{"id":84348,"date":"2020-07-09T08:45:17","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:45:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84348"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:41:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:41:01","slug":"incerteza-nas-relacoes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/incerteza-nas-relacoes\/","title":{"rendered":"Incerteza nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es: O que \u00e9 e como lidar com ela"},"content":{"rendered":"

It’s normal to feel uncertain and have some trust issues if you’ve just started dating someone. You don’t know your partner well yet, and those <\/span>sentimentos de incerteza<\/span> s\u00e3o justificadas. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you’re in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/span> and you’re still dealing with uncertainty in the relationship, that might be a huge problem. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todos <\/i><\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/i><\/b> deve basear-se na abertura emocional e na confian\u00e7a.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

This means that if you’re with the <\/span>pessoa certa,<\/span> deve ser capaz de <\/span>abrir<\/span> to them and they should trust you no matter what \u2013 and vice versa. <\/span><\/p>\n

Incerteza das rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/i><\/b><\/a> isn’t healthy or beneficial in any way. <\/i><\/b>Also, it’s the main reason why couples decide to end their relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o h\u00e1 necessidade de entrar em p\u00e2nico. A boa not\u00edcia \u00e9 que, se quiser fazer com que a sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o funcione, se fizer algum esfor\u00e7o, pode ultrapassar estes problemas. <\/span><\/p>\n

On the other hand, if giving your best to save your relationship of uncertainty still doesn’t help, it means you have to let it go because it’s just not meant to be. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que causa a incerteza nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/span><\/h2>\n

Como j\u00e1 foi referido, a experi\u00eancia de algumas incertezas num <\/span>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> \u00e9 perfeitamente normal. Todos n\u00f3s passamos por isso. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can’t avoid those <\/span>sentimentos de incerteza<\/span> na fase inicial de uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Precisa de tempo para conhecer o seu novo parceiro. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, if you’re in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o de compromisso<\/span>, there\u2019s no place for any kind of insecurities.<\/span><\/p>\n

Se decidir comprometer-se com o seu <\/span>outra pessoa significativa<\/span>Tem de ser porque os amamos, porque confiamos neles de todo o cora\u00e7\u00e3o e porque nos sentimos \u00e0 vontade para <\/span>abrir<\/span> com eles sobre tudo.<\/span><\/p>\n

However sometimes, no matter how much you love someone, those uncertainties are just bigger than you. It seems like they’re impossible to overcome. <\/span><\/p>\n

Antes de come\u00e7ares a lidar com esses sentimentos, <\/span>deve come\u00e7ar por tentar descobrir a causa principal do problema.<\/i><\/b> Eis algumas causas poss\u00edveis de <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00f5es incertas<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Problemas de relacionamento anteriores<\/h2>\n

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Talvez o seu anterior parceiro o tenha tra\u00eddo. Talvez algu\u00e9m o tenha magoado tanto que o deixou com o medo constante de <\/span>desgosto<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

I understand and I’m so sorry. You didn’t deserve it. But your partner also doesn’t deserve to be punished for what someone else did to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso passar algum tempo a s\u00f3s e refletir sobre a sua <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o passada<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t have to forgive your ex for what they did to you, but <\/span>\u00e9 necess\u00e1rio <\/i><\/b>deixar no passado<\/i><\/b><\/a> se quiser fazer o seu <\/i><\/b>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/i><\/b> trabalho. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You have to understand that your new partner isn’t your ex and they won’t hurt you. Even if they do, it won’t be your fault. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ainda existem pessoas boas neste mundo. Pessoas que querem amar algu\u00e9m por nenhuma outra raz\u00e3o que n\u00e3o seja o amor. S\u00f3 tens de acreditar nisso. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Baixa autoestima<\/h2>\n

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Se tiver um n\u00edvel baixo de <\/span>autoestima<\/span>, that will for sure make you doubt your partner. You don’t appreciate or love yourself enough and it’s hard for you to believe that your partner does. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you don’t have a healthy self-relationship,you can\u2019t expect to have one with your <\/span>outra pessoa significativa<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

The relationship you have with yourself is a foundation for every other relationship in your life. If you don’t work on yourself and your <\/span>autoestima<\/span>, you won’t be able to create a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/span> com a tua outra metade. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Press\u00e3o das redes sociais<\/h2>\n

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Atualmente, existe uma grande press\u00e3o sobre os casais por parte de <\/span>redes sociais<\/span>. Est\u00e1-se sempre a ouvir dizer que algu\u00e9m traiu o seu parceiro online. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can find some inaccurate and misleading articles on the Internet about how your partner lies to you or doesn’t love you if they do some of the things they wrote. <\/span><\/p>\n

N\u00e3o se deve acreditar em tudo o que se l\u00ea ou v\u00ea. Atualmente, circulam muitas informa\u00e7\u00f5es falsas na Internet. <\/span><\/p>\n

