{"id":84495,"date":"2020-07-09T08:49:44","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T08:49:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84495"},"modified":"2022-08-21T10:17:20","modified_gmt":"2022-08-21T10:17:20","slug":"pessoa-que-evita-o-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/pessoa-que-evita-o-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"Identificar e compreender uma pessoa que evita o amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do we all behave the same when we’re in a relationship? Do all people love the same way? <\/span><\/p>\n

We don’t. We all have <\/span>diferente <\/span>estilos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a> e alguns de n\u00f3s t\u00eam um <\/span>estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

A <\/span>amor evitante<\/span> isn’t a person who tends to stay away from commitment or who avoids getting into a serious relationship with someone because they enjoy being single. No.<\/span><\/p>\n

Algumas pessoas utilizam <\/i><\/b>evitar o amor<\/i><\/b> como sua prote\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/i><\/b> Essas pessoas t\u00eam medo do amor, de serem magoadas por algu\u00e9m que amam.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pessoas com uma <\/i><\/b>evitante<\/i><\/b> perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade<\/i><\/b> s\u00e3o muitas vezes mal compreendidos.<\/i><\/b> A maioria das pessoas pensa que um evitante<\/span> pessoa<\/span> \u00e9 incapaz de amar algu\u00e9m mas, infelizmente, este \u00e9 um equ\u00edvoco comum. <\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why we need to first talk about understanding <\/span>pessoas que evitam o amor<\/span> and see why it’s so important. <\/span><\/p>\n

Compreender uma pessoa que evita o amor<\/h2>\n

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It’s not impossible for an <\/span>pessoa evitante<\/span> para se apaixonar. <\/span>Eles apenas escolhem EVITAR apaixonar-se<\/i><\/b> com algu\u00e9m e, mesmo quando isso acontece, tentam convencer-se do contr\u00e1rio e esquecer os seus sentimentos. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not because they want to enjoy their single life for some more time or because they like to be alone; it\u2019s only because they don’t want to get hurt. They are afraid of getting their heart broken by someone they love. <\/span><\/p>\n

Isto deve-se provavelmente ao facto de terem tido algumas experi\u00eancias negativas no passado que os deixaram com medo de abrir o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o a algu\u00e9m que os possa magoar um dia. <\/span><\/p>\n

Evitante<\/span> <\/a>anexo<\/a> teoria<\/span> descreve <\/span>parceiros evitantes<\/span> como pessoas que prezam a sua independ\u00eancia.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m os descreve como pessoas que n\u00e3o se sentem \u00e0 vontade para ter um <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00edntima<\/span> devido a alguns traumas emocionais do passado. <\/span><\/p>\n

A maioria das pessoas compararia um <\/span>pessoa evitante<\/span> com um <\/span>narcisista<\/span> mas h\u00e1 uma linha t\u00e9nue entre os dois.<\/span><\/p>\n

Um narcisista<\/span> s\u00f3 pensa em si, em satisfazer as suas necessidades e as suas <\/span>bem-estar<\/span> \u00e9 tudo o que importa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Um <\/span>parceiro evitante<\/span> preocupa-se profundamente com os seus <\/span>ente querido<\/span> mesmo que n\u00e3o pare\u00e7a, porque evitam <\/span>intimidade emocional<\/span> a todo o custo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Narcisistas<\/span> se sentem \u00e0 vontade para ter um <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o \u00edntima<\/span>, ao contr\u00e1rio de <\/span>pessoas evitantes<\/span>. <\/span>Evitantes<\/i><\/b> ter medo de <\/i><\/b>engolfamento<\/i><\/b> e isso impede-os de se ligarem ao seu parceiro numa <\/i><\/b>n\u00edvel mais profundo<\/i><\/b>.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Evitante<\/span> pessoas<\/span> atrair pessoas com um <\/span>estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso<\/span><\/a> devido \u00e0 sua <\/span>v\u00edcio do amor<\/span>. They totally lose themselves when they’re in the relationship and <\/span>evitadores<\/span> sabem como tirar partido disso. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lidar com um <\/span>estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o ansioso<\/span><\/a> \u00e9 dif\u00edcil e as pessoas com este estilo inseguro criam <\/span>codepend\u00eancia<\/span> com o seu parceiro porque n\u00e3o t\u00eam auto-confian\u00e7a.<\/span><\/p>\n

They’ll become dependent on their partner and they’ll do whatever it takes to keep their relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

