{"id":84417,"date":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:46:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84417"},"modified":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","modified_gmt":"2021-11-15T15:48:05","slug":"escolher-viver-para-si-proprio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/escolher-viver-para-si-proprio\/","title":{"rendered":"Fa\u00e7a uma escolha para viver para si mesmo: Aprenda como nestes 11 passos"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"O ato mais corajoso ainda \u00e9 pensar por si pr\u00f3prio. Em voz alta.\"-Coco Chanel <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Pensar por si pr\u00f3prio e viver por si pr\u00f3prio devem ser as suas decis\u00f5es e objectivos de vida mais importantes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Porque \u00e9 que s\u00e3o t\u00e3o importantes?<\/span><\/p>\n

Seres humanos<\/span> t\u00eam necessidades sociais, que os levam a querer adaptar-se o mais poss\u00edvel \u00e0 sua comunidade para, em contrapartida, obterem o mais precioso sentimento de perten\u00e7a a um grupo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Interestingly enough, ultimately it’s not other people’s beliefs, restrictions or expectations that stop us from living the life we would like to live.<\/b><\/p>\n

Para nos adaptarmos \u00e0 sociedade, normalmente formamos muitas das nossas <\/span>pr\u00f3prio<\/span>-cren\u00e7as limitadoras, aquelas que nos impedem de sair da nossa <\/span>zona de conforto<\/span> (mais uma vez, criada pela nossa ideia de como encaixar melhor no molde que a nossa fam\u00edlia, amigos ou sociedade nos disseram para encaixar).<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca nos explorarmos mais significa nunca alcan\u00e7armos realmente a nossa <\/span>verdadeiros eus<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 quatro coisas fundamentais que todos n\u00f3s procuramos: <\/b>aprova\u00e7\u00e3o, valida\u00e7\u00e3o, aceita\u00e7\u00e3o, confian\u00e7a<\/i><\/b>.<\/b><\/p>\n

Para muitas pessoas, para <\/span>come\u00e7ar a viver<\/span> para si pr\u00f3prios significa viver uma vida completamente <\/span>nova vida<\/span>. \u00c9 realmente poss\u00edvel fazer isso? \u00c9. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tudo o que precisa de fazer \u00e9 remodelar a sua forma de pensar e esfor\u00e7ar-se por tomar consci\u00eancia de que todas estas quatro coisas s\u00e3o coisas que precisa de si pr\u00f3prio e n\u00e3o dos outros.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s time for you to take responsibility for your <\/span>felicidade pr\u00f3pria<\/span>. If you want to rock your world, reach new highs and break the shackles that you put yourself in, it’s time you ask yourself these questions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Perguntas a fazer a si pr\u00f3prio antes de iniciar o processo de mudan\u00e7a:<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o alguns pormenores espec\u00edficos da minha personalidade?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cIt takes courage to grow up and become who you really are.\u201d\u2015E.E. Cummings<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

Com que frequ\u00eancia pensa em si pr\u00f3prio? Agora, come\u00e7a do princ\u00edpio. De onde \u00e9 que vem? Como eram os teus pais?<\/span><\/p>\n

Did you have a happy childhood or not? How did that shape you? You see where I’m going with this.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pretend that you’re in a therapy session with yourself. Maybe do a couple of online personality tests and analyze your results and see if you agree.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as suas opini\u00f5es gerais sobre si pr\u00f3prio? Pense nas suas maiores virtudes e nos seus defeitos. Quais s\u00e3o os seus pontos fortes?<\/span><\/p>\n

De que partes da sua personalidade acha que as outras pessoas gostam mais? S\u00e3o reais ou moldas-te para que os outros gostem de ti? <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s important to reach your own opinions about your own personality. Dare to think about everything, the things you like and the things you don’t. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que me faz feliz?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cThe essence of philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.\u201d\u2015Epictetus <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

This one may seem simple but it usually isn’t. What are some things that really make you smile or feel content and happy to be alive? I’m not talking about one-time events, rather some things we all do on a <\/span>base di\u00e1ria<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 certo que pode pensar em algumas coisas importantes que o fizeram sentir-se feliz, mas a felicidade \u00e9 um trabalho interno e algo que deve sentir todos os dias, pelo menos durante alguns momentos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o as pequenas coisas na sua <\/span>vida quotidiana<\/span> que o entusiasmam? O que \u00e9 que espera ansiosamente?<\/span><\/p>\n

Is there a part of you that’s only happy if someone says you did well and validates your choices? <\/span>Se for o caso, est\u00e1 disposto a mudar isso?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o os meus pr\u00f3prios padr\u00f5es?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cIt takes a great deal of bravery to stand up to our enemies, but just as much to stand up to our friends.\u201d\u2015J.K. Rowling<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

