to minimize the impact of the truth you’re about to share.<\/p>\n

For example, your partner asks you if your ex was better than him in any way, and you tell him that “he was a very different type of person,” not wanting to hurt his feelings with the complete truth, yet still not telling a lie.<\/p>\n

Omiss\u00f5es cuidadosas<\/strong><\/p>\n

As omiss\u00f5es cuidadosas s\u00e3o o que se faz quando se pressente uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o ou coment\u00e1rio embara\u00e7oso e se muda rapidamente de assunto ou se pede desculpa para ir \u00e0 casa de banho.<\/p>\n

For example, your partner says how lovely his sister is and you sense he’s about to ask you what you think of her (and you don’t like her), so you say something like “Yeah, listen, we have to go, otherwise we’ll be late for dinner.”<\/p>\n

Mentiras cinzentas<\/strong><\/p>\n

As mentiras cinzentas s\u00e3o mentiras que n\u00e3o s\u00e3o realmente brancas, mas ainda n\u00e3o s\u00e3o pretas (apenas uma boa e velha mentira).<\/p>\n

A maior diferen\u00e7a entre uma mentira branca e uma mentira cinzenta \u00e9 que uma mentira branca \u00e9 utilizada para tentar evitar que outra pessoa se sinta mal desnecessariamente, enquanto as mentiras cinzentas ajudam-no a salvar-se de situa\u00e7\u00f5es embara\u00e7osas.<\/p>\n

Cada mentira branca pode tamb\u00e9m ser uma mentira cinzenta, dependendo da sua inten\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n

For example, when you tell a funny story from work where someone gets embarrassed, but you use your co-worker as the main character, while the story you’re talking about has actually happened to you and you just wanted to avoid the embarrassment \u2013 that’s a grey lie.<\/p>\n

As mentiras brancas s\u00e3o realmente necess\u00e1rias?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There isn’t the “one size fits all” kind of answer to this question. The truth is, telling a small, insignificant lie can be just that \u2013 completely insignificant.<\/p>\n

O problema ocorre quando uma pessoa n\u00e3o consegue distinguir entre dizer uma pequena mentira e realmente mentir sobre algo que realmente tem impacto<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Also, some lies \u2013 gray lies, in particular \u2013 can be difficult to get out of.<\/p>\n

Uma vez que se diz algo, pode arrastar uma s\u00e9rie de outras mentiras que precisam de ser ditas para sustentar a primeira mentira, e isso torna-se complicado.<\/p>\n

It’s up to you to find reason in what you decide to do, whether it’s to tell your partner their hair looks great, even when it doesn’t, or that their family is lovely, despite you not particularly adoring them.<\/p>\n

It all comes down to your own personal feeling about what’s important and what’s not.<\/p>\n

A melhor maneira de decidir se deve ou n\u00e3o usar uma pequena mentira insignificante \u00e9 pensar no que gostaria que lhe dissessem nesse tipo de situa\u00e7\u00e3o e agir em conformidade.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, we prefer being told little lies just to feel better, even when we intuitively know we aren’t being told the truth.<\/p>\n

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