{"id":84569,"date":"2020-08-14T07:29:45","date_gmt":"2020-08-14T07:29:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=84569"},"modified":"2022-01-10T01:49:50","modified_gmt":"2022-01-10T01:49:50","slug":"sinais-de-limerencia","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/sinais-de-limerencia\/","title":{"rendered":"Quando o amor se torna um v\u00edcio: 10 sinais de limer\u00eancia"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Existem muitos tipos de v\u00edcios no mundo, mas o mais poderoso \u00e9 o v\u00edcio do amor, tamb\u00e9m conhecido como limer\u00eancia.<\/p>\n<p>Even though you\u2019ve probably never heard the term before, limerence is something you have definitely witnessed or perhaps even experienced.<\/p>\n<p>O conceito de amor \u00e9 retratado e constantemente reescrito pela cultura popular e pelos meios de comunica\u00e7\u00e3o modernos.<\/p>\n<p>Movies, books, TV shows, songs \u2013 they all represent love in their own way, which is often not real love but rather an intense love addiction known as limerence.<\/p>\n<p>Remember all those movie scenes where usually a girl is lying on her bed compulsively re-reading every single text message with that smile plastered on her face, and she&#8217;s fighting the strong urge to text\/call him?<\/p>\n<p>She can&#8217;t do anything else but spend a great amount of time fantasizing about the object of her desire, and if he happened to ignore or <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/como-rejeitar-alguem-de-forma-simpatica-e-respeitosa\/\">rejeit\u00e1-la<\/a>o mundo dela iria literalmente desmoronar-se, certo?<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84652\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-lying-on-green-grasses.jpg\" alt=\"mulher deitada sobre relva verde a sorrir e a fechar os olhos\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\"><\/p>\n<p>Agora, a quest\u00e3o \u00e9: <strong>O que \u00e9 que ela est\u00e1 a fazer e como se sente exatamente? Que processos est\u00e3o a ocorrer no c\u00e9rebro dela?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Muitos de v\u00f3s provavelmente j\u00e1 responderam:<em> Well, it&#8217;s obvious what&#8217;s going on here. The girl is in love!<\/em> And that&#8217;s exactly what I would say too if you asked me the same question a few years ago.<\/p>\n<p>But now that I&#8217;ve learned the difference between <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/o-verdadeiro-amor-aceita-nos-tal-como-somos\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">amor verdadeiro<\/a> e limer\u00eancia, a minha resposta \u00e9 que a rapariga est\u00e1 a ficar pedrada com a paix\u00e3o (sei que isto parece estranho).<\/p>\n<p>When love becomes an addiction, we tend to behave differently. We do things we normally wouldn&#8217;t.<\/p>\n<p>Uma mensagem de texto ou um gesto rom\u00e2ntico pode desencadear euforia num nanossegundo, enquanto uma mensagem n\u00e3o respondida pode deix\u00e1-lo na mis\u00e9ria durante horas, dias ou mesmo meses.<\/p>\n<p>But there&#8217;s nothing you can do about it because you&#8217;re in a state of being addicted to love \u2013 you&#8217;ve become limerent.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><em><strong>De onde vem o termo \"limer\u00eancia\"?<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84647\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-hugs-herself.jpg\" alt=\"mulher abra\u00e7a-se em p\u00e9 junto \u00e0 porta, de vestido branco\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-hugs-herself.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-hugs-herself-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-hugs-herself-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>O termo limer\u00eancia foi cunhado em 1979 pela professora e psic\u00f3loga Dorothy Tennov no seu livro <em>Amor e Limer\u00eancia: A experi\u00eancia de estar apaixonado.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>She defines the meaning of limerence as &#8220;an involuntary interpersonal state that involves an acute longing for emotional reciprocation, obsessive-compulsive thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, and emotional dependence on another person.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Este estado de depend\u00eancia do amor n\u00e3o tem nada a ver com a nossa vontade ou escolha, mas \u00e9 causado por processos bioqu\u00edmicos no nosso c\u00e9rebro.<\/p>\n<p>Um cocktail de subst\u00e2ncias qu\u00edmicas (dopamina, estrog\u00e9nio, testosterona, etc.) \u00e9 respons\u00e1vel pelo despertar de sentimentos fortes em rela\u00e7\u00e3o ao objeto limerente.<\/p>\n<p>Pensamentos obsessivos, palpita\u00e7\u00f5es card\u00edacas e altera\u00e7\u00f5es de humor s\u00e3o apenas alguns dos sintomas mais comuns da limer\u00eancia.