Para al\u00e9m do que os seus pais, a religi\u00e3o, a escola e a sociedade lhe ensinaram, quais s\u00e3o os seus pr\u00f3prios padr\u00f5es? Quais s\u00e3o as coisas que acredita verdadeiramente que devem ser feitas para encher a sua vida de positividade e felicidade?<\/span><\/p>\n

Acredita na bondade, em fazer <\/span>boas ac\u00e7\u00f5es<\/span>, ser rico ou <\/span>outra coisa<\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o os seus objectivos na vida e em que cren\u00e7as e padr\u00f5es se baseiam? Essas cren\u00e7as s\u00e3o suas ou coisas em que se obrigou a acreditar s\u00f3 para se integrar e fazer as outras pessoas felizes?<\/span><\/p>\n

Se as outras pessoas aprovam as suas escolhas, voc\u00ea tamb\u00e9m as aprova.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that seems to bring you happiness because it helps you avoid the confrontation you believe unnecessary and negative but the road to living a life that’s fully yours is bumpy and confrontation is necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sempre que uma pessoa decide viver a sua vida da forma que deseja, tem de fazer pequenos sacrif\u00edcios.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quais s\u00e3o algumas das coisas que penso que me posso arrepender de n\u00e3o ter feito?<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

\u201cI’m the one that’s got to die when it’s time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to.\u201d\u2015Jimi Hendrix<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

They say that a person who is about to die hardly ever regrets something they did and usually regrets the things they didn’t do. <\/span><\/p>\n

Are there things in your life you avoid doing so you won\u2019t upset someone? Do you see yourself regretting on your deathbed not doing those things? If yes, they are probably worth trying. What is it that you’re scared of?<\/span><\/p>\n

Por vezes, n\u00e3o temos absolutamente nada a ver com a forma como os outros nos v\u00eaem.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you decide to skip doing something you yearn to do then you’re compromising yourself for the sake of maintaining the image of you in other people’s eyes.<\/span><\/p>\n

Does it really matter what they think of you? One day, when all of this is gone, will you truly regret changing someone’s opinion of you or will you regret not being brave enough to live your life the way you want to?<\/span><\/p>\n

Leve o tempo que for necess\u00e1rio para responder a estas perguntas. Quanto mais profundamente as investigar, mais hip\u00f3teses ter\u00e1 de avan\u00e7ar para uma vida que lhe conv\u00e9m. <\/b><\/p>\n

Quando se sentir preparado para mudar, invista a sua energia em seguir os nossos conselhos sobre como o fazer.<\/b><\/p>\n

11 conselhos profundos sobre como viver finalmente para si pr\u00f3prio<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

1. Deixar de reprimir as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es, desejos e palpites<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

To live your life according to your emotions is not the best possible option. Why? Because they aren’t direct reactions to what happens to you. Your emotions are responses to how you perceive what happens to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, s\u00e3o ferramentas incr\u00edveis para nos conhecermos melhor. Connosco pr\u00f3prios, <\/span>ser aberto \u00e0s suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que o irrita? O que \u00e9 que lhe agrada? H\u00e1 raz\u00f5es para ambos. Aceitar as suas emo\u00e7\u00f5es e compreend\u00ea-las melhor conduz ao conhecimento de si pr\u00f3prio.<\/span><\/p>\n

Os seus desejos tamb\u00e9m precisam de ser explorados. Se optar por <\/span>viver a vida<\/span> your way, you can’t continue hiding your true wishes.<\/span><\/p>\n

When I say hiding, I don’t even mean from other people, I actually mean from yourself. Be honest about what it is that you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know it’s scary to follow your hunch on something when you think it will lead you so far away out of your <\/span>zona de conforto<\/span> mas se decidir <\/span>come\u00e7ar a viver<\/span> the life that’s yours, those fears should be conquered.<\/span><\/p>\n

Que melhor maneira de o fazer do que perceber o que quer e como o quer obter.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Tomar a decis\u00e3o de cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio em primeiro lugar<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Fa\u00e7a de si pr\u00f3prio uma prioridade.<\/span><\/a> Nesta altura, deve estar ciente da sua <\/span>necessidades pr\u00f3prias<\/span>. Tome a decis\u00e3o de cuidar deles em primeiro lugar. <\/span>Mais ningu\u00e9m<\/span> deve vir antes de ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