O que \u00e9 que provoca um estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante?  <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Medo de <\/span>intimidade emocional<\/span> \u00e9 o <\/span>maior medo<\/span> de todos <\/span>evitadores<\/span>; that\u2019s why they are unable to maintain a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

This isn’t something you’re born with. People create different kinds of <\/span>estilos de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> com base em algumas coisas e experi\u00eancias das suas pr\u00f3prias vidas.<\/span><\/p>\n

De facto, h\u00e1 muitas raz\u00f5es que levam as pessoas a tornarem-se <\/span>pessoas que evitam o amor<\/span> e aqui est\u00e3o alguns deles. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Experi\u00eancias na inf\u00e2ncia <\/h2>\n

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Kids learn most things from their parents. If you weren’t able to see some <\/span>limites saud\u00e1veis<\/span> in your parents\u2019 relationship, you’ll think that’s what a healthy relationship should look like. <\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, one day you’ll learn the hard way that you were wrong. It’ll only lead you to disappointment and you’ll be afraid of starting a new relationship in the future. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you had to listen to your parents fight every day, you’ll decide that it’s best to avoid love because it makes people angry or sad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your parents\u2019 relationship affects your life greatly and it can be the main cause of quest\u00f5es de empenhamento<\/a> mais tarde.<\/span><\/p>\n

If it was unhealthy and had only a negative effect on your childhood, you’ll think that it’s better for you not to get emotionally attached to anyone than to suffer your whole life and be stuck in an unhappy marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Traumas emocionais do passado<\/h2>\n

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Se foi magoado no passado pelo seu <\/span>ente querido<\/span>, it’s normal that you’ll be afraid of being hurt again. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tamb\u00e9m pode fazer com que n\u00e3o tenha qualquer tipo de <\/span>liga\u00e7\u00e3o emocional<\/span> with someone else. You still haven\u2019t solved some of your issues from the past and it’s perfectly normal that it affects your love life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mas, felizmente, isso pode ser resolvido. S\u00f3 precisa de mais algum tempo para esclarecer tudo na sua cabe\u00e7a. <\/span><\/p>\n

Once you realize that you should leave the past and that you shouldn’t punish your new partner for your ex’s mistakes, it’ll all change and you\u2019ll be able to have a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o estreita<\/span> com algu\u00e9m. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Quest\u00f5es de autoestima<\/h2>\n

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Se tiver <\/span>baixo <\/span>autoestima<\/span><\/a>, that means you don\u2019t think you\u2019re good enough. Maybe you think that you aren’t beautiful enough or handsome enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe you think that you aren’t smart enough. Maybe you think that no one will ever love you because you don’t deserve it. <\/span><\/p>\n

The thing is that you believe that you aren’t good enough for your <\/span>ente querido<\/span> e faz com que tenha medo de se relacionar com o seu parceiro numa <\/span>n\u00edvel mais profundo<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Dar prioridade \u00e0s coisas erradas na vida<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

There are a lot of people who prioritize work and their career over everything in life. If you’re a <\/span>viciado em trabalho<\/span>,<\/span> pode ser uma das causas da sua <\/span>estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esfor\u00e7a-se muito para ser bem sucedido naquilo que faz e <\/span>you’re afraid that a <\/i><\/b>rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica<\/i><\/b> pode ser apenas uma distra\u00e7\u00e3o para os seus objectivos.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

That’s why you start evitar relacionamentos a qualquer custo<\/a>. Your job is the most important thing to you and you don’t let anything interfere with that. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Quest\u00f5es de abandono<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

If you have any kind of abandonment issues, you’ll be more likely to suffer from an <\/span>evitante<\/span> perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

You won’t be able to overcome your fear of abandonment by yourself and you’ll come to the conclusion that it’s better to stay away from relationships than to fear all the time whether someone will hurt you and leave you. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Quest\u00f5es de confian\u00e7a<\/h2>\n

\"mulher<\/p>\n

Se tiver <\/span>alguns problemas de confian\u00e7a<\/span><\/a>, you won’t be able to maintain a healthy relationship with someone. Your doubts will destroy your relationships.<\/span><\/p>\n

After some time, you’ll start thinking that it’s better to avoid getting into a relationship because it’s impossible for you to find someone who’ll prove to you that they’re trustworthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver tamb\u00e9m: Estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o desorganizado, medroso e evitante<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Tra\u00e7os de evitamento do amor <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Se pensa que o seu parceiro pode ter um <\/a><\/span>estilo de vincula\u00e7\u00e3o evitante<\/span><\/a>, eis algumas caracter\u00edsticas de um <\/span>pessoa evitante<\/span> que lhe permitir\u00e1 esclarecer melhor as coisas. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Medo de qualquer tipo de intimidade<\/h2>\n