<\/p>\n<p>Remember when I said that the girl is high on infatuation? Well, the state of limerence is exactly the same as being doped up on drugs, but in this case, we&#8217;re talking about being high on love.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s an intense, addictive emotional state where the object of our desire (the limerent object) is literally our drug. We become obsessed with pursuing them, especially if our feelings are not reciprocated.<\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 um estado de esp\u00edrito doentio que resulta de altera\u00e7\u00f5es cerebrais devidas a um desejo compulsivo de criar la\u00e7os com outro ser humano.<\/p>\n<p>Limerence is a combo of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and addiction towards the object of a limerent person&#8217;s desire, as defined by Albert Wakin (a psychology professor at Sacred Heart University and leading expert on Limerence).<\/p>\n<p>Chamemos-lhe amor obsessivo, doen\u00e7a de amor ou amor rom\u00e2ntico demasiado intenso, uma coisa \u00e9 certa: A limer\u00eancia pode afetar muito a nossa sa\u00fade mental e a forma como funcionamos no dia a dia.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><em><strong>10 sinais mais comuns de limer\u00eancia<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Idealizing the other person&#8217;s positive and negative traits<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84654\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-and-woman-together.jpg\" alt=\"homem e mulher juntos em close com imagem em foco fotografia\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-and-woman-together.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-and-woman-together-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/man-and-woman-together-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Every human being has both positive and negative traits. We&#8217;re born imperfect and we all have our unique quirks and flaws, toxic habits, and different personality types.<\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;re not meant to be perfect and that&#8217;s totally okay. As long as we&#8217;re striving to become the best versions of ourselves, we&#8217;re on the right track.<\/p>\n<p>Uma pessoa n\u00e3o-limerente apercebe-se das caracter\u00edsticas positivas e negativas das outras pessoas e gosta delas apesar delas.<\/p>\n<p>For example, if the other person seems to be lazy sometimes, she is aware of it and doesn&#8217;t try to find excuses to justify such behavior.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>She doesn&#8217;t idealize their negative traits along with the positive ones, but is realistic about it. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Reconhece que se trata de um problema e n\u00e3o de algo que possa influenciar se a outra pessoa n\u00e3o estiver disposta a mudar.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Now, if you\u2019re a limerent person, you\u2019ll see this somewhat differently. If your limerent object has a negative trait of being lazy, for instance, you wouldn\u2019t see it as something negative.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez disso, interpreta-o como sendo descontra\u00eddo e casual, e encontra sempre desculpas para esse comportamento.<\/p>\n<p>I can relate to this one from my personal experience of limerence. When I was in college, the guy I was dating was extra lazy and careless, but back then I didn&#8217;t see it as a bad trait.<\/p>\n<p>I was drawn to such behavior, thinking that it would make me feel more liberated because I&#8217;m the total opposite.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, that didn&#8217;t happen. When the feelings of limerence faded, I realized how blindly obsessed I was about the guy. I saw him as a perfectly flawless being, even though reality was far from it.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Pensamentos intensos e indesejados sobre a outra pessoa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84659\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/picture-of-a-woman-daydreaming.jpg\" alt=\"imagem de uma mulher a sonhar acordada no escrit\u00f3rio, de frente para o computador\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/picture-of-a-woman-daydreaming.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/picture-of-a-woman-daydreaming-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/picture-of-a-woman-daydreaming-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>When we really like someone, it is normal to feel this butterfly sensation in our stomach because we&#8217;re so excited about seeing them, spending time with them, or just contemplating them.<\/p>\n<p>Passamos por um espetro de emo\u00e7\u00f5es diferentes e as nossas vidas j\u00e1 n\u00e3o s\u00e3o a preto e branco, mas sim um milh\u00e3o de tons de cinzento.