You shouldn’t use <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> to spy on your partner. If someone likes their photo or leaves a comment underneath it, don’t be jealous. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t make a fuss about it. Don’t create unnecessary drama. Actually, don’t do anything until you\u2019ve asked your partner about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Medo de confiar nas pessoas<\/h2>\n

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Algumas pessoas foram muito magoadas no passado e, infelizmente, isso deixa algumas consequ\u00eancias. <\/span><\/p>\n

They have a fear of trusting people. They are unable to trust their partner no matter what they do to prove them wrong because they’re afraid that the same thing will happen to them again. <\/span><\/p>\n

They can’t relax and feel comfortable about their partner because they’re constantly thinking about how they’ll end up being heart broken once again. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Expectativas irrealistas<\/h2>\n

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Se iniciar um <\/span>nova rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> com expectativas muito elevadas<\/span><\/a>, you\u2019ll be disappointed for sure. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t set the bar too high. Actually, you should expect nothing from them until you get to know them well. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Medo do desconhecido<\/h2>\n

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Don’t worry about the future too much. What’s meant to be will always find its way. You shouldn’t worry about things you can’t affect and this is one of them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes you think that by pulling away you’ll save yourself from future <\/span>desgosto<\/span>. No entanto, pode perder algumas coisas fant\u00e1sticas devido ao medo do desconhecido. <\/span><\/p>\n

If they leave you or betray you, that’s not your problem. It’s their loss, not yours. Move on, keep your head and standards high and let it go. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ask yourself… <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 que \u00e9 mesmo amor verdadeiro? <\/h2>\n

Ama realmente o seu parceiro? V\u00ea-o como a parte principal da sua vida e do seu futuro? Sente-se realizado na sua rela\u00e7\u00e3o? O seu parceiro \u00e9 tudo o que sempre desejou? <\/span><\/p>\n

If your answer is negative to any of these questions, it means that it’s not true love and that sooner or later you’ll have to let go of the relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

O seu parceiro preocupa-se consigo tanto quanto voc\u00ea se preocupa com ele?<\/h2>\n

Os seus sentimentos s\u00e3o correspondidos? O seu parceiro ama-o e preocupa-se consigo tanto quanto voc\u00ea se preocupa com ele?<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe that’s the reason for your uncertainties. You give your all to the relationship, but you never get anything in return. <\/span><\/p>\n

Vale a pena lutar por ele?<\/h2>\n

Ama o seu parceiro mais do que qualquer outra pessoa? \u00c9 a \u00fanica pessoa com quem consegue imaginar a sua vida? Estou a falar a s\u00e9rio, <\/span>vale mesmo a pena lutar por ele?<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

You have to be very careful with this one. Think about it before you decide on an answer. Yet, If it’s true love, you won’t have to think about it because you’ll know immediately. <\/span> <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

V\u00ea-se a si pr\u00f3prio no futuro com o seu atual parceiro?<\/h2>\n

Are you sure that is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Are you 100% sure? Are you sure that you’ll be able to overcome the issues you have because you can’t have doubts in your forever partner? <\/span><\/p>\n

Tem a mesma perspetiva de vida?<\/h2>\n

Querem as mesmas coisas? J\u00e1 alguma vez falou com o seu parceiro sobre o futuro? O que \u00e9 que querem do vosso futuro? <\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00eam de querer coisas semelhantes no futuro ou t\u00eam de estar dispostos a comprometer-se muito se quiserem que a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o resulte. <\/span><\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s feliz?<\/h2>\n

Nothing is worth it if you aren’t happy. You may think that you love your partner or maybe you do, but it’s not strong enough to help you overcome your insecurities. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you truly love someone you should be happy in that relationship most of the time. If your partner truly loves you, they’ll do whatever they can to make you happy all the time. <\/span><\/p>\n

Como lidar com a incerteza numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Ama a sua <\/span>outra pessoa significativa<\/span> mas ainda t\u00eam algumas incertezas sobre a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. Isso pode ser um verdadeiro <\/span>montanha-russa<\/span> de emo\u00e7\u00f5es. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have mixed feelings and don’t know what to do. Even though your love is stronger than that, you still can’t forget about those <\/span>sentimentos de incerteza<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Veja isto <\/span>conselhos sobre rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span> de especialistas sobre como ultrapassar <\/span>incerteza nas rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span> da forma mais saud\u00e1vel poss\u00edvel. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Abra-se com o seu parceiro<\/h2>\n

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A comunica\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e9 tudo numa <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o saud\u00e1vel<\/span>. \u00c9 preciso confiar no parceiro e ser capaz de <\/span>abrir<\/span> falar com eles sobre todas as coisas que o incomodam. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to tell them how you feel. If there is something that makes you doubt them, they have the right to know and to tell their side of the story. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you tell your partner how you honestly feel about your relationship, I’m sure they’ll show understanding and give you time to overcome those issues. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. It’s important how both you and your partner feel<\/h2>\n