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If your partner doesn’t want to be intimate with you, it doesn’t have to mean that they don’t love you; it means that they’re afraid it’ll change your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

Um <\/span>parceiro evitante<\/span> tem medo disso <\/span>intimidade emocional<\/span> because they think it’ll make them vulnerable and that you could use it to hurt them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s normal that in some part of your relationship you’ll have to share your personal feelings and get intimate with your partner, especially if you’re in a <\/span>rela\u00e7\u00e3o duradoura<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

No entanto, por muito que um <\/span>pessoa evitante<\/span> ama o seu parceiro, tenta sabotar a rela\u00e7\u00e3o ou fugir sempre que as coisas aquecem, o que torna imposs\u00edvel manter a rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Utiliza\u00e7\u00e3o de muitas t\u00e9cnicas de distanciamento<\/h2>\n

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They’ll do whatever it takes to avoid physical closeness. Even when they truly love their partner, they will never say it to them directly. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tentar\u00e3o adiar a conversa sobre dar um novo passo na rela\u00e7\u00e3o (torn\u00e1-la oficial). Dessa forma, magoam o seu <\/span>ente querido<\/span> sem sequer se aperceberem. <\/span><\/p>\n

They never want to discuss the problems they have in the relationship because they’re afraid it’ll result in conflict or a fight.<\/span><\/p>\n

They refuse to enter into a conflict with their partner because they’re worried they could reveal some of their feelings and thoughts that way. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Apresentar tra\u00e7os narc\u00edsicos<\/h2>\n

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\u00c9 por isso que s\u00e3o comparados a <\/span>narcisistas<\/span> so often. Yes, they’re self-centered and they like their independence but they also care for others. <\/span><\/p>\n

They seem cold when you first meet them and that’s why some people think that they’re arrogant but that doesn’t have to be true. They seem that way only because they want to keep others away from them. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t like to question their partner because they know they’ll ask them the same questions and they don’t like to talk about themselves, especially about their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t need constant praise from their partner and they don’t want to be admired. On the contrary, it only makes them feel anxious and shy because they aren’t good at taking compliments. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Envio de sinais contradit\u00f3rios<\/h2>\n

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They can love someone but it’ll be hard to admit that to themselves and that’s why they can send mixed signals to their partner. <\/span><\/p>\n

They won’t do it on purpose. They’re also confused and they have mixed feelings. They don’t want to allow their partner to get too close to them but at the same time, they fell in love with them. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 por isso que namorar um <\/span>pessoa evitante<\/span> might seem like you’re dating two different people at the same time.<\/span><\/p>\n

In one moment, they’ll be showing you how much you mean to them but in the next, they’ll try to run away and show you that they don’t care for you at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. N\u00e3o ser capaz de se abrir sobre o que sente<\/h2>\n

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They’re afraid to show their vulnerable side and open up to their partner about how they feel.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00eam dificuldade em exprimir os seus sentimentos porque pensam que isso pode dar-te algum poder sobre elas se te disserem exatamente o que sentem por ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t want to talk about their emotions or things that bother them because they’re afraid of your reaction. They’re also afraid that once you know how they feel about you, you’ll be bored with them and leave them. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Ansiedade<\/b><\/h2>\n

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Este <\/span>estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> afecta a sua <\/span>sa\u00fade mental<\/span>. They don’t know how to behave around their partner anymore and it makes them anxious.<\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00eam sentimentos fortes pela pessoa amada mas, ao mesmo tempo, querem fugir antes que as coisas se tornem s\u00e9rias. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll seem like they can’t make up their mind. They can’t run away but their <\/span>estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span> doesn’t allow them to stay either. <\/span><\/p>\n

Como lidar com uma pessoa que evita o amor <\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

You’ve already heard the good news, that with a little effort, it’s possible to maintain a relationship with an <\/span>parceiro evitante<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Now it’s up to you. Decide whether you truly care for them that much to fight for your relationship. If you do, this is how you can save your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Comunicar mais<\/h2>\n