<\/p>\n<p>You know you\u2019re a limerent person if you feel all that too, but in a more intense way. You basically think about the object of your desire 24\/7.<\/p>\n<p>Quando est\u00e1 no trabalho ou a fazer algo ao acaso, tem dificuldade em concentrar-se nas tarefas porque isso significa que tem de mudar para a realidade.<\/p>\n<p>Est\u00e1 constantemente a pensar neles porque isso o faz sentir-se bem. Lembra-se de quando compar\u00e1mos a limer\u00eancia com estar pedrado com drogas?<\/p>\n<p>Well, that&#8217;s exactly what&#8217;s going on in a limerent person&#8217;s mind.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Quando se est\u00e1 <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/alguem-esta-a-pensar-em-si\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">pensar no objeto do seu desejo<\/a>No fundo, est\u00e1 a ficar pedrado de amor ou de afeto. Isto significa que precisa da sua dose di\u00e1ria, que muitas vezes se transforma numa dose 24\/7.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Once you experience this feeling of being high on love, it&#8217;s really hard to replace it with being in reality.<\/p>\n<p>Concentrar-se noutras tarefas di\u00e1rias faz com que se sinta infeliz e a sua mente, subconscientemente, dirige-se para o seu objeto limerente.<\/p>\n<p>E muitas vezes esses pensamentos intensos transformam-se em pensamentos indesejados devido ao excesso de pensamento.<\/p>\n<p>Sabe aquela sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de se olhar ao espelho durante demasiado tempo e come\u00e7ar a reparar em todas as imperfei\u00e7\u00f5es?<\/p>\n<p>A mesma coisa pode ser aplicada a sentimentos e pensamentos intensos, em que tu (como pessoa lim\u00edtrofe) come\u00e7as a reparar em todas as falhas do teu pensamento.<\/p>\n<p>Se os seus sentimentos n\u00e3o forem correspondidos, come\u00e7a a ficar obcecado com isso e, consequentemente, sente-se frustrado.<\/p>\n<p>Teme que o objeto do seu desejo nunca repare em si ou n\u00e3o goste de si, e este pensamento transforma-se em longas sess\u00f5es impregnadas de pensamentos indesejados que podem ser realmente prejudiciais para a sua sa\u00fade mental.<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m:<a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/diferencas-entre-amor-e-paixao\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> 10 diferen\u00e7as cruciais entre amor e paix\u00e3o<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Contemplar e ficar obcecado com pistas de reciprocidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84662\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-with-cocktail.jpg\" alt=\"Mulher com cocktail e telem\u00f3vel na m\u00e3o dentro de um caf\u00e9\" width=\"800\" height=\"502\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-with-cocktail.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-with-cocktail-300x188.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-with-cocktail-768x482.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We&#8217;ve all done this at some point.<\/p>\n<p>When we like someone (especially when we start dating them), we turn into decoding machines when it comes to reciprocation \u2013 of course, when we&#8217;re not sure whether or not they like us back.<\/p>\n<p>But, that phase usually doesn&#8217;t last that long and it&#8217;s not as intense as is the case with limerent people. They take clues of reciprocation to another level.<\/p>\n<p>If you can&#8217;t help but constantly overthink your love interest&#8217;s every single word and action via social media, in person \u2013 you name it \u2013 then you know you\u2019re a limerent person.<\/p>\n<p>Ficar obcecado com isso torna-se o seu principal passatempo porque a reciprocidade deles \u00e9 a coisa mais importante da sua vida nesse momento.<\/p>\n<p>Por exemplo, se a pessoa mudar de repente o seu estilo de envio de mensagens, a primeira coisa que lhe vem \u00e0 cabe\u00e7a \u00e9 que tem algo a ver consigo.<\/p>\n<p>Se, de repente, o seu interesse amoroso lhe enviar mensagens com muitos emojis e, de um modo geral, mais alegres, ver\u00e1 imediatamente que \u00e9 um ind\u00edcio potencial de que os seus sentimentos s\u00e3o rec\u00edprocos.<\/p>\n<p>Ou, se o ignoram ou escrevem de forma pregui\u00e7osa, associa esse facto a uma falta de reciprocidade e continua obcecado com isso.<\/p>\n<p>Este estilo de liga\u00e7\u00e3o liminar n\u00e3o \u00e9 saud\u00e1vel porque consome muito tempo e \u00e9 desgastante.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Sentir-se envergonhado, nervoso e confuso, e sentir sintomas f\u00edsicos perto da outra pessoa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84667\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/nervous-woman-sitting.jpg\" alt=\"mulher nervosa sentada ao lado de um homem com os bra\u00e7os \u00e0 volta dela\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/nervous-woman-sitting.