O seu <\/span>bem-estar<\/span> est\u00e1 nas vossas pr\u00f3prias m\u00e3os. <\/span>Mais ningu\u00e9m<\/span> will take care of you, it’s on you to do that. This absolutely doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of other people as well but it does mean that you should come first.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s nothing you can do to improve your life if your needs aren’t being met and ignoring them yourself is one of the most unhealthy things you can do.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tell yourself that you’re important and even better, show yourself just how important you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Fazer um esfor\u00e7o constante para se conhecer melhor<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There are always things that we don’t know or don’t fully understand, no matter how hard we work on realizing who we actually are. Always go a step further into the depth of your own mind and your own personality.<\/span><\/p>\n

A raiz da raz\u00e3o pela qual n\u00f3s, como <\/span>seres humanos<\/span>, choose to follow other people’s expectations of us rather than our own beliefs and desires usually lies deep within. <\/span><\/p>\n

Explorar a sua psique, as suas reac\u00e7\u00f5es emocionais, as suas escolhas e h\u00e1bitos \u00e9 muito importante. Para nos compreendermos, temos de nos conhecer primeiro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Understanding leads to acceptance and that’s what you need; you need to accept you. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Don’t make it your job to please other people<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Gastar <\/span>menos tempo<\/span> trying to please others; that\u2019s not your job. Your job is to please yourself and everybody else’s job is this too. That way everyone gets to live the way they need to and not blame others for their unhappiness. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn’t offend or disrespect people for the sake of it but if your beliefs and decisions don’t match theirs, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t openly state them.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hearing someone else\u2019s opinion shouldn\u2019t be offensive to anyone.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have a right to be yourself as much as anybody else does. No one is more important or more worthy than others. You shouldn’t shape your views of the world according to what the people around you think.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9s tu que tens de viver contigo mesmo, por isso escolhe viver para ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pode encontrar satisfa\u00e7\u00e3o em ajudar os outros a sentirem-se melhor, sendo gentil, atencioso ou prest\u00e1vel, mas mudar o seu estilo de vida para se adaptar aos outros \u00e9 desnecess\u00e1rio e, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, errado.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. O crescimento pode ser doloroso, por isso aceite esse facto antes de tomar decis\u00f5es importantes<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

As I said earlier, sacrifices will be made. To learn to live for yourself means to grow out of your skin that was pre-shaped; it’s going to hurt to stretch it out to fit your <\/span>nova vida<\/span>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Challenging predefined patterns of behavior won’t be easy. That’s something you should be aware of and need to accept before you fully commit to this process.<\/span><\/p>\n

Porqu\u00ea? <\/span>A mudan\u00e7a \u00e9 necess\u00e1ria para o crescimento.<\/span><\/a> Se decidir mudar, pode ficar desanimado com a dor que algumas situa\u00e7\u00f5es lhe podem causar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Most people in your surroundings won’t just take the new you and be perfectly fine that you decided to live your life according to your own rules. <\/span><\/p>\n

Comece por mudar pequenas coisas na sua <\/span>vida quotidiana<\/span>. Por exemplo, deixe de ser um \"pushover\" (se for um). D\u00ea a sua opini\u00e3o sobre onde quer ir tomar um caf\u00e9 em vez de ir para onde os outros querem ir.<\/span><\/p>\n

These are small steps that may seem irrelevant for the process but they\u2019re not. This\u2019ll help you explore the feeling you get by doing what you really want to do.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Aceitar que, por vezes, somos quem somos<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Being true to yourself doesn’t only mean exploring your positive side, as many things you’ll hate about yourself will be revealed.<\/span><\/p>\n

Amor-pr\u00f3prio<\/span><\/a> significa aceitar tudo o que somos. H\u00e1 algumas coisas em n\u00f3s que enterramos bem fundo, escondendo-as de n\u00f3s pr\u00f3prios e do mundo inteiro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Este processo vai exigir que aprenda a aceitar essas coisas sem ter <\/span>pensamentos negativos<\/span> ou sentimentos negativos como a vergonha por causa deles.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes, you are who you are. There are things that can’t be changed and should be learned to deal with better rather than being hidden somewhere in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

7. S\u00ea sempre tu pr\u00f3prio<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Procure exprimir-se em tudo o que faz. Tente incorporar um pouco da sua personalidade mesmo nas tarefas di\u00e1rias mais simples.<\/span><\/p>\n

Living life for yourself isn’t just about doing what you like, it’s also about making everything you do yours by putting yourself into it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Escolha ser voc\u00ea mesmo<\/a> in every possible sense. There’s <\/span>mais ningu\u00e9m<\/span> you can be, after all. You’re unique and special. The world needs every kind of person to explore what’s been given to them as their personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