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Healthy communication is the only way you can get to them. They aren’t able to open up emotionally to you but you should open up to them about the things in their behavior that bother you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to earn their trust first so they’ll be able to open up to you. After some time, they’ll follow your example and talk to you about their emotions. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to be patient and wait until they realize that you are trustworthy. And when they do open up to you, don’t tell them that you aren’t okay with some of their habits and how they should change.<\/span><\/p>\n

You should only listen to them. By that time, they’ll have realized themselves that they need to change their behavior in order to save the relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Don’t be too persistent<\/h2>\n

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Don’t chase them. Don’t try to make them do anything because they don’t like to be told what to do. They cherish their independence more than anything, remember? <\/span><\/p>\n

Give them time. They’ll see how much you’re trying to make your relationship work and that your feelings are sincere. This is the only thing that can make them change. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Dar-lhes espa\u00e7o e tempo<\/h2>\n

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I’m sure they will request more space and time because they are afraid of anyone getting too close to them so respect this. <\/span>Entretanto,<\/span><\/a> you can hang out with your family and friends. Don’t think about that too much. <\/span><\/p>\n

They’re not requesting time and space because they need it to think about the future of your relationship. In other words, they won’t break up with you, you don’t have to worry about that.<\/span><\/p>\n

The whole dating thing is probably new to them and it’s normal that they need more time to process their feelings. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Respeitar as suas diferen\u00e7as<\/h2>\n

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We all have our differences and that’s what makes every relationship fun. You don’t have to try to change those things. You have to embrace those differences. It’ll make you both work harder for your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll strengthen your bond. You only have to learn to deal with those differences in a healthy way. <\/span>Ambos t\u00eam de estar dispostos a chegar a um compromisso.<\/i><\/b> <\/span><\/p>\n

5. Reduzir as suas expectativas<\/h2>\n

\"homem<\/p>\n

If you know that you’re dating an <\/span>evitante<\/span>, you shouldn’t have big expectations, at least not at the beginning of your relationship. <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ll be disappointed because <\/span>parceiros evitantes<\/span> precisam de mais tempo do que outros para se aprofundarem <\/span>liga\u00e7\u00f5es emocionais<\/span> com o seu parceiro.<\/span><\/p>\n

They will never show you that they have feelings for you unless you’ve convinced them that you deserve it. You have to show with your actions that you’re deserving of their love and affection. <\/span><\/p>\n

6. Don’t give them ultimatums<\/h2>\n

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Ultimatums like, “If you don’t change, I’ll leave you,” don\u2019t work with them. Forget about them as you will achieve nothing with them. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’ll only make things worse because they’re stubborn. It would only make them want to end things with you then. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. Estabelecer alguns limites saud\u00e1veis<\/h2>\n

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You have to also care about yourself and your needs. If you don’t like something, you have to talk to your partner and set some boundaries about those things that bother you. <\/span><\/p>\n

They might not like it but that’s not your problem. Setting some limits and boundaries is how you’ll protect yourself from getting hurt. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. Procurar ajuda profissional, se necess\u00e1rio<\/h2>\n

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Evitar a proximidade emocional com outra pessoa \u00e9 uma <\/span>perturba\u00e7\u00e3o da personalidade<\/span> and that’s a fact. Sometimes, no matter how much both you and your partner try, you can’t deal with it alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pode sempre <\/span>obter ajuda<\/span> de um <\/span>profissional de sa\u00fade mental<\/span>. They’ll give you advice on what you should do next and how you can learn to live with<\/span> que <\/span>estilo de fixa\u00e7\u00e3o<\/span><\/a>. <\/span><\/p>\n

Uma pessoa que evita o amor pode mudar?<\/h2>\n

Claro que podem. <\/span>We all can change some things for the person we truly love. However, that doesn’t mean that we should change ourselves completely for our <\/i><\/b>ente querido<\/i><\/b>. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Nunca se deve desistir de quem se \u00e9 por causa de outra pessoa. A tua identidade \u00e9 quem tu \u00e9s e isso torna-te diferente de todos os outros.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca se deve mudar, por mais fortes que sejam os sentimentos que se tem pela pessoa que quer que se mude. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 poss\u00edvel ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o verdadeiramente fant\u00e1stica com um <\/span>amor evitante<\/span> mas \u00e9 preciso estar preparado para fazer algum esfor\u00e7o nessa rela\u00e7\u00e3o. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00c9 preciso dar-lhes algum espa\u00e7o e armar-se de paci\u00eancia<\/i><\/b>.<\/b> It’ll all pay off one day and you’ll be glad that you fought to keep your <\/span>parceiro evitante<\/span> na sua vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

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