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/nervous-woman-sitting-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/nervous-woman-sitting-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 verdade que todos n\u00f3s sentimos uma certa dose de ansiedade, vergonha e nervosismo quando se trata de algu\u00e9m de quem gostamos muito. Mas, mais uma vez, as pessoas limerentes sentem-no de forma mais intensa.<\/p>\n<p>A simples ideia de falar com o objeto do seu desejo \u00e9 totalmente assustadora e quase paralisante. A principal raz\u00e3o para isso \u00e9 o facto de estarmos constantemente a contempl\u00e1-los e a obcec\u00e1-los diariamente.<\/p>\n<p>Quando passamos tanto tempo a pensar numa determinada pessoa, a adrenalina e a antecipa\u00e7\u00e3o entram em a\u00e7\u00e3o, tornando dif\u00edcil mantermo-nos descontra\u00eddos ao p\u00e9 dela.<\/p>\n<p>Outra raz\u00e3o \u00e9 o facto de estar demasiado ansioso para saber se eles sentem o mesmo.<\/p>\n<p>Quer desesperadamente o seu amor e afeto, o que o torna nervoso, confuso e <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/psicologia\/anxiety-depression\/10-coisas-que-precisa-de-saber-para-namorar-uma-rapariga-ansiosa\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">ser ansioso<\/a> with severe heart palpitations, because you\u2019re afraid you&#8217;ll do or say something wrong in front of your love interest, or embarrass yourself.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Receio constante de rejei\u00e7\u00e3o<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84668\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-edge.jpg\" alt=\"mulher sentada \u00e0 beira de um passadi\u00e7o\/plataforma perto de uma massa de \u00e1gua\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-edge.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-edge-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sitting-on-the-edge-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Quer esteja a desejar o seu objeto de desejo, a namor\u00e1-lo ou mesmo a ter uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o com ele, o medo constante da rejei\u00e7\u00e3o est\u00e1 sempre presente.<\/p>\n<p>Se s\u00f3 pensa em sair com eles, teme nunca entrar em contacto com eles e, mesmo que o fa\u00e7a, ser\u00e1 certamente rejeitado.<\/p>\n<p>Se estiver a namorar ou numa rela\u00e7\u00e3o com eles, ter\u00e1 constantemente medo de fazer algo de errado, de os desiludir, etc.<\/p>\n<p>Por esse motivo, torna-se extremamente cuidadoso com todos os seus movimentos, o que \u00e9 verdadeiramente exaustivo.<\/p>\n<p>Esta mentalidade impede-o de deixar que as coisas aconte\u00e7am a um ritmo natural. Uma vez que tem tend\u00eancia para pensar demasiado nas coisas, ter\u00e1 sempre v\u00e1rios resultados na sua mente para cada ocasi\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>E se for rejeitado pelo seu objeto limerente, o seu mundo desmorona-se literalmente. Poder\u00e1 sentir uma grande variedade de emo\u00e7\u00f5es negativas, desde a tristeza absoluta at\u00e9 ao suic\u00eddio.<\/p>\n<p>A raz\u00e3o pela qual se sente assim quando \u00e9 rejeitado \u00e9 porque est\u00e1 literalmente a ser enviado para a reabilita\u00e7\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>When your brain has been high on love (especially for a long time), rejection creates the same effect as if someone took away a hardcore drug addict\u2019s fix from him.<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/10-sinais-de-obsessao\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Signs Of Obsession: 10 Signs He&#8217;s Dangerously Obsessive, Not In Love<\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Recordar em pormenor todos os encontros (reais ou virtuais) com eles<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84669\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/curly-haired-woman-recalling.jpg\" alt=\"mulher de cabelo encaracolado a recordar e a sentar-se perto das janelas\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/curly-haired-woman-recalling.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/curly-haired-woman-recalling-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/curly-haired-woman-recalling-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Este est\u00e1 parcialmente relacionado com o terceiro signo acima (contemplar e obcecar com pistas de reciprocidade).<\/p>\n<p>If you\u2019re a limerent person, you probably have this tendency to recall every encounter with your limerent object in detail, and for two reasons:<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; to obsess over clues of reciprocation, and<br \/>\n&#8211; to recall encounters for the sake of reliving the feeling of getting high on love.