A criatividade, as descobertas e o crescimento come\u00e7am com um pensamento diferente, uma abordagem inovadora da vida e a vontade de seguir o caminho n\u00e3o percorrido.<\/span><\/p>\n

This world hardly benefits from those who choose to follow a given path. Dare to be you, there’s a reason you’re the way you are. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Ajudar a sua confian\u00e7a a florescer<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Trabalhar na sua <\/span>confian\u00e7a<\/span><\/a> \u00e9 uma grande parte do processo de viver o seu pr\u00f3prio tipo de vida. Se quer estar preparado para lidar com as dificuldades de escolher o seu pr\u00f3prio caminho, tem de ser confiante.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that you’ll question yourself constantly, thinking that you lack confidence because even you aren’t certain that your choices are right.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is where you have to think back to why you started all this. Stop considering what others will think is right and choose what’s right for you at the moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pense apenas no que faz sentido para o seu <\/span>vida pr\u00f3pria<\/span>, don’t compare it to anyone else.<\/span><\/p>\n

H\u00e1 muitas coisas que pode fazer para melhorar a sua confian\u00e7a, por isso experimente tudo o que pensa que pode funcionar consigo.<\/span><\/p>\n

9. Deixar de se preocupar com o que os outros pensam de si<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Estava a pensar em como <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> has made us all slaves of other people’s opinions.<\/span><\/p>\n

Quanto mais recuava na hist\u00f3ria, mais me apercebia que <\/span>redes sociais<\/span> n\u00e3o fez mais do que enfatizar os problemas que n\u00f3s, como sociedade, sempre tivemos.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s completely natural to seek approval from other people, that’s not even the issue. I like to think of this as the biggest misunderstanding in civilization ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s explore it. I worry about what you think of me, for example. The thing I worry about is hardly ever what you actually think about me. It’s what I think you think about me.<\/span><\/p>\n

We all spend our life worrying about satisfying someone else’s criteria while everyone actually focuses on how others think of them and has little time to think about others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Many lives get ruined because of this and it’s actually ridiculous how one misconception can impact so many lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

10. Encontre a sua paix\u00e3o<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t know how to answer my question about your personal needs, wants and desires, it’s time to explore that further. <\/span><\/p>\n

Not everyone knows immediately what their passion in life is. Your passion can be in a certain field of work, art, raising a family or helping others…<\/span><\/p>\n

Whatever it is, make sure it’s your own. The main thing in your life should always be what you do to satisfy that little voice inside you that pushes you to do just that because you desperately want to.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not a given that you have to know what your passion is from the moment you start planning your life, so try different things.<\/span><\/p>\n

11. Em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, cuidar de si pr\u00f3prio n\u00e3o \u00e9 ego\u00edsmo<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Making sure you’re okay is not selfish. Minding your <\/span>neg\u00f3cio pr\u00f3prio<\/span> n\u00e3o \u00e9 ego\u00edsta. Decidir viver para si pr\u00f3prio e viver uma vida que se enquadre nos seus pontos de vista n\u00e3o \u00e9 ego\u00edsmo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you into thinking otherwise.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ser um pensador original, um explorador e, em \u00faltima an\u00e1lise, ser voc\u00ea mesmo \u00e9 o seu dever, e n\u00e3o algo que algu\u00e9m possa censurar-lhe. Orgulha-te da tua coragem.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have one life, don’t waste it filling someone else’s shoes. Explore the world within and outside of yourself in any way you see fit.<\/b><\/p>\n

Toda a gente se arrepende, por isso esforce-se ao m\u00e1ximo para ter o menor n\u00famero poss\u00edvel de arrependimentos.<\/b><\/p>\n

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\u201cThe most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.\u201d\u2015Coco Chanel  To think for yourself and live for yourself should be your ultimate life decisions and life goals. Not only are they the most courageous acts but they\u2019re probably two of the most difficult, soul-searching things you will decide to do. Why are they…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":22,"featured_media":84419,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29644],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84417","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-self-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29644,"label":"self-love"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/Make-A-Choice-To-Live-For-Yourself-Learn-How-In-These-11-Steps.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tina Navarro","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/tatiana\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29644,"name":"self-love","slug":"self-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29644,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","parent":29643,"count":290,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29644,"category_count":290,"category_description":"Self-love is not an option but a necessity. Boost your self-confidence, learn to love yourself and ditch toxicity because you deserve to be happy.","cat_name":"self-love","category_nicename":"self-love","category_parent":29643}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84417","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/22"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=84417"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/84417\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/84419"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=84417"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=84417"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=84417"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}