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You have to ask them how they feel about you and your relationship, too. It’s important to know how your <\/span>parceiro sente<\/span> e trabalhar em conjunto nos vossos problemas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t bottle up your emotions <\/i><\/b>because you think they’ll harm your relationship in some way. <\/span>Mais cedo ou mais tarde, essas emo\u00e7\u00f5es v\u00e3o transbordar<\/i><\/b> e isso ser\u00e1 um problema maior para ambos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Also, if you see some changes in your partner’s behavior, if you realize that something is bothering them, you have to ask them what’s happening.<\/span><\/p>\n

They must know that you’re there for them and that they can talk to you about everything. <\/span><\/p>\n

Again, communication. It’s really the healthiest way to solve any kind of issues you might be experiencing. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Os controlos frequentes s\u00e3o importantes<\/h2>\n

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Envie uma mensagem de texto ao seu parceiro a meio do dia. Pergunte-lhe como foi o dia ou simplesmente escreva o quanto sente a sua falta. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t wait for a problem to happen to talk with your partner about their feelings and thoughts. It might be too late then. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m, <\/i><\/b>check-ins<\/i><\/b> consigo pr\u00f3prio s\u00e3o importantes.<\/i><\/b> Ask yourself how you feel about your job, your love life, and your life in general. Talk with yourself and do it every day. It’s vital for your own <\/span>bem-estar<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t allow others to interfere in your relationship<\/h2>\n

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Concordo que pode haver pessoas que tenham passado por uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o semelhante e que deve ouvi-las. <\/span>But don’t follow advice from other people blindly. <\/b><\/p>\n

Os vossos parceiros s\u00e3o diferentes e isso faz com que as vossas rela\u00e7\u00f5es tamb\u00e9m sejam diferentes. Ningu\u00e9m pode dar-vos o conselho certo sobre o que devem fazer. <\/span><\/p>\n

You should only listen to yourself and do what you think is the best thing to do. Even if you make a mistake, it’ll be your mistake and you won’t be able to blame anyone else for it. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Escolher a confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

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If your partner hasn\u2019t given you any reason to doubt him, then don’t make up some reasons. If you love someone, choose trust over those insecurities. <\/span><\/p>\n

Escolha confiar no seu <\/span>outra pessoa significativa<\/span> and give them the chance to prove to you that they deserve it. In time, you’ll overcome those uncertainties together. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Comprometer-se mais frequentemente<\/h2>\n

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Just because your partner doesn’t agree on something with you or they have different opinions about certain things, it shouldn’t make you doubt them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal that you’ll sometimes have a different approach, opinion, or perspective and you’ll have to meet in the middle with your partner. Always be ready to compromise.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. Aceite as suas diferen\u00e7as<\/h2>\n

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So what if you have some different ways of thinking or if your plans for the future aren’t exactly the same? <\/span>S\u00e3o essas diferen\u00e7as que mant\u00eam viva a chama da vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Embrace those differences, don’t try to resolve them. If you try to change some of those things, you’ll also change your relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n

E lembre-se, essas pequenas diferen\u00e7as nunca s\u00e3o a raz\u00e3o para a incerteza numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Tanto tu como o teu parceiro cometer\u00e3o erros; tens de estar preparado para os perdoar<\/h2>\n

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We’re all human beings and we make mistakes. That’s a fact. Your partner will make some mistakes and you’ll do it also, for sure. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, it shouldn’t make you doubt your partner’s feelings. You have to <\/span>estar disposto a perdoar<\/span><\/a> e esquece. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. Estar aberto \u00e0 mudan\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

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Both you and your partner have to be open to change. If something bothers one of you too much, it’ll have a negative effect on your relationship and you should be willing to change it.   <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, you should never change who you are for someone else, no matter how much you love them. But, there are certain things you’ll have to give up on to make your relationship work. <\/span><\/p>\n

Os efeitos da incerteza das rela\u00e7\u00f5es<\/h2>\n

N\u00e3o s\u00f3 esses <\/span>sentimentos de incerteza<\/span> have many negative effects on your relationship, they also affect yours and your partner’s <\/span>bem-estar<\/span> de muitas maneiras. <\/span><\/p>\n

Afecta sobretudo a sua <\/span>sa\u00fade mental<\/span>. <\/span>Deixa-o ansioso<\/span><\/a> or depressed because you think that your feelings aren’t reciprocated. <\/span><\/p>\n

A ansiedade afecta a sua <\/span>sistema nervoso<\/span> e pode sofrer alguns ataques de p\u00e2nico que o levar\u00e3o a reagir de forma inadequada a algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es espec\u00edficas. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn’t mean that you should <\/span>sair<\/span> of a relationship if you’re experiencing a few uncertainties. <\/span>Vale a pena lutar pelo amor<\/i><\/b>Com um pouco de esfor\u00e7o, a vossa rela\u00e7\u00e3o pode voltar a entrar nos eixos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Experiencing uncertainty in a relationship is exhausting for both partners but if you manage to deal with it, it’ll only make your connection stronger.<\/span><\/p>\n

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