<\/p>\n<p>I think there&#8217;s no need to explain the first one in detail \u2013 we&#8217;ve already said enough about reciprocation.<\/p>\n<p>Principalmente, recorda os encontros para analisar todos os pormenores da conversa, a linguagem corporal da pessoa e outras coisas semelhantes, numa tentativa de perceber se ela gosta de si ou n\u00e3o.<\/p>\n<p>Outra raz\u00e3o para querer recordar os encontros \u00e9 o facto de poder voltar a experimentar essas sensa\u00e7\u00f5es intensas.<\/p>\n<p>Se for um encontro virtual, reler\u00e1 os seus textos vezes sem conta (ou apenas os textos que considera mais especiais).<\/p>\n<p>Se se tratasse de um encontro na vida real, estaria a repetir tudo ao pormenor na sua cabe\u00e7a.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Sentir euforia quando existe algum tipo de reciprocidade<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84670\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sunrise-silhouette.jpg\" alt=\"silhueta de mulher ao nascer do sol perto de um corpo de \u00e1gua \" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sunrise-silhouette.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sunrise-silhouette-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-sunrise-silhouette-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sim, todos n\u00f3s adoramos quando o objeto do nosso desejo mostra interesse, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/os-20-melhores-elogios-para-raparigas-faca-a-sentir-se-especial\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">faz-nos sentir especiais<\/a> de uma forma ou de outra, e retribui.<\/p>\n<p>Sentimo-nos verdadeiramente realizados quando sabemos que o seu afeto por n\u00f3s \u00e9 real e que gostam de n\u00f3s tal como n\u00f3s gostamos deles.<\/p>\n<p>But, if you\u2019re a limerent person, you don&#8217;t just love when the other person shows reciprocation, you really LOVE it to the extent of experiencing euphoria for hours, days, and in some cases even months.<\/p>\n<p>Esta sensa\u00e7\u00e3o de euforia faz com que o seu cora\u00e7\u00e3o bata mais depressa, inspira-o a saltar de felicidade na cama (lembra-se de todas aquelas cenas de filmes em que salta da cama?) e sente uma excita\u00e7\u00e3o pura como se tudo fizesse finalmente sentido na sua vida.<\/p>\n<p>V\u00ea a reciprocidade deles como a chave para a sua felicidade e \u00e9 por isso que reage t\u00e3o intensamente. Se eles gostarem de si, sentir\u00e1 uma enorme felicidade, independentemente de tudo o resto.<\/p>\n<p>But, if they don&#8217;t reciprocate, then you experience emotions on the other side of the spectrum (negative and draining ones).<\/p>\n<p>A minha defini\u00e7\u00e3o pessoal de limer\u00eancia seria a seguinte: \u00c9 uma experi\u00eancia de montanha-russa em que uma pessoa limerente passa por sensa\u00e7\u00f5es desencadeadas pelo objeto do seu desejo.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Ligar tudo o que est\u00e1 \u00e0 sua volta \u00e0 outra pessoa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-89799\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-a-hat.jpg\" alt=\"mulher com um chap\u00e9u, perto de um corpo de \u00e1gua, a fechar os olhos\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-a-hat.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-a-hat-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/woman-holding-a-hat-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Devido aos sentimentos intensos de amor e ao facto de estar constantemente a pensar no seu objeto de desejo, tem a tend\u00eancia para ligar tudo o que v\u00ea e experimenta a ele.<\/p>\n<p>Regardless if you&#8217;re in a store, going for a walk, or spending time at work, there will always be one or more things that will remind you of the object of your desire.<\/p>\n<p>The main reason for this happening is because you\u2019re spending a great amount of time thinking only about them.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, temos vontade de lhes mostrar e contar tudo (aquela engenhoca nova na loja, uma situa\u00e7\u00e3o engra\u00e7ada no trabalho, uma cena de filme hilariante, etc.).<\/p>\n<p>You feel intensely drawn to them and that&#8217;s why you can&#8217;t help but want to share all your experiences with them.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s like when your brain is a computer that has this one tab (someone you like) open for eternity.<\/p>\n<p>Independentemente do n\u00famero de novos separadores que abrir, voltar\u00e1 sempre a esse separador especial e colocar\u00e1 tudo em estreita liga\u00e7\u00e3o com ele.<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Organizar e reorganizar as actividades de modo a passar mais tempo com a outra pessoa<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84673\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-making-schedule.jpg\" alt=\"mulher a fazer um hor\u00e1rio na sua agenda\/agenda pessoal \" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-making-schedule.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-making-schedule-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-making-schedule-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>\u00c9 perfeitamente compreens\u00edvel e natural querer passar o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel com <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/relationship\/8-sinais-definitivamente-loucos\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">someone you&#8217;re really crazy about<\/a>Mas quando isto come\u00e7a a interferir com a sua rotina di\u00e1ria e com a sua vida em geral, ent\u00e3o sabe que a limer\u00eancia est\u00e1 a cobrar o seu pre\u00e7o.<\/p>\n<p>Reorganizar constantemente a sua agenda para passar o m\u00e1ximo de tempo poss\u00edvel com o objeto do seu desejo significa que uma pessoa \u00e9 a sua principal prioridade.<\/p>\n<p>Por isso, o trabalho, as amizades e outras rela\u00e7\u00f5es ficam ofuscadas pelo seu objeto limerente.<\/p>\n<p>J\u00e1 n\u00e3o existe uma distin\u00e7\u00e3o clara entre o que precisa de ser feito e o que pode esperar.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s when necessary obligations and chores become less important than spending time with your (potential) soulmate, or better said, spending time on getting high on love.<\/p>\n<p>\u200bAs you can see, this is another similarity between real drug addiction and love addiction.<\/p>\n<p>Em ambos os casos, a pessoa come\u00e7a a negligenciar outras coisas para dedicar toda a sua aten\u00e7\u00e3o \u00e0 droga que escolheu (neste caso, o amor).<\/p>\n<h2 class=\"numbered-headline\">Analisar excessivamente todas as suas palavras, ac\u00e7\u00f5es e gestos<\/h2>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84674\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/low-angle-view-of-woman.jpg\" alt=\"vista de baixo \u00e2ngulo de uma mulher a olhar para tr\u00e1s e a sorrir, segurando um guarda-chuva para se manter seca da chuva\" width=\"800\" height=\"519\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/low-angle-view-of-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/low-angle-view-of-woman-300x195.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/low-angle-view-of-woman-768x498.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Uma vez que o seu objeto liminar \u00e9 a coisa mais importante e a fonte de alegria da sua vida, tende a passar muito tempo a analisar excessivamente todas as suas palavras, ac\u00e7\u00f5es e gestos.<\/p>\n<p>Trata-se de um processo mental exaustivo que exige muito tempo, nervos e dedica\u00e7\u00e3o. Mas \u00e9 um processo de que provavelmente gosta, tal como o resto da equipa limerente.<\/p>\n<p>Cada coisa nova que aprende sobre o objeto do seu desejo deixa-o excessivamente excitado.<\/p>\n<p>Cada gesto giro faz o nosso cora\u00e7\u00e3o bater mais depressa. Analisar demasiado tudo isto \u00e9 como fazer os trabalhos de casa sobre algo que acab\u00e1mos de aprender hoje.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s like creating a mosaic with special compartments where you put their every word, action, and gesture where it belongs and create their addictive personality.<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>A diferen\u00e7a entre amor verdadeiro e limer\u00eancia<\/strong><\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84675\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-love.jpg\" alt=\"mulher apaixonada num encontro rom\u00e2ntico com um homem que segura uma garrafa de vinho\" width=\"800\" height=\"511\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-love.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-love-300x192.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/woman-in-love-768x491.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Since limerence can be easily mistaken for real love, you&#8217;re probably wondering what the difference is between the two.<\/p>\n<p>After all, if you don&#8217;t know all the differences (or main difference), you cannot know whether or not you have ever experienced or are experiencing it.<\/p>\n<p>Assim, a principal diferen\u00e7a entre uma rela\u00e7\u00e3o rom\u00e2ntica saud\u00e1vel e a limer\u00eancia est\u00e1 no aspeto de dar e receber.<\/p>\n<p>In a way, a limerent person&#8217;s romantic attraction primarily revolves around the urge to secure the affection of the object of their desire.<\/p>\n<p>Uma pessoa limerente n\u00e3o est\u00e1 realmente concentrada no processo natural das fases do amor\/atra\u00e7\u00e3o, mas quer tudo e quer agora.<\/p>\n<p>Em vez de trabalhar em <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/fake-love\/fear-of-commitment\/7-razoes-pelas-quais-tantos-homens-sofrem-de-problemas-de-compromisso\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">desenvolver o empenhamento<\/a>A pessoa est\u00e1 constantemente em estado de pensamento intrusivo sobre o seu objeto limerente.<\/p>\n<p>If the other person isn\u2019t reciprocating, a limerent person starts experiencing a series of intensified mental and physical symptoms (slightly different from those symptoms that surface on a daily basis).<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>Nonlimerent partners in a healthy relationship don&#8217;t have this problem. They experience intense feelings of being in love, but they don\u2019t fight incessant, intrusive thoughts about each other.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84676\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lovely-couple.jpg\" alt=\"casal encantador em que o homem beija as bochechas da mulher\" width=\"800\" height=\"507\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lovely-couple.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lovely-couple-300x190.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/lovely-couple-768x487.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Em vez disso, estabelecem uma liga\u00e7\u00e3o passando tempo uns com os outros, partilhando interesses, os seus pensamentos mais profundos, prefer\u00eancias, etc.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Such relationships can last for a long time, whereas limerent relationships (where both or one partner is experiencing limerence) are not stable, therefore, they often don&#8217;t last for long.<\/p>\n<p>I deliberately added \u201coften\u201d because in some cases such relationships have the potential to grow into healthy ones.<\/p>\n<p>In case you&#8217;re wondering about the duration between the two concepts, limerence usually tends to last longer than real romantic love.<\/p>\n<p>Pode durar de algumas semanas a algumas d\u00e9cadas. No entanto, a dura\u00e7\u00e3o depende muito do aspeto da reciprocidade.<\/p>\n<p>If the limerent person&#8217;s affection is reciprocated in some form, the intense feelings of limerence can persist for a long time.<\/p>\n<p>Se o afeto n\u00e3o for correspondido, os sentimentos de limer\u00eancia desaparecem normalmente com o tempo (a n\u00e3o ser que estejam num estado de confus\u00e3o devido a sinais contradit\u00f3rios dados pelo seu objeto limerente).<\/p>\n<p>Nestes casos particulares, a limer\u00eancia pode ser prolongada.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong><em>Existe uma cura para a limer\u00eancia?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Given that we&#8217;re living in a world where there are tons of remedies for every condition, there is also a remedy for limerence \u2013 it\u2019s called <em>nenhum contacto<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re experiencing limerence right now and you want to wean yourself off this love drug, then the no contact rule is something you should really consider applying.<\/p>\n<p>Significa cortar todo o contacto com o objeto do seu desejo, incluindo mensagens de texto, visitas e qualquer outro aspeto que possa influenciar.<\/p>\n<p>Over time, you will also stop contemplating them because they will no longer be your limerence object \u2013 you\u2019ll be rehabilitated from your addiction.<\/p>\n<p>Ver tamb\u00e9m: <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/amor\/como-deixar-de-ser-obcecado\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Como parar de ficar obcecado por algu\u00e9m: 10 maneiras \u00e0 prova de bala para tir\u00e1-lo do seu sistema<\/a><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-84683\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Quando o amor se torna um v\u00edcio: 10 sinais de limer\u00eancia\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1500\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence-Pinterest.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence-Pinterest-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence-Pinterest-768x1152.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>There are many types of addictions in the world, but the most powerful one is love addiction, otherwise known as limerence. Even though you\u2019ve probably never heard the term before, limerence is something you have definitely witnessed or perhaps even experienced. The concept of love is depicted and constantly being rewritten by popular culture and&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":84680,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-84569","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/06\/When-Love-Becomes-An-Addiction_-10-Signs-Of-Limerence.jpg",800,507,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/